Worried I will be homesick once I get married

[lilylover]

I feel a little silly (immature, perhaps?) admitting this, but I am really starting to worry that I will be homesick once I get married.

I have lived at home with my parents for, well, all my life. I have even lived at home full time while attending college and will continue to live at home until FI and I get married in June of next year. I am more than excited to be starting a new life with FI and creating our own home together, but at the same time I have a really close relationship with my family and I am worried that I will miss them and my house once I move out.

Has anyone else dealt with this?

 

[LilyKat]

Aww, you aren't being silly at all. I felt the same when I first moved out. I am close to my parents and I did feel sad moving away. But just remember that you aren't going to be alone - you'll have your husband for company! It will feel new and exciting, and while I'm sure there are times you'll feel homesick, I don't think you need to worry about it too much.

How far away from your parents are you moving? Will you still be close enough to go home for weekends etc?

 

[lilylover]

LilyKat-- thanks for making me feel better We won''t be far from my parents... at the most it''ll be a couple of hours away.

 

[Winslet]

I know how you feel! I''ve been away at college and grad school for the past 5 years and my parents'' house is still my "real" home because I visit a lot on weekends. I''m kind of sad that moving back for a little while (because I haven''t landed a job yet) isn''t even an option because FI and I are getting married so soon. But your situation is a little more exciting - I think you''ll find it to be a wonderful learning and growing experience!

 

[Lilac]

I think it''s normal to feel the way you''re feeling. I thought I would be SO homesick when I moved out and got married, but living with my husband has been such a fun, exciting, and amazing experience I haven''t even had time to feel homesick!

I still visit my mom around once a week (but we only live about 20 minutes away). I definitely do miss my mom but I talk to her on the phone every day so we catch up about our days and just talk for a couple minutes every day and it''s great! And we hardly ever argue now so our relationship has gotten even better since I got married!

 

[D&T]

I was homesick for my mom''s cooking

still am and its been over five years. Its nice to have someone that takes care of me sometimes like how my parents do, so its nice when I visit them a state a way the 3-5 times a year that we see them..

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Normal!

I am an only child and very close to my parents..so even though I already went through growing pains when I went away for college and moved in with DH during college..it kind of hit me all over again the past few weeks. Even when I was away at college my room was still my room and it was still my house, too. Now it''s not.

But it''s for a happy reason so that''s the good news!

In other words, it''s hard..but you will definitely move through it as you start concentrating on building your new nest. I am visiting a lot, too..that helps.

They also come over for dinner sometimes or come over to help us do things around the apt and I meet my Mom for lunch which is fun. If you do those things I think it will definitely help with the transition. In the end it''s an exciting, new adventure and stage of your life!

 

[Italiahaircolor]

That''s not silly...not at all...I felt that way when I moved in my husband, who was my FI at the time...and I had lived on my own!

It''s a big thing, moving out. Its an adjustment. There is some parts of it that are bittersweet...like that feeling that you really are on your own now--even married. But remember, they are always your parents--your family. Make a date every week to go for dinner, or watch a movie. You''ll be okay.

 

[cocolaw]

i think you will get that feeling no matter what, but it will pass. i have a similar feeling sometimes, when i look around, especially at our bedding, and think "wow...this is all OURS" and get a little freaked. i will never buy bedding for ME again!! it''s scary, but i think we all have our homesick feelings-whether it is from leaving our parents'' home or leaving our own home.

 

[nclrgirl]

Aw! It''s not silly! I haven''t lived at home for 5+ years and not "full time" for 9+ years, DH and I own our own house, and I still think of my parents'' house as "home". (Don''t judge me! We just bought our house this year and I moved to this city less than a year ago!)

 

[meresal]

Lily, uou aren''t being silly. I actually made the comment to my parents the day after my wedding, as DH and I were leaving, and said, "I sure am glad I moved away 2 years ago, or today would be ridiculous." My dad''s comment back, "There wouldn''t be enough tears on Earth." I used to cry everytime I left to go back to college and i knew that when my wedding day came, and I had to move, it would be horrible for me and my parents. Eveyone knew.

You will be upset. It may not happen the day you leave, but it will hit you. It is very hard, especially for people that are very close to their family. Just know that you can laways visit anytime you want, and your family is always only a phone call away. It will be necessary to remember at all times of the day. When I first moved, homesickness hit me at the oddest times.

You will be fine sweetie. Nothing to worry about right now, that is for sure!