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vc10um - I don''t have a price point, as long as it is insured. But I do run long distances, and I dont wear my rings when I''m out. 1) because they get all nasty and 2) because I don''t want to have anything on me that would attract negative attn... I used to think I had a size point that I wouldn''t be comfortable wearing - and that was before I got married. I never wore rings, so anything more than a band seemed TOO MUCH! then I plopped some sparkle on there... and I could go Ellen Barkin big.
jaylex - your comment about your FMIL and your FI and how it upset you... I understand, your ring has value, MUCH MORE than the actual $$$ he spent on it - and for him to downplay that, seems bad. He spent what he spent, you''d rather he not divulge the amount, but you''d rather him not lie (up or down) about it either. But here''s the thing. MOST PEOPLE HAVE ZERO CLUE ABOUT JEWELRY, DIAMONDS in particular, and they certainly don''t have a clue about 4c''s and cost. Most people think cut means the diamond''s shape. (Just watch Bride Wars.) It happens, don''t let it bother you. In fact, I''d RATHER have people think my diamond didn''t cost much. Most people won''t ask, what is the color, clarity, and cut, they''ll just ask, what is the SIZE. They don''t realize it may look PHENOM because of the way cut comes into play. For instance, my girlfriend has been living with a man for sometime. She is ready to get married, but always wanted a diamond at least 2 carats. He doesn''t want anything he can''t pay for outright. She thought a 2ct diamond would be 8-12K, "ideal" cut for a D flawless.. where that budget would only purcahse a .9-1ct diamond... her perfect diamond would run well over $100,000.00. (She now wants a house, and is still waiting while she figures out her own price point...) So really if they aren''t interested in all your specs... don''t have the knowledge of what that even means... who cares if he flubs a little bit. Makes her feel better. He didn''t really say how much he said... he said "about that much" - she chose to interpret it as $3K. Because that was all too shocking for her. Had she asked all your specs, she could have gotten a ballpark figure... but really - it wasn''t her place to pry... some people just do.
Another example, a coworker friend of mine made a very snarky comment after a friend of mine got engaged. Her ring is large, and gorgeous, (Friend also has a size 3 finger size so it has REALLY good finger coverage) and the coworker made a comment about how ridiculous it is for anyone to spend over $X amount on just a piece of jewelry... without realizing that my ring was WELL over that amount. The 4 C''s are an interesting thing.. and sometimes people make assumptions based on SIZE alone. Did I correct her and say well you know, MY RING cost more than that ... I instead stated - well you have 3 cars a motorcycle and a boat... and a loan on each. Those are all things that you love.. and you''ll be replacing them in 3 years... this is something she loves and that she''ll have forever. So Jaxlex, some people just have different priorities is all... and to the OP... her price point was clearly defined, and what she would feel comfortable wearing every day was much smaller than her SHOCK point. However, sometimes people want different things... and put priorities on different things. Cars, Boats, Children, Pets, Jewelry, Working at a job they love... I think everything has its price.
What a loooong post! But such an interesting point, thanks vc10um for starting this discussion!
jaylex - your comment about your FMIL and your FI and how it upset you... I understand, your ring has value, MUCH MORE than the actual $$$ he spent on it - and for him to downplay that, seems bad. He spent what he spent, you''d rather he not divulge the amount, but you''d rather him not lie (up or down) about it either. But here''s the thing. MOST PEOPLE HAVE ZERO CLUE ABOUT JEWELRY, DIAMONDS in particular, and they certainly don''t have a clue about 4c''s and cost. Most people think cut means the diamond''s shape. (Just watch Bride Wars.) It happens, don''t let it bother you. In fact, I''d RATHER have people think my diamond didn''t cost much. Most people won''t ask, what is the color, clarity, and cut, they''ll just ask, what is the SIZE. They don''t realize it may look PHENOM because of the way cut comes into play. For instance, my girlfriend has been living with a man for sometime. She is ready to get married, but always wanted a diamond at least 2 carats. He doesn''t want anything he can''t pay for outright. She thought a 2ct diamond would be 8-12K, "ideal" cut for a D flawless.. where that budget would only purcahse a .9-1ct diamond... her perfect diamond would run well over $100,000.00. (She now wants a house, and is still waiting while she figures out her own price point...) So really if they aren''t interested in all your specs... don''t have the knowledge of what that even means... who cares if he flubs a little bit. Makes her feel better. He didn''t really say how much he said... he said "about that much" - she chose to interpret it as $3K. Because that was all too shocking for her. Had she asked all your specs, she could have gotten a ballpark figure... but really - it wasn''t her place to pry... some people just do.
Another example, a coworker friend of mine made a very snarky comment after a friend of mine got engaged. Her ring is large, and gorgeous, (Friend also has a size 3 finger size so it has REALLY good finger coverage) and the coworker made a comment about how ridiculous it is for anyone to spend over $X amount on just a piece of jewelry... without realizing that my ring was WELL over that amount. The 4 C''s are an interesting thing.. and sometimes people make assumptions based on SIZE alone. Did I correct her and say well you know, MY RING cost more than that ... I instead stated - well you have 3 cars a motorcycle and a boat... and a loan on each. Those are all things that you love.. and you''ll be replacing them in 3 years... this is something she loves and that she''ll have forever. So Jaxlex, some people just have different priorities is all... and to the OP... her price point was clearly defined, and what she would feel comfortable wearing every day was much smaller than her SHOCK point. However, sometimes people want different things... and put priorities on different things. Cars, Boats, Children, Pets, Jewelry, Working at a job they love... I think everything has its price.
What a loooong post! But such an interesting point, thanks vc10um for starting this discussion!
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