would it be rude of me to compliment a stranger about her rings?...

[Dancing Fire]

i was eatting lunch at costco. the lady sitting across from me on a picnic bench,had some beautiful rings on

i was gonna give her a nice compliment but, thought it would be rude.so ladies....how would you feel in this situation?

 

[blueroses]

um.....if it''s rude, then I''m really rude!

I don''t do it often--don''t want prople thinking I''m scoping them out--but sometimes I have been unable to help myself and have had to compliment strangers on their beautiful jewlery!

You''re not alone

 

[Momoftwo]

I think it''s seen differently when a man does it. Men don''t usually notice jewelry, except sometimes for wedding/engagement rings. Women actually do it all the time.

 

[AGBF]

I would have no problem with a man complimenting my jewelry if it were clear that he actually liked something about my jewelry (and wasn't behaving oddly). Actually, now that I think about it, if he were behaving oddly, I would probably forgive him his rudeness and perhaps attempt to diagnose him. What I wouldn't welcome was a "that's a nice ring" (squeeze, squeeze-pat, pat).

Deb, hoping she has covered all bases

 

[Kaleigh]

I agree with Momoftwo. I get lots of compliments on my jewelry from women, but once in a while from men. Most men don't notice jewelry like us women do. But to answer your question, no I don't think it's rude.

 

[Diachi]

I don''t think its rude at all! I used to work in a high-end retail shop and you would not believe some of the rocks that walked in! I always politely complemented the wearer on their jewelry and asked if I could take a better look (if it was on a hand) and I never had anyone get upset. They always loved showing it off and never cared that I asked...

 

[strmrdr]

Its about 50-50 around here.
50% will think its neat that a guy noticed it and its kewl.
50% will think and act like your a wacko stalker.
So I stopped saying anything.

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 5/14/2005 3:37:19 PM
Author: kaleigh

hey kaleigh
do you ever sleep? seems like you''re on PS 24/7.

i think Jenn wakes up in the middle of the night to admier her fabulous collection.

sometime she''s on here at 4:00 am eastern time.

 

[FireGoddess]

Unless you''re a man leering at a woman when you tell her you like her rings, I don''t think it would be rude. I always compliment other women when I like their rings, and love when people notice mine (My ring did get ogled again at the bridal salon when I went to help my SIL with her second dress fitting...and I loved it!).

I was at the grocery store late one night and the man in front of me said, "I just want to tell you how lovely your toes look. I just love it when women take care of their feet." (They were pedicured and had nail art - including sparkly rhinestones - on my big toes.) I didn''t think he was weird or freaky or anything (I''ve met freaky - trust me.). I thanked him and he proceeded to tell me how he kept trying to get his girlfriend to get her toes done but she didn''t want to, etc. Anyway, it was clear he wasn''t hitting on me. I thought it was very nice and observant.

Particularly if a man was commenting on my wedding ring or engagement ring, I would not be suspicious, as he clearly sees I am married. If he followed that up with a "wanna get together sometime?" THEN I''d be disgusted. Otherwise, flattery is a wonderful thing! ESPECIALLY when sincere!!!

 

[Jennifer5973]

Date: 5/14/2005 6:43:21 PM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 5/14/2005 3:37:19 PM
Author: kaleigh

hey kaleigh
do you ever sleep? seems like you're on PS 24/7.

i think Jenn wakes up in the middle of the night to admier her fabulous collection.

sometime she's on here at 4:00 am eastern time.

Dude, what is up with you?

Not that I need to qualify my behavior but I have been on PS in the middle of the night lately...Maybe it has something to do with the EIGHT prescriptions I am now on for my allergies and the fact that I cannot sleep most nights. So, after I get up and sit through my asthma attack, puff on my inhaler, I come into my office and play aorund on the PC, as to not wake my husband by turning our bedroom TV on. I guess you'd better alert QVC.com, eBay, Zappos, and a bunch of other sites that I am leering at as well (and buying from at all hours)...

And Kaleigh's right--once you log into PS, you stay logged in even if you go to other sites, etc. until it time sout. I'll be logged on and get up and even leave the house to run an errand.

Anyway, back on topic, I always compliment other women's rings. I love jewelry and love to compliment people on their rings and other pieces. I try to be very polite and excuse myslef in the process. From what I can tell from body language, expression and verbal responses, eveyone I have ever complimented beams.

 

[fountainfairfax]

I think it can really make someone''s day when you compliment their rings or jewelry. There is a girl at the bank who was never very friendly, just handled the transaction and sent me on my way. One day I noticed she had a very beautiful & delicate e-ring on and commented how lovely I thought it was. She became like a different person! She told me about the proposal and where he got the ring and her upcoming wedding and did I know they just made free coffee and what was I doing that weekend..WHEW...now she calls me by name even when I''m not at her window and goes out her way to wave.

and years ago I was working in retail and heard a couple in line talking about my then e-ring. when they got up to the register they said "we love your ring and have to ask, do you know where it came from?" I explained that I had seen something similar in a BBB catalog and that my husband had my ering designed with that in mind and I told them the jeweler who did the custom design. They started laughing and said that they had picked my ring out of the jeweler''s custom photos and were using my ring as the basis of their design. That made me feel great and now that my ring has been pawned and turned to scrap it''s nice to know that a version of it lives on!

 

[Dancing Fire]

Jenn
sorry to hear you still having allergy problems.about the topic....it''s easy for you because your''re a woman.now....would you compliment a man with a nice ring?

 

[Diamonds4Me]

I complimented a woman in my CE class on her gorgeous three stone emerald cut ering. She was so thrilled and told her husband about it during our lunch break.

I don''t think its rude at all! Although sometimes I refrain from saying anything because you just never know how someone is going to react.

Another time I complimented a girl on her ering and I thought she was going to slap me.

Oh well...

 

[AChiOAlumna]

I don''t think it''s rude at all...I went to a wedding today and the bride''s rings were so stunning that they sparkled from across the room!! Definitely something to compliment!! Conversely, one of the guests sitting next to me (an anxious LIW!!!) saw my rings and complimented me on them...I''m always excited when others notice my rings!!

 

[Mara]

i always compliment, mostly so i don''t appear to be leering at their hands...

though i could see if some random man was checking out my hand and then said ''wow your diamond/ring/bauble is beautiful, can i see it''...i''d possibly think it was some horribly cheesy pickup line.

well if i was normal anyway...being the diamond obsessed gal i am, i''d probably ask him if he was from PS.

i find women to be very flattered when other women notice their jewelry in a positive way...though i have to say i never really quite know how to respond to a compliment like that..i usually murmur ''oh thanks...'' but i feel a little self-conscious. it''s funny, because i feel like i notice my rings more than anyone since of course i love my baubles more than the average gal...but when others notice them, it''s almost like a shock.

 

[Momoftwo]

Oh, I don't think it's rude either. What I meant earlier about men noticing is that men who are "looking" will notice a woman's ring fingers to see if she's available, not just for the beauty of the rings themselves. Of course DF is just a diamond connoiseur, so the former doesn't apply. My experience is that women are the ones who notice and comment on my jewelry. Although every once in a while my DH will mention a humongous ring he sees on a woman's finger, but it's usually when he's not distracted by something else. They're hard to miss when they're the size of dinner plates.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

I use to frequently compliment women on their rings, but quit doing so after receiving an odd reaction. The woman in that case had on a gorgeous ring that sparkled like crazy under the lighting in Yankee Candle. Her stone was a marquise cut and probably between 1.5-2 carats. When I mentioned how beautiful it was, rather than thanking me, she started tell me the history of the ring, that it belonged her dead MIL (whom she never met) and then went on to tell me, with a rather displeasing expression, that it wasn't her choice in rings.

I wasn't sure how to react, but felt the response this woman gave me was tacky. There was no need for her to dump her resentment off on me. . .

"Poor me. . .I have a brilliantly-cut diamond that I'm FORCED to wear!" lol!

OH, and ETA - The only men who've complimented me on my diamonds have been jewelers/sales reps. If a regular man off the street said something about my diamonds, this would creep me out. . .I'm not sure why, but it would!

 

[diamondsrock]

I was waiting in line at an electronics store one time. It was probably a 10 minute wait. I was pretty bored and happened to notice the really nice wedding set the lady in front of me was wearing. I commented on how nice her ring was (thinking I was doing a nice thing, I mean who doesn''t like to hear compliments?) and she gave me a look like, "why are you talking to me?" then said thanks and turned around. That was the last time I gave a stranger a compliment on their jewelry!

 

[websailor]

Interesting... If I am with cflutist, I will sometime compliment a woman on her ring (or sometimes other jewelry). I try to be careful about it for a variety of reasons.

If I''m not with cflutist, my lips are buttoned - for some of the reasons already mentioned and to avoid the potential weird-guy scenario. That does mean some women miss out on compliments they deserve....

 

[Diachi]

Okay, this may seem silly-but why don''t you (men) start the complement with "my girlfriend and I are looking at engagement rings and I couldn''t help but notice yours..." or something along those lines?

A little off-topic, but I used to waitress in college and had guys hit on me all the time. I''d tell them I had a serious boyfriend and usually they would comment on just how serious could it be, I wasn''t wearing a ring! I never knew that guys really do check out the finger and it happens more and more to me as I get "older"-my boyfriend told me "I''d better get a ring on your finger soon!" on my 25th birthday after too many guys offered to buy drinks for me and my girlfriends at the bar (with he, his brother, and a friend sitting at another table)...Its about time he figured that out!

 

[Momoftwo]

Guys, especially in places like bars see bare ring fingers as fair game. Some guys are always on the prowl.