who pays for the shower

[janinegirly]

after some confusion (from me) and reading different things people were saying, I did some research on who traditionally "hosts" (or pays) for the bridal shower and here''s what I''ve come up with (I went to a bridal "expert"). For sure there are always variations, especially these days, but maybe this''ll help others too:

matrons of honor will host the bridal shower, sharing the costs and responsibilities. if the bridesmaids or the maid/matron of honor have never been in this role before they may not know what to do regarding the shower.

Many moms - though etiquette states that moms, siblings and other relatives should not host a shower - will host, co-host or pay for part of the shower. Especially if the ''maids are right out of school and don''t have a lot of disposable income.

The bride can facilitate the discussion if she''s concerned that her ''maids don''t know what to do or if she has certain ideas as to what she wants at her shower - guests, games, etc... Though her wishes are a guide for the hosts.

The maid/matron of honor may take charge because of her title/role, but if one of the bridesmaids wants to take the leadership role she can, though whoever is "in charge" they should remember that a shower is almost always hosted by the entire group and everyone should play a role.>>