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Well, I must have missed that. But if that''s the case I would hope that she would consider that everyone, no matter what side, have a part in prolonging the conversation.Date: 1/29/2009 5:38:13 PM
Author: thing2of2
Oh, and luckystar-you are wrong. Galateia was very upset by all of the judgement from the anti-choice PSers, so much so that I don''t think she''s posted since the last thread.
Date: 1/29/2009 5:37:09 PM
Author: luckystar112
Date: 1/29/2009 5:18:40 PM
Author: MoonWater
And what about those that never said a word? Are you saying that we should shut our trap about invitro out of fear we will offend some PSer out there that we don''t know about, but we are free to discuss abortion until we are blue in the face because SOME women were brave enough to talk about it? I don''t think so. Maria brought up a very valid & logical point. I would love to read the responses.
That''s why I think it is in the best interest of everyone to just end the conversation...for those that may be lurking and have had abortions/in vitro.
My problem with abortion are those that use it as a form of birth control and who are ''repeat offenders''. There is/are an exception to every rule, and I''m sure people are more than willing to list every possible scenario just to try and get the other person to pause. I can only go with what I believe and what I feel comfortable with. You may not think it makes sense, you''re not supposed to. It''s hypocritical both ways. I personally think it''s hypocritical that when a pregnancy isn''t wanted it''s just a ''mass of cells'', but when the mass of cells is wanted it is considered a baby. Don''t get it...never will.
In vitro--is hard for me. On the one hand it is the ''same thing'', but on the other hand, I consider it less barbaric than terminating a pregnancy. There is also the idea that in vitro is done in the hope of creating life, where abortion is done with the intention to end a ''life''. To tell you the truth, I have more of a problem with surrogate mothers, sperm donors, and the like--as I said before, not for pro-life''s sake, but because I think society is starting to show that things can get tricky when a third party is involved, despite confidentiality agreements..
It depends on when you consider life to begin. I''m sure some of the people who have spoken up already would feel that it is more barbaric, but I personally don''t believe life starts in a petri dish.. I wouldn''t consider it a life until it was in the womb and latching on. So with my definition of "life", I would say that abortion is more barbaric. This is also the reason why I don''t have a problem with stem cells.Date: 1/29/2009 5:43:50 PM
Author: thing2of2
On the contrary, lucky-in in vitro fertilization, many embryos are created on purpose in order to later select the most viable ones. So many ''lives'' are created when only a few are actually used. So they are creating life even though they know they will eventually end it.
Going by your argument, then, isn''t in vitro more barbaric than abortion? Because they''re creating life on purpose, only to destroy it, and when a woman gets an abortion, I think it''s usually safe to say she did not create life on purpose.
Funny, rob09 suggested not discussing 'when life begins' on page 2, he was ignored. Now that the anti-choice folks got in their comments and are now facing a new question which, according to their logic, forces them to condemn another method of "destroying life" we are expected to end the conversation? Really? But it just got interesting.Date: 1/29/2009 5:37:09 PM
Author: luckystar112
That's why I think it is in the best interest of everyone to just end the conversation...for those that may be lurking and have had abortions/in vitro.
My problem with abortion are those that use it as a form of birth control and who are 'repeat offenders'. There is/are an exception to every rule, and I'm sure people are more than willing to list every possible scenario just to try and get the other person to pause. I can only go with what I believe and what I feel comfortable with. You may not think it makes sense, you're not supposed to. It's hypocritical both ways. I personally think it's hypocritical that when a pregnancy isn't wanted it's just a 'mass of cells', but when the mass of cells is wanted it is considered a baby. Don't get it...never will.
In vitro--is hard for me. On the one hand it is the 'same thing', but on the other hand, I consider it less barbaric than terminating a pregnancy. There is also the idea that in vitro is done in the hope of creating life, where abortion is done with the intention to end a 'life'. To tell you the truth, I have more of a problem with surrogate mothers, sperm donors, and the like--as I said before, not for pro-life's sake, but because I think society is starting to show that things can get tricky when a third party is involved, despite confidentiality agreements..
Date: 1/29/2009 5:53:06 PM
Author: MoonWater
Funny, rob09 suggested not discussing abortion on page 2, he was ignored. Now that the anti-choice folks got in their comments and are now facing a new question which, according to their logic, forces them to condemn another method of ''destroying life'' we are expected to end the conversation? Really? But it just got interesting.
I don''t really care what your views are (not in a mean way, that''s just the point of my belief in choice), what I have an issue with is when anyone''s beliefs infringes on the rights of others. Who cares when YOU think life begins, as long as it is being applied to YOU. What another woman''s beliefs are (whether you think it''s a contradiction or not) and what she chooses to do with HER BODY based on those beliefs, is her right and her decision.
Hey, I didn''t run away. I answered the question, dammit!Date: 1/29/2009 5:53:06 PM
Author: MoonWater
Funny, rob09 suggested not discussing abortion on page 2, he was ignored. Now that the anti-choice folks got in their comments and are now facing a new question which, according to their logic, forces them to condemn another method of ''destroying life'' we are expected to end the conversation? Really? But it just got interesting.
I don''t really care what your views are (not in a mean way, that''s just the point of my belief in choice), what I have an issue with is when anyone''s beliefs infringes on the rights of others. Who cares when YOU think life begins, as long as it is being applied to YOU. What another woman''s beliefs are (whether you think it''s a contradiction or not) and what she chooses to do with HER BODY based on those beliefs, is her right and her decision.
Date: 1/29/2009 5:18:40 PM
Author: MoonWater
Maria brought up a very valid & logical point. I would love to read the responses.
There is no way for you or I to know how many women were using contraceptives that failed, that being their reason for getting an abortion. And like I said before, there is always the exception to the rule.Date: 1/29/2009 6:17:12 PM
Author: Maria D
Luckystar brought up ''responsibility'' a couple of times. As if the only women who ever need abortions are completely irresponsible and do nothing to try to prevent pregnancy in the first place? 99.9% effective means every year one woman out of one thousand will become pregnant. If lottery odds were that good I''d play every week. Sure, plenty of abortions are needed by women/couples who did not do enough to prevent it in the first place. In my experience (people I''ve known), the lesson of an unplanned pregnancy ending in abortion did not have to be learned twice. Why shouldn''t those women have opportunity to correct their mistake? (oh, because life begins at conception unless it''s for a couple who can''t get pregnant any other way, then it doesn''t really begin at conception, keep going with the non-logic).
Date: 1/29/2009 3:18:54 PM
Author: vespergirl
Date: 1/29/2009 2:51:11 PM
Author: thing2of2
Well gosh, if you''re not supposed to judge according to the Bible, why does it seem like all the anti-abortion people are judging women who have had abortions? Because more than one PSer has posted that she''s had an abortion, and I know many of the people against abortion know that, and know who, too.
What''s the word I''m looking for right now? Oh yeah-hypocrisy!
ETA ditto Moon. I guess all the women on PS who have had abortions won''t be hurt by this discussion. Let''s definitely look out for the feelings of those who have had in vitro, though!
Although according to many of your definitions of life, women who have done in vitro have killed more babies than a person who has one abortion.
Wow, I''ve never thought of this before - great argument. Granted, I don''t think of abortion or in-vitro procedures as ''killing babies,'' but for all of those that believe that life begins at fertilization, that severely limits your fertility options if you are anti-choice without the risk of a great moral conundrum.
And by the way, for people who''ve been offended by me using the ''not PC term'' anti-choice, I refuse to use the term ''pro-life'' instead, because many of the anti-choice people seem to not care about the mother''s life as much as the baby''s. ''Pro-life'' would indicate valuing all human life, not just fetal life.
You're lucky not to know a lot people who have had abortions.Date: 1/29/2009 6:17:12 PM
Author: Maria D
In my experience (people I've known), the lesson of an unplanned pregnancy ending in abortion did not have to be learned twice.
Date: 1/29/2009 6:35:11 PM
Author: luckystar112
Date: 1/29/2009 6:17:12 PM
Author: Maria D
In my experience (people I've known), the lesson of an unplanned pregnancy ending in abortion did not have to be learned twice.
You're lucky not to know a lot people who have had abortions.
http://www.guttmacher.org/pubs/2006/11/21/or29.pdf
A report on repeat abortions from 2006. 50 percent of total abortions are repeats. I wonder what the chances of your contraceptives failing twice are? Anyone up for a little math?
That's the lack of responsibility I'm talking about.
Cellini, thanks for your thoughtful post. I am really glad that you brought up (I wish that I had brought it up myself) that even though we can debate these issues and have differences of opinion, we can still like and respect one another in the PS community. I have friends on both sides of this debate, and it really makes me listen when a woman as thoughtful as yourself presents your argument the way you did. I guess that a lot what upsets me is when I see men picketing at clinics, who simply can never understand the impact a pregnancy takes on a woman''s body and her health. I am really glad, though, that you''ve joined the debate - it''s great to have this type of intellectual discourse with fellow PSers that I like and respect (especially now that I''m a SAHM - I need to do something with this toddler-addled brain).Date: 1/29/2009 6:29:24 PM
Author: Cellini3
Date: 1/29/2009 3:18:54 PM
Author: vespergirl
Date: 1/29/2009 2:51:11 PM
Author: thing2of2
Well gosh, if you''re not supposed to judge according to the Bible, why does it seem like all the anti-abortion people are judging women who have had abortions? Because more than one PSer has posted that she''s had an abortion, and I know many of the people against abortion know that, and know who, too.
What''s the word I''m looking for right now? Oh yeah-hypocrisy!
ETA ditto Moon. I guess all the women on PS who have had abortions won''t be hurt by this discussion. Let''s definitely look out for the feelings of those who have had in vitro, though!
Although according to many of your definitions of life, women who have done in vitro have killed more babies than a person who has one abortion.
Wow, I''ve never thought of this before - great argument. Granted, I don''t think of abortion or in-vitro procedures as ''killing babies,'' but for all of those that believe that life begins at fertilization, that severely limits your fertility options if you are anti-choice without the risk of a great moral conundrum.
And by the way, for people who''ve been offended by me using the ''not PC term'' anti-choice, I refuse to use the term ''pro-life'' instead, because many of the anti-choice people seem to not care about the mother''s life as much as the baby''s. ''Pro-life'' would indicate valuing all human life, not just fetal life.
Vespergirl,
It has been interesting to read your posts. I fully agree about being anti-menstruation!lol! I look forward to getting to know you & many other PSers better!
I especially enjoyed your humor in response to another post on the ''ribbed ring'' tempted to purchase based on the joy your comment brought me!Smiling now
I understand your disdain at the use of term Prolife movement. I would find if offensive if I did not agree that life begins in the womb. I do not have issue with responsible IVF(we would have done this if I has a more stable womb and had not been adoption minded) or related fertility procedures. I do agree with snowflake or embrionic adoption, but wasn''t an ideal candidate for that either.
I am a prolifer and have concern for the lives of both the mother & unborn. By concern I mean physical, emotional as well as psychological concerns both present and that may be in the future. I am nobody special or particularly gifted mentally. Just a woman, biological parent, an adoptive parent and have a special needs child...as well as have struggled with fertility & had the pain of experiencing repeat miscarriages. So your initial post did pique my interest, even thought I knew that we would ultimately not agree on our views.
I do not agree in abortion, I also understand that legally, if that is what a woman is interested in doing it is imperative that she be accurately informed of the procedure specifics, risks and after care counseling. I''m not talking about reading a pamphlet or just signing a form, but really prepared & comfortable with her decision. No, I don''t mean sensationalism of screaming protesters or a gratuitous video. I too find these types of tactics revolting. So far this area of information seems to be lacking, by both camps.
So say, that the prolife movement is wrong, then why is such a big deal to speak up on their behalf? Speak not demean or belittle. Granted it may be annoying to those that are prochoice, but why is it so offensive to offer options to women aside from abortion? I''m talking not shaming women into or out of a decision. I''m talking education or even offering different view points much like here in this very ot forum. Perhaps federal dollars spent on this rather than on specific funds earmarked for abortions? Perhaps to fund experienced panels of women and doctors? Much like Norma Norma McCorvey & Sandra Cano do. AKA Jane Roe & baby Doe?
I mean actually performing sonograms (like may CPCs & clinics do for free or of nominal charge), not sensationalistic photos & signs. Isn''t that just presenting facts to help make an educated decision? If it is just a mass or a clump, why not show a 6, 8 or even a 12 week gestational pic or sono? This is the likely time that a woman discovers that she is pregnant & may seek options. Why not offer a sono to a woman that desires a late term or partial birth abortion?
And yes, (it must be mentioned) I would greatly appreciate not being labeled as I''m sure many others of similar views that are perhaps both prolife & believe in the God of the Bible as an under educated, hypocritical, war loving, backward thinking, out of touch, condemning & judgemental, unfeeling or insensitive zealous hater of women? Isn''t that the implied and overtly meant by several posters? Perhaps not intentionally by you Vespergirl, but certainly by others. I have attempted to remain civil as well as respectfully offering different opinion on the posed question.
There have been hypocrites, lots throughout time. Some that use the guise of religious conviction or the lack there of as a weapon to inflict judgment or hate. Can''t that be said of many members of the human race? Why are prolifers and those of religious conviction held in such disdain for being fallible?
At the end of the day regardless of personal opinion or conviction we''re just human, trying to take a stand for what she believes in and wanting our life to count for something. Isn''t that why you originally posted your question?
Date: 1/29/2009 7:11:07 PM
Author: trillionaire
The reason that our tax dollar are paying for other countries'' abortions is the same as why we pay for all the OTHER things that we do, because there is not a critical mass of people demanding that we use our money in other ways.
The things that matter in politics are 1.) money 2.) bodies (ie, masses) 3.) public opinion
Wow, see, that was nice and non-partisan, now wasn''t it
So those of you that don''t want to pay for other people''s abortions can commiserate with those of us who didn''t and don''t want to pay for the war, with DINKS who don''t want to pay for their local failing school, and with non-religious folks who don''t think that churches should be tax exempt.
But, if you are asking me, I would rather pay $600 for Jenny from the block to have an abortion (twice) than to pay for her family on welfare for years and years, and to pay for her kid to be incarcerated for half a decade at 30K a year, or for her kids to be in the foster care system. My analysis is a rational economic one. I am not judging or casting aspersions about what you do with your body, but I agree that we have a right to critique how our money is spent... and by any measure, the abortion is probably the cheapest option.
Also, it is noted later (in the actual data, not hypothetical data) that those who had repeat abortions were less likely to admit that that they didn''t use contraceptives, which is understandable.
Trill, I echo your sentiments exactily - this is my perspective from an economic Libertarian viewpoint.Date: 1/29/2009 7:11:07 PM
Author: trillionaire
The reason that our tax dollar are paying for other countries'' abortions is the same as why we pay for all the OTHER things that we do, because there is not a critical mass of people demanding that we use our money in other ways.
The things that matter in politics are 1.) money 2.) bodies (ie, masses) 3.) public opinion
Wow, see, that was nice and non-partisan, now wasn''t it
So those of you that don''t want to pay for other people''s abortions can commiserate with those of us who didn''t and don''t want to pay for the war, with DINKS who don''t want to pay for their local failing school, and with non-religious folks who don''t think that churches should be tax exempt.
But, if you are asking me, I would rather pay $600 for Jenny from the block to have an abortion (twice) than to pay for her family on welfare for years and years, and to pay for her kid to be incarcerated for half a decade at 30K a year, or for her kids to be in the foster care system. My analysis is a rational economic one. I am not judging or casting aspersions about what you do with your body, but I agree that we have a right to critique how our money is spent... and by any measure, the abortion is probably the cheapest option.
But her twins are so cute!Date: 1/29/2009 7:11:07 PM
Author: trillionaire
But, if you are asking me, I would rather pay $600 for Jenny from the block to have an abortion (twice)
Date: 1/29/2009 7:24:14 PM
Author: luckystar112
Date: 1/29/2009 7:11:07 PM
Author: trillionaire
But, if you are asking me, I would rather pay $600 for Jenny from the block to have an abortion (twice)
But her twins are so cute!
Date: 1/29/2009 7:20:28 PM
Author: HollyS
Date: 1/29/2009 7:11:07 PM
Author: trillionaire
The reason that our tax dollar are paying for other countries'' abortions is the same as why we pay for all the OTHER things that we do, because there is not a critical mass of people demanding that we use our money in other ways.
The things that matter in politics are 1.) money 2.) bodies (ie, masses) 3.) public opinion
Wow, see, that was nice and non-partisan, now wasn''t it
So those of you that don''t want to pay for other people''s abortions can commiserate with those of us who didn''t and don''t want to pay for the war, with DINKS who don''t want to pay for their local failing school, and with non-religious folks who don''t think that churches should be tax exempt.
But, if you are asking me, I would rather pay $600 for Jenny from the block to have an abortion (twice) than to pay for her family on welfare for years and years, and to pay for her kid to be incarcerated for half a decade at 30K a year, or for her kids to be in the foster care system. My analysis is a rational economic one. I am not judging or casting aspersions about what you do with your body, but I agree that we have a right to critique how our money is spent... and by any measure, the abortion is probably the cheapest option.
Geez. Did you read this before you hit submit? You just implied that the subject of an abortion would be probably: 1) a minority, 2) an unwed mother, 3) her kids would be delinquent and might wind up in prison, 4) and of course, she would be on welfare, 5) or maybe she''d be such a lousy mother, her kids would be taken from her.
And you''re a liberal?
Margaret Sanger was a liberal too. The Mother of Planned Parenthood felt that the best way to keep the non-white population in check was to advocate birth control. And legal abortions.
Feel free to disagree, as I''m sure you will. I''ll be elsewhere.
There you are!!! I was wondering what happened to you!Date: 1/29/2009 7:28:22 PM
Author: SarahLovesJS
Date: 1/29/2009 7:24:14 PM
Author: luckystar112
Date: 1/29/2009 7:11:07 PM
Author: trillionaire
But, if you are asking me, I would rather pay $600 for Jenny from the block to have an abortion (twice)
But her twins are so cute!
Aw Lucky stop causing trouble! I go away for a few months and look at you!
Date: 1/29/2009 7:54:34 PM
Author: luckystar112
Date: 1/29/2009 7:28:22 PM
Author: SarahLovesJS
Date: 1/29/2009 7:24:14 PM
Author: luckystar112
Date: 1/29/2009 7:11:07 PM
Author: trillionaire
But, if you are asking me, I would rather pay $600 for Jenny from the block to have an abortion (twice)
But her twins are so cute!
Aw Lucky stop causing trouble! I go away for a few months and look at you!
There you are!!! I was wondering what happened to you!
Holly, she actually makes a good point, and here's why. First of all the abortions we're discussing are the ones paid for by the taxpayers. It's a hypothetical if we're discussing the domestic situation, as the Hyde Amendment forbids public money from going toward abortion procedures. In other words, people on publicly funded healthcare cannot get abortions through that system. We of course can still debate the merits of that position, but it's worth noting.Date: 1/29/2009 7:20:28 PM
Author: HollyS
Date: 1/29/2009 7:11:07 PM
Author: trillionaire
The reason that our tax dollar are paying for other countries' abortions is the same as why we pay for all the OTHER things that we do, because there is not a critical mass of people demanding that we use our money in other ways.
The things that matter in politics are 1.) money 2.) bodies (ie, masses) 3.) public opinion
Wow, see, that was nice and non-partisan, now wasn't it
So those of you that don't want to pay for other people's abortions can commiserate with those of us who didn't and don't want to pay for the war, with DINKS who don't want to pay for their local failing school, and with non-religious folks who don't think that churches should be tax exempt.
But, if you are asking me, I would rather pay $600 for Jenny from the block to have an abortion (twice) than to pay for her family on welfare for years and years, and to pay for her kid to be incarcerated for half a decade at 30K a year, or for her kids to be in the foster care system. My analysis is a rational economic one. I am not judging or casting aspersions about what you do with your body, but I agree that we have a right to critique how our money is spent... and by any measure, the abortion is probably the cheapest option.
Geez. Did you read this before you hit submit? You just implied that the subject of an abortion would be probably: 1) a minority, 2) an unwed mother, 3) her kids would be delinquent and might wind up in prison, 4) and of course, she would be on welfare, 5) or maybe she'd be such a lousy mother, her kids would be taken from her.
And you're a liberal?
Margaret Sanger was a liberal too. The Mother of Planned Parenthood felt that the best way to keep the non-white population in check was to advocate birth control. And legal abortions.
Feel free to disagree, as I'm sure you will. I'll be elsewhere.
Maria, I wanted to answer your question. I am sorry if I missed it earlier. I am not and never have been Catholic so I have no idea how my view might align (or not) with theirs.Date: 1/28/2009 11:13:04 PM
Author: Maria D
It looks like the participants in this thread that refer to embryos as unborn ''children'' or ''babies'' are done with this conversation so I guess I won''t get any enlightenment on my question, but I''ll ask it again anyway in case anyone else cares to explain it to me.
Why is it that people who believe sacred life begins at conception are so compelled to speak out against abortion, who are so passionate about making others understand that their views are wrong (as diamondseeker even went as far to say), do not seem to care much about the by-products of the practice of in-vitro fertilization? Why is it on the one hand that pro-lifers feel the that potential human life has ''rights'' but on the other hand it doesn''t? Why are they anti-choice when it comes to abortion but not anti-choice when it comes to conception that creates potential life that will be destroyed? The Catholic Church is consistent in its views but the vast majority of pro-lifers are not. This further evidenced by the fact that they don''t see a connection between views on tax funded abortion with views on tax funded war or the death penalty. Yet when those of us who accept that differing viewpoints on this are *all* valid and that''s why choice is needed, we are told our logic is circular. As my daughter would say, whatev.
Wishful, thank you for acknowledging the Margaret Sanger problem with eugenics. I think that is kept pretty quiet these days!Date: 1/29/2009 8:11:41 PM
Author: WishfulThinking
Holly, she actually makes a good point, and here''s why. First of all the abortions we''re discussing are the ones paid for by the taxpayers. It''s a hypothetical if we''re discussing the domestic situation, as the Hyde Amendment forbids public money from going toward abortion procedures. In other words, people on publicly funded healthcare cannot get abortions through that system. We of course can still debate the merits of that position, but it''s worth noting.Date: 1/29/2009 7:20:28 PM
Author: HollyS
Geez. Did you read this before you hit submit? You just implied that the subject of an abortion would be probably: 1) a minority, 2) an unwed mother, 3) her kids would be delinquent and might wind up in prison, 4) and of course, she would be on welfare, 5) or maybe she''d be such a lousy mother, her kids would be taken from her.
And you''re a liberal?
Margaret Sanger was a liberal too. The Mother of Planned Parenthood felt that the best way to keep the non-white population in check was to advocate birth control. And legal abortions.
Feel free to disagree, as I''m sure you will. I''ll be elsewhere.
The woman in Trill''s example is likely to at least be on public assistance because if they were not on public assistance, the taxpayers wouldn''t be paying for her healthcare. People who are on welfare qualify for publicly funded healthcare. Most people who are part of the welfare system or publicly funded healthcare system in the US are either older [not what we''re discussing] or have kids [which is the point of this conversation]. If a woman already has children and becomes pregnant again, the addition of a new child to her family will lead to her spending less time raising the children she already has. She could be the most awesome parent in the world, but if she is working and making below the poverty line in wages and struggling to keep stuff together something tells me she might not have the time to be a good parent, no? And if she REALLY cannot afford those kids they will end up in child protective services'' hands.
Also, Margret Sanger was an idiot in many ways. You definitely don''t have to try to sell that position to me! I''m one of those evil feminists who studies Women''s Studies and we all know and definitely learn in class that she was a nutso. That doesn''t mean we agree on all counts when it comes to the merits of certain types of family planning, but we do agree on that.