What WON''T you do?

[Iowa Lizzy]

I''m sure there''s something we all just flat out REFUSE to do at the homestead, right? Come on ladies, tell me what you won''t do and what your SO won''t do.

I''ll start:

I will not mow the lawn. I refuse. I''ll shovel snow, wash the cars, clean, cook, sweep the garage, take out the trash/recycling, almost anything. I just refuse to even learn how to start the mower. SO will ask every guy we know, "so, does your wife/gf mow the lawn?" 9 times out of 10, the guys say "no, and I probably wouldn''t let her if she asked." Is this on par with my fellow Ladies in waiting?

Also, I don''t de-spiderweb. Our basement has cobwebs in all the corners, and I''m always begging SO to clean them away. Yuck.

One thing he won''t do? Take out the kitty litter.

 

[HeadOverHeels4James]

UGh! I HATE mowing our yard!!!

I WILL NOT under any circumstances clean his bathroom

 

[Cleopatra]

Hehe - I think this is funny

FI and I have been living together for just over a year - in that time, our "duties" and what each will/won''t do have become obvious.

I cook, clean, and do laundry...in turn, I won''t take out the kitty litter (ha!), I won''t check the mail (I know, weird, but that''s HIS job), and I rarely take the trash out....those are his three duties...I do pretty much everything else....

FI will NOT clean the toilets....

 

[Anna0499]

Great thread!

I won''t mow the lawn either, but I live in an apartment, so right now that is a hypothetical although I have never done it in the past and don''t intend on starting.

I won''t kill bugs, take out/empty the trash (BF does this when he visits and I live alone so once a week is plenty), or do anything to cars besides get gas.

BF doesn''t cook unless I''m there to supervise (I''m SUPER picky about my kitchen and BF always puts things in the wrong spot or leaves little crumbs of food everywhere!).

 

[fieryred33143]

I refuse to throw out the trash. I won’t do it. Everything about it disgusts me. It’s his one chore. I also don’t do any bug killing of any kind. Ants scare the crap out of me and it’s a huge problem in Florida. I do a really good job of making sure everything is clean so they won’t show up but if you drop one crumb on the floor, there they go. I will literally wake him up to *make* him kill them all. It’s the one time where I’m very inconsiderate…I don’t care what he’s doing or where he is…I’m not touching bugs.

He will not iron. He will go to work looking like he was just thrown out of a truck but he doesn’t care.

On the subject of mowing: We don’t have a lawn but I don’t mind mowing. My mom bought a home when I was young and she used to go out there and do it herself so I would help out as much as I could.

 

[Lauren8211]

Kill bugs. I HATE killing bugs. HATE HATE HATE. That is his job, and it always will be.

I''ve never mowed a lawn in my life, so I''m not sure how I feel about that one -- we don''t have a lawn to mow.

 

[FrekeChild]

I don't check the mail because that's part of his "routine" (he's slightly OCD), and I won't empty the dishwasher or take out the trash. Or kill bugs. But he won't kill them either, he just gathers them up and takes them outside. Or deal with the turtles. But those aren't mine.

I like yardwork. It makes me happy. Too bad we don't have a yard.

 

[sklingem]

My GF and I have a clear division of labor: She will kills spiders (which I hate) and I will kill snakes (which she hates). Now who has ever seen a snake in Chicago? I somehow have the impression that I got the better deal ... LOL!

(And for full disclosure: I have never killed a snake in my life)

 

[lala2332]

haha....this is funny.

He is supposed to take out ther trash. I will do it under duress only.

He does laundry, or I do just mine. He is really funny about his clothes get washed and I can''t keep up. I have to fold my own clothes though...he won''t do that part.

I clean the bathroom.
I give our dog a bath.
I vacuum.


We still have seperate places, but I stay with him 99.9% of the time b/c the dog lives there, so its still his space.

Both of our landlords take care of the yard, so that isn''t an issue. But it will be his duty when the time comes!

 

[KCCutie]

Hmmmm maybe it''s b/c I''m a bit older and have lived alone for many years but there''s nothing I WON''T do....I mean I''ve been doing it so far so I can''t say I WON''T do it. If it has to be done I''ll mow the lawn, change the oil in my car, take out the trash, pick up the dog poop, kill bugs and spiders....if it has to be done I''ll do it.

However I do hope to get out of taking out the trash and mowing the lawn once SO and I move into our house.

 

[jcarlylew]

man. I got to start cracking the whip!

me:
kill spiders
cook
"manage" income
pick up and vacumm

him:
kill ants (even though we havent had one!)
clean deck
Grill (won''t let me do it!)

share:
cleaning
dishes (but he usually does those)
trash
dog care

Although if we get a cat, i will insist he cleans it out. the toxins from kitty litter are very bad for (preg) women!

 

[Erin]

I''m 33 and have for the majority of my adult life, lived alone. There is nothing I won''t or can''t do. In fact this morning, while leaving my boyfriend''s house to go back to get ready for work, I took his garbage out for him. I mean hey, I was walking outside almost to the curb to get to my car anyway. He goes straight from his kitchen door to his car door. Plus he does little sneaky sweet things for me all the time. It''s almost a competition who can get away with sweet surprises more often.

 

[Dreamgirl]

I wont:
kill spiders as well (EEK!

)
kill other creepy looking bugs
I wont even touch those bugs (or spiderwebs)
cook raw meats
touch leftover bones from dead animal food (chicken bones) YUCK!!!

take out trash
carry heavy groceries

He wont:
watch my soap with me lol

I honestly actually cant think of anything he wont do. Wow, Im impressed.

Oh, he says he wont change diapers but come on, he''s kidding me. I wont have kids if he wont change diapers! hehe

Also, he HATES mowing lawn (and I dont want to do it) so we want to landscape a yard when we get a house instead lol!
I can''t think of anything else right now.

 

[Anna0499]

Date: 7/24/2008 3:33:38 PM
Author: Dreamgirl
I wont:
kill spiders as well (EEK!

)
kill other creepy looking bugs
I wont even touch those bugs (or spiderwebs)
cook raw meats
touch leftover bones from dead animal food (chicken bones) YUCK!!!

take out trash
carry heavy groceries

He wont:
watch my soap with me lol

I honestly actually cant think of anything he wont do. Wow, Im impressed.

Oh, he says he wont change diapers but come on, he''s kidding me. I wont have kids if he wont change diapers! hehe

Also, he HATES mowing lawn (and I dont want to do it) so we want to landscape a yard when we get a house instead lol!
I can''t think of anything else right now.

LOL - just tell him you''ll change all the diapers if he''ll breastfeed...that should shut him up!

I fully plan on being a momzilla during and post-pregnancy!

 

[dragonfly411]

I won''t:
Go near any kind of insect
mow the lawn
handle his dirty shoes *like muddy boots or tennis shoes*
grill
fry fish
wash the cars
use the plunger (this is seriously something I can''t handle)

He won''t :
fold clothes
match socks
bake
make breakfast

 

[aliciagirl]

We've both lived alone so there's nothing we won't do. But we divide things based on how much we like/hate doing them and who's better at it.

So I:
Cook most of the time
Do laundry/ fold clothes
Pick up
Make beds

He:
Does the dishes
Takes out the trash
Runs the vaccuum
Cleans the bathroom and kitchen

We share everything else. We don't have a lawn yet, but when we do SO says that's his job. He also says he wants to be in charge of the grill or "the grillmaster" as he calls it.

ETA: I also hate matching his socks! That's something I WON'T do. It's annoying.

 

[Dreamgirl]

Date: 7/24/2008 3:42:25 PM
Author: IndyGirl22
LOL - just tell him you''ll change all the diapers if he''ll breastfeed...that should shut him up!

I fully plan on being a momzilla during and post-pregnancy!

HAHA!!! I should tell him that one. I just showed him in a magazine last weekend at the grocery store check out.......Chris Martin said something like "Changing diapers is great. I think every dad should do it. It''s very rewarding" FF said "Maybe for him!!!!!!" lol! I told him "See, its rewarding! You never know what suprise your gonna get inside!"

I mean, he thinks I would like changing diapers. I can''t even stand the smell of any "crap" let alone baby crap.

Id rather put the kid outside and put a hose on them to clean them off then wipe their little stinky mud bums. lol!!

(It''s all in good fun though, If we have kids.......OH HE WILL change diapers. Maybe I''ll change #1 diapers and when I smell #2, its daddy''s turn!) HA!

 

[Blair138]

I WILL NOT feed, clean up after or care for his cats. I am a dog person and though I do love animals-his cats are lame...**DISCLAIMER** my bro has a cat and he lives with us now and the cat comes out and plays all the time, I like him

FI won''t iron-he looks like a wrinkly slob at times, so I break down and iron for him

but we don''t live together yet so I can''t police him all the time...

 

[brazen_irish_hussy]

Date: 7/24/2008 2:44:38 PM
Author: fieryred33143

I refuse to throw out the trash. I won’t do it. Everything about it disgusts me. It’s his one chore. I also don’t do any bug killing of any kind. Ants scare the crap out of me and it’s a huge problem in Florida. I do a really good job of making sure everything is clean so they won’t show up but if you drop one crumb on the floor, there they go. I will literally wake him up to *make* him kill them all. It’s the one time where I’m very inconsiderate…I don’t care what he’s doing or where he is…I’m not touching bugs.

I thought I was the only one with this fear, seriously, I hate ants even though other bugs don''t bother me.

I don''t do dishes, ever. I hate doing kitchen cleaning at all, but dishes I just won''t touch. Thankfully our new apartment has a dishwasher, so it won''t be an issue.

My FI HATES doing the bathroom so I do that.

 

[sunnyd]

He has his "man jobs" like taking out the garbage (which I would do, but it''s just HIS job!

) and BBQing. I''m scared of burning myself, what?!

I get the mail because I''m the one with the key. Ummm that''s about it. Oh, he kills bugs unless he''s not there, then I try to make the cats kill them.

They''re a great tag team.

 

[Anna0499]

Date: 7/24/2008 3:52:33 PM
Author: Dreamgirl

Date: 7/24/2008 3:42:25 PM
Author: IndyGirl22
LOL - just tell him you''ll change all the diapers if he''ll breastfeed...that should shut him up!

I fully plan on being a momzilla during and post-pregnancy!

HAHA!!! I should tell him that one. I just showed him in a magazine last weekend at the grocery store check out.......Chris Martin said something like ''Changing diapers is great. I think every dad should do it. It''s very rewarding'' FF said ''Maybe for him!!!!!!'' lol! I told him ''See, its rewarding! You never know what suprise your gonna get inside!''

I mean, he thinks I would like changing diapers. I can''t even stand the smell of any ''crap'' let alone baby crap.

Id rather put the kid outside and put a hose on them to clean them off then wipe their little stinky mud bums. lol!!

(It''s all in good fun though, If we have kids.......OH HE WILL change diapers. Maybe I''ll change #1 diapers and when I smell #2, its daddy''s turn!) HA!

Haha you know I bet that Gwenyth and Chris have people who do the "dirty work" for them! Jon & Kate Plus 8 is my guilty pleasure and I could *not* imagine changing that many diapers, no matter what was in them!

 

[absolut_blonde]

I won't:
- mow the lawn or shovel the walk
- take out the trash and recycling
- do dishes whenever possible (I really, really hate them. I still do them sometimes, though. Our usual arrangement is that I cook, he does dishes)
- garden
- clean the shower/tub if at all possible. All of the (effective) cleaners give me a TERRIBLE headache. The natural ones don't seem to work as well.
- kill creepy crawlies, especially centipedes. I screamed the other day when I found one

He won't:
- change diapers, or so he claims! He knows that will go out the window though

- do my laundry. Actually, he's willing to- he offered the other day. BUT I have a lot of clothing that requires special care (dry cleaning, lay flat to dry, cold wash, delicate cycle, etc). Since his wardrobe consists of jeans and tees, I worry that he won't know how to handle my good work clothes.
- garden
- bake


We both cook (I do the majority), grocery shop and clean.

As you can see, neither of us will garden! I am terrible with plants to boot. I think we'll have to invest in some low-maintenence landscaping. Lots of... shrubs or something.

 

[Iowa Lizzy]

Date: 7/24/2008 3:46:23 PM
Author: dragonfly411
I won''t:
Go near any kind of insect
mow the lawn
handle his dirty shoes *like muddy boots or tennis shoes*
grill
fry fish
wash the cars
use the plunger (this is seriously something I can''t handle)

He won''t :
fold clothes
match socks
bake
make breakfast

Ha! Me too! Not because it''s gross, but for some reason I just lack some fundamental ability. I can sit there for 20 minutes just plunging away and NOTHING! SO strolls in, uses the plunger for all of 5 seconds and *whoosh* working toilet again.

Also, I used to live alone, so I CAN do everything (except mow of course), but it''s funny how I just seem to get amnesia when it comes to certain things I''d rather not do. I also tend to let him do most of the driving/filling up the gas tank if we''re in the car together. This works out especially well in the winter bc he''ll usually let me off at the door and park the car by himself.

Oh, and I actually like matching socks. It''s strangely cathartic.

 

[Patiently_Waiting]

I''ve pretty much lived on my own since college, so I pretty much do it all. That''s not to say that overall I tend to cook more for SO and I than he does or that I wouldn''t have him kill icky bugs when he''s over at my place

The one chore I really hate and would gladly pass off to SO is mowing my lawn, but that''s mostly just due to how bad it makes me feel due to allergies and not the mowing itself.

 

[HollyS]

I WON"T mow the lawn. Period. Don't want to. Not gonna. If I lived alone, I would have a lawn service do it.

He does trash, and kitty pan. The kitty was mine for 9 years prior to marriage, so I have plenty of that under my belt, thank you. I cook. I keep the shared areas clean and tidy. I will occasionally clean his bathroom, but only if it isn't disgusting to start with. We keep our clothing laundry separate since we both have full loads; I will do his laundry if he hasn't had a chance to do it.

 

[gwendolyn]

Man oh man, sometimes I feel like I really don''t belong here. What with the title of this thread and the winking smiley next to it, my mind went straight to the gutter.

In answer to the actual question, um, I won''t do all of the housework. As long as we split stuff up, I don''t really care what I''m doing. Some things I prefer not to do, but I''ve lived on my own before and had to do it all, so it''s whatev. Doing half of icky things is much nicer than having to do 100% of icky things.

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 7/24/2008 4:33:35 PM
Author: gwendolyn
Man oh man, sometimes I feel like I really don''t belong here. What with the title of this thread and the winking smiley next to it, my mind went straight to the gutter.

In answer to the actual question, um, I won''t do all of the housework. As long as we split stuff up, I don''t really care what I''m doing. Some things I prefer not to do, but I''ve lived on my own before and had to do it all, so it''s whatev. Doing half of icky things is much nicer than having to do 100% of icky things.

I actually LOL''ed at that.

I don''t know if PS would approve of that thread, although it might be one of PS''s most interesting...

 

[PrincessDijon]

Lol...I love this topic....

I won't take out the trash anymore...I live in apartments where you have to commute your trash to the compactor....ewwwww.

I also won't cook anymore....I used to love it but now I am just too damn tired!

I despise vaccuming, sweeping and mopping....he usually does that.

In reverse I always take care of the laundry, bathroom and kitchen.....I am fanatical about those! He never matches socks folds his clothes or washes them...seriously, he would wear dirty clothes for months......if I'd let him....

 

[ladypirate]

I don''t think there''s any chore either of us won''t do, but he prefers not to fold laundry and I prefer not to clean the toilet, so usually we switch on those.

 

[Izzy03]

Date: 7/24/2008 2:55:13 PM
Author: rob09
My GF and I have a clear division of labor: She will kills spiders (which I hate) and I will kill snakes (which she hates). Now who has ever seen a snake in Chicago? I somehow have the impression that I got the better deal ... LOL!

(And for full disclosure: I have never killed a snake in my life)

HAHA! Too funny! Except I kill the spiders (he hates) and HE kills roaches (I hate).