What was your first date?

[Glitz]

How we Met (I joined after that thread)
We met online, a friend of mine basically forced me to make a profile. I was so blunt with what I was looking for in a guy and didn't hide anything about myself. I included *guzzling wine & *people watching as hobbies and posted a picture of a male model that said "don't message me unless you give this guy some competition". I wasn't looking for a boyfriend so this all was a joke to me, until one day I get a message from a guy that stood out. Instead of the typical "walks on the beach .. blah blah blah" this guy was just being himself, much like I was, but at the end he added "Also looking for a girl that gives good BJ's!" So I decide to add this guy to MSN and ask what his deal was and who in their right mind writes something like that, to which he says "well who responds to something like that!" He got me there hahaha, so we continued and I realized he was just a normal guy speaking the truth. We talked for another 4 months on MSN and had two phone dates before we met. Since it was the first time meeting someone from offline for both of us we agreed that we wouldn't be offended if the other one cut the date short, and that we would never have to talk again.

First Date
The plan was to meet at my house, get to know each other a little, then head over to the drive-in. I still remember what he looked like the first time I saw him when I opened my front door. I was also relieved that he looked the same if not better than the pictures he sent me over MSN. My roomate was also home so it wasn't like I was totally alone with a strange guy from the internet. We walked down the street to Tim Hortons for a coffee, then walked home through the park, it was a beautiful day outside. We decided to take my car to the drive-in, I wish I could remember all the movies that we played that night, but all I remember was Mr. & Mrs. Smith was playing. We got along so well, it was just like talking to an old friend. Sometime through the second movie we had our first kiss and from there we continued to kiss and talk in my car. Before we knew it the movies were over and all the cars were leaving, we didn't want the date to end so we decided to wait until all the cars were gone to leave. We continued making out until a man with a flashlight came to the car. We both just laughed and went back to my house, he lived 25mins from my place and it was now 3:30am so I told him he could spend the night . Nothing really serious happened between us that night though, just more making out. The next morning I had to work really early, so I told him to just let himself out and we'd talk later. Well he used my computer that was in my room and talked with me on MSN when I got to work, I told him I had a great time and that I was soooo tired. He said bye and that he was leaving my house, 20mins later he showed up at my office with a coffee because I mentioned that I was tired! Thats when I knew he was a keeper! Also when I was leaving work that day I noticed my bra was sprawled across the backseat, hopefully no one else at work noticed!!! This first date happened 5 years ago from this coming tuesday, I think we might have to see whats playing at the drive-in!

 

[Autumnovember]

I was all of 19 when SO and I met and he was 33. He seemed intriguing. Different. Unusual. Something that I never really had before.

What I DID have, was an emotionally abusive boyfriend. Our phone calls would always end with me in tears, and me never feeling good or important enough. Over a period of one month, SO showed me what a real man was all about even though he had his own imperfections.

One weekend, SO asked me to come up and meet him for the first time. We had met each other through work because I was his dispatcher. I was hesitant, mainly because we had a 14 year age difference and I really did not want people in the office to find out. After talking to my best friend she told me that I should just do it.

I made up a lie and told my mom I was going to the shore for the weekend (he lives an hour and a half away from me). I felt excited. As awful as it is, I even went to the extent to tell my current boyfriend that we needed a 'break', just so I didn't have to hold back during the weekend in case any opportunities arose. I didn't feel bad. Not one bit. Especially because my current boyfriend apparently cheated on me with 6 different females.

I picked out my outfits for that weekend and was ready to go. I can remember the exact songs I was listening to on the way there. Listening to them today, brings a smile to my face.

As I was getting closer to his place, I could feel my heart beating faster. What if he was different in person than in the pictures he sent? What if he acted different?

I was waiting in my car at the entrance of his complex when I looked to my left and there he was. Sunglasses on. Hand on the wheel and a smile to die for. He was sexy. I wanted him.

"Lets go!" he said enthusiastically.

We drove to his house and he asked me to help him take the groceries into the house. Walking in to his home, I was positive there was a girl living there with him I didn't know about. There was no way that he decorated his place so nicely without the help of a previous/current girlfriend. I shyly asked him who helped him decorate the place. He told me absolutely nobody.

I was impressed. Not only was this guy gorgeous in every single way possible, he had immaculate taste as well.

He went into his room and then reappeared shirtless. He had to be doing this on purpose, teasing me this way. With a big smile on his face he said, "check out how bad I'm peeling on my back!"

I laughed and said it really wasn't that bad. Years later, I still make fun of him for totally finding the most BS excuse to take his shirt off because I knew for a fact he was trying to show off. Nowadays he is not as fit as he was so it's even more funny to joke about his used-to-be-cocky attitude back then.

We got ready for dinner and headed out.

I felt like a star. I was in a beautiful car, with a beautiful man, on a beautiful night heading to dinner in Manhattan. I kept telling myself this was all too good to be true, something had to be off...it just had to be.

The drive into Manhattan was a mere 20 minutes. We got to our destination, a well known high end restaurant in the City.

Being 19, I felt cool. Really cool.

We had a fabulous dinner and then headed across the street to a nightclub that SO's twin brother owned. We sat in the VIP section. Now I was REALLY ballin' and I knew this was going to be an awesome story to tell the girls.

I accidently spilled a red drink all over my white outfit. Great, I'm a slob. To top it off, I forgot my wallet at the restaurant that he went and fetched for me. So now I'm a slob and forgetful. This guy is never going to want to see me again, I thought.

We eventually made it back to his place. It couldn't have been minutes before we got into his place that all of our clothes came off.

And one thing...

lead...

to another as he robbed the cradle.

It's too bad that I drank SO much that I was out like a like several minutes into it. Oops.

Waking up was the fun part. I was lying on the couch completely naked. I was confused and unsure of why I was naked with just a small pillow over me. I looked down to the floor and noticed my clothes rolled up into a little ball.

It became clear as day that I left my dignity at the door that night.

Never did I ever participate in those kinds of activities with a man unless he was my boyfriend. That was always my rule. No sex with anyone unless I am officially and exclusively dating them.

I tried to gather my thoughts and recollect what happened. I just wanted to get into my pajama's and into a comfortable bed. I walked outside to my car to get my clothes, and shut the door behind me.

After getting my clothes, I walked back to the house and the door self locked. GREAT. It was about 90 degrees outside and I was stuck out there in my walk of shame clothing. Just another notch in his bedpost.

I wasn't ready for our first and last (in my mind) date to end yet so I slept in the car because he didn't hear me knocking on the door.

When he finally woke up and saw all my missed calls on his phone, he called me back and I demanded he let me back in.

He didn't hesitate.

I walked back in laughing and trying to blurt out some kind of words. I told him what a sloppy mess he probably thought I was. I told him how "I'm not really like that"....the line we've all used once before when snapping one of our morals or values right in half.

He laughed along with me and said it really didn't matter and that he had a great time. I gave him a nice swift punch to the arm and told him he should have at least picked me up and carried me to the bed.

He told me I was like a "refrigerator", "dead weight" and a "wet noodle"....there was no picking me up.

I eventually left and called my best friend to tell her all about this crazy weekend I had. She couldn't stop laughing. I told her how I felt like a complete slut. She told me to stop having such strict rules, and live a little. After all, I WAS only 19.

I convinced myself that it didn't matter that I broke my rule for one night. I had an amazing time. I had to just take it for what it was worth and just accept it.

I doubted I'd see him again anyways.

I couldn't have been more wrong then that.

I cut ties with the current boyfriend after he told me for the *5th* time he wished my car accident that I had been involved in a few weeks prior, would have killed me.

From there on out, SO and I saw each other every single weekend.


We often look back on our first date and laugh at how different things are now. We aren't into going out to Manhattan and having dinner at high-end places anymore. He isn't obsessed with the gym anymore. I'm not 19 anymore with strict rules. We're a laid back couple that loves spending time with each other, watching movies, and eating some good sushi. Plain and simple.

Sometimes we even think back to one of the conversations we had that weekend. He told me he would never ever get married to anyone. I looked at him and told him with the straightest face I have that when he met the right person, he would get married.






Hope the wait was worth it!

 

[slg47]

definitely worth it!!! what a great story!!!

 

[slg47]

glitz_n_glam what a great story!

hehe reading all of these is so great! thanks ladies for sharing!

 

[dawnabee]

Good Story Autumn


I wish I knew mine... I had to ask SO to refresh my memory before posting. Since we were friends for a long time before we started dating my memory is blurring the thens and the nows. He was very cute about it too and his memory is impeccible.

We never had a first official date because this is what happened.

Slowly I started realizing that we did a lot of things together that couples do. We would go to the movies or rent a movie, go out to dinner, the beach, the mall or whatever. We were basically eachothers best friends but I would be dating someone or he would be dating someone so it never really came to the front of my mind. Then there was a lapse where we didn't really hang out too much since we got into a big argument over the really snobby and materialistic girl he was seeing at the time. Then he would start arguments with me about nothing too and it started ruining our friendship... so we drifted apart.

We didn't have any contact for about five months after that. I was so angry during the time frame that I didn't want to speak with him and I think he was just embarassed about how we were fighting so he wouldnt say anything to me. He did try to apologize the next day after one of our arguements but I had enough and so had he I guess. I missed him of course since we would do everything normal friends would do together.

Our one mutual friend kind of brought us back together. She said to me you know you guys are fighting like this because he really is in love with you. I just told her to be quiet and no he is not! How could he be in love with me all that time and I never knew or felt anything like that toward him. Then for another couple weeks I chewed on that thought and started questioning my feelings for him. I know I loved him but I wasnt "in" love with him... ahhh so typical or so I thought. Then I decided to take charge.

Why couldn't I be in love with this guy? He is my best friend. We both are available. I think we should go on a couple dates and figure this out. Crazy? Hmm a little. He thought so too. I remember the conversation like it was yesterday.

He was on AIM and I said "Hey stranger how are you?" and he replied "good but bored."
The convo went on a little bit back and forth and then I just blurted out. "I think we should go on a real date. Like we are seeing eachother for the first time that way. What do you think?"

Him: "Interesting. Have you been drinking?"
Me: "No. I'm being serious. I think we should try it out and see how it goes."
Him: "Yeah, right okay." (obviously he needed some convincing at this point so I convinced him I was being honest)

When he finally believed me he said "So would you like to accompany me to dinner on Friday night?" I said yes I would. It never happened though because each time we would set a plan somehow it would get botched up.

So we just started hanging out again as normal until we decided to start dating. We never had a first date but we have had many since that more than make up for our lost time <3

 

[shihtzulover]

My boyfriend and I met on a dating website. He actually lives a bit over an hour away, and he lives in one of the larger cities in our state. I, on the other hand, live in a rural area. He was searching within a smaller radius than I was, since there are so many more people in his area. In order for me to find people, I expanded out further - and I found him and sent him a message.

We messaged back and forth for awhile (a week or two?) and then met up at Chili's for dinner, with a movie to follow. It's not a very original date, but there really aren't many options in my area, and he traveled out closer to me so that I wouldn't have to drive all the way to his city. Once we went on a few more dates, he brought me to his city, and the options really opened up for us.

 

[nicoleben]

autumn! that was an awesome story!

Oh, we have all been there (at least I have) before. haha. Ahhh to be 19 again.. So cute!

I had met a guy on a dating website one time and he actually came to my apartment as well.. And well.. one thing.. led.. to .. another.. and BAM.. however, after 3 months of going back and forth and speaking on the phone and seeing each other (we lived about 2 hrs from each other) he started to act weird. So.. I said.. OK, no biggie. Ill get over it and move on..

Then, I met my boyfriend, and the guy from the dating site hated the fact that I had found someone. He tried very hard to meet up again and make it work. He said how dumb he was for acting the way he did and tried and tried and tried some more to get me to meet up with him.. Uhmm.. I bluntly just said. "You had your chance, you blew it up. I am with an amazing man now that would NEVER think twice about wanting to be with me." I never heard from him since. All I know is that he deleted me off of his facebook. HAHA..

 

[peach_tea_for_me]

Autumn---that was totally worth the wait! Thank you for sharing. Totally perked up my afternoon!