Worried about Best Friends Seeing New Rings...

[tberube]

everybody makes different decisions in life. Unfortunately, there is a lot of comparing notes between friends, and jealousy occurs everywhere, even amongst the best of friends. Some of my closest friends have made comments that were a tad out of line in relation to my engagement ring (not that big at all) and my new house. I know it''s because they are envious of these things so I try to let it go. But it happens. There''s no reason to be ashamed of your good fortune though...their jealousy is just that: theirs. No matter how close you are to them, it''s not your problem to deal with.

 

[rainydaze]

3shebabes, it sounds like you are a very kind and considerate person with a good head on your shoulders, so i imagine however you end up handling it, it will be okay. personally i think you should stay mum about it (unless an obvious opportunity to mention it comes up, whereby it would be presented in a postive light) and just wear it when you get it. i would have said they might not even notice, at least for a while, but it sounds like they are both sensitive to diamond rings and are likely to notice it. but bringing it up beforehand could come off as ''i''m telling you now because i know it''s a sore spot and i have to make an announcement for you to be ok with it'' (which is exactly what you wish to avoid, i beieve). whereas if you just wear it when you get it and let them bring it up first, it comes off more natural. that''s my take, anyway. i don''t think an over-explanation of why you didn''t mention it is necessary, as others have suggested a simple ''it was my anniversary present and i figured there was no reason to talk about it until i had it'' should suffice. i also liked the ''there were more important things going on'' suggestion, very classy and brief, let''s them know you have perspective and consideration for their lives even whilst yours goes on a bit differently.

best wishes, and may i say you are quite a lucky lady to have such wonderful friends and what sounds like a beautiful upgrade! (oh, and i hope your friend''s husband tunes in! sounds like it would mean the world to her if he caught on to her longing and offered her a token of his affection by way of a diamond!)