What is a "Dollar Dance?"

[firebirdgold]

Date: 4/23/2007 6:04:55 PM
Author: blingergrrrl

Date: 4/23/2007 2:42:02 PM

Author: Hudson_Hawk

We call your ''socials'' Jack and Jill parties. They''re essentially showers for both the B and G and they''re gifted with money and sometimes inappropriate gifts (think novelties and lingerie). I''ve never been to one.

Actually we have these too but we call them Stag''s and Stagette''s. We all go out and get rowdy sans the members of the opposite sex. Usually it consists of dressing the Bride to Be in lingerie OVER her clothes with many phallic shapped decorations (if you catch my drift) while we are out at the clubs/pubs/bars and dancing the night away...Also ingesting many phallic shaped food items as well (cakes and chocolates). Sometimes they''re held in Las Vegas or Mexico..Is this what you mean by Jack and Jill''s? I''m starting to think we really go overboard on weddings out here! There''s still the engagement parties, and at least a couple of wedding showers too. Maybe we just really like to throw parties!

I''ve heard of money trees but I have never seen them at a wedding.


And what would you guys think about making donations in people''s names to a charity instead of wedding favours? Would that seem cheap? When everyone was getting those Lance Armstrong bracelets, I was at a wedding and the couple had put a packaged pink wristbands (for breast cancer) on each plate for a wedding favour. I am a nurse and my BF is an engineer so I was thinking of donating to Engineers Without Borders and Doctors (this includes nurses) Without Borders...they give you a printout to put at your table explaining the donation/wedding favour. Also, you can go through the I Do Foundation : http://www.idofoundation.org/welcome/favors/

My sil had a little card like that instead of favors. We all thought it was really nice!

Her husband''s family is polish and they had a dollar dance as well. It was a little surprising to me and I think I had to borrow money from my dh (then fi) to dance.

It seemed rather nice actually.

 

[snuga]

we are having a "sort of" money dance, where we take off my veil and they hold it over our heads and everyone can put money in the veil and dance under it. it''s tradition in my family, and it''s a lot of fun (especially when you''ve got a few in you

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[Kit]

Guys, it''s a cultural thing. I''ve never been to a wedding with a dollar dance before, but in Italian tradition guests give the couple envelopes of cash or a check at the reception. And it''s generally a lot more than a dollar. Cash gifts are also traditional in some Asian cultures. It''s not considered tacky, it''s considered the right thing to do. People who think this is tacky think this way because in their culture, they have other traditions. I wish people wouldn''t be so judgemental.

 

[bee*]

Date: 4/26/2007 3:21:57 PM
Author: Kit
Guys, it''s a cultural thing. I''ve never been to a wedding with a dollar dance before, but in Italian tradition guests give the couple envelopes of cash or a check at the reception. And it''s generally a lot more than a dollar. Cash gifts are also traditional in some Asian cultures. It''s not considered tacky, it''s considered the right thing to do. People who think this is tacky think this way because in their culture, they have other traditions. I wish people wouldn''t be so judgemental.

I agree with this. We have nothing like this in Ireland (never heard of it before now!!) but whats traditional in one place isnt in another. Ive noticed tons of differences between what we do over here and what seems to be done in the states, even as far down to Ive never heard of bridesmaids having to pay for their own dress, hair etc, as that''s not how its done here. Each to their own though and we can all have our own happy weddings

 

[tanyak]

Date: 4/25/2007 10:24:44 AM
Author: Blenheim
I've never been to a wedding with a money dance. While it's not something that I would do, I have no objections if it's part of the bride/groom's cultural background. If it's not, though, I think it can come off as money-grabby.

Absolutely. If you're part of a cultural/live in an area of the country where money dances aren't done, to suddenly decide to do one out of the blue because you heard about it on a message board can look kind of greedy. Plain and simple.

I have a friend who was born and raised in New Jersery. When she got married a few years ago, she did not do certain customs or expect certain things (like cash envelopes) because she was getting married here in North Carolina, where cash gifts are not the norm and neither are money dances, from what what I can tell. Most of her guests were from this area and not the Northeast.

 

[winternight]

I went to a wedding with a sort of money dance, the couple was from the middle east. I think though that girls danced around the groom and gave him money though. It was more of a joke thing. Otherwise I''ve never seen one in an American wedding, but I''m in DC so maybe they don''t happen as much around here? I think you should do what you and your husband to be are comfortable with, but also take into account how common such a thing is among your social group/part of the country. Never heard of the shoe thing - that''s a new one for me.

 

[DMBsGirl]

Wow, so many different traditions out there! I''ve never heard of this money dance thing or been to a wedding that had one, sounds fun enough!