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Why do people lie about the strangest things? Well, to summarize, my bf''s best friend, who also happens to be a good friend of mine, has (had?) the fiancé'' from hell. She''s very materialistic and superficial and can be downright nasty as she has been to me on a number of occasions. I''ve often wondered, as have many, what in the world my friend sees in her because he is the most laid back and nicest guy you''ll ever meet.



So Saturday night a bunch of us met at a bar downtown, planning on going to dinner later on after we''ve had a few drinks. I noticed when they walked in they seemed rather tense but figured they had a fight again (she''s constantly starting them). As soon as he walked in he went straight over to the guys and orders a drink, completely ignoring her. She pretends not to be bothered and walks over to us and asks for someone to get her a drink as she was dying for a glass of wine. I noticed she was wearing her hair up (which she never does) and didn’t'' think anything of it until I saw the flashes from her ear. She had diamond earrings the size of golf balls in her ears! Since I''ve been the target of her bitchiness more times than I can count I decide not to say anything but planned on bringing it up to my friend later on.maybe he won the lottery? At this point all the guys are hanging out and talking in a group while the women are in another. One of her friends points out her earrings (it was so obvious she wanted us to notice them as she constantly fiddled with her ears) so she goes on about how he bought them for her for a pre-wedding gift and how he surprised her and how he''s always buying her expensive stuff blah blah blah. When we get to the restaurant we''re all sitting at the table drinking when one of the guys notices her earrings and tells my friend he''s making all of them look bad for not buying their women such expensive jewelry. My friend looks over and says he didn''t get those for her and then asks her why she is always lying about stuff. She looks pissed and just stares at him. He shrugs and turns away and resumes talking to my bf. She looked murderous and says in a loud voice that if he wasn''t such a cheap bastard she wouldn''t have to lie. She then goes on how he never gets her anything expensive that she has to do everything herself and she''s only trying to make him look good (apparently she thinks her 2+ carat engagement ring is nothing) and on and on and on. He gets really quiet and all of us just stood there not saying a word. She keeps bitching about how cheap he is when he slams his beer down (all of us jump and the rest of the restaurant turns towards us) and tells her in a very low voice to just shut up. This pisses her off even further and she says, and I quote: ''I should have married David as he would have gotten me anything I wanted''...David being her rich ex-boyfriend. My friend just looks at her and tells her that maybe she should, stands up, tells my bf that if he''ll cover his drinks he''ll pay him back later and leaves the bar. She runs after him out the door. We all crowd to the window and see him hailing a cab while she''s grabbing his arm screaming at him and he''s completely ignoring her. A cab comes and he pulls her off of him and tries to get in. She''s sobbing and tries to get in cab with him (we''re all standing at the window with our mouths hanging open). He gets out, pulls her over the sidewalk, says something to her and gets back in the cab and pulls away. She flags down the next cab and leaves. I seriously felt like I was watching a movie and would have felt that she''s getting what she deserved if I didn''t feel so sorry my friend. It was so awful. My bf later said that he was surprised to see him finally stand up to her. Mostly he goes along with whatever she says but maybe he''s realized who he is intending to marry? Nobody has spoken to him although my bf did leave him a message.



My question is why would she lie about where the earrings came from?
 
Whew!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Who knows, could be tons of reasons, among them to try to make him look bad, but she obviously has serious issues and lets hope your friend realises it and bails. I don''t know if you can ever really know how someone''s mind works, especially with someone who behaves like that, I just hope she can get some help to overcome this...........
 
I read your other thread regarding her. She''s obviously extremely insecure, bordering on mentally ill. The best thing he could do is dump her before she makes his life miserable.
 
She was trying to hurt her FI and she''s increrdibly manipulating!! She has issues and I hope your friend (the guy) moves on and doesn''t marry her. She is going to make his life H3LL!! I hope so much he doesn''t marry her
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I also read your other thread about her...wow. We all have our bitchy moments, but she''s just way over the top. Hopefully he can encourage her to seek some counseling to help her figure out where all that negativity is coming from. My guess is she comes from people who''ve only shown her that giving expensive material gifts means that they love her and she''s not used to dealing with emotions in a "normal" way. She seems to think if someone truly loves her, he will lavish her with expensive things, because she''s probably been taught that a person''s self worth is based on how much material/financial wealth they have. Certainly this is not an excuse for her to treat her fiance so poorly. Hopefully he gets out of the relationship and moves on.
 
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I''m glad your friend didn''t take her crap that night. You''ll have to give us an update on their status. What gets me is that she lied about something that she''s going to get caught lying about. Did she really think that you guys weren''t going to find out that her fiance really didn''t buy her the earrings? Ugh what a witch! And that ''I should have married David'' comment..if that didn''t end their relationship who knows what will.

Your friend is much better off without her.
 
Wow! That is one seriously messed up girl! Believe me, no amount of meds can fix that!

Good riddance! (Hopefully)


Yes please keep us updated
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Wait! All of that and your question is "Why would she lie about the earrings?"
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You ARE a Pricescoper!!!
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My goodness... if ANYTHING was EVER going to give your friend a wake up call, this should be it.
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That gal is NUTTY as a squirrel's cr*p. Her obvious unhappiness in the relationship, gold-digging nature that's impossible to cover up, combined with a startlingly sadistic streak might just be the best thing that's ever happened to him ... because p*ssed/selfish/publicly humiliating didn't look so good on her did it? And her man bolted stage left. Cue music. Fade to "dumped."
 
Date: 2/28/2006 12:43:23 PM
Author: decodelighted

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That gal is NUTTY as a squirrel''s cr*p.
ROFLMAO - I have never heard that one before Deco - love it!
 
wow - I''ve met some doozies in my life - but that girl has to take the cake!! Hopefully your friend breaks it off with her - it doesn''t sound like a very healthy (or enjoyable!) relationship!!

I''m actually not surprised that she lied about the earrings (seems like that is right up her alley) but why would she mention it in a group setting while the FI was there? Sheesh that''s just asking for karma to come and bite you on the @ss!!

Props to your friend for calling her out in front of everyone - I''m a little evil I admit it - but at least it stops the girl from saying anything else stupid around you guys for fear that she will get called on it or that you guys just plain won''t believe her anymore!

And definitely update us!!
 
What. A. Freaking. Wench.

First, if she truly feels these things she says, she shouldn''t be marrying him. Second, to belittle the person you are going to marry...at all...but ESPECIALLY in front of a group of people? That is absolutely unforgivable and a total deal breaker. Um, hello?!?!?! You''re supposed to be a TEAM....not worse than an enemy!!

He sounds like he is a nice guy and really needs to find somebody better. Maybe this is the straw that broke the camel''s back. One can only hope, for his sake.
 
One can only hope she returns the RING!!
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If this episode doesn''t do it, your friend is the one in need of counseling!
 
My Lord!!!
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Well, if he doesn''t break up with her, the salient question is: "What in the world is wrong with him???"

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Wow...what a witch! It''s unbelievable some of the crap guys will put up with. I hope your guy friend figures out that his fiancee is evil before they get married and not after!
Not exactly sure why she would lie about the earrings, but obviously she feels she has something to prove to other people if she is going out of her way to show off a supposed gift that really wasn''t a gift at all. Can you say insecure???
Sorry your friend is tied to this evil girl...hopefully not for long!
 
I know in the last thread there was glaring red flag behavior. I know some people put up with certain crap beacuse of the whole ''oh, but when it''s just the two us of, he/she is not like this...''

Run. Run screaming.

I was describing this situation to a co-worker, asking her opinion and she said "hopefully his clue phone rings and he picks up this time."

Brilliant.
 
Wow, I can''t believe your friend ever gave this woman a ring. Hope he gets it back! Unless of course she paid for that too. As for lying about the earings, she probably just wants to validate how wonderful she is. Look at me my bf got me these and none of yours did. I hope your friend can walk away from this relationship unharmed!
 
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decodelighted, that squirrel comment had me laugh out so loud my coworker who is in the office next to me came wandering in to see what was so funny!

nytemist, your coworker''s comment said it all and this time he picked it up on the first ring! THANK GOD!

You will all be pleased to know that as of tonight, my bf and I will have a temporary roommate staying with us until the viper has moved out of his apartment!

Bf met him for lunch today and heard about what happened after they left us.

They live together and when he got home that night he had no sooner unlocked the door when she was right behind him (she must of bribed the taxi to fly because it took her at least a good 5 minutes to get another cab). Anyway, he told her that he really wanted to be alone and he was going to stay at his brothers for a bit. He said he really needed time to think and needed to be alone (totally understandable). Well, she begged and pleaded with him that he stay and talk and work it all out that she would change (not the first time this has been said but never done). He said she was relentless and kept pushing and pushing it until he just lost it. Bf wasn''t privy to what exactly what was said here but what came out of it was that it''s over. He said that this was the final straw, humiliating him in front of strangers is one thing (she''d done this before) but in front of his friends was another. He said he put up with her sh*t for far too long because he wanted to believe she was the person he first fell in love with (apparantly she has changed) but he said that person disappeared years ago and he can''t go on with this anymore. He wants her out of his apartment and out of his life that he does NOT want to continue with the relationship. He said he''d move in with a friend until she is out with all of her stuff (he owns the apartment). At that point she started screaming and said that she''s keeping the ring and he said fine, if that''s all it took to get rid of her so be it. Did you know that she then took off the ring and threw it at him, screamed that it was too small anyway and was a piece of crap?! When I heard this I nearly applauded (he got it back!). He went and packed a bag with her screaming and yelling the entire time. He left to stay at his brothers in CT and got back this morning. He said he would of called us but he just really needed some time to himself and that his brother was out of town.
Now who knows what''s going to happen. Bf said she was refusing to move out of his place so I''m not sure how that will play out but it is definitely over. Bf said he''s never seen him so determined and final. My bf''s place is huge so having him as a roommate will be fine (the bedrooms are on opposite ends of the apartment with two and a half baths so privacy won''t be an issue). I just hope he doesn''t she doesn''t drag it out too long. He''s had enough already.
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Oh and you know what I was thinking? That makes my second friend since January to end their engagement...eegads am I bad luck? I know these people needed to be free of their significant others but TWO friends??????
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His apartment? And god knows what she''ll do in retaliation!

He should wait until she''s at work, pack all her stuff up for her, and change the freaking locks! When you break up with someone, sometimes you need to take out the nail-studded stomping boots!

She can always return those rocks in her ears if she needs the money for a deposit on her own apt.
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Nah, you''re not bad luck. Think of it this way... better now than after the wedding, eh?
 
Those two have no business being together much less having been engaged. I doubt she''s "changed" since he met her, more like she quit acting once she had him. She has a lot of growing up to do and he needs to stay away from her. He should not have left his apt that he owns, he should have sent her packiing with one suitcase with hotel money and told her she has so much time to get her stuff out before he gets rid of it for her. That''s his apartment, not hers and she should have been the one to leave.
 
I wouldn''t leave her in MY apt to leave when she pleases, doing God knows what to my place!!!! He has a legal right to kick her out, if she''s not on his lease! He needs to get back there, throw her out on her tail and give her a week to get her crap out.
 
When my bf and his ex broke it off (they lived together) she took all of her things and his stereo, his digital camera, his camcorder, his CDs, his television, his dishes, etc.

Supervised packing.
 
If she doesn''t leave he should get the police involved, supervised packing for sure...I would not leave her in that apartment!

But oh my god what an unbelievable story. How truly sad for both her and your friend, him to have finally the bright wake up call where he knows she is not the person he thought she was, would never be and has lost her....sad for her because, well she is just sad. Good luck finding someone else to put up with that crap out there.

Sounds like you guys are being the best friends you can in this situation, good luck and tell him we are all rooting for him. He should have done this a long time ago!!!!!!
 
what a spoiled little rat!!....

I just read this threat today and was about to say that maybe there was something wrong with your friend (some people just kind of "enjoy" abusive relationships)....but thank God I got tthough the rest of the posts and saw that he kicked her to the curb! (well, not literally, but a step in the right direction!). Good for him!!! it still must be very hard, but he is going to be much better of!!!

Tell him there are plenty of more deserving girls out there that wouldn''t mind getting that beautiful ring!
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That girl needs to grow up!! At least you won''t have to deal with her anymore!!!
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I''m glad he finally saw the light.

Maybe your other girlfriend and this friend can get together.
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I doubt she''s "changed" since he met her, more like she quit acting once she had him.

I was thinking the same thing. They didn''t date all that long before getting engaged. He''s so ready to get married and have a family and maybe in the beginning it was all just acting to get him to be with her. I feel awful for him because I know how much he''s wanted to settle down with someone nice and I think he really thought he had that. At first he chalked it up to stress over the wedding planning but it''s way more than that. She goes out of her way to be nasty, especially to those she is threatened by. She was even nasty to his sister-in-law! What a way to integrate herself into the family. I have to say good riddance even though I feel bad for him, he certainly doesn''t deserve this (although he should of done this a long time ago is my thought).

He is too much of a nice guy which is why he didn''t kick her out but instead moved in with us until she finds something. He''s smart though because this morning, after she went to work, he packed up and took all the things she might possibly be interested in ''owning''. I know they bought a lot of stuff together and he said it''s the price he''s paying for freedom. He also has a big safe and locked a lot of stuff in there (she doesn''t have the combination). She just totally pisses me off because I agree with you guys in that she would totally do something to get back at him.

To make him feel better I went out and bought him his favorite beer and made him his favorite desert, chocolate mousse! My bf pretended to be jealous and asked what does he have to do for me to do that for him LOL!!! (I do it all the time for him and he knows it!).
 
wow. that''s really sad. your poor friend! I hope she doesn''t trash his apartment. What a doll for not making her get a hotel room or stay with her own damn family.
 
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I can''t BELIEVE this story!! I''m so glad he saw the light and left her sorry butt. And he got the ring back too!!! That''s a double plus!! I''m so glad he has friends like you to turn to. Too bad I''m not single, he seems like a really nice guy....
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Wow......this story sounds like something out of a soap opera...she''s a drama queen, he''s right to finally tell her to heave-ho. I hate drama
 
WOW that is such a crazy story!!!! I''m soooo glad he finally got up the nerve to break up with her though!!! Hopefully there won''t be too much more drama with her refusing to leave the apartment and/or taking any of his stuff...at least he has the ring though! And you won''t have to put up with her behavior towards you anymore. Good luck to your friend!!! Make him some more mousse!
 
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