5 carat radiant yellow diamond

[derbygal]

Oh, iLander, that is lovely!

 

[missy]

Okay, I give, you twisted my arm, here's the thread with my halo from IDJ:

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Oh my gosh, that is just gorgeous iLander!!!
How did I miss your new ring? It is stunning!

Thank you for sharing this with me and wear in health and happiness!!!

 

[chrono]

Now that you've shared more details about what happened, it leaves me very uncomfortable as well that she arbitrarily increased it an additional $12K. I would not waste further time nor emotional stress dealing with this shop.

 

[smitcompton]

Hi Missy,

I want to point one thing out to you. IMO, if you decide you want to continue to pursue this diamond, you should address the price difference now. What will happen if you don't, you will get exactly the same type of reaction from her as you had. In her mind she is going to all this trouble thinking she is going to get the price she quoted. She's counting on it. After the GIA report comes in and you confront her about the web page price, I guarantee you she will make all sorts of excuses for the new price she quoted you. It was an over sight the price was not upped, diamond prices have gone up ect. This is a pschological response after believing she had her goal in sight. Crush her now, for if you wait, she will be rooted in that price. You want to negotiate from the lower price.


I love yellow diamonds. I really think the better value is in the larger diamonds. (I have no plans to buy one myself, just an observation)


Annette

 

[Rosebloom]

Who can you trust? GIA, PS, and yourself.

LOVE this!!

 

[LD]

Missy - she said in her email to you that sending the diamond to GIA won't make a difference to the price. Sooooooooooo what she's saying is that she's unlikely to negotiate based on the report. The only time the GIA grading comes into play is if it's graded lower than the seller has stated. At that point you have every right to back out of the sale OR re-negotiate. In the meantime .....

iLander hit the nail on the head - whomever is prepared to walk away will typically do better in a negotiation. Basically you've got to come up with a figure that you'd be happy to pay, then reduce it somewhat (not to a point that it's insulting but to a point where you feel you can move upwards from). If you're up front and tell her that you know she had it for sale for $[lower figure] and you start slightly lower than that, there's no more pretending. The ball is then in her court. If you feel uncomfortable doing this, then do it via email and do it BEFORE there's any more talk of sending it to the GIA. If you continue to talk about the GIA, get the stone sent off and THEN start to talk about the price, she'll probably see you as a time waster and won't be as receptive to your negotiations. In fact, if you wait for the report and it comes back as a better colour grade, you may have shot yourself in the foot! She clearly wants the sale so put yourself in the driving seat, all cards on the table and go from there.

 

[missy]

Now that you've shared more details about what happened, it leaves me very uncomfortable as well that she arbitrarily increased it an additional $12K. I would not waste further time nor emotional stress dealing with this shop.

Hi Chrono, thanks for sharing how you feel- I feel the same way. Very uncomfortable and not really wanting to do business with her. But, I do want to explore all my options right now and not make any hasty decisions. She knows I will not be ready to tell her if I want this ring for at least another 2 weeks as I told her that right away when we were looking. So I have time to let the quiet set in and allow my thoughts to clear to make the right decision for me. However, I will say that my first gut (and very likely last) reaction is not to do any (major) business with her. She is not the only person who sells amazing jewelry/diamonds.

Hi Missy,

I want to point one thing out to you. IMO, if you decide you want to continue to pursue this diamond, you should address the price difference now. What will happen if you don't, you will get exactly the same type of reaction from her as you had. In her mind she is going to all this trouble thinking she is going to get the price she quoted. She's counting on it. After the GIA report comes in and you confront her about the web page price, I guarantee you she will make all sorts of excuses for the new price she quoted you. It was an over sight the price was not upped, diamond prices have gone up ect. This is a pschological response after believing she had her goal in sight. Crush her now, for if you wait, she will be rooted in that price. You want to negotiate from the lower price.


I love yellow diamonds. I really think the better value is in the larger diamonds. (I have no plans to buy one myself, just an observation)


Annette

Thanks Annette. That's a good point and as soon as I decide I want this ring I will have a discussion with her about the price difference but until I decide I want it I don't want to waste my energy as it may be a moot point by then (if I decide not to pursue the ring with her). I agree though, as soon as I decide I want this ring I will start the uncomfortable confrontation about what she did and the negotiation process. I will not OK sending it to GIA until after we have a successful negotiation. Initially I was going to wait till the GIA cert came in to begin the negotiation but after thinking about it I realized that wasn't the best way to go about it. Especially since she emailed me that she wouldn't change the price because of the GIA results.

Missy - she said in her email to you that sending the diamond to GIA won't make a difference to the price. Sooooooooooo what she's saying is that she's unlikely to negotiate based on the report. The only time the GIA grading comes into play is if it's graded lower than the seller has stated. At that point you have every right to back out of the sale OR re-negotiate. In the meantime .....

iLander hit the nail on the head - whomever is prepared to walk away will typically do better in a negotiation. Basically you've got to come up with a figure that you'd be happy to pay, then reduce it somewhat (not to a point that it's insulting but to a point where you feel you can move upwards from). If you're up front and tell her that you know she had it for sale for $[lower figure] and you start slightly lower than that, there's no more pretending. The ball is then in her court. If you feel uncomfortable doing this, then do it via email and do it BEFORE there's any more talk of sending it to the GIA. If you continue to talk about the GIA, get the stone sent off and THEN start to talk about the price, she'll probably see you as a time waster and won't be as receptive to your negotiations. In fact, if you wait for the report and it comes back as a better colour grade, you may have shot yourself in the foot! She clearly wants the sale so put yourself in the driving seat, all cards on the table and go from there.

Thanks LD, that's great advice. I agree that it is best to negotiate before we send it to GIA and she is not sending it to GIA till I tell her to. She knows that it will be at least 2 weeks before I decide and is waiting for my decision. If I decide that I still want this ring after 2 weeks then I will call her (or email her I am too nervous to call but I know my dh thinks speaking to her in person or on the phone is much better than emailing) and discuss the internet price vs what she quoted me and see if we can begin a negotiation or if she is firm and in that case I will walk away. As I wrote before, there are many beautiful rings/diamonds out there and I am not worried to move on. But I want to keep all my options open and explore the possibilities. Though I am loathe to do business with her right now my dh sees it differently. He thinks she behaved unethically but he doesn't feel I should walk away yet as there may be some opportunity here worth exploring. It's funny because my dh is the most ethical person I know (and in fact worked with an ethics/education company for a number of years) but he doesn't expect everyone to be like him and is very realistic about salespeople in general.


ETA: I just want to add that I so appreciate hearing everyone's thoughts about this. One of the things that I love (there are so many) about PS is the honesty one can expect here and the collective attitude of PSers in wanting to help everyone. I welcome the honesty as it really allows me to make the best possible decision and want everyone to know how thankful I am that you are so willing to share your experiences and wisdom with me.

 

[missy]

Just to show you the difference in size with this ring and my ER...(please ignore the bulky prongs and shared eternity setting of my ER as if I keep this ring I will be resetting to a much more delicate ring). I just think the size of the yellow diamond ring looks so much better on my hand than my ER.
I love the beautiful yellow gold claw prongs on the yellow diamond.

 

[Rosebloom]

Well I love both rings on your hand! Your ering is stunning. Obviously you need both and have one for your rhr. Where oh where is that money tree?

 

[Deactivated member 42515]

Oh my!! I looooooove the look of a huge yellow diamond on you! Your finger has found it's soulmate!

 

[Laila619]

Well I love both rings on your hand! Your ering is stunning. Obviously you need both and have one for your rhr. Where oh where is that money tree?

Ditto! Your e-ring is certainly no slouch!

 

[LD]

Just to show you the difference in size with this ring and my ER...(please ignore the bulky prongs and shared eternity setting of my ER as if I keep this ring I will be resetting to a much more delicate ring). I just think the size of the yellow diamond ring looks so much better on my hand than my ER.
I love the beautiful yellow gold claw prongs on the yellow diamond.

Just read what you've written above - you LOVE this yellow ring. Don't hesitate, start the negotiations! Look at it this way, who cares if she increased the price by $12k so long as you pay the price she wanted before OR LESS!

 

[missy]

Well I love both rings on your hand! Your ering is stunning. Obviously you need both and have one for your rhr. Where oh where is that money tree?

LOL I couldn't agree more.
Sadly, I didn't win the megamillions so having both is not an option but I like the way you think!

Oh my!! I looooooove the look of a huge yellow diamond on you! Your finger has found it's soulmate!

Ooh, YT, you enabler you! Enerchi better watch out or you might become queen enabler around these parts lol.

Well I love both rings on your hand! Your ering is stunning. Obviously you need both and have one for your rhr. Where oh where is that money tree?

Ditto! Your e-ring is certainly no slouch!

Thanks Laila. I hope we can both figure out what is the best course of action for us. Sending you ****ring dust****!!!

Just to show you the difference in size with this ring and my ER...(please ignore the bulky prongs and shared eternity setting of my ER as if I keep this ring I will be resetting to a much more delicate ring). I just think the size of the yellow diamond ring looks so much better on my hand than my ER.
I love the beautiful yellow gold claw prongs on the yellow diamond.

Just read what you've written above - you LOVE this yellow ring. Don't hesitate, start the negotiations! Look at it this way, who cares if she increased the price by $12k so long as you pay the price she wanted before OR LESS!

Hi LD, I see your point and yeah, if I get it at the price I want then who cares but I just don't know if I want a yellow diamond for my ER and I also don't know how I feel about making such a major purchase with someone who has no problem lying to make a deal. I need time and perspective and I am not in a rush. If this ring is meant to be it will happen and if not there are plenty of other options. For once I am not going to be impulsive and I want to be as sure as I can be. After all, I love a lot of different rings...where oh where is that money tree for all of us...

 

[chrono]

In that case, you'll have to do a lot of internal thinking. Forget about the size. Imagine that the yellow diamond is the same size as your diamond ring. Yes, I know you want it BIG but I'm concerned that that is the only attraction to you and if that is the case, you'll end up dissatisfied with it in the long run.

What do you like about the yellow diamond? Is it the colour? The sparkle? The setting? If you are the type that must have everything matchy-matchy, will having a yellow ring "mess" up the colour coordination in your mind? Are you confident enough to pull off a yellow ring with a blue / green / red / purple / "insert colour here" outfit?

Let's talk about size now. The ring is huge, no mistaking that. Sure it looks great but does it fit into your lifestyle? Will you feel self conscious in your social circle? Will it get in the way of your normal daily routine? What I mean is that a bigger ring tends to get banged around more often, caught in pockets, etc.

You don't have to post your answer but these are points to consider.

 

[junebug17]

It looks so beautiful on your hand missy! It really is a gorgeous ring. I was going to agree with LD and say just start negotiating since you really do seem to love it. But then I read your other post and sounds like you are having some second thoughts, so very wise not to rush into anything! If it's meant to be, it will be. I don't think the ring is going anywhere any time soon! I had brought up the fact a few posts back how you'd feel about such a big change and giving up your MRB, and Chrono raised some other really good points and gave you some great food for thought.

Is is bad that there's a part of me that really, really wants you to get this ring though? I don't know, I just think the fact that you tried this baby on and seriously considered getting it is a testament to how much you love it. Can you tell I tend to be a bit impulsive too? I'm probably not helping right now! You are being very smart by taking your time and thinking this through, don't listen to me!

 

[missy]

In that case, you'll have to do a lot of internal thinking. Forget about the size. Imagine that the yellow diamond is the same size as your diamond ring. Yes, I know you want it BIG but I'm concerned that that is the only attraction to you and if that is the case, you'll end up dissatisfied with it in the long run.

What do you like about the yellow diamond? Is it the colour? The sparkle? The setting? If you are the type that must have everything matchy-matchy, will having a yellow ring "mess" up the colour coordination in your mind? Are you confident enough to pull off a yellow ring with a blue / green / red / purple / "insert colour here" outfit?

Let's talk about size now. The ring is huge, no mistaking that. Sure it looks great but does it fit into your lifestyle? Will you feel self conscious in your social circle? Will it get in the way of your normal daily routine? What I mean is that a bigger ring tends to get banged around more often, caught in pockets, etc.

You don't have to post your answer but these are points to consider.

Thanks Chrono. I have been asking myself these very questions. Well, not the size part. That I know I can carry off without any problem. What can I say? I'm a size ho and I know it! But I would never sacrifice quality for size. No way.

I don't mind posting my answers to your questions.

What do I like about the yellow diamond? All of the above. I love the color- reminds me of sunshine and happiness. I love the setting-it suits the shape perfectly. I don't love halos on round stones usually (for me) but I love them on cushions, emerald cuts and contrasting colored stones. Love a white diamond halo on a colored stone-the contrast is lovely.

I thought about how it would look with all my different wardrobe choices etc and I think it would be fine. The white of the colorless diamonds and the yellow of the canary diamond is almost a neutral to me and I cannot think where it wouldn't go. I don't like matchy matchy anyway though my ER and WB match (almost). (That seemed like a good idea at the time).

I would not feel self conscious in social circles but it might get in the way of my daily routine. The thing is my ER does that now. I catch it on stuff (I wear big gloves so I can fit it over my ring more easily) but I take my rings off (and all my jewelry) when I get home anyway so I don't think it would be a big problem. At work it would be fine. The hardest thing on my hands at work is all the hand washing I do but I always remove my rings anyway because I have very sensitive skin and I cannot leave any moisture on my hands after washing so I remove the rings wash, dry and moisturize and then put my rings on again. It's a pain because I wash about 15 or more times a day at work but it wouldn't be more of a pain with the yellow diamond.

Thanks for helping me formulate my thoughts Chrono- it's very helpful for me to actually write this all out.

It looks so beautiful on your hand missy! It really is a gorgeous ring. I was going to agree with LD and say just start negotiating since you really do seem to love it. But then I read your other post and sounds like you are having some second thoughts, so very wise not to rush into anything! If it's meant to be, it will be. I don't think the ring is going anywhere any time soon! I had brought up the fact a few posts back how you'd feel about such a big change and giving up your MRB, and Chrono raised some other really good points and gave you some great food for thought.

Is is bad that there's a part of me that really, really wants you to get this ring though? I don't know, I just think the fact that you tried this baby on and seriously considered getting it is a testament to how much you love it. Can you tell I tend to be a bit impulsive too? I'm probably not helping right now! You are being very smart by taking your time and thinking this through, don't listen to me!

LOL thanks Junebug. That's the biggest question I have. I am not sure. I really do love a colorless diamond. It's so beautiful in its own way. In an ideal world I could have many ERs because there are so many I would love to have. OEC, OMC, AVC, cushion, emerald, etc but since I can't I have to choose. And it really still is a big deal to me who I buy it from if I want to get a whole new ER vs keeping my engagement diamond and just changing my setting.

When I got home from work today I had a message on my answering machine from Toni (Park Jewelers-the antique/estate jewelry shop that sells antique jewelry but does not do any custom work) about her jewelry designer. When we were there Saturday
I was telling them I was dissatisfied with my setting and was thinking of either buying a whole new ER or changing the setting. Just to show you how amazing these women are at Park Jewelers Toni said I should keep my diamond because it is so beautiful and just have a custom setting made.

They do not make any money from this because if I go this route I am not looking to buy a ring from them but she told me what she thought would be best for me. How great is that? Anyway, their shop does not do custom work but they do business with a jeweler who they think does amazing work. Michael Epstein. But Toni wasn't sure if he was accepting any work at this time but she would ask him for me when she saw him at the Miami show. So when I got home tonight she had left a message on my machine telling me she called him and he would be willing to do a handmade cast ring for me.

Now I don't know him and haven't googled him yet as I just got home but maybe this is a sign that I should forget the yellow diamond ring at the other jewelry shop and explore Michael's work. I really trust and admire the women at this jewelry shop and we have known them for 15 years or so and they have the most exquisite taste so if they are recommending him I am guessing he does some amazing work.

So I haven't made up my mind for sure re the yellow diamond ring but this is an interesting development. Another reason I have been reluctant though to go the route of custom reset is because I have not been successful with this for my last 3 resets. The last one being 2006 when I decided it was too much money to reset again for a long time so I just lived with it (didn't hate it but don't love it and now disliking it more and more). Now that almost 7 years have passed since the last reset it might be time to try again. If I go this route I need help in deciding what I want because another reason I have been reluctant to do this is I just don't know! As I said I don't love halos on rounds for me so I cannot do that (oh how I love halos on other shapes and on colored stones though!). I know I don't want a plain solitaire as I need a little bling on the band and would probably want a micropave band but really not sure what setting would work best for me. That's sort of why I wanted to buy a ready to wear perfect ring because then I already know I love the outcome. Thanks for reading if you made it to this point. It's a lot to read and I cannot believe after all these years I am still indecisive.

 

[chrono]

All right then, how about this - imagine you have 2 radiant diamonds of the same size (really big) and both are equally well cut. Both are set in this same halo setting that you love. The only difference is that one is a yellow diamond and the other is a white / colourless diamond. Which one speaks more to you? Which one do you gravitate to? Which one is the MUST have?

 

[missy]

All right then, how about this - imagine you have 2 radiant diamonds of the same size (really big) and both are equally well cut. Both are set in this same halo setting that you love. The only difference is that one is a yellow diamond and the other is a white / colourless diamond. Which one speaks more to you? Which one do you gravitate to? Which one is the MUST have?

Good question Chrono! I wouldn't want a 5 carat colorless radiant because it's not my favorite cut for colorless diamonds but I love it for yellow diamonds. If money was no object though I would love a 5 carat OMC or AVC solitaire in a high color. That's not a possibility though so I am just trying to figure out what would make me happiest within reason. Thanks for helping me try to figure it out.

 

[chrono]

Missy,
I only chose a radiant because the yellow diamond is a radiant. Let's suppose it is an OMC or AVC then. Here's two different scenarios.

Supposing money is not an object:
5 ct OMC / AVC or a 5 ct radiant yellow diamond? Which would you choose and why?
Although this scenario is not realistic, it might help you decide if a yellow diamond is the right choice for your e-ring. It tests the strength of your love for colourless diamonds versus yellow diamonds.

Supposing a set budget of X dollars :
X ct OMC / AVC or 5 ct radiant yellow diamond? Which would you choose and why?
This scenario questions whether size is enough to sway on away from your favourite cut and colourless diamond long term. It also questions whether it is only the shape that bothers you. Perhaps you might not mind a smaller (2 or 3 ct) OMC / AVC because it's a shape and look you love.

 

[missy]

Missy,
I only chose a radiant because the yellow diamond is a radiant. Let's suppose it is an OMC or AVC then. Here's two different scenarios.

Supposing money is not an object:
5 ct OMC / AVC or a 5 ct radiant yellow diamond? Which would you choose and why?
Although this scenario is not realistic, it might help you decide if a yellow diamond is the right choice for your e-ring. It tests the strength of your love for colourless diamonds versus yellow diamonds.

Supposing a set budget of X dollars :
X ct OMC / AVC or 5 ct radiant yellow diamond? Which would you choose and why?
This scenario questions whether size is enough to sway on away from your favourite cut and colourless diamond long term. It also questions whether it is only the shape that bothers you. Perhaps you might not mind a smaller (2 or 3 ct) OMC / AVC because it's a shape and look you love.

Scenario 1: 5 ct OMC or AVC
I like colorless diamonds for an ER. I guess I answered your question and mine! Thanks Chrono (but I'm sorta sad too).

Scenario 2: depends on the stone's personality but leaning towards the 5 ct yellow because I wouldn't switch to a smaller OMC/AVC.

So, I think I have decided (though I have gone back and forth this week in my thinking regarding this) and I don't think I am changing my diamond. I think I will reset it. I am happy with my stone but not the setting. If money wasn't a limiting factor I would upgrade my diamond to a larger colorless (I am so color sensitive that in a larger diamond I think I would need an F color and that is cost prohibitive) and reset but since I just cannot bring myself to spend what I would need for that option I think a reset would be my next best choice. Oh well, I'm a bit sad but think this is the best option for me at this time. My dh is so sweet because he just wants me to love my ER and is willing to get me a huge honker if I want it but thankfully I have some sense (more than him when it comes to spending money!) and just cannot bring myself to spend that kind of $$$$. I do want us to retire someday!!

But, oh, would I love to have a gorgeous yellow diamond ring in addition to my ER...

Thanks for all your help Chrono. You really helped me make this decision. I think I might start a thread in rocky talk soon because I need a lot more help if I am resetting as I am just not sure what setting would work best with my current diamond.

 

[Rosebloom]

For some reason all day I kept thinking that while that yellow ring is amazing, I think you'd regret letting go of your beautiful ering stone. So I'm kind of happy to hear that you're giving it another shot! Before I had read your last post I was imagining a VC cushion shaped halo to change the shape a bit and give it an overall size boost or a LM three stone with pear sides to amp up your horizontal finger coverage and give you a totally different feel.

Maybe you should get a FY pendant? Have your sunshine and your white ering too!

 

[missy]

For some reason all day I kept thinking that while that yellow ring is amazing, I think you'd regret letting go of your beautiful ering stone. So I'm kind of happy to hear that you're giving it another shot! Before I had read your last post I was imagining a VC cushion shaped halo to change the shape a bit and give it an overall size boost or a LM three stone with pear sides to amp up your horizontal finger coverage and give you a totally different feel.

Maybe you should get a FY pendant? Have your sunshine and your white ering too!

Thanks Rosebloom. It's so sweet of you to be thinking of my ER dilemma and I appreciate all the creative thoughts I can get.

I am still in a bit of a funk right now. But I think it has to do with a number of things. For one, my mobile phone is having difficulty charging. What a huge pain in the you know what. I am so sick of having problems with these darn devices. And my macbook pro (which was just fixed for $300 plus) is once again not accepting a charge most of the time. I have to keep playing with the charger and the connection on whatever charger I use for it. I am seeing a definite trend here. I think my electrical aura is screwing around with all my devices. It's gotta be me right? I mean, no one else I know keeps having these problems with their technology devices. The thing is, I cannot stand to be without them and they are driving me batty when they don't work right and despite being proactive they keep not working right after a short while after being fixed. wah wah wah. I'm a huge baby. Exhausting to have to deal with this nonsense while trying to make my mind up about my ER which is just adding to my stress level. OK rant over.

I know I want to work with someone local on my ER reset because I need to have the ability to be there when I need to be and I do not want to mail my ring. I couldn't deal with that potential problem of sending it through the mail so that's off the table. That helps narrow it down. So, I can think of a few PS recommended vendors- Mark at ERD, Leon Mege, David at DBL, Steven Kirsch, and Yekutiel at IDJ. I don't want a halo because my diamond is round and I don't care for a halo on a round. And I am not sure how I feel about a cushion halo on it. And though I love 3 stones I am thinking I want to keep it a solitaire though that keeps the size as is. I really want to work with someone who is nice as I don't want any additional stress re personality. I also know I need to start a new thread on this.

Thanks Rosebloom!

 

[minousbijoux]

I am still in a bit of a funk right now. But I think it has to do with a number of things. For one, my mobile phone is having difficulty charging. What a huge pain in the you know what. I am so sick of having problems with these darn devices. And my macbook pro (which was just fixed for $300 plus) is once again not accepting a charge most of the time. I have to keep playing with the charger and the connection on whatever charger I use for it. I am seeing a definite trend here. I think my electrical aura is screwing around with all my devices. It's gotta be me right? I mean, no one else I know keeps having these problems with their technology devices. The thing is, I cannot stand to be without them and they are driving me batty when they don't work right and despite being proactive they keep not working right after a short while after being fixed. wah wah wah. I'm a huge baby. Exhausting to have to deal with this nonsense while trying to make my mind up about my ER which is just adding to my stress level. OK rant over.

I know I want to work with someone local on my ER reset because I need to have the ability to be there when I need to be and I do not want to mail my ring. I couldn't deal with that potential problem of sending it through the mail so that's off the table. That helps narrow it down. So, I can think of a few PS recommended vendors- Mark at ERD, Leon Mege, David at DBL, Steven Kirsch, and Yekutiel at IDJ. I don't want a halo because my diamond is round and I don't care for a halo on a round. And I am not sure how I feel about a cushion halo on it. And though I love 3 stones I am thinking I want to keep it a solitaire though that keeps the size as is. I really want to work with someone who is nice as I don't want any additional stress re personality. I also know I need to start a new thread on this.

Thanks Rosebloom!

Umm, Missy, really? really?!!! I know, not a great way to start, right? Anyway...

Have you stopped for second to consider that just a few months ago you went through a hugely traumatic ordeal, and a potentially life changing event (I'm specifically thinking about the upheaval to your Jersey shore home and community)? Try to cut yourself some slack. Really. I have found that after I go through something major (breast cancer, death of someone close, losing a job, serious trouble with one of my sons), things that normally would trouble me as an annoyance and real inconvenience have me thinking that I can't take much more; that the next thing that goes wrong/breaks/needs my attention in a negative way is going to cause me to crumble, and have me curling up in a fetal position sucking my thumb! I just feel like I can't take it AT ALL. Add that to the fact that, grrrrr, Apple totally knows that their charger connections are s__t (I mentioned in another thread recently that we've had 4 out of 3 break over the last year and a half) and its enough to cause serious frustration, if not drive you crazy! Hang in there, m'dear!

As for the yellow - yes, its very nice, and its way cool when you fall in love and buy something spontaneously. That said, if you really want a yellow, you can do better! It sounds like you've made the right decision for you, and some day soon, when you have completed your ER reset and rekindled your love affair for you ER stone, you'll be ready to move on to your BIG yellow RHR Hee hee

 

[missy]

Awww minous, thanks so much for cheering me up. You're right. It was a traumatic event for us and so many others and I have felt guilty about even talking about it to anyone because compared to so many people we were very fortunate. I am definitely not complaining about the damage because our house was left untouched basically. But you are right in that it was traumatizing and I am still jumpy when there is any mention of a storm. Not to mention that the Jersey shore will not be the same for a very long time if at all and I am so sad about that.

Anyway, I hope the mobile phone issue is fixed. The Verizon people said it needed a new battery so I bought their extended battery and we'll see. I really hope that matter is resolved for a while. As for the macbook problem, well, I'll deal with that another day. Their batteries do suck though!

Today is the anniversary of my dh's proposal to me and we celebrated by going to lunch at the restaurant he took me to the night before he proposed. It was lovely and he is so sweet because he insisted on taking me to the jewelry district afterwards so I could just look at some settings and get some ideas. It was spur of the moment and when we got there I called David from DBL to see if we could come visit and he was so gracious because he wasn't even in the office but said he could be there in 20 minutes. That was so nice of him.

It was a treat because I got to see that TDF yellow diamond cushion that he has for sale. I have to say it is so much more beautiful than the yellow radiant I saw last weekend in New Hope. No comparison! If only I could afford that ring I wouldn't mind giving up my ER diamond. I wouldn't miss it for a second! Sigh. I hope that a PSer buys it so it stays in the family. David's ring is even more beautiful in person than it is on the website which I did not think would be possible. My husband thought it was a gorgeous and well made. Sorry I didn't take any pictures. I was tired and obviously not in my right mind lol. That ring just wiped all thought from my brain while I was trying it on. It looked so perfect on my finger.

 

[chrono]

I'm glad your electronic issues are partially resolved. And very happy you got to see a high quality yellow FCD; once you've seen it, it's difficult to settle for something lesser. It is so sweet that your DH tried hard to cheer you up and he did good! Take your time and enjoy the research process on the right setting. It'll be very worth it!

 

[minousbijoux]

The more I hear about him, the more I'm liking this DH of yours Good man to take you out to lunch and off to setting shop!

 

[Rosebloom]

Happy proposal anniversary! What a fun trip to DBL!

It probably is a good idea to start a reset thread - people have the most amazing suggestions over on RT (including you!).

 

[Deactivated member 42515]

Happy anniversary!!! Congrats!

I'm so jealous you got to go to DBL and look at all the amazing bling!! If I could visit one store, it would be DBL to look at the amazing yellow and pink diamonds! Their website makes me drool so think about what will happen to me if I went to see it in person!

I wish you had taken pictures! But I'm glad you found something you love even if it may be out of budgets. But budgets are not set in stone! They can be stretched! Woo hoo to stretched budgets!!! Maybe we should open a charity for your new cushion do a little fundraiser

 

[Enerchi]

Happy Anniversary, Missy!!! And I'm so glad for you, that you got to meet David and get to see the GORGEOUS DBL items he has!! Isn't that ring amazing??? "Amazing" seems like not enough of a description for it - it is all that and so much more!! And when you see it on your hand --- oo lala!!! "MUST HAVE", right???? Ah...

so... and this is just how my brain works, your's has probably evolved to a much higher level than the 2 neuron's I own that only occasionally collide together.... - if it were me, and you've decided that you will keep and continue to enjoy your ering diamond, then reset it to what would make you happy. You keep the sentimental stone and get to enjoy something new - at far less of a financial investment than the 5ct radiant that started all of this.

NEXT - I'd get *A* new yellow stone that has caught your eye - but not from the B&M store you thought you had a good relationship with! For me, and I know I'm a big fan of DBL!, I'd create something with him - now that you've seen the workmanship IRL, you know what I mean about how well made they are! For me - a reset and a new yellow ring - that would cover my bases. uh huh... I could be pretty happy with that plan!

Good luck - but I'm very glad you have 'broken up' with your first store in New Hope. She was not an honest seller and it hurts when you discover that about someone.

 

[missy]

I'm glad your electronic issues are partially resolved. And very happy you got to see a high quality yellow FCD; once you've seen it, it's difficult to settle for something lesser. It is so sweet that your DH tried hard to cheer you up and he did good! Take your time and enjoy the research process on the right setting. It'll be very worth it!

Thanks Chrono! And yes, it really would be impossible to get that other yellow diamond ring now. David's is so much more beautiful!

The more I hear about him, the more I'm liking this DH of yours Good man to take you out to lunch and off to setting shop!

Aww, thank you minous! My dh is a good man. I guess I won't "reset" him lol. I just hope he won't want to upgrade me after all of this haha.

Happy proposal anniversary! What a fun trip to DBL!

It probably is a good idea to start a reset thread - people have the most amazing suggestions over on RT (including you!).

Thanks Rosebloom! I discussed this with David and we just started on some ideas but I guess I am so unsure because I am not sure this will satiate my desires. (ie desire for a huge honker lol).

Happy Anniversary, Missy!!! And I'm so glad for you, that you got to meet David and get to see the GORGEOUS DBL items he has!! Isn't that ring amazing??? "Amazing" seems like not enough of a description for it - it is all that and so much more!! And when you see it on your hand --- oo lala!!! "MUST HAVE", right???? Ah...

so... and this is just how my brain works, your's has probably evolved to a much higher level than the 2 neuron's I own that only occasionally collide together.... - if it were me, and you've decided that you will keep and continue to enjoy your ering diamond, then reset it to what would make you happy. You keep the sentimental stone and get to enjoy something new - at far less of a financial investment than the 5ct radiant that started all of this.

NEXT - I'd get *A* new yellow stone that has caught your eye - but not from the B&M store you thought you had a good relationship with! For me, and I know I'm a big fan of DBL!, I'd create something with him - now that you've seen the workmanship IRL, you know what I mean about how well made they are! For me - a reset and a new yellow ring - that would cover my bases. uh huh... I could be pretty happy with that plan!

Good luck - but I'm very glad you have 'broken up' with your first store in New Hope. She was not an honest seller and it hurts when you discover that about someone.

Thanks Enerchi! The thing is, I cannot stop thinking about that uber-amazing (is that better lol) DBL ring. Why oh why can't we be rich in money?? I am so lucky in that I truly am rich in love (my dh is more than an uber-amazing husband for sure!) but I am in love with that ring!!! You are so right in that it is a "MUST HAVE" Owning a yellow diamond will not satiate my need for that ring sadly. Sigh. I have to come to terms with reality though and resetting my current diamond is the best choice for me at this time. If I could afford David's ring though it would have satiated my need for an ER and a yellow diamond.

Happy anniversary!!! Congrats!

I'm so jealous you got to go to DBL and look at all the amazing bling!! If I could visit one store, it would be DBL to look at the amazing yellow and pink diamonds! Their website makes me drool so think about what will happen to me if I went to see it in person!

I wish you had taken pictures! But I'm glad you found something you love even if it may be out of budgets. But budgets are not set in stone! They can be stretched! Woo hoo to stretched budgets!!! Maybe we should open a charity for your new cushion do a little fundraiser

Oh YT, I am so sorry I didn't take pics. I was so exhausted when we went (it was a totally spur of the moment decision) and David was so gracious to meet us with no warning that I just didn't want to take up too much of his time (it was the end of the day). I will be back and if the ring is still there I will ask David if I can take pics. But I would be surprised if that ring will still be there because somebody with a big budget will snap that up for sure!

As for stretching budgets well, unfortunately it cannot be stretched that far. It sort of makes me ill when I think of all the money I have wasted in resets etc.

YT- come to NYC and we'll visit DBL with Enerchi and Circe too! It would be great! Think about a trip here. I think Enerchi is coming to NYC in April so maybe you can swing it too?