What have you hated at other weddings?

[zoebartlett]

This isn''t something I hate but...

I think most, if not all, of the weddings I''ve been to had the bride, groom, and their attendants sitting at one long head table. I don''t like this personally. It just makes it seems like they''re on display. Also, they''re only able to talk to the person on either side of them, for the most part. My sister and her husband chose to sit at a round table, just like everyone else. It wasn''t a sweetheart table though -- they wanted it to be a siblings and SO table. I thought that was nice.

I know this is just a personal preference though.

 

[BriBee]

One thing I really hate is being seated at a TOTALLY inappropriate table, ie: when I was 21 and was seated at the kiddie table! No joke, it was me, one other 20 year old girl, and the rest of the kids were 12 and under! We didn't have a great time because we were off in the corner with a bunch of kids we couldn't talk to. Not to mention that I felt awkward drinking in front of them. I'm not sure if the hosts (my godparents) just hadn't realized that we had grown up, or if they just had no good place to put us, and so stuck us at that table. I just feel like an effort should be made to make sure all the guests are comfortable. I have planned large, formal, assigned seating gatherings before, so I know this can be tough. But sometimes it means breaking up the "perfect table" into 2 or 3 "good" tables so that everyone is comfortable and has someone to talk to.

ETA: Ditto to what Haven posted about the bridal party being seated separately from SO. I was at a wedding of my FI's friend, where he was a groomsman. Other than meeting his friend a few times, I didn't know ANYONE, not even the bride. I felt like the new kid at school looking for a table in the cafeteria as I meekly asked a group of younger guests if I could join them.

 

[iheartscience]

Well most of mine have been mentioned already, but I''ll list ''em anyways.

1. Cash bar-I know, not everyone can afford a full bar, but I''d honestly rather them just not have a bar at all than have a cash bar...it just seems tacky to me.
2. Laaaaaame music. I just went to a wedding were they only played "soul" records. Yes, records. And my mom went to one that had a jazz ensemble who only played jazz, of course. That''s super hip and all, but play something people will actually dance to, you know?! And that includes the chicken dance, electric slide, and all those other cheesy wedding dances! At least people get excited and want to get out there and dance! I''m not too cool/high class for the chicken dance, personally.
3. No dancing! I know not everyone does the big reception, but if you do a typical large reception, there should be dancing or it''s just plain boring. I''ve been to two wedding where they had a big reception with music, but no dancing.
4. Lack of seating. It''s hard to have fun when your feet hurt and you can''t have a drink and food at the same time because there''s nowhere to set your drink or food down!
5. Gross catered chicken. I HATE wedding chicken! I don''t really care that much about the food at a reception as long as it''s okay and isn''t rubbery chicken!
6. Receiving lines...hate them at weddings and funerals.
7. Sermons where divorce is mentioned! Why would you bring that up at a wedding?!

Okay, I think that''s it...sorry for the negativity! I really have had fun at almost all of the weddings I''ve been to, even the ones with the things I complained about.

 

[Neveah]

I hate to see a bunch of kids on the dance floor. I don''t care how well behaved they are. The last wedding we were at the kids dominated the floor and hardly any adults were dancing. They didn''t want to trample all the little ones. It was so annoying.

 

[Deelight]

Date: 11/18/2007 8:40:28 PM
Author: Neveah

Date: 11/18/2007 8:24:20 PM

Author: door knob solitaire



Personal opinion...I don''t care for the money $$$$ dance. Makes me think this wasn''t the first time

.


DKS

Good Call!!!! I don''t care for the money dance either.... kind of... I don''t know.... greedy??? Like give them more???? I like the idea of people dancing w/ both the bride and groom but it shouldn''t come with a price!!!

This one here would not bother me but then I think that is a cultural perspective. We have something similar to this along with some other cultural traditions (Yugosalv) but it has nothing to with being greedy (though I do know some couples go overboard). During the course of the night there are usually two or three preselected traditions that guests can choose to participate in (there is something like 10 or 20 different ones). The purpose behind these traditions is to help the young couple begin their new life together. These sorts of things are voluntary and are up to the person if they wish to participate or not also how much money you choose to give not give is up to the person. In saying that though I can see how people would have an issue with it I guess it really depends on how it is done.

 

[tberube]

wow. I have to stop reading this before I decide to tell my fiance to cancel our wedding and just elope! With so many rights and wrongs and hates, how can a bride catch a break?!

 

[HollyS]

Date: 11/18/2007 11:35:41 AM
Author: Fancy605
Mostly with weddings, there are things that get me thinking, ''Well, that''s cool for them, but there''s no way I ever would have had that because it just isn''t my thing.'' Electric Cha-Cha/Chicken dance songs for example. Some people love it and have fun with it. I''ll dance along to them at other people''s weddings to avoid being a drag... but there''s no way I''d have had them at mine. It doesn''t bother me that my friends play stuff like that...but it would bother me if I had it at mine. I''d never complain about alcohol either since some of my friends do not drink, and their weddings were still amazingly fun.

My only 2 BIG pet peeves are when:

A. The DJ tells personal stories that no one cares about.

B. When people have dinner time/dinner and dancing feel wedding''s/receptions and decide that they can''t afford to feed their guests. Now, I know that not everyone can afford a nice sit down menu, but it''s nice to at least have finger foods/appetizers/whatever that are substantial enough to fill up the guests (I''ve been to heavy hors douerves (Ahh I still can''t spell that) receptions that were delicious. And I know it''s only one night out of your life, but no one likes to be hungry AND expected to dance hungry. I don''t understand why people don''t just have a nice morning or afternoon wedding that end before people want to eat. Many of my friends couldn''t afford the whole evening reception thing, and their solutions were morning or afternoon weddings with punch and finger foods. I had one friend who just had a coffee and desert church reception. Those were ALL lovely weddings, and everyone had fun, and no one starved. And for goodness sakes, there''s nothing wrong with a nice, simple church reception. I''ve known one couple who wanted the whole evening atmosphere, but couldn''t afford the food, so they had a late night wedding and served after dinner type snacks and drinks. That''s cool too.
Anyway, I suppose my pet peeve here is really sort of half way doing something that was too expensive. Find something you can afford and make it wonderful. (I guess it''s kinda like big ole diamonds that are low-low quality with ugly proportions and a zillion inclusions. Sure it looks big, but...ewww. Why not go smaller and decent quality?)

C. When the videographer/photographer are literally in the couple''s face during the ceremony, and it''s obvious it''s more about the video/photos than it is about the sanctity of the ceremony. Eww. (I''ve seen this once, and it was obnoxious.)

Sage advice -- "find something you can afford and make it wonderful". The majority of these complaints about weddings are about them being too big, too impersonal, and too much. Too many guests; not enough seats. Too many attendants; too much time on pictures. Too big a venue; never getting to see or speak to the bridal couple. Too many people; too little food. There is nothing wrong with planning on a smaller scale so that you can afford great details and good food; enjoy your guests; and actually have time to breathe/relax and have a good time!

Pet peeves:

Refusing to move a ceremony or reception indoors, even though it has rained and it is 99% humidity. Or booking a church or other venue that does not have air conditioning for your June shindig.

Paper plates (yup, I''ve seen ''um)

BBQ. Please don''t serve BBQ at a formal or semi-formal weddiing. Please. Texans, I''m talking to you. Yes, you.

DJs. Period. Don''t like them at parties; don''t want to endure one at a wedding. If your wedding is so large, anyone needs a microphone to address the guests, I don''t want to come. Just MHO; don''t take offense.

Drunk guests. Drunk family. Drunk wedding party. Drunk couple. Ick.

Tacky table decorations. NEVER use confetti at a wedding - even the *fun* shapes.

Balloons. Anywhere. Not even at a kid''s table.

*Theme* weddings. Any theme. No Knights of the Round Table, Cinderella, Pirates of the Caribbean, Renaissance Fair.

Dramatic, Hollywood-style colored lighting with patterns or monograms on the floor. C''mon. Please. Spend your money on the food or a fab photographer. Same goes for the draped silk ceiliings and chandeliers to transform your tent into ... a tent with chandeliers.

In your face videographers. Family members videotaping.

Mashed potatoes in martini glasses. Mac and cheese in martini glasses. Grits (an abomination anyway) in martini glasses. Anything but a martini in a martini glass.

A wedding that encompasses all the latest trends, but doesn''t say anything definitive about the couple getting married.

Oh, and last, but not least, kids who do not want to be dressed up and the center of attention, being forced down the aisle in their cute little clothes while wailing at the top of their lungs!

 

[mimzy]

i think the only thing that has ever personally bothered me about any wedding isn''t really in the details, but more in the attitude of bride and/or groom before and afterwards. it seems like it is always one or both of the below -

- "I''m having a candy bar and using silk flowers! can you believe how original/creative/untraditional i am??!!"
it''s great that you''re excited about the details and want to make the event your own, but don''t pretend like you are the only person in the world to do these things!

or

- "people can''t stop telling me that it was the best wedding they have ever been to!": people are nice! they would say that even if they thought it was mediocre! that is not something to brag about! please stop letting me know this!

this is often coupled with

- "oh my gosh. she''s using silver and blue for her wedding colors AND are going to have chocolate fountain. she''s copying my entire wedding": enough said.

i agree with some of the others that i''m not going to judge what others chose for their day. lots of difficult decisions go into planning and i''m sure they did the best they could. BUT if any of those phrases come out of the couples mouth it just makes them seem smug to me and it makes me enjoy it a little less.

 

[surfgirl]

holly,mimzy, you're posts cracked me up! Thank you!

holly, I agree with your entire post BUT, I take issue with your classifying grits as an "abomination" because I LOVE grits! If I made em for you, trust me, you'd like them too... In fact, I think I'll go make some right now, and eat them while I re-read your post again.

mimzy, you cracked me up with the "everyone said our wedding was the best" and "can you believe she's copying me, totally?!?" Good stuff.

ETA: I loathe bringing gifts to the wedding and I really hate when there is a gift table and the gifts have been opened so people can see what you gave (yeah, this actually happened once and I thought it was totally bizarre). I also hate that money dance thing - it seems tacky (although the passing of the envelopes in the movie Casino, or that other Ray Liotta mod film, are awesome, but it's a movie so...). Or when the bride chooses a wedding venue so difficult to get to, you've gotta spend a ridiculous amount of money to spend the weekend, flying in, renting cars, driving long hours to get there, and having to spend more than one night there...cash bars, that just feels so wrong to me.

 

[tberube]

Date: 11/18/2007 11:03:08 PM
Author: thing2of2
Well most of mine have been mentioned already, but I''ll list ''em anyways.


1. Cash bar-I know, not everyone can afford a full bar, but I''d honestly rather them just not have a bar at all than have a cash bar...it just seems tacky to me.

If it''s all the same to you then, don''t drink at the cash bar and it will be like no bar for you! Sheeesh...

 

[HollyS]

Date: 11/19/2007 12:13:03 PM
Author: surfgirl
holly,mimzy, you''re posts cracked me up! Thank you!

holly, I agree with your entire post BUT, I take issue with your classifying grits as an ''abomination'' because I LOVE grits! If I made em for you, trust me, you''d like them too... In fact, I think I''ll go make some right now, and eat them while I re-read your post again.

mimzy, you cracked me up with the ''everyone said our wedding was the best'' and ''can you believe she''s copying me, totally?!?'' Good stuff.

ETA: I loathe bringing gifts to the wedding and I really hate when there is a gift table and the gifts have been opened so people can see what you gave (yeah, this actually happened once and I thought it was totally bizarre). I also hate that money dance thing - it seems tacky (although the passing of the envelopes in the movie Casino, or that other Ray Liotta mod film, are awesome, but it''s a movie so...). Or when the bride chooses a wedding venue so difficult to get to, you''ve gotta spend a ridiculous amount of money to spend the weekend, flying in, renting cars, driving long hours to get there, and having to spend more than one night there...cash bars, that just feels so wrong to me.

I take that as high praise from a woman whose wedding should be copied - and often! To be "in the moment" every moment of the wedding, as you and Mr. Surfgirl were, is to be envied and aspired to.

And yes, I did forget something in my rant. Opening gifts at your wedding is a big "oh no, she didn''t!"

And, frankly, someone would have to be REALLY important to me to ever plan on attending a "weekend getaway" wedding that required a schedule/itinerary, using vacation days from work, shelling out lots o'' cash, and major planning on my part.

 

[Pandora II]

Date: 11/18/2007 8:48:39 PM
Author: zoebartlett
This isn''t something I hate but...

I think most, if not all, of the weddings I''ve been to had the bride, groom, and their attendants sitting at one long head table. I don''t like this personally. It just makes it seems like they''re on display. Also, they''re only able to talk to the person on either side of them, for the most part. My sister and her husband chose to sit at a round table, just like everyone else. It wasn''t a sweetheart table though -- they wanted it to be a siblings and SO table. I thought that was nice.

I know this is just a personal preference though.

I have got landed with the full top-table malarky. It was the only way that I could have the full 120 guests.I''d so much rather sit on a round with our friends, but there was no way to make it work.

I''ve put all the bestmen etc on their own table with their SO''s, as FI''s parents are divorced and remarried so we use up more spaces on the toptable.

 

[ChargerGrrl]

Date: 11/19/2007 1:05:34 PM
Author: tberube

Date: 11/18/2007 11:03:08 PM
Author: thing2of2
Well most of mine have been mentioned already, but I''ll list ''em anyways.


1. Cash bar-I know, not everyone can afford a full bar, but I''d honestly rather them just not have a bar at all than have a cash bar...it just seems tacky to me.

If it''s all the same to you then, don''t drink at the cash bar and it will be like no bar for you! Sheeesh...

Most my my "picks" have already been mentioned, so I won''t re-hash them

Just a quick suggestion- can we please avoid getting into the whole cash bar issue? it''s been discussed tons, and the end result is that it''s up to the happy couple!

https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/open-bar-vs-cash-bar.40475/

 

[rainbowtrout]

A near miss I almost hated at my OWN wedding---


I caught FI before he EMAILED STD's. To everyone. "But can't we just email them and have my mom call her friends?"


No. We can't. Men!

(note: it's a semiformal wedding, not a potluck, etc, where it MIGHT be appropriate)

 

[pennquaker09]

Honestly, I can''t say that I''ve been to a bad wedding. Being biracial, both of my cultures have vastly different kinds of weddings.

However, I went a wedding this past summer and the groom and his frat boys started doing their hooping and hollering, I don''t know exactly what it''s called, but OMG it was so inappropriate. Like, this was a classy wedding until this happened. And as much as I love my friend, this particular sorority she is a member of is known for having some rather vain sisters and it was evident.

 

[aljdewey]

Things I dislike at weddings:

Chicken dance/hokey pokey, etc.
$$ dance
Bouquet toss
Garter toss
B/G smashing cake on each other
Screaming/wailing/fussing children whose parents don''t have enough sense to remove them and settle them
Out of control, unsupervised children who run amok
HUGE wait for bridal party to arrive at reception.

I''m fine with bride/groom ONLY receiving lines, but dislike parents/grandparents/every member of bridal party receiving lines. All of those other folks are easily accessed at the reception, and putting them in receiving line really ties things up.

Staggering drunk people

Things I like at weddings:

Personal touches
Ceremonies where it''s clear that the emphasis is on getting married and not on "the production/wedding".
Intimate weddings (where guests don''t get the ''I''m filling a chair so they can marvel at how many people attended their wedding'' feeling.)
I like sweetheart tables; I find them more approachable when I don''t feel like I''m interrupting a convo going on at line-style head table.

 

[Lorelei]

Edit - I was curious to know what a sweetheart table was, reading back I guess it is a table at a wedding for the bride and groom only.

 

[anchor31]

Hate is such a strong word... And of course you can never please everyone, so there will always be someone complaining, but I feel that everyone should do what they think is best in their situation. I''ve seen a few things in this thread that we will be doing, but we don''t feel bad about doing them. If someone is not happy with us having a religious ceremony, serving beer and wine but no strong alcohol or having the wedding in my home town, then they can just stay home. We are not going to go against our convictions, go into debt or have our wedding somewhere we don''t know or dislike because it might make more people happy. It is our wedding after all, not our guests''.

Anyway, one thing I found kind of weird in a wedding I''ve been to is that the bride and groom barely spent any time together during the reception. The bride was on the dance floor all night and the groom just... sat at the table. Weird.

 

[robbie3982]

Date: 11/19/2007 2:43:14 PM
Author: anchor31
Hate is such a strong word... And of course you can never please everyone, so there will always be someone complaining, but I feel that everyone should do what they think is best in their situation. I''ve seen a few things in this thread that we will be doing, but we don''t feel bad about doing them. If someone is not happy with us having a religious ceremony, serving beer and wine but no strong alcohol or having the wedding in my home town, then they can just stay home. We are not going to go against our convictions, go into debt or have our wedding somewhere we don''t know or dislike because it might make more people happy. It is our wedding after all, not our guests''.

Anyway, one thing I found kind of weird in a wedding I''ve been to is that the bride and groom barely spent any time together during the reception. The bride was on the dance floor all night and the groom just... sat at the table. Weird.

Well said!

 

[sunnyd]

Date: 11/19/2007 1:05:34 PM
Author: tberube

Date: 11/18/2007 11:03:08 PM
Author: thing2of2
Well most of mine have been mentioned already, but I''ll list ''em anyways.


1. Cash bar-I know, not everyone can afford a full bar, but I''d honestly rather them just not have a bar at all than have a cash bar...it just seems tacky to me.

If it''s all the same to you then, don''t drink at the cash bar and it will be like no bar for you! Sheeesh...

that''s what i''m thinkin... if the couple couldn''t afford a bar, they are giving the option to drink to those who may want to. i''d say that''s considerate!

 

[larussel03]

OH - I forgot this, but it's totally not the bride or groom's fault! NEGATIVE GUESTS!

OMG, my fiance, myself, his friend and my friend were seated at a table with the brides SUPER NEGATIVE cousins! I actually like sitting with people I don't know bc I love meeting people but these folks were the worst! Mostly we kept the conversation to ourselves because they didn't talk much to us but they spent the entire night eye rolling and making comments about how stupid random things were and making fun of people. I was happy that they left early! I couldn't beleive how negative the lot of them were, and I kept thinking "why come, eat the food, drink the booze if you're just going to go on about how tacky you think the centerpieces are and make fun of the bridesmaids?!?"

Another thing - strawberries on the champagne glasses. Don't get me wrong, they are super elegant when done right, but at a wedding I went to half of them were gross and sort of rotten, squishy and dark. Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww.

That's why I ended up opting to not have strawberries on champagne glasses - I think they're lovely, but I can't get the image of the yucky ones out of my head!

 

[Clio]

I loooove weddings so much that I haven''t been to one that I haven''t enjoyed. I love seeing everyone so happy!

There is one thing that was less than optimal at my cousin''s wedding, though - they didn''t cut the cake until very late. There was a hurricane rolling in, and we wanted to get back home (a little over an hour away in normal, non-evacuation traffic), so we left at 11 pm, at which time they still hadn''t cut the cake. Even at a normal wedding, that seems awfully late.

 

[iheartscience]

Date: 11/19/2007 6:11:25 PM
Author: sunnyd

Date: 11/19/2007 1:05:34 PM
Author: tberube

Date: 11/18/2007 11:03:08 PM
Author: thing2of2
Well most of mine have been mentioned already, but I''ll list ''em anyways.

1. Cash bar-I know, not everyone can afford a full bar, but I''d honestly rather them just not have a bar at all than have a cash bar...it just seems tacky to me.

If it''s all the same to you then, don''t drink at the cash bar and it will be like no bar for you! Sheeesh...

that''s what i''m thinkin... if the couple couldn''t afford a bar, they are giving the option to drink to those who may want to. i''d say that''s considerate!

Hey, I wasn''t trying to start another big PS debate...the OP asked what people disliked, and that''s one thing I dislike! I have no problem with a limited/wine and beer only bar, but I do have a problem with being invited to a party and having to pay for my drinks! That''s my opinion...you ladies can have whatever opinion you want, too!

 

[MoonWater]

I don''t like much about weddings to be honest. I did catering for a couple years and I did a ton of weddings. The bride and groom never looked as happy as I thought they would. They always looked like they were being over worked. Here''s a list of what I don''t like:

1. The bride and groom never gets a chance to eat (wtf!?!)
2. The cheesy bands most people choose (altho I did a great jewish wedding where the father was in a swing band, they had zootsuits and everything, best wedding band ever).
3. If it''s a DJ, when he tries too hard to get the crowd pump...is this a club or a wedding?!
4. People pick very pretty cakes that are VERY NASTY!! It''s for looking only.
5. When people give you the option of chicken/fish or beef instead of a buffet with variety.
6. When it''s a plated dish period instead of a buffet. No one ever gets their food at the same time, and it''s cold by the time everyone starts.
7. You don''t actually see the bride and groom for more than 5 minutes, where the heck are they hiding?
8. When its obvious too many people were invited and you wonder if half the people actually really know the couple.
9. Champange toast...but hey, I don''t like champange, give me wine or some jim beam.

It''s probably more...i''ll continue later haha...

 

[Neveah]

This particular "horror" happened at a wedding I went to about 8 years ago....in Pittsburgh. I''ll make it short.... (let me add these were ex-boyfriends family....no relation or friends to me HA-HA)
The bride and groom had a whole "disney theme" going on. Invitations, ice sculpture, napkins, matchbooks. Okay, to me Disney is a little, um, for children. So then they do a video montage and explain their first date was at Disney World. Okay, it''s a little clearer but still a tad bit overkill.
Then it happened. And I''m NOT making this up. Freaking Mickey and Minnie Mouse...showed up....yep!!!....AT THE RECEPTION. And I guess because of trademark issues, the costumes were horrible knock-offs. They took pictures with the couple. AND the guests.
Now, as we can agree to disagree on all the things we don''t like/love at weddings and to each his own...yada, yada.
I can''t believe that this couple doesn''t now look back on their wedding day and think " WTF WERE WE THINKING " excuse my French!

 

[Deelight]

Date: 11/19/2007 7:57:30 PM
Author: thing2of2

Date: 11/19/2007 6:11:25 PM

Author: sunnyd

Date: 11/19/2007 1:05:34 PM

Author: tberube

Date: 11/18/2007 11:03:08 PM

Author: thing2of2

Well most of mine have been mentioned already, but I''ll list ''em anyways.


1. Cash bar-I know, not everyone can afford a full bar, but I''d honestly rather them just not have a bar at all than have a cash bar...it just seems tacky to me.

If it''s all the same to you then, don''t drink at the cash bar and it will be like no bar for you! Sheeesh...

that''s what i''m thinkin... if the couple couldn''t afford a bar, they are giving the option to drink to those who may want to. i''d say that''s considerate!

Hey, I wasn''t trying to start another big PS debate...the OP asked what people disliked, and that''s one thing I dislike! I have no problem with a limited/wine and beer only bar, but I do have a problem with being invited to a party and having to pay for my drinks! That''s my opinion...you ladies can have whatever opinion you want, too!

Cash bars don''t bother me at the least weddings even small ones are expensive PERIOD. It is your choice whether you choose to pay for your drinks or not. At the end of the day you go to a wedding it may not be all your taste but when it is your turn to do it you can do it your way and I guarantee there will be things others will hate at yours .

You will never ever make 100% of the people 100% happy anytime .

 

[Neveah]

Date: 11/19/2007 11:59:33 PM
Author: Deelight

Date: 11/19/2007 7:57:30 PM
Author: thing2of2

Date: 11/19/2007 6:11:25 PM

Author: sunnyd

Date: 11/19/2007 1:05:34 PM

Author: tberube

Date: 11/18/2007 11:03:08 PM

Author: thing2of2

Well most of mine have been mentioned already, but I''ll list ''em anyways.


1. Cash bar-I know, not everyone can afford a full bar, but I''d honestly rather them just not have a bar at all than have a cash bar...it just seems tacky to me.

If it''s all the same to you then, don''t drink at the cash bar and it will be like no bar for you! Sheeesh...

that''s what i''m thinkin... if the couple couldn''t afford a bar, they are giving the option to drink to those who may want to. i''d say that''s considerate!

Hey, I wasn''t trying to start another big PS debate...the OP asked what people disliked, and that''s one thing I dislike! I have no problem with a limited/wine and beer only bar, but I do have a problem with being invited to a party and having to pay for my drinks! That''s my opinion...you ladies can have whatever opinion you want, too!

Cash bars don''t bother me at the least weddings even small ones are expensive PERIOD. It is your choice whether you choose to pay for your drinks or not. At the end of the day you go to a wedding it may not be all your taste but when it is your turn to do it you can do it your way and I guarantee there will be things others will hate at yours .

You will never ever make 100% of the people 100% happy anytime .

Let me play devils advocate............ How would you feel if you were at a wedding and there were a plated dinner being served with a potatoe and vegetable..... And if you wanted chicken or beef you had to purchase it?

 

[iheartscience]

Date: 11/20/2007 12:06:05 AM
Author: Neveah

Let me play devils advocate............ How would you feel if you were at a wedding and there were a plated dinner being served with a potatoe and vegetable..... And if you wanted chicken or beef you had to purchase it?

Hahaha-Neveah, I almost asked EXACTLY the same thing, but I refrained because I didn''t want to fuel the fire! And Deelight, of course you can''t make 100% of your guests happy 100% of the time...but free alcohol sure helps!

 

[Neveah]

Date: 11/20/2007 12:13:13 AM
Author: thing2of2

Date: 11/20/2007 12:06:05 AM
Author: Neveah

Let me play devils advocate............ How would you feel if you were at a wedding and there were a plated dinner being served with a potatoe and vegetable..... And if you wanted chicken or beef you had to purchase it?

Hahaha-Neveah, I almost asked EXACTLY the same thing, but I refrained because I didn''t want to fuel the fire! And Deelight, of course you can''t make 100% of your guests happy 100% of the time...but free alcohol sure helps!

Well great minds think alike!!!

 

[Haven]

Your replies reminded me--I completely forgot to add that I dislike it very much when guests bring gifts to the wedding, this is a very inconsiderate practice in my opinion, although it seems that it is becoming more widespread based on past forum discussions on the subject.

HOWEVER, it IS proper etiquette to open a gift when it is given, so if guests do bring gifts to the wedding and the couple does open the gifts at the wedding, the couple is in fact following proper decorum. The truth is that these guests are putting the couple in the awkward position of a) having to open the gifts at their wedding, b) having to find someone to keep an eye on the gifts to ensure that they don''t disappear, and c) having to transport them all to their home from the reception. In this case, it is truly the guests making a breach of etiquette rather than the couple. I might even say that I HATE this practice, I wish guests would take the time to send it in the post or deliver it to the bride''s home before the actual wedding, as is the proper method.

Okay, rant over.