angry...

[Tacori E-ring]

Date: 10/2/2007 2:35:16 PM
Author: decodelighted

Date: 10/2/2007 2:32:02 PM

Author: TravelingGal

Date: 10/2/2007 2:27:53 PM

Author: decodelighted

''That baby is OVERDUE. Get OUT OF MY BELLY ALREADY you big stubborn BABY!!!!!''

Deco, these are valid feelings.

Absolutely valid! Arguably unconstructive, ultimately futile & maddening ... but VALID!

Hey now unless you have been there that is not fair Deco! Then again I am not sure if waiting for baby is harder than waiting for an e-ring (when you know it is coming). But it will be worth it in the end. I think most guys *really* do want to make it special. Perfect proposals take time and planning. I am sure it will happen soon!

 

[nebe]

<--- has

days.

But for the most part I''m just bleh about it.

It''ll come.

 

[mthebee]

Angry, crazy, anxious, nervous. THat''s pretty much how I feel all the time about the impending engagement. I''m SO READY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!I can''t wait, it''s killing me to sit back and watch my other friends get engaged, married and get pregnant and I''m just waiting and waiting and waiting.

 

[kellybelly]

the BF is really ready to kill me. i know the ring is coming, likely before christmas, but occasionally i will send him a text message that says something like "my left hand is naked" or "twinkle twinkle" and then he gets all mad. he says i''m hurting him by bringing it up, by having no patience. people nowadays never have to wait for anything, so used to thinking "ooh, i want that" and then just going out and getting it, so it''s no wonder that him dragging this out for months has driven me to the brink of insanity. let me just say that the damn thing better be PER-FECT when it show ups, after waiting all this time. i should tell him i have a really awesome tv for him...and then make him wait 6 months for it. ha!

 

[Independent Gal]

Hmmm... while I understand the frustration, I have to say that I would be pretty hurt and angry if I were your bf too. If you were saying ''Honey! I can''t wait to be your fiance! I can''t wait to be your wife!'' I could see him being touched and excited to give you the ring. But the ring is a present. It is a HUGE and expensive gift, and when you say things like that, I hate to say it, but it does make you sound a little bit spoiled, a little like a little kid stamping her foot and saying ''WHERE''S MY PRESENT!!!??? I WANT MY PRESENT!!''

I would feel totally upset by that too if I were him, and wonder if it was me you wanted, or the diamond.

Know what I mean?

So maybe some catch-up in the form of ''It''s not the ring honey! It''s that I can''t wait to promise myself to YOU YOU YOU!'' might help.

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 11/1/2007 1:28:23 PM
Author: kellybelly
the BF is really ready to kill me. i know the ring is coming, likely before christmas, but occasionally i will send him a text message that says something like ''my left hand is naked'' or ''twinkle twinkle'' and then he gets all mad. he says i''m hurting him by bringing it up, by having no patience. people nowadays never have to wait for anything, so used to thinking ''ooh, i want that'' and then just going out and getting it, so it''s no wonder that him dragging this out for months has driven me to the brink of insanity. let me just say that the damn thing better be PER-FECT when it show ups, after waiting all this time. i should tell him i have a really awesome tv for him...and then make him wait 6 months for it. ha!

I know you''re being a bit tongue in cheek, but...

 

[decodelighted]

Date: 11/1/2007 1:28:23 PM
Author: kellybelly
people nowadays never have to wait for anything, so used to thinking ''ooh, i want that'' and then just going out and getting it, so it''s no wonder that him dragging this out for months has driven me to the brink of insanity.

people nowadays are also expecting the gov''t to bail them out for their impulsive house purchases made with risky loans & 110% financing & all sorts of shenanigans. And racking up record credit card debt indulging their every whim. Learning to wait patiently & delay gratification might be the best but hardest lesson to date.

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 11/1/2007 2:23:54 PM
Author: decodelighted

Date: 11/1/2007 1:28:23 PM
Author: kellybelly
people nowadays never have to wait for anything, so used to thinking ''ooh, i want that'' and then just going out and getting it, so it''s no wonder that him dragging this out for months has driven me to the brink of insanity.

people nowadays are also expecting the gov''t to bail them out for their impulsive house purchases made with risky loans & 110% financing & all sorts of shenanigans. And racking up record credit card debt indulging their every whim. Learning to wait patiently & delay gratification might be the best but hardest lesson to date.

Oh my god Deco, don''t get me started on that! I''ve been watching the housing market here is So Cal very closely since last August and all this government bail out talk steams me. I''d like to buy a ferrari and have the government pay for that...why not? I deserve it.

There was a couple here in Cal who was in the news. Combined income of 80K and they bought a 700K house, which is now being foreclosed. They had 35K in debt and 2 car payments of 500 each. They blame the mortgage folks. Hello???? Can you do the math here?

I told ya not to get me started.

 

[kellybelly]

see thats where i think it should be obvious to him that the engagement is what i''m looking foward to, not the ring. but the whole process can''t start without the proposal, so i''m stuck for the moment.

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 11/1/2007 3:10:23 PM
Author: kellybelly
see thats where i think it should be obvious to him that the engagement is what i''m looking foward to, not the ring. but the whole process can''t start without the proposal, so i''m stuck for the moment.

You''re in for a long road of frustration if you think things should be obvious to your man. Lots of men are thick as pig''s sh*t. For that matter, so are women.

As an English major, I have to say, words matter (something that TGuy is learning to understand with me.) "Bling bling, gimme the ring!" is quite different from "Woo hoo, wanna marry you!" IMHO.

 

[WeightLifterChick]

Date: 11/1/2007 3:15:00 PM
Author: TravelingGal

You're in for a long road of frustration if you think things should be obvious to your man. Lots of men are thick as pig's sh*t. For that matter, so are women.

As an English major, I have to say, words matter (something that TGuy is learning to understand with me.) 'Bling bling, gimme the ring!' is quite different from 'Woo hoo, wanna marry you!' IMHO.

LOL!

Cute. Words do matter, I agree.


I don't really get angry - after all, I have a wonderful guy who loves me, and I love him. I'm in a great, committed relationship. We both have good jobs, we're financially stable, have wonderful families who are very happy we've been together for so long, etc. Engagement and eventually marriage would be the icing on the cake

But I do admit that ever since this LIW-fever has hit me, I have been a bit frustrated/anxious sometimes. It drives me nuts thinking about it, but that's when I try to focus on what I do have, instead of what I don't