Appropriate to wear black at weddings?

[ForteKitty]

Date: 4/4/2005 3:28:54 PM
Author: ammayernyc
NO FLIP FLOPS!!!

hahahahahahah... i was just kidding!!!

But what if the flip flops have diamonds on it???

 

[moremoremore]

Yes yes yes. No matter what type of function. No matter what time of day. No matter what. Black is always a-ok. In fact, I love black so much, my own bridesmaid''s wore black! Wish I could have LOL

 

[moremoremore]

HA! Well, I''ve seen those...they are like thong sandals with sparkles! They are cute.
I say black shoes....

 

[moremoremore]

! I just don''t see how these would stay on.

 

[jaysonsmom]

Date: 4/4/2005 1:32:18 PM
Author: ForteKitty

Date: 4/4/2005 1:20

9 PM
Author: lizzyd


There''s protocol, and then there''s style, and the two don''t always meet. How formal is the wedding? How traditional are the bride''s parent''s? Go with your gut, but I''m sure they''d rather have you there in black than break the bank to have to buy something in a different color just so you feel you can attend.

LizzyD

They didn''t mention how formal it is, and they''re Asian, so as long as i don''t wear red i should be fine. I do have a nice pink dress, but finding shoes to match gave me an even bigger headache, so i just decided to wear black.

Are you kidding me? If they are Asian, wearing bright RED is more appropriate than black. I guess it depends if they are americanized Asians, or still really traditional. "I: personally wouldn''t be caught dead in black or white at an Asian wedding. Bright colors are a symbol of happiness. Black or white are reserved for funerals.

 

[ForteKitty]

I dunno about that... i thought red was reserved for the bride/bride''s mother? Besides, her bridesmaids are in dark red, so I don''t wanna blend in with them!

 

[ForteKitty]

Oh, and it''s not exactly traditional Asian... there''s no Asian food and it''s on a yacht!

 

[ForteKitty]

Date: 4/4/2005 4:55:47 PM
Author: moremoremore
! I just don''t see how these would stay on.

I dunno how they would stay on either... tried on a pair of those once and nearly killed myself cuz it kept falling off! and they look painful too!

 

[jaysonsmom]

Well, nowadays, the bride wears traditional white wedding dresses and not red, so you wouldn''t be stealing the limelight if you wore some shade of red (burgundy, pink, fushia etc). You''re right in that it''s definitely not a traditional Asian type wedding, but will there be older people there? I know that people from my parent''s generation would be so upset if they saw guests wearing black or white at a wedding. If you already have a nice black dress, and nothing else, then wear it by all means, but wear lots of bright colored acessories!

OT: I''ve had my dad pull white scrunchies out of my hair because wearing white hair accessories is a no no. It symbolizes death. Call me supersitious, but ever since my parents told me that, I''ve never worn another "white" object in my hair, and I don''t want to upset the older folks KWIM?

 

[ForteKitty]

Hmmph... the bride's Taiwanese, so I'm guessing her family might be slightly superstitious. The groom's Malaysian so i don't know. Maybe I should wear the pink dress. But that means i need to find stupid shoes to match! Okay, maybe i should just take pictures of the dress and you guys can tell me what kind of shoes to get.

BTW, my grandpa did the same thing to my white scrunchy!

 

[belle]

Okay, maybe i should just take pictures of the dress and you guys can tell me what kind of shoes to get.

yes! let''s see the pink dress. pink=spring. pink is good.

 

[researcher]

I think that, as long as the bridesmaids are not in black, you''re good to go! I had a friend who recently wore a little black dress to a wedding where the bridesmaids were wearing little black dresses, and it was really embarrassing for her because everyone kept asking her why she wasn''t at the head table or taking photos with the other bridesmaids. Not good. But, it sounds as though you''ll be fine, and the addition of a wrap is smart!

 

[Dancing Fire]

FK
yep....just to be safe (asian wedding) wear the pink dress.

 

[ForteKitty]

Date: 4/4/2005 7:17

6 PM
Author: Dancing Fire
FK
yep....just to be safe (asian wedding) wear the pink dress.

Man.. but i''ll look like a cupcake!

 

[belle]

let''s see that dress cupcake!!

 

[ForteKitty]

alright, alright... i''ll take a picture of the cupcake dress when i get home.

 

[jaysonsmom]

you don''t have to get matching "pink" strappy shoes for the dress, you could always buy something that will go with several outfits...such as: nude strappies, silver strappies, even clear acrylic-type sandals.

 

[ForteKitty]

i tried all those colors already but none of them looked right. The closest one that looked good was an ivory pair, but then i looked like Easter.

 

[lizzyd]

what about black patent leather strappies with a little matching clutch? Or, bone colored faux alligator close-toed sling-bacls?

 

[Minny]

Can you ask the bride (or groom) whether wearing black would be offensive to them or their relatives? I think that would be the only reason to second-guess your outfit (I think it sounds great). Like many of the above posters, I am originally from NY and would not hesitate to wear black to a wedding! Plus I went to an Asian wedding a few weeks ago (Bride - Japanese, Groom - Malaysian) and I''m pretty sure I remember people wearing black........but I''m not positive! Should have taken pictures!

Good luck with your decision!

 

[ForteKitty]

tried that as well... not patent, just leather.... but it was too dark for the dress. Nude looked good with the dress, but it looked terrible on my feet. Almost like i had no shoes on, in a bad way. Nothing but black shoes and bright powder blue flip flops look good on my feet.

 

[windy1365]

I wore a black dress to the last wedding that I went to. The black dress fit in perfectly.

My fiancee''s aunt called me the other day wanting to know if she could wear a black cocktail dress... so I guess it is common. Probably more black dresses at weddings now than at funerals.

 

[ame]

Date: 4/4/2005 12:27:14 PM
Author:ForteKitty
I''m going to a wedding on a yacht in Newport Beach. It''s at the end of April. Can I wear a black strapless dress with a light colored cardigan or wrap? All my spring dresses are too beach casual looking.

Thanks!

I don''t see why not. Black isn''t a bad color anymore. As long as you don''t wear white or anything that steals the bride''s thunder I don''t think it matters.

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 4/4/2005 8

3:41 PM
Author: ForteKitty
tried that as well... not patent, just leather.... but it was too dark for the dress. Nude looked good with the dress, but it looked terrible on my feet. Almost like i had no shoes on, in a bad way. Nothing but black shoes and bright powder blue flip flops look good on my feet.

FK
how about this leather combo?

http://store1.yimg.com/I/alamo_1837_9928391

 

[belle]

 

[kaylagee]

As far I understand, yes - as long as it's broken up with a touch of color(accessories, embroidery, beading, trim).

 

[ForteKitty]

DF~ I said i was attending the wedding, not the bachelor party.

 

[ForteKitty]

okay, here''s the cupcake dress... for some reason it looks terrible on camera. Those roses do not pop out like that! Maybe it''s a sign that I shouldn''t wear it. hehe.
Anyway, it''s not as bright in real life, and is very fitted yet flowy... not frumpy!

 

[ForteKitty]

Here''s what I want to wear:

 

[kaylagee]

I love the black dress...these scarf/wrap looks might be too old:

http://www.saksfifthavenue.com/main/ProductDetail.jsp?PRODUCT%3C%3Eprd_id=4060553&FOLDER%3C%3Efolder_id=4128861&ASSORTMENT%3C%3East_id=41385&bmUID=1112679618906&DCLKSLOT=13

http://store.nordstrom.com/product/product.asp?styleid=2852290&category=2376779~2376805~2376807~2384812&PrevStyleID=2852292&NextStyleID=2852288

http://www.neimanmarcus.com:80/store/catalog/prod.jhtml?itemId=prod14610676&parentId=cat000282&masterId=cat2830735&index=32&cmCat=

What's also nice is an embroidered 'piano' shawl. they're large fringed triangles that can be worn tied at the waist or over the shoulders. If I can find one, I'll post it.