When is it to soon to buy a dress? please help

[chicagolawyer]

Not sure how this fits into the thread, but I agree that wedding pictures do look dated over time, but I think there''s a distinction b/t good dated and bad dated.

Looking at pictures of Jackie O and Audrey Hepburn, you can tell that their clothes were from a different era but you rarely would exclaim "OMG what were they thinking."

I think that''s a pretty good goal to work towards when picking a dress...

 

[Independent Gal]

That''s so true what Chicagolawyer says. Real style and good design is timeless, even when it''s clearly of a certain era.

Personally, I''m really not a fan of that dress and I agree it might look dated very quickly, but what''s most important is that you feel gorgeous on your wedding day, so if you try it on and you just KNOW it''s what you want, then why let ''being dated'' trouble you?

It''s not like anyone you''d want at your wedding would say ''OMG! That dress is SO 2007!!!!'' Would they?

The real risk is whether YOU would feel that way. If you''re ''trendy'', you might not feel quite as beautiful in it in 2009.

So, weighing all this, I agree with the other gals that you should probably hold off for a year or so.

 

[decodelighted]

Date: 5/9/2007 11:17:50 AM
Author: chicagolawyer
I think there''s a distinction b/t good dated and bad dated. Looking at pictures of Jackie O and Audrey Hepburn, you can tell that their clothes were from a different era but you rarely would exclaim ''OMG what were they thinking.''

ABSO-frickin-lutely! I''m so proud of my mom & my maternal grandma! Their wedding dresses look PERFECT and CHIC even today!! My younger sister actually wore my mom''s dress for HER wedding eight years ago ... just snipped off the cap sleeves to flatter her own slim arms. My grandma''s dress is so Monique Lilliher-meets-the 40s I can''t stand it!!! Little lace jacket cinched over a grecian silohuette -- SWOON!

I think folks who got married in the 70s were __ out of luck though -- unless they made their own dress or went vintage. I''ve never seen a dress from that era that successfully stood the test of time.

 

[anchor31]

Date: 5/9/2007 2:41:42 PM
Author: decodelighted

Date: 5/9/2007 11:17:50 AM
Author: chicagolawyer
I think there''s a distinction b/t good dated and bad dated. Looking at pictures of Jackie O and Audrey Hepburn, you can tell that their clothes were from a different era but you rarely would exclaim ''OMG what were they thinking.''

ABSO-frickin-lutely! I''m so proud of my mom & my maternal grandma! Their wedding dresses look PERFECT and CHIC even today!! My younger sister actually wore my mom''s dress for HER wedding eight years ago ... just snipped off the cap sleeves to flatter her own slim arms. My grandma''s dress is so Monique Lilliher-meets-the 40s I can''t stand it!!! Little lace jacket cinched over a grecian silohuette -- SWOON!

I think folks who got married in the 70s were __ out of luck though -- unless they made their own dress or went vintage. I''ve never seen a dress from that era that successfully stood the test of time.

I agree with that... My poor mom (and FMIL!)... when I see their pics I can''t help but cringe. Well, if they wore them they must have loved them, and that''s what matters. My grandmother unfortunately never had a wedding dress.

 

[Independent Gal]

When my mom married my dad in the late ''60s, they had a religious ceremony and my grammy said ''HIGH NECKLINE AND LONG SLEEEEEVES!'' My mom said ''OK'' and showed up in a long sleeve, high neckline mini-dress.

Her dress is DEFINITELY 60''s, but she looks fab-o in the photos (which my grammy secretly saved for me after their divorce! my mom doesn''t even know I have them). Very classy and very classic.

In fact, a very similar, if sleeveless and feathered version, is showing in Oscar de la Renta''s new collection

 

[Independent Gal]

BTW, doesn't that model look like she's about to pass out? Her face is gorgeous, but she's so emaciated!

 

[E B]

Date: 5/9/2007 11:17:50 AM
Author: chicagolawyer
Not sure how this fits into the thread, but I agree that wedding pictures do look dated over time, but I think there''s a distinction b/t good dated and bad dated.


Looking at pictures of Jackie O and Audrey Hepburn, you can tell that their clothes were from a different era but you rarely would exclaim ''OMG what were they thinking.''


I think that''s a pretty good goal to work towards when picking a dress...

So true!

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 5/9/2007 2:41:42 PM
Author: decodelighted

ABSO-frickin-lutely! I''m so proud of my mom & my maternal grandma! Their wedding dresses look PERFECT and CHIC even today!! My younger sister actually wore my mom''s dress for HER wedding eight years ago ... just snipped off the cap sleeves to flatter her own slim arms. My grandma''s dress is so Monique Lilliher-meets-the 40s I can''t stand it!!! Little lace jacket cinched over a grecian silohuette -- SWOON!

I think folks who got married in the 70s were __ out of luck though -- unless they made their own dress or went vintage. I''ve never seen a dress from that era that successfully stood the test of time.

Ha...I''d almost have to add the 80s in there. I wonder if it''s because our generation is stll too close to the 70s and 80s, but the 60''s and prior just have that retro elegance to them? I loved my mom''s dress too. But all my cousins who got married in the 80s...bleech! The 90''s isn''t too far gone to look THAT dated yet, but it''ll probably happen soon.

I just think that any dress that has a pronounced feature is going to look dated. Puffed sleeves, OD on lace, pick ups, etc, is going to look more dated.

 

[AmberWaves]

I wonder about my dress looking dated all the time, but then I figure, it''s an a-line with beading and I may not even keep it, so whatever, right?

As for fashion dating you in pics, I wore my aunt''s prom dress to my prom in ''97, and another one of her dresses for my graduation. Her stuff was the cool dated style, and I loved it. Luckily, looking at the pics I''m not unhappy with how they looked at all.

 

[basil]

Yeah, it''s probably too early, but it sort of depends on what type of person you are. If you are the type to buy a whole new wardrobe every year, then no way. If you''re the type who always wears the same type of stuff year after year, then you might be safer.

My wedding is still 1 year and 4 months away (not that I''m counting!). I went shopping for dresses in the past few months, but mainly because I wanted to go with my mom and it was the only chunk of time between now and the wedding that I would be home for a while. I picked a dress that I''m pretty sure I''ll end up buying, but I haven''t actually put down the money yet. I''ll probably wait til 1 year out. Just to make sure it''s really really the one I want.

 

[Hammurabi]

I agree with others, 2 years is a bit too early.

If you are the type that wont change their mind, i would still recommend to at least wait for a year out before buying.

our wedding is still 15 months away and yes i have been looking around, but i must say i have already changed my mind about what i thought i was going to wear.

but having said that, did you have that ''its the one'' feeling when you put the dress on? the reason i changed my mind is because i thought i like the look of my original dress but once its on me it was pretty but no ''this is it'' feeling.
and the one that i want now i have the feeling of ''this is it'' once i put it on. so, did that dress give you the same feeling? to me its different than ''oh this looks pretty on me'' feeling.

keep the picture, pick up dresses are quite popular and i dont see why they wont be availble in the next year. Set a budget with your FH, make sure the venues are organised before worrying about the dress.

I think a year ahead is plenty of time Good luck!

Very pretty dress btw!