What do you guys do to stop thinking about engagements?

[Lauren8211]

I was having a LIW-itis attack last night, and figured I''d crank up the incline on the treadmill and run it out.

Well.. after SO pulled me off the treadmill after I had been running an hour ( I was determined to run until I got my mind on something else), and burned almost 500 calories, I STILL couldnt clear my head!

SO and I started talking about wedding planning, ideas, music choices,etc,etc. But really I was thinking "WHY ARENT WE ENGAGED??" Even though I know why we''re not (I am not quite done with school yet), I''m still getting impatient.

So the treadmill didnt work -- any suggestions on how to stay distracted? I have about a year to go...

HELP! I''m driving myself crazy!

 

[fieryred33143]

The million dollar question.

I have my moments of acting totally insane to being completely calm. On my calm days I just remind myself how beautiful our relationship has been for these past 6 years without the proposal and how much more beautiful it will be once we are engaged. I usually go through pictures or I''ll go to his mom''s house (they love me over there so it''s a little ego boost LOL) and just hang out.

Other than that, movies, surfing the web, coming on here, and taking a walk in the park helps clear my head.

 

[HeadOverHeels4James]

I don''t know.... the engagement thing pretty much feels like it consumes my every thought and life!!!

I would like to know some tips/tricks to take your mind off of it! haha

 

[Lauren8211]

Yeah, like everyone else I have my moments where I''m OK, and moments where I feel like I''m about to lose it. Sometimes I wonder if being on here makes it worse! I am pretty much obsessed now, and it hit me like a ton of bricks. I''ve never been a huge wedding/marriage girl -- I have not been planning my wedding since I was like 10 like some girls I know!

I just hope SO knows that I''m just really excited to get on with our lives, and I''m not trying to pressure him. But I mean, we talked about wedding planning last night! It''s so close, yet so far away! lol.

Definitely going to be putting another hour on the treadmill tonight...

Maybe that''s his plan! I keep running out my frustration on the treadmill and by the time the wedding comes I''ll have a seriously bangin body. LOL.

 

[fieryred33143]

Date: 6/9/2008 11:18:46 AM
Author: Lauren8211

Definitely going to be putting another hour on the treadmill tonight...

Maybe that''s his plan! I keep running out my frustration on the treadmill and by the time the wedding comes I''ll have a seriously bangin body. LOL.

LMAO!!

I always tell my FF when I''m having the aahhhh moments that is mainly because I just want to be his wife. I''ve even told him that I don''t care about proposing with the ring. We can get it later. I just want to be married. But again, this is his thing. When I suggested proposing without the ring, his exact words to me were "are you crazy?!" Oh well I tried

 

[absolut_blonde]

Sometimes I find it relatively easy to curb the obsessing. Other days, not so much.

Some days, indulging the monster seems to help things. So coming on here, looking up other wedding-related things online, etc. Seems counterintuitive but for me, it can help. Also focusing on how we do have a vague timeline and I DO know it''s coming, it''s a matter of when and not if.

Other days, I fare better distracting myself from the topic completely. Like you, exercise is a strategy I''ve tried though it usually does help for me (everyone has their outlets and exercise is a major outlet for me in general). Reading, also -- fiction and non-fiction, but basically things that AREN''T related to marriage or engagement. I''m currently working through The How of Happiness which has been keeping me occupied.

 

[trillionaire]

Date: 6/9/2008 10:47:19 AM
Author:Lauren8211
I was having a LIW-itis attack last night, and figured I''d crank up the incline on the treadmill and run it out.


Well.. after SO pulled me off the treadmill after I had been running an hour ( I was determined to run until I got my mind on something else), and burned almost 500 calories, I STILL couldnt clear my head!


SO and I started talking about wedding planning, ideas, music choices,etc,etc. But really I was thinking ''WHY ARENT WE ENGAGED??'' Even though I know why we''re not (I am not quite done with school yet), I''m still getting impatient.


So the treadmill didnt work -- any suggestions on how to stay distracted? I have about a year to go...


HELP! I''m driving myself crazy!

LOL, I will say that being on PS is fun for me, but does NOTHING to help me stop obsessing over the future!

Just yesterday, I wanted to ask SO about out plans for our 5th anniversary in September, and it came out like this...

"do you have any thoughts for our engage... er, anniversary weekend?"

He DEFINITELY caught the slip and laughed at me. The last thing that I had seen before I said it was a story about Paris Hilton being potentially engaged, so I just blended my thoughts, but I am pretty sure SO thought that was just hogwash and that I am just angling for a ring. Oh well.

So, in conclusion, I have no helpful advice.

 

[that_someone_special]

Oh good god. I can''t. I go and watch wedding movies and then pass out from exhaustion. ALSO, the last 2 weeks I''ve been trying to stay away from this forum !! I OBSESS when I get on here. .. actually.. like I am right now.... damn!!

I find, taking time to yourself, and doing something that involves your brain (scrabble, crosswords, yada) will help. Running or walking just gives you A LOT of time for thinking...!!!

 

[Lauren8211]

Haha, yeah. I definitely found that the treadmill did NOT help. I was just thinking more and more about it. But if I convince myself that the treadmill will help me calm down, then I''ll get a good work out every single day until we get engaged!

I should really put my efforts into schoolwork since that''s the only thing holding us back from getting engaged right. This girl''s gotta get her degree!!

 

[M&MS]

I completely know where you are coming from!

I decided a year ago that the best way was to make a scrapbook of basically everything that''s happened to us since we started dating (7 years = VERY LARGE PROJECT). It''s going to be beautiful and I love working on it because it just reminds me how amazing our relationship is. And I plan to have it on display at the wedding.

 

[kittybean]

Lauren, here are some things I''ve been doing in the past year to keep myself from going crazy:

- SCHOOLWORK. Absorb yourself in studying, keeping up with your work, and really learning something from your school experience. This past year was my last year of law school, and I found that focusing on school helped so much, and now I have a year of great grades to boot!
- Friend time. Use this time to hang out with your girlfriends (or guy friends). Go out to dinner, watch movies, go shopping, go for a run together, email each other, gossip, laugh, and have a good time. Reconnect with old friends. It will be much harder to find the time to do this once you''re engaged, so take advantage of the time you have now.
- Projects. Any project will do (as long as it''s not the project of getting him to propose).
- Get a pet. I haven''t done this myself, but I''ve been doing a lot of dog-sitting for my parents. Furry friends are so much fun, and they are distracting in the best way possible.

 

[Izzy03]

NETFLIX!! I also try to invite girlfriends over to watch all these movies with me because when I am alone I pause my movies about 20 times to check for new posts on pricescope..... yes I am pathetic, but I have the strength to admit it!