were you a spoil brat growing up?

[Haven]

My answer changes based on where you''re standing.

Relative to my friends and neighbors, I was not spoiled at all. In fact, I grew up in a fairly wealthy area, and we were poor in comparison to everyone else. I have vivid memories of being made fun of for wearing generic gym shoes from Wal-Mart that were knock-offs of those old white Keds shoes, you know, the ones with the little blue tags on the back.

However, I always had food, clothes, books, love, support, and a home. None of our "stuff" was necessarily brand-name or in fashion, but it was always there.

So no, I was not a spoiled brat. But I wasn''t hungry or cold, either.

 

[AprilBaby]

No. I was the oldest who was expected to pave the way in perfection for all the others. I was the good girl who did everything expected and in return I could pay for everything (including college) myself. The other three were spoiled brats.

 

[musey]

Date: 1/13/2009 9:52:24 AM
Author:Dancing Fire
did mommy and daddy always buy whatever your little heart desires?

There's a difference between getting the things you want, being spoiled, and being a brat.

I almost always got the things I wanted when I was little - but I had very reasonable desires (*a* barbie or *a* skating outfit, not this that and oh that too), and I never "wanted" or asked for things unless my parents asked what I wanted (for birthdays/Christmas). So by your definition of being bought whatever I wanted, yes I was spoiled. But I was never a brat. I never had an expectation of being given something, or threw fits if my desires weren't fulfilled.

(Of course I don't remember such things, all this comes just from my brutally honest parents.)

 

[that_someone_special]

You must me talking about my little brother (he''s 16). He''s SUCH A BIG BABY.

 

[radiantquest]

of course not!! no, really i was taken care of, but got a job as soon as the law would allow.

 

[Dancing Fire]

at least there're a few of you admited to being a "spoiled brat" . i'am sure there're more,but don't wanna admit it.

 

[pennquaker09]

I was most definitely spoiled and I was only bratty when my dad remarried. I quickly calmed back down though.

 

[Fleur_de_Lis]

I was definitely spoiled, and a big ole spoiled brat at times! I lived a very privileged lifestyle growing up. We lived in the most expensive neighbourhoods, in the biggest houses and had the best of everything. There were always nannies, drivers, maids, etc. around. I'm an only child and a major daddy's girl so I was given whatever I asked for no matter the cost and was rarely ever told "no". However, I was taught manners and to give to others. My parents instilled in me that just because I was privileged didn't mean I was better than anyone else and that I should help people in need, no matter what that need was.

 

[purselover]

I was very spoiled as a child, and still kind of am, but I was not a brat, I never really asked for anything as a child they just liked to look for things to buy me. However the trade off was that they spoiled me so they didn''t have to pay any real attention to me

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 1/13/2009 6:26:41 PM
Author: Fleur_de_Lis
I was definitely spoiled, and a big ole spoiled brat at times! I lived a very privileged lifestyle growing up. We lived in the most expensive neighbourhoods, in the biggest houses and had the best of everything. There were always nannies, drivers, maids, etc. around. I''m an only child and a major daddy''s girl so I was given whatever I asked for no matter the cost and was rarely ever told ''no''. However, I was taught manners and to give to others. My parents instilled in me that just because I was privileged didn''t mean I was better than anyone else and that I should help people in need, no matter what that need was.

Fleur

okay then...i need a 2.5ct rb. can you help?

 

[Fleur_de_Lis]

Lol, too cute DF.

 

[fleur-de-lis]

Date: 1/13/2009 7:06:15 PM
Author: Fleur_de_Lis
Lol, too cute DF.

Wow... someone else has my name.

f-d-l

 

[Kaleigh]

Date: 1/13/2009 11:25:35 PM
Author: fleur-de-lis

Date: 1/13/2009 7:06:15 PM
Author: Fleur_de_Lis
Lol, too cute DF.

Wow... someone else has my name.

f-d-l

How does that happen because she has a capital F??

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Spoiled? Yes

and no

. I didn't have everything I ever wanted or asked for, but I admit I had most (I am an only child). Brat? Nope. I learned early on the world was (and is) not mine and I couldn't have every single thing I wanted or asked for.

 

[Fleur_de_Lis]

Date: 1/13/2009 6:37:48 PM
Author: purselover
I was very spoiled as a child, and still kind of am, but I was not a brat, I never really asked for anything as a child they just liked to look for things to buy me. However the trade off was that they spoiled me so they didn''t have to pay any real attention to me

In retrospect I believe that''s why I was given everything I wanted. My parents were never really around and when they were, little attention was paid to me. I adore my dad but he was always off somewhere working, my mom was always off shopping, having lunch with her friends or just off tending to her own needs and wants. Nannies took care of me until I was shipped off to boarding school

at 12. So I guess that was their way of "making it up" to me.

 

[arjunajane]

Hrmm..I wonder if this is an appropriate question, in light of your other recent thread DF.?

To answer your question - no. I moved out at 17, and had my first job by 13.

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 1/14/2009 4:02:42 AM
Author: arjunajane
Hrmm..I wonder if this is an appropriate question, in light of your other recent thread DF.?

To answer your question - no. I moved out at 17, and had my first job by 13.

what do you mean?

 

[arjunajane]

Date: 1/14/2009 4:11:55 AM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 1/14/2009 4:02:42 AM
Author: arjunajane
Hrmm..I wonder if this is an appropriate question, in light of your other recent thread DF.?

To answer your question - no. I moved out at 17, and had my first job by 13.

what do you mean?

Nothing. Just about how your daughter went over the line with her C.C is all.
But its none of my business

 

[LGK]

Hardly! Trailer park kid here, didn't even have a bed or a phone or a TV in the house for some years when I was a preteen/young teenager. (Never had a TV until I was 20ish) Mmmm shaking the crawlies out of the blankets on the floor was sooooo much fun, there were TONS of them in the midwest and I'd wake up with millipedes in the blankies with me way too often.

Lived off ramen, now detest it with a passion... I'd eaten a lifetime's worth by the time I went to college!

I've bought every car I've ever owned myself (or jointly with DH now to be exact), and put myself through college. I've worked since I was 12 pretty much steadily, at least babysitting/house sitting etc. that a young teenager can do, then a real job when I was 17, moved out at 18 too and never moved back in with parent.

I'm spoiled by my DH *now*, no question, though

Quite horribly! It still seems quite surreal to me sometimes... if you grow up really poor I think a lot of things just never quite wear off, like my inability to let go of beater cars or to conceive of getting a new/nicer vehicle, and saving clothes endlessly like my mom did and carefully mending things rather than tossing them if they rip.

My mom didn't work when I was under 10, and my dad worked swing shift, so in one sense I was very spoiled; I had her undivided attention all day. She was/is an incredibly fun person, and I still am grateful she stayed home with me when I was little.

 

[ksinger]

I was raised by a single mom who herself had to take a huge part in raising her younger siblings starting at age 14 when her father died of cancer. I had food, shelter, clothing, and lots of love and strict guidance. I didn''t have the right to talk back. Whining wasn''t allowed. Neither was laziness of any kind EVER. I didn''t have a car - I didn''t have a car of my own until the end of college. I didn''t have a stereo. I didn''t have my own TV. I started working at 16 and earned money for anything extra. I worked all the way through college. But we laughed a lot, she and I. And we talked about stuff. She kept me low on things and long on hugs. So was I spoiled? Not a chance. Was I one of the luckiest kids in the world to be able to say I genuinely had a wonderful childhood? Yes.

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 1/14/2009 4:55:50 AM
Author: arjunajane

Date: 1/14/2009 4:11:55 AM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 1/14/2009 4:02:42 AM
Author: arjunajane
Hrmm..I wonder if this is an appropriate question, in light of your other recent thread DF.?

To answer your question - no. I moved out at 17, and had my first job by 13.

what do you mean?

Nothing. Just about how your daughter went over the line with her C.C is all.
But its none of my business

i knew what you were thinking...

"your daughters are spoiled brats". come on over and give them a good spanking for me.

 

[arjunajane]

Date: 1/14/2009 9:43:28 AM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 1/14/2009 4:55:50 AM
Author: arjunajane

Date: 1/14/2009 4:11:55 AM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 1/14/2009 4:02:42 AM
Author: arjunajane
Hrmm..I wonder if this is an appropriate question, in light of your other recent thread DF.?

To answer your question - no. I moved out at 17, and had my first job by 13.

what do you mean?

Nothing. Just about how your daughter went over the line with her C.C is all.
But its none of my business

i knew what you were thinking...

''your daughters are spoiled brats''. come on over and give them a good spanking for me.

Ha ha! Will you pay for the plane ticket? Then I will even impart a good Aussie hidin'' for you, lol

Or hrmm..maybe I''m being a brat by asking..?