Miscka
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Who are the other LIWFAW?
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Kayakqueen83
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I am right here with you! I don''t see it happening for about 1-2 years more.... sigh.
I''m with you and hope that your wait is quick but most of all enjoyable as possible!
Aloros
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*waves hand* Here!
We''re not shopping, and I''m not waiting for a ring yet. I actually hope that we don''t have that stage. I''d hate the agony of waiting, and I trust that he knows my tastes. I''d rather be surprised.
We''ve talked about marriage. We''ve looked at houses, and I know he wants to get married before we buy one together, and I agree with him. It''s hard to say. I''d guess in the next year or so? We both have a lot going on, career-wise, so things have been a little crazy lately. I just know that when I''m with him, I feel like the best version of myself.
It also doesn''t hurt that he tells me how beautiful he thinks I am every day.
We''re not shopping, and I''m not waiting for a ring yet. I actually hope that we don''t have that stage. I''d hate the agony of waiting, and I trust that he knows my tastes. I''d rather be surprised.
We''ve talked about marriage. We''ve looked at houses, and I know he wants to get married before we buy one together, and I agree with him. It''s hard to say. I''d guess in the next year or so? We both have a lot going on, career-wise, so things have been a little crazy lately. I just know that when I''m with him, I feel like the best version of myself.
It also doesn''t hurt that he tells me how beautiful he thinks I am every day.
cherry_vanilla
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Me!
From last I checked (I really ought to update my thread, I just haven''t had the chance to really be on for more than a few minutes at a time until today!) it''s looking like by this time next year. My family already views us as engaged, he''s told his he''s going to be proposing in the somewhat foreseeable future... now I just need to wait for the calendar to catch up to where our feelings are
From last I checked (I really ought to update my thread, I just haven''t had the chance to really be on for more than a few minutes at a time until today!) it''s looking like by this time next year. My family already views us as engaged, he''s told his he''s going to be proposing in the somewhat foreseeable future... now I just need to wait for the calendar to catch up to where our feelings are
Delster
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FarFarAway
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matildawong
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Me!
I feel like the LIWFAW with the least action on this board! (least action meaning no plans or anything - guess that was a weird way to put it!)
He''s getting his MBA and working long long hours at work so he can''t really think about it right now. We ring browsed a few times, just for fun. I am very grateful for just being with him, but I really do want to be married to him. For all my crazy, non-traditional ways I am really feeling a pull to marriage that I didn''t know I had in me.
He''s older, was married before in a marriage that ended in disaster and even years later we are still cleaning up some of the ruin she left -- it''s a heartbreaking story. I knew what I was getting into but it''s still just, ew yuck, and it is making it a longer road to marriage for us.
He says maybe in a year. Thing is, I read about the proposals here and oh they are so CUTE. Well my guy has never surprised me, ever. So I just can''t picture him being all romantic and showing up with a ring and a proposal. I think it''s just going to have to be us deciding when "it''s time" and then picking out a ring (that I will finance under my name and he will pay for) and I don''t know if he''ll ever even ask me.
My best friend says ''who cares? there are no rules''
Oh gosh. Sorry for the long post. I''ve just been lurking and wanting to ''talk'' for awhile. Thanks for making this thread.
I feel like the LIWFAW with the least action on this board! (least action meaning no plans or anything - guess that was a weird way to put it!)
He''s getting his MBA and working long long hours at work so he can''t really think about it right now. We ring browsed a few times, just for fun. I am very grateful for just being with him, but I really do want to be married to him. For all my crazy, non-traditional ways I am really feeling a pull to marriage that I didn''t know I had in me.
He''s older, was married before in a marriage that ended in disaster and even years later we are still cleaning up some of the ruin she left -- it''s a heartbreaking story. I knew what I was getting into but it''s still just, ew yuck, and it is making it a longer road to marriage for us.
He says maybe in a year. Thing is, I read about the proposals here and oh they are so CUTE. Well my guy has never surprised me, ever. So I just can''t picture him being all romantic and showing up with a ring and a proposal. I think it''s just going to have to be us deciding when "it''s time" and then picking out a ring (that I will finance under my name and he will pay for) and I don''t know if he''ll ever even ask me.
My best friend says ''who cares? there are no rules''
Oh gosh. Sorry for the long post. I''ve just been lurking and wanting to ''talk'' for awhile. Thanks for making this thread.
Stephanie
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We''ve been together for seven and a half years and I am not expecting anything any time soon. I have ring shopped, but he''s totally into buying for a toy for him right now (a crazy expensive toy at that). But no movement.. so who knows. I am trying to not let it get to me. However, there is more talk of marriage and getting engaged, so at least he''s thinking about it.
lost in new york
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I fall into this category too...when I first joined this list (pre-list cleanup) I was #80-something...imagine my shock to suddenly be (unlucky?) number 13
We have talked about the future a lot more this year, but I feel like it''s more fantasizing about the fun aspects (the engagement ring, the wedding, our home, our kids), than how we''re actually going to make those things happen.
He has a big decision to make by the end of next year (200
(i.e., will he be moving across the country or not), and I just don''t see us being able to make any progress until he decides. Unfortunately, for a number of reasons that are specific to our situation, I don''t think moving with him, engaged/married or not, is something I''m willing/able to do. I don''t know what this means for us, but I am hoping it works out somehow...
We have talked about the future a lot more this year, but I feel like it''s more fantasizing about the fun aspects (the engagement ring, the wedding, our home, our kids), than how we''re actually going to make those things happen.
He has a big decision to make by the end of next year (200
(i.e., will he be moving across the country or not), and I just don''t see us being able to make any progress until he decides. Unfortunately, for a number of reasons that are specific to our situation, I don''t think moving with him, engaged/married or not, is something I''m willing/able to do. I don''t know what this means for us, but I am hoping it works out somehow...
DMBsGirl
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emeraldlover1
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I guess I should respond to this one. I''ve been here waiting a while. Boyfriend and I have been together 4+ years now and I have to believe that it is coming sometime in the next year? We haven''t shopped but I don''t think I''ll be involved in the process. None of his friends or their wives/fiances were involved in the process and he does not seem to keen on me being involved. I''m very obvious with hints so I have no doubt that he knows what I want.
We just moved in together after purchasing an apartment which I have to believe took up some of the saved money but you can''t live in a ring, can you? Anyway, he is always taking about wedding ideas and the future with me so it is only a matter of time. Hopefully he''ll do it before I get to number 1.
We just moved in together after purchasing an apartment which I have to believe took up some of the saved money but you can''t live in a ring, can you? Anyway, he is always taking about wedding ideas and the future with me so it is only a matter of time. Hopefully he''ll do it before I get to number 1.
Shannon72781
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I suppose I am LIWFAW...we''ve talked about getting engaged since last Thanksgiving 2006. our timeline is next June 2008. So, I hope it happens then ! He''s waiting to finish some classes up for his post-Masters. I understand grad classes are expensive, but I think he''ll be taking a break from classes this fall to save for our future (and ring!)
Just gotta be patient...but it helps to know that it definitly is coming, just a matter of time
Just gotta be patient...but it helps to know that it definitly is coming, just a matter of time
Jewels305
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Me too!
I''m starting Grad school in the Fall and that will take 2 years, so I have 1-2 years to wait. He is also trying to find a new job, so maybe if he makes more money it can go towards something sparkly
I tease him when we''re out that we should go ring shopping, but I know one of these times he''ll surprise me and say, "ok!"
I feel like we are in a really good place right now as a couple and I am in no rush. We are still young and have lots of things to accomplish first. I am just enjoying the ride.
I''m starting Grad school in the Fall and that will take 2 years, so I have 1-2 years to wait. He is also trying to find a new job, so maybe if he makes more money it can go towards something sparkly
I tease him when we''re out that we should go ring shopping, but I know one of these times he''ll surprise me and say, "ok!"
I feel like we are in a really good place right now as a couple and I am in no rush. We are still young and have lots of things to accomplish first. I am just enjoying the ride.
Miscka
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Phew, I was starting to think I was all alone
!
We talk about it a lot, and I even thought he was saving for it, but I found out I was wrong, he is saving for something else
, so who knows when it will be? He starts grad school (hopefully, he has been out of school for awhile) next year and I would like it to be before then but I would also like it to be now, lol. My friend bet me $20 that it would be in the next 6 months, so I guess we will see! If I HAD to guess I would say in the next 1-2 years. I really can''t wait to start our lives together!
Nice to "see" you guys, glad we can support our fellow LIWFAWs!!!
We talk about it a lot, and I even thought he was saving for it, but I found out I was wrong, he is saving for something else
Nice to "see" you guys, glad we can support our fellow LIWFAWs!!!
gigglebuns1186
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FarFarAway
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Miscka
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FarFarAway I know exactly how you feel!!! My guy doesn''t seem to make that connection at all. And I am not sure he has ever thought about the saving thing. What gives?? Would you ever say anything to him? Do you ever drop hints? I mean, I don''t want to push but I want him to at least grasp the concept. I am so glad to hear I am not alone!
Kayakqueen83
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FarFarAway and Miscka- It seems at thought we are dating the same kind of guys! I''m a planner (a BIG planner) whereas my boyfriend is a "fly by the seat of your pants" type of person. I love it because compromising in this area is good for both of us...when it doesn''t drive me crazy. haha
I talked to my bf about it. He is in law school now and we have discussed our future. I like details so as to plan to correct course of action... he feels like it will all come to us when it needs to. So... I lay off of picking out the curtains for our house (that we will not be even in the market for until 2010-haha) and he focuses a bit more on the "logistics†of things. The conversation was a little awkward to bring up.... we both knew we wanted to get married when he got out of law school. I told him I didn''t want an incredibly long engagement... so there was our "timeline" (of course I would have wanted a more specific one... but it''s that damn compromise thing) Anyway, after our "timeline" we discussed the ring. He had not even THOUGHT about saving yet!!!! I asked him... in the calmest voice that I could muster... "well, that would mean that we would get engaged in the next one to two years right?"
HIM: "yes"
ME: Are you planning on winning the lottery soon?
HIM: "no"
ME: So... Do you think that you might need to start saving?
HIM: well, yeah!... I guess I should start saving! (It was like a light bulb went off in his head)
It was like a conversation with a child! haha. We laughed it and that was it! A few weeks later he walked in the house and told me he went to the bank and opened a savings account. Mind you, I have no idea WHAT he is saving because as he says: "Honey you can plan EVERYTHING for the rest of our lives but you''ve got to let go and give me this one." So I have. (or am trying to)
So my advice is to talk to him about savings. Sometimes they really just don''t think of it! And if you are on the same page on when (ish) you want to get engaged then you might want to give him a hint that he might want to start preparing his wallet!
I talked to my bf about it. He is in law school now and we have discussed our future. I like details so as to plan to correct course of action... he feels like it will all come to us when it needs to. So... I lay off of picking out the curtains for our house (that we will not be even in the market for until 2010-haha) and he focuses a bit more on the "logistics†of things. The conversation was a little awkward to bring up.... we both knew we wanted to get married when he got out of law school. I told him I didn''t want an incredibly long engagement... so there was our "timeline" (of course I would have wanted a more specific one... but it''s that damn compromise thing) Anyway, after our "timeline" we discussed the ring. He had not even THOUGHT about saving yet!!!! I asked him... in the calmest voice that I could muster... "well, that would mean that we would get engaged in the next one to two years right?"
HIM: "yes"
ME: Are you planning on winning the lottery soon?
HIM: "no"
ME: So... Do you think that you might need to start saving?
HIM: well, yeah!... I guess I should start saving! (It was like a light bulb went off in his head)
It was like a conversation with a child! haha. We laughed it and that was it! A few weeks later he walked in the house and told me he went to the bank and opened a savings account. Mind you, I have no idea WHAT he is saving because as he says: "Honey you can plan EVERYTHING for the rest of our lives but you''ve got to let go and give me this one." So I have. (or am trying to)
So my advice is to talk to him about savings. Sometimes they really just don''t think of it! And if you are on the same page on when (ish) you want to get engaged then you might want to give him a hint that he might want to start preparing his wallet!
ME!!!!!!!!!!
I just gave myself a nice dose of reality and i am #5.. yup.. hanging out at the top 5.. it is a beautiful view from up here let me tell you! He in "boy" terms said it is just around the corner... WHAT DOES THAT MEAN!!!
Really i think the corner is more like a turn about and we will just keep going around and around until he decides to get off at the next exit and propose
but until then i get to be here on this fine forum, chatting, reading, and waiting along with all you fine ladies!
I just gave myself a nice dose of reality and i am #5.. yup.. hanging out at the top 5.. it is a beautiful view from up here let me tell you! He in "boy" terms said it is just around the corner... WHAT DOES THAT MEAN!!!
Really i think the corner is more like a turn about and we will just keep going around and around until he decides to get off at the next exit and propose
but until then i get to be here on this fine forum, chatting, reading, and waiting along with all you fine ladies!
Miscka
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Hi Beanie
...maybe it was you that coined the term "LIWFAW"...I might be remembering wrong.
Kayakqueen I love your story! I am a planner big time too, I hate uncertainty! I may have to try out your idea. I DID send him a sort of hint-esque email yesterday. I was impressed with myself, I usually would never do that but the opportunity came up. Not sure he got the hint tho, lol, as he hasnt mentioned it and he is the one that usually talks about it. Sigh.
Kayakqueen I love your story! I am a planner big time too, I hate uncertainty! I may have to try out your idea. I DID send him a sort of hint-esque email yesterday. I was impressed with myself, I usually would never do that but the opportunity came up. Not sure he got the hint tho, lol, as he hasnt mentioned it and he is the one that usually talks about it. Sigh.
Miscka
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gigglebuns1186
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I''m sure hoping its within a year. He only works on winter breaks and the summer breaks. He thinks I have to have an expensive ring because he says everything I like is expensive. I only like things that appeal to me and if they happen to be expensive, I don''t intentionally make them. This probably doesn''t make sense, sorry. I''m just rambling because i''m annoyed. Anyways, i''m trying to get it through his head that i''m happy with anything. Not working very well. He wants to build a new computer now, which is fine with me. That''s his favorite hobby, but if he wants to save because he thinks I need something crazy( well expensive for us is like 4-5k.), why doesn''t he just I don''t know actually ha. oh well i''m going to go eat dinner. Thanks for reading my crazy rambleness. Sorry it was all over the place.
princesss
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Ok, I am not sure if any of you girls can beat this - 11 years and still LIW!!! There has been some movement on that front, recently we have gone from not wanting to get married to wanting to get married, just waiting for the right time. I think I will explode!! I have told him though, the longer he makes me wait - the bigger the ring!!! Hang in there girls!!
*RubyRN*
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ABSOLUETLY!
I haven''t been on the LIW list for that long, but I have definitely been waiting with little action as well. We have over 6 years together, talk frequently about getting married, but not about getting engaged or rings etc. We''ve even discussed what type of wedding we want to have and how we want it to be different from all the weddings we have recently attended for our friends.
About a month ago, I went on one of my "when are you going to be ready" rampages and he said, "I definitely think I''ll be ready within 3 years" to which I replied, "I hope it''s sooner than 3 years.. a LOT sooner than 3 years". All I can think is, 3 more years and we''ll have been together for over NINE YEARS!!! That seems ridiculous to me, but at the same time made me think of a conversation I had with a recently-married girlfriend of mine. She told me, "I don''t know how you can be so patient. I never could have waited that long for Nate (hubby)." My only response to people who say that to me is that (sigh
) while I''m ready now, I will wait for as long as it takes because he is the only one I want to be with
. So I guess I''ll just keep waiting
I haven''t been on the LIW list for that long, but I have definitely been waiting with little action as well. We have over 6 years together, talk frequently about getting married, but not about getting engaged or rings etc. We''ve even discussed what type of wedding we want to have and how we want it to be different from all the weddings we have recently attended for our friends.
About a month ago, I went on one of my "when are you going to be ready" rampages and he said, "I definitely think I''ll be ready within 3 years" to which I replied, "I hope it''s sooner than 3 years.. a LOT sooner than 3 years". All I can think is, 3 more years and we''ll have been together for over NINE YEARS!!! That seems ridiculous to me, but at the same time made me think of a conversation I had with a recently-married girlfriend of mine. She told me, "I don''t know how you can be so patient. I never could have waited that long for Nate (hubby)." My only response to people who say that to me is that (sigh
Hoping&Waiting
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Hey everyone,
Im new to this forum...well I have been scoping it out for awhile. When I saw this thread I knew I had to reply!!
My boyfriend and I have been together just over 3 years. I am graduating college this coming May, he is an engineer and graduated two years ago. Ever since the first couple of months of dating we have talked about getting married. We both just knew that we were the ones for each other!!
Back then he was the one who talked about it the most, now I AM! So many of my friends are starting to get engaged, we have had 5 weddings this summer, and between now and next June have 5 MORE!
Weddings are EVERYWHERE for both of us...and it is sooo much fun! I love going to weddings. Anyway, because I am surrounded by this marital bliss it makes me think about marriage all the time. Being that I am almost done with school, and we have always said we will not wait long after I graduate to get married...I have just assumed it would be happening around this time.
Well...thats not the case apparently! You see my family has sort of put this thought in his head that because I have two older sisters they must get married first....uggg! One of them was married last August, and the other is getting married this December. ITS MY TURN!!! On top of that his brother is getting married in three weeks. So its sort of like I think he is waiting because of all our siblings are getting married.
Beyond that issue....there are so many people in MY family that say we are too young and we should wait. They think this becasue my two sisters waited until they were 27 and 28 to get married. But that was THEIR choice...that was when they were ready. Well...I DONT AGREE...I feel like..."WHO WROTE THE BOOK ON AGE??" Life events should be accomplished whenever your READY! I know you gain experience as you grow up...but we have grown together for the last three years, nothing has changed and i love him more and more every day.
Anyway, he always says he will never do things on other peoples terms, so when we are ready...we are ready! no matter what others think. THANK GOD!! So what are you waiting for?? haha! We have talked about rings, he knows exactly what i want...but we havent gone to look for rings yet. I really want to go look because im afraid the ring I like wont look good on me; and he is fine with us going to look. So here I sit...waiting to go look...I dont want to be the one to suggest that we go look at rings...any suggestions?
We have talked about doing a spring 09 wedding or maybe a fall 09 wedding. So that means...Im here...waiting until the time draws near!
Thats my story...sorry its sooo long!
Im new to this forum...well I have been scoping it out for awhile. When I saw this thread I knew I had to reply!!
My boyfriend and I have been together just over 3 years. I am graduating college this coming May, he is an engineer and graduated two years ago. Ever since the first couple of months of dating we have talked about getting married. We both just knew that we were the ones for each other!!
Back then he was the one who talked about it the most, now I AM! So many of my friends are starting to get engaged, we have had 5 weddings this summer, and between now and next June have 5 MORE!
Weddings are EVERYWHERE for both of us...and it is sooo much fun! I love going to weddings. Anyway, because I am surrounded by this marital bliss it makes me think about marriage all the time. Being that I am almost done with school, and we have always said we will not wait long after I graduate to get married...I have just assumed it would be happening around this time.
Well...thats not the case apparently! You see my family has sort of put this thought in his head that because I have two older sisters they must get married first....uggg! One of them was married last August, and the other is getting married this December. ITS MY TURN!!! On top of that his brother is getting married in three weeks. So its sort of like I think he is waiting because of all our siblings are getting married.
Beyond that issue....there are so many people in MY family that say we are too young and we should wait. They think this becasue my two sisters waited until they were 27 and 28 to get married. But that was THEIR choice...that was when they were ready. Well...I DONT AGREE...I feel like..."WHO WROTE THE BOOK ON AGE??" Life events should be accomplished whenever your READY! I know you gain experience as you grow up...but we have grown together for the last three years, nothing has changed and i love him more and more every day.
Anyway, he always says he will never do things on other peoples terms, so when we are ready...we are ready! no matter what others think. THANK GOD!! So what are you waiting for?? haha! We have talked about rings, he knows exactly what i want...but we havent gone to look for rings yet. I really want to go look because im afraid the ring I like wont look good on me; and he is fine with us going to look. So here I sit...waiting to go look...I dont want to be the one to suggest that we go look at rings...any suggestions?
We have talked about doing a spring 09 wedding or maybe a fall 09 wedding. So that means...Im here...waiting until the time draws near!
Thats my story...sorry its sooo long!
Miscka
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gwendolyn
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I''m waiting for a while too, but it''s kind of at my insistence.
He and I have been together for about 2 1/2 years, but he lives in England and I (for now) live in the U.S. This whole time, all we''ve had together have been a few weeks together here or there, with lots and lots of communicating in between, but we need more than long vacations to know that we''ll make it together, y''know?
He talks like we''re basically already married, but I haven''t seen him since April 28th! And I don''t fly back to the UK until September 16th, when I''ll (hopefully, if the finances get secured this week) be starting grad school there. But it''ll still be long-distance (although not nearly as bad as it''s been), and I still find it frustrating. He doesn''t like talking on the phone much, so 99% of the communicating we do is over the internet and I haaaaaaaaate it. It''s incredibly frustrating. There''s no tone, no voice, just words on a screen! How can he talk like we''re already married when all I am is words on a screen? I don''t get it.
So I''m taking it slowly. We''re going to go through next year while I''m in school and see how things develop. I''ve got some long breaks, and I''ll be spending Christmas with his family since airfare''s too expensive that time of year for me to come back home, so I just want to take things one step at a time to see where we end up. I love him very much, but it takes more than that to make a marriage successful, and even though I''ll be 30 in March, I don''t want to rush into this. There''s no race, and although it''s flattering and sweet to hear him talk about marriage and kids and whatever else, I want to focus on the foundation of our relationship to make sure that''s stable before we add anything more to it.
He and I have been together for about 2 1/2 years, but he lives in England and I (for now) live in the U.S. This whole time, all we''ve had together have been a few weeks together here or there, with lots and lots of communicating in between, but we need more than long vacations to know that we''ll make it together, y''know?
He talks like we''re basically already married, but I haven''t seen him since April 28th! And I don''t fly back to the UK until September 16th, when I''ll (hopefully, if the finances get secured this week) be starting grad school there. But it''ll still be long-distance (although not nearly as bad as it''s been), and I still find it frustrating. He doesn''t like talking on the phone much, so 99% of the communicating we do is over the internet and I haaaaaaaaate it. It''s incredibly frustrating. There''s no tone, no voice, just words on a screen! How can he talk like we''re already married when all I am is words on a screen? I don''t get it.
So I''m taking it slowly. We''re going to go through next year while I''m in school and see how things develop. I''ve got some long breaks, and I''ll be spending Christmas with his family since airfare''s too expensive that time of year for me to come back home, so I just want to take things one step at a time to see where we end up. I love him very much, but it takes more than that to make a marriage successful, and even though I''ll be 30 in March, I don''t want to rush into this. There''s no race, and although it''s flattering and sweet to hear him talk about marriage and kids and whatever else, I want to focus on the foundation of our relationship to make sure that''s stable before we add anything more to it.
makhro82
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Hmmm... I wouldn''t say that I have been a LIW too long. Last year we purchased a custom ring and it turned out a disaster. After that neither of us brought it up again. We are both working students and we have been together almost seven years. Am I the only one who gave BF a timeline? I don''t think it is an ultimatum, rather this is what my needs are, can you meet them yes or no. I am the kind of person who likes to have a plan and when I am not in on the plan it stresses me out. So I do know that it will be sometime within the next 6 months because any longer than that we''d have to call it quits. IMO I see lots of ladies who want to be engaged but aren''t be proactive. Get out there and tell him enough already! My BF wanted to wait until we were both graduated from school, however, I am not willing to wait that long. My sister and her husband engaged when he was in law school and she a master''s student and she didn''t get her dream ring, but they made it work. When you are with someone and want to be sometimes you will make concessions to what they need.
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