you go girl

[Sunrises Sunsets]

Am I just a cranky menopausal woman but I really despise “girl” as a descriptor for anyone over 18! We don’t call males in their 20’s, 30’s, 40’s etc boys so why do females get “girl”?

Call me a woman, lady, female anything but girl - I’m almost 54 and have raised 3 humans, I’m no girl.

At last! You're not cranky and I also feel the title of woman is earned. Early adulthood was in the 60's for me and we scrambled for any bit of ground to be gained in equality with men.

As I watch women now plaster their faces with so much heavy makeup, wearing man brows, pasting on false eyelashes and nails, undergoing plastic surgery and surgical sculpting of their bodies and teenage girls dress like streetwalkers for prom and often in their everyday wardrobes, I shake my head. Why do we have to provide a T&A show and not the men? Men take a shower, shave, apply deodorant and their ready to go out the door. I feel as women we have taken thousands of steps backward.

Do I want to look nice/attractive? Yes but to what extent? Light makeup, a good haircut and grooming should be enough for women as it is for men.

I finally had the courage in my mid thirties to speak up when out as couples and we were being referred to as girls, to kindly suggest their refer to us as women. We have earned that beautiful title. How many of us call the adult men in our lives, "boys"?

 

[Ibrakeforpossums]

My MrCarParts has no punctuation but that's how he looks firing up the Mr. Caffeine.

 

[missy]

At last! You're not cranky and I also feel the title of woman is earned. Early adulthood was in the 60's for me and we scrambled for any bit of ground to be gained in equality with men.

As I watch women now plaster their faces with so much heavy makeup, wearing man brows, pasting on false eyelashes and nails, undergoing plastic surgery and surgical sculpting of their bodies and teenage girls dress like streetwalkers for prom and often in their everyday wardrobes, I shake my head. Why do we have to provide a T&A show and not the men? Men take a shower, shave, apply deodorant and their ready to go out the door. I feel as women we have taken thousands of steps backward.

Do I want to look nice/attractive? Yes but to what extent? Light makeup, a good haircut and grooming should be enough for women as it is for men.

I finally had the courage in my mid thirties to speak up when out as couples and we were being referred to as girls, to kindly suggest their refer to us as women. We have earned that beautiful title. How many of us call the adult men in our lives, "boys"?

I don’t disagree with you. But will add whatever makes one feel good about themselves. Do I wish our culture of fitting into the societal norm of what beauty is considered to be was different? Hell yeah. It’s sad imo to see the pressure on young women and yes men to fit into standard “beauty “ norms. But at the end of the day I support women and men to do what they feel is necessary to feel good about themselves. As long as they’re not harming animals or others by doing so. The greater damage is of course on the psyche of young individuals but this is the world. Maybe one day things will be different and better. But this is our world now. I wish all who procreate can raise mentally strong young men and women so one day this isn’t even a thing

 

[Sunrises Sunsets]

I don’t disagree with you. But will add whatever makes one feel good about themselves. Do I wish our culture of fitting into the societal norm of what beauty is considered to be was different? Hell yeah. It’s sad imo to see the pressure on young women and yes men to fit into standard “beauty “ norms. But at the end of the day I support women and men to do what they feel is necessary to feel good about themselves. As long as they’re not harming animals or others by doing so. The greater damage is of course on the psyche of young individuals but this is the world. Maybe one day things will be different and better. But this is our world now. I wish all who procreate can raise mentally strong young men and women so one day this isn’t even a thing

That's the caveat. Why do women have such poor self-esteem, they don't love themselves and feel they need to look like a Barbie doll? In the sixties we sought to put focus on achievement and our intellectual properties whether a mother raising children or a college grad. Many bras were burned during that period, lol.

You're right, the pressure put on women to look down right goofy in some instances is ridiculous. They may not be harming animals but worse, harming themselves and their core values.

 

[missy]

That's the caveat. Why do women have such poor self-esteem, they don't love themselves and feel they need to look like a Barbie doll? In the sixties we sought to put focus on achievement and our intellectual properties whether a mother raising children or a college grad. Many bras were burned during that period, lol.

You're right, the pressure put on women to look down right goofy in some instances is ridiculous. They may not be harming animals but worse, harming themselves and their core values.

I’d like to add I was raised by parents who to their credit taught me who I am is not what I look like and they gave me strong values and strength to withstand life’s many challenges. But I must also credit my wonderful strong supportive loving dh. He is my rock and I’ve learned so much from him. He always tells me how much he loves me and when I start feeling bad about my face changes as I age (I am not immune to feeling sad at times at the change in my appearance) he says I am even more beautiful than the day he met me. Because he sees who I am. Not the superficial changes but rather the qualities that make me who I am. And I believe him. He truly feels this way. And it allows me to be strong and withstand all the pressures put on us as women. Not everyone has such a strong support system nor was raised by strong loving parents. I am forever grateful for all the many advantages I’ve had in life. I do not discount them in any way. I am lucky. And grateful.

 

[Sunrises Sunsets]

I’d like to add I was raised by parents who to their credit taught me who I am is not what I look like and they gave me strong values and strength to withstand life’s many challenges. But I must also credit my wonderful strong supportive loving dh. He is my rock and I’ve learned so much from him. He always tells me how much he loves me and when I start feeling bad about my face changes as I age (I am not immune to feeling sad at times at the change in my appearance) he says I am even more beautiful than the day he met me. Because he sees who I am. Not the superficial changes but rather the qualities that make me who I am. And I believe him. He truly feels this way. And it allows me to be strong and withstand all the pressures put on us as women. Not everyone has such a strong support system nor was raised by strong loving parents. I am forever grateful for all the many advantages I’ve had in life. I do not discount them in any way. I am lucky. And grateful.

I have been very fortunate to marry a man with similar attributes as your husband, love and support for me. So many paths in my life emulate yours, my parents were strong with an emphasis on who we would be as adults and not our looks. My looks today don't make me too sad. I remind myself that I had my day in the "sunlight of life" and enjoyed it. It's time for the younger generation to shine and they too will move to old age. Every little line in my face has it's own story and it's important to me for my grandchildren to appreciate who I am, not how I look.

Life is good and I don't want to spend it in front of a mirror or my boobs hanging out for everyone's inspection. I'll rethink this perspective when men start wearing cut out trousers or tights without underwear for pants.

 

[lulu_ma]

@Sunrises Sunsets just popping on to let you know that "boy" fashion is also bad. Teens in my children's high school often wear pajamas to school (girls and boys)!

 

[Sunrises Sunsets]

@Sunrises Sunsets just popping on to let you know that "boy" fashion is also bad. Teens in my children's high school often wear pajamas to school (girls and boys)!

Sad, isn't it? Our children are emulating the prison look where criminals pants fall because they can't have belts.

 

[Lookinagain]

@Sunrises Sunsets just popping on to let you know that "boy" fashion is also bad. Teens in my children's high school often wear pajamas to school (girls and boys)!

I hate that when I see it.