Calling all the Pregnant PS''ers

[LitigatorChick]

Morning all. I see my "whatever" post has caused a few comments so to say. The point I was simply making by the blunt statement was that I didn''t want to argue, but I didn''t agree (I guess I could have typed that - it was more of a "whatevahhh" in any event). In fact, I was quite hurt by Gemma''s initial post, and I know that she didn''t mean it, but I found it very hurtful. To be attacked after posting in what I thought was a very balanced and fair manner was rather unnecessary IMO. Whatever........

 

[Jas12]

Just had to pop in to say i luv the new baby/belly pics

Bobo--for a sick baby, little B is sure looking cute, glad the fever broke!

Tgal--lol--beautiful boogie girl Amelia is changing with each pic i see and i honestly think that if i didn''t know the ethnicity of you or Tguy i would assume she has an asian parent(s)--i totally see it. She has gorgeous eyelashes now! Cohen''s are finally visible and really long however they are pretty much see-thru they are so light.


Eph and Snell--u guys are hot momma''s to be! I can''t believe i am gonna type this but i acutally miss my belly a bit after seeing yours...just a teeny tiny bit (and only the 20ish week belly!) I just looked back on 23 wk pic i posted on here and it seems SO long ago

......
Had to attend a work function last night. I had to go present an award to one of my students at the school''s year-end banquet and that meant getting dressed up--too much effort for a 30 second award presentation. The worst part--i felt scrutinized by my co-workers, i could feel the whole ''look up, look down'' check-out the post-baby body scan--ick. At least i got out of the house and had some adult conversation for an hour.

Q--how long will it take for the linea nigra to fade away? I was trying on my bikini yesterday and it looks ridiculous, a wobbly little path down my wobbly little belly

 

[ephemery1]

Yay for a belly pic from Snlee!! You are TOTALLY one of those pregnant ladies that people see on the street and go, "awwwwww". Cute and perfect.

Kaleigh - You are so sweet! Although I hope that doesn't mean I'm actually having a boy, or he's going to have a REALLY unique wardrobe... ha. But I've seen your pic (somewhere in an Angello thread, I think?) and if I look anything like you in 15 years, I'll be thrilled!

TG - LOL at the mom jeans and "overhang" image... I say the hidden scar is nature's way of forcing you to worry about one thing at a time. It's only been 2 months! I can't believe you're already doing SS workouts... that makes me tired just thinking about it, and I'm not the one with a newborn.

Diver - You were a gorgeous pregnant girl, I've seen the pix. And keep in mind my preggo body is only 23 weeks along and angled flatteringly behind the camera lens... give me a couple more months and we'll see how eager I am about posting a pic.

SO glad you've found some strength/relief in the books about BPD. Borderline is a nasty, manipulative, unforgiving illness and I can't imagine being raised by a parent with it. Let go of ANY remaining guilt you've got... you don't deserve it, and almost as importantly, your kiddos deserve a happy, guilt-free mommy.

Kay - Sounds like we're all going through the same DH-time concerns... that makes me feel so much better. My DH is definitely the environmentalist of the 2 of us, but he is wary of the cloth diaper mess too... he's gone along with the idea so far though, because he knows I'll call him out for being a hypocrite.

I looked into G Diapers briefly but the cost seems so high... and some people (online) seem to find the others are just as easy after getting the hang of them. Keep me posted if you learn any other good info. Oh and definitely post a belly pic when you can!

Jas12 - This is definitely the "honeymoon" phase as far as my belly goes, I'm sure! I'm anticipating all downhill from here.

Keep in mind I barely ate for the first 4 months... now I'm definitely making up for lost time. You are brave to get dressed up for your work function! I keep thinking that Lyla will be less than 2 months old by the time all the holiday parties/events roll around this year, ugh. Seems like a lot of unnecessary stress.

Well DH is away for a few days and I have the day off, so I'm off to organize closets... yay.

I love everything about our apartment, except for the constant struggle to find places for everything. I can get rid of bags and bags and bags of stuff, and still have NO spare room for essentials. But I will persevere! And reward myself with lunch in the park.

 

[DivaDiamond007]

Ohhhh the baby pics here are sooo cute. PS''ers do have the best genes! DH and I think we''re going to have a blondie. I''m blonde and he was as a child. I have blue eyes and his are brown so only time will tell there. It''s so exciting!

I don''t think I can commit to putting up a belly shot after Eph and Snlee posted their tiny bellies

. Mine is HUGE these days and growing every day

7 more weeks to go! Seriously, you both look really good!

I don''t remember what week I started feeling movement without going back in this thread but I do think it was around 18-20 weeks. At first it felt like gas or bubbles and then got stronger. For a few weeks the baby had a lot of room to move around so I would feel punches, kicks and rolls all the time. Not painful at alll, but def. interesting. Now, at 34 weeks, the baby doesn''t have much room so I feel a lot of squiggles and hiccups. The baby is head-down and it''s feet/knees are up in my ribcage (ouch) and sometimes we can see a little knee slide across the top of my belly. DH will poke at it and it will move. It also moves a lot when DH talks to it or rubs my belly with lotion. I really like to feel the movement even if it keeps me up at night.

My mom and I went out and bought a crib yesterday and I should have it in about a week. It''s really pretty; I''ll post some pics of the nursery-in-progress soon. DH just got done painting it yesterday.

My doc appt yesterday was good. Clarified some info on the GD and will meet with the nutritionist as soon as they call me to schedule the appt. I''m up to 140 lbs.

Baby''s heartrate was good and I''m measuring right on track for my July 25 due date.

Jess

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Jas12, I still have my linea nigra (T is 7 months). It *is* lighter but still there and ugly! My friend said it took 9 months for her''s to go.

emp & snlee, I am SOOOO jealous! You two are little, cute, lovely preggos. I was a monster!

Paying for it now though! (But I did go to the gym 3 times this week. Yay me!)

TGal, no I am lazy. I was going to make my own but we have a TINY freezer so I just bought them. I feel kind of bad but then remind myself I am not super woman. She likes all the stage 1 (though a few took a few times like peas and carrots). She LOVES prunes (I save them for when she is backed up) pears and sweet potatoes. She moans when she eats. Too cute! Another thing, they change SO much I feel like T looks completely different than she did at 2 months.

 

[Burk]

So many adorable babies....made my morning to see all the beautiful pics!!

Diver~Delaney is such a doll. I don''t blame you at all for letting her sleep with you.

Tacori~Sorry about the recall on the storage bins. I agree....better safe than sorry.

Jas~Giggles are soooo fun! Glad Cohen is napping better. My linea nigra is still there (T is almost 5 months).

It has faded a lot and isn''t really too noticable (I still wear a bikini to the pool) but it''s there.

Tgal~Amelia is changing so much. So cute!

Bobo~Little B is a doll! Glad he''s getting better.

Eph~You are so cute! All belly!

Snlee~you too! Cute belly! WOw, we have us some adorable preggo''s.

Diva~Please post a belly shot! We wanna see! Glad eveything is going good and your due date is right around the corner!! oh, and post pics of the crib when you get it!

We had ANOTHER tornado touch down in our area last night. I had to go get T out of her crib (tornado siren went off at around 7:30) so we could go to the basement. She woke up and played for the first hour we were down there. Then went back down in my arms. I didn''t want to put her back in her crib. I just wanted to cuddle....but my little brother called and he and some friends were in town for a football camp and they couldn''t make it home due to the weather so they came over and hung out. There are flash floods, power lines down, ect. We have had a crazy amount of storms this year.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Burk, scary about the storms! Glad you are all okay. Can I just say how much I hate y''all that are wearing bikinis! I am such a cow. I feel uncomfortable in my flattering ONE piece!

 

[janinegirly]

Hi all, Love all the pics, especiallly the belly ones so I can compare mine! (hehe) Mine is not as cute as some of these though!!

I''m also trying to prepare our little apt -- so I can relate eph. I went through the closets, under the bed..and for some reason DH has empty boxes stored everywhere! I always ask if he needs them and he says he needs to check--so there are all these empty boxes out in in our apt! Plus the stroller which is our first purchase. Ugh, can''t wait till things are cleaned out so it looks neater.

Somedays I don''t think DH understands why I''m in frantic clean out mode..he thinks we have so much time! I just know what we need to buy and granted we don''t need it today, but I won''t have as much energy at 8-9 mo''s in August. Plus it helps the budget to break purchases up. I think DH is getting a bit stressed, but then I''m having a hard time being sympathetic b/c I have things to do and I''m doing most of it anyway! (all the purchases/research).

Anyhoo, thanks for letting me vent a bit . Despite all that I do wonder if it''lll be tough with less quiet "just us" moments as some of you mentioned--especially since we''re still newlyweds. I''m also the kind of person who likes alone/quiet time, so this will be interesting! I''m excited of course but a bit nervous too!

So that''s my update this week, sorry I''ve fallen behind on the thread so don''t have more personal notes, but I have read them all and looked at each baby pic!!!! Keep ''em coming

Curly: don''t lurk too long

 

[pavelover]

Hi You guys(well ladies)! I haven''t posted for sooo long that I feel like I could never "catch up"- so I guess that''s ok. The pics of all of your babies are totally adorable. I don''t want to leave anyone out- but way back a few days I remember seeing Mrs Salvo''s Jake, Divers D, and then of course Tacoris T( I like all this alliteration) and who else- Lilis baby, Bobo''s , LC''s birthday boy, Tgals Amelia- I looked back to p 292- probably not far enough, but sorry if I missed anyone.

And then the baby bellys- so cute. The ones I can remember right now are snlee and ephemery- Neatfreak, when are you gonna post a belly pic? I know you have two and I only have one- but I am curious what your tummy is doing? People have been commenting this week- I thought I looked bigger to but then I thought I was imagining it? I already had a nice little belly pre-pregnancy so I don''t know how much of a difference that makes? I have a small torso/frame and I read in one book that that can contribute to showing earlier- but how do you know if it''s baby belly or just fat? I don''t think I have gained any weight yet. Ok enough about that.

Tacori- thanks for the recall notices, even though I don''t have anything yet- It makes you think how careful you have to be, wow.

Bobo- sorry little b was sick after the shots. Is he feeling better?

Kay I hope your placenta cooperates- I also hope you get to make your trip as scheduled- fingers crossed.

Ok so I just read the most recent post- from Janine girly- and this getting ready has been on my mind- I am curious if you guys have experienced anything similar? My DH- good guy, responsible, caring, etc. But the 2nd bedroom where the baby will go eventually- it is chock full of all his stuff. I was trying to kind of ease him into the idea that htings are going to have to be moved, pared down, etc and he wasn''t really biting. My therapist told me to try being more direct- so I told him I wanted to talk about the baby''s room- had a plan in my head- I will make room for him in my closet, dresser drawers- ask him to move 1/2 of his clothes becasue the closet is huge and baby won''t need all of it, and he has alot of stuff- he says- "I don''t want to talk about it". I try again - nope doesn''t want to- I''m getting pissed

haha I always wanted to use that flame thing. I went to bed and we never talked about it but what the heck? This baby is coming and eventually we are gonna have to make room. I don''t know if he is in denial or what- he seems really happy about the pregnancy, but like he just doesn''t get it? Ugggh. Can anyone relate? any advice? Right now I want to just throw his stuff out the window,lol.
Thanks for listening!! Sorry for my vent.

 

[ephemery1]

I know I''m supposed to be cleaning, but Pave I just had to respond to your post. I sooooooo understand what you''re dealing with, with your DH. Mine is this wonderful, laidback, fantastic guy 99% of the time... but his fatal flaw is that he is SO laidback, that sometimes I feel like nothing EVER gets done without a battle. In his mind, there is always plenty of time later... everything can be put off until tomorrow, "what''s the rush", etc. And he is perfectly content living with boxes of half-sorted things strewn about. But in my mind, when I want something done, I want it done now! Before I lose motivation.

Eventually I discovered that part of the reason for this is because he gets overwhelmed really easily by "big" tasks. I''ll have an elaborate vision of how I want everything to be, but it''s harder for him to visualize the end result, so he assumes it''s impossible and doesn''t even want to bother trying. Is there any way that you could simplify the process for him? Maybe start by clearing the space for him in your closets/drawers, then laying out all his stuff that needs to be sorted... and going through it with him, one item at a time?

Our situation was the reverse... I moved into his apartment when we got married last year, so he had years of junk stuffed in all the closets while my things were still sitting in boxes. We did a huge closet overhaul a couple weeks ago and he was a pouty baby for the first few hours... until I stopped trying to reason with him, and just started assigning him tasks as we went along. He did great as soon as I broke everything down: "Do you really need this rally towel from the Flyers play-offs 6 years ago? No? Donate or trash..." (Having 3 distinct "Keep", "Donate", and "Trash" piles worked well.)

After making a final run out to the dumpster at the end of the day, he came back upstairs and looked at me very sincerely and said, "I''m sorry I was a whiny little bitch." That''s how I knew there was hope for him yet.

 

[pavelover]

Awww Ephem thank you so much! Really helpful post with great ideas. My husband and I - we are both kind of sloppy- stuff just piles up and gets ahead of us. I am actually the one who tends to get overwhelmed- but I guess I feel the urgency to get things going more than he does. I am so glad to hear that others experienced something similar. It is really hard to meld all of our "stuff" together- my husband moved into my 2 br place from a 5 br house- yikes. It''s a long story but basically I really wanted to be here anyway cause it''s a great neighborhood/downtown parks etc within walking distance which I think will really be a bonus when the baby comes.
I really love your idea of just getting started and making the room first- I know(well I think) he will feel better when he sees that I am making room/sacrifices- going through stuff too. I am going to start today and hope for the best!!!
I hope your cleaning is going well- keep giving yourself some breaks on PS. I think it makes cleaning much more bearable.
BTw I grew up in Philadelphia(overbrook) and I love reading your posts, especially when you talk about my city,hehe. I didn''t spend a huge amount of time downtown but did have relatives in headhouse square area so we went there a good amount when I was young. I also worked at CHOP -that''s not exactly downtown though I guess. I forget if you grew up nearby Philadelphia?

 

[TravelingGal]

Tacori, if you''re a cow, I''m a full on RODEO!

I''ll probably buy the stage one foods too, as well as try to make some. It''s the meats that kind of wig me out...so I may try to make those. Let us know how stage 2 is going!

Ephemery, I actually felt great about a week after my c-section. I would say that I was at about 85% then. A few days out of the hospital, I took the BOB and Amelia for a walk (you know how I was dying to use the stroller!). But walks are one thing, full blown workouts are another! I feel pretty decent, but sit ups can cause a bit of a tweaked pain in my abs once in a while...reminds me that I did indeed get cut open. Good luck with the cleaning!

Diva, glad to hear things are going well...let us know how it goes with the nutritionist.

Jas, I still have mine...but it''s definitely fading. But trust me, it''s not the linea negra that is stopping me from putting on my bikini!

Burk, wow...that sounds scary. Living in Ca, we just have none of that. If the earth shakes for us, it shakes. Scary, but it''s quick and if you''re alive after that, you''re good to go!

Janine, it''s definitely good to organize as you go along. I totally procrastinated and while I went into frantic cleaning mode toward the end and was productive, it would have definitely been easier to do that with a smaller gut!

 

[Jas12]

haha--Did anyone catch my mommy-brain moment in the posts-above??

I can only use PS in the Firefox browser and last night i typed my post in Safari and didn''t think i cut and pasted it last night so i just added to the same msg this morn. but apparently i did so i apologize for the partial double-post above.

 

[ephemery1]

Date: 6/12/2008 12:17:49 PM
Author: pavelover
Awww Ephem thank you so much! Really helpful post with great ideas. My husband and I - we are both kind of sloppy- stuff just piles up and gets ahead of us. I am actually the one who tends to get overwhelmed- but I guess I feel the urgency to get things going more than he does. I am so glad to hear that others experienced something similar. It is really hard to meld all of our ''stuff'' together- my husband moved into my 2 br place from a 5 br house- yikes. It''s a long story but basically I really wanted to be here anyway cause it''s a great neighborhood/downtown parks etc within walking distance which I think will really be a bonus when the baby comes.
I really love your idea of just getting started and making the room first- I know(well I think) he will feel better when he sees that I am making room/sacrifices- going through stuff too. I am going to start today and hope for the best!!!
I hope your cleaning is going well- keep giving yourself some breaks on PS. I think it makes cleaning much more bearable.
BTw I grew up in Philadelphia(overbrook) and I love reading your posts, especially when you talk about my city,hehe. I didn''t spend a huge amount of time downtown but did have relatives in headhouse square area so we went there a good amount when I was young. I also worked at CHOP -that''s not exactly downtown though I guess. I forget if you grew up nearby Philadelphia?

Happy to empathize! And I should clarify -- I am horribly sloppy by nature too, that''s why I had to force myself to learn the "simplify" trick to get things done. And why when the urge strikes, I NEED to do it immediately... or else I really will lose motivation within the hour! (Um, notice I''m back online and my closets are still chaos?

) I can''t imagine melding 5 bedrooms into 2... that would be overwhelming even for the most organized person. Just take it one step at a time, and it will get done. For me, getting started is the hardest part... it''s like writing a paper, haha.

I think you''re absolutely right that by your getting things underway, your DH will feel less intimidated/overwhelmed and more willing to dive in and help.

I didn''t realize you grew up in Philly, that''s so fun! Headhouse square is great, we have friends down that way in Old City. We are in Rittenhouse, so actually very close to CHOP. My office was in one of their buildings when I worked at Penn. I grew up in Hershey so not too far away (about 1.5 hours). I''d LOVE to go back there to raise our family, but I think it''s more likely we will settle in a Philly burb eventually... maybe West Chester area (where DH grew up). Where do you live now?

 

[Jas12]

Tgal--you still have twinges of incision pain, i still have pelvic pain upon sit-ups and push-ups, so i guess no matter what way you give birth the body will provide reminders of the feat for a long time. How is the incision healing? I don''t think i;ve ever seen a c-section scar (i guess cuz they are low and smaller than they used to be?)

RE exercise: I was able to resume aerobics classes (expect spinning cuz of the stitches) a little over a week after the birth, but only NOW do i feel like i am back to my regular intensity. Hitting the 8 week postpartum mark seemed to be when things changed for the better. At 6 weeks i was still feeling ''birth effects''--my pelvis ached for weeks and walking was actually harder than jumping around for some reason.

Pave--my DH is a pack-rat and i struggled with him to "let it go" --it was hard! He is as nostaglic as they come (keeps ticket stubs and scraps of paper with little notes from random ppl for goodness sake!) I tried to reason with him by asking if he had even looked or thought about some of these items in the past year or so, if the answer was no then he had to either give it away or toss it. We still have piles of stuff, but it''s getting better. Now the ''battle of the baby-goods'' has begun. This man wants to keep Cohen''s tiny onesies to remind us of how small he once was...oh boy.

 

[snlee]

Thanks ladies for all the sweet comments! I am sure I''ll get huge soon and look back and miss my little baby bump so I''m enjoying it while I can!

Diva, wow, you are almost there! Only a week more until your DD! You''ll be holding your baby before you know it!

I''ve been trying to simplify and declutter too. Our place is small so we need to make room for baby. We also have trouble with storage space too. There''s just not enough room! DH is the minimalist. I am pretty good at not buying that much stuff but I have tons and tons of stuff from my childhood that I saved. I was a packrat! I also have lots of clothes I don''t wear. DH has been nagging me to get rid of stuff! I know I need to. I need to part with all the junk and clothes I won''t ever wear again. The hardest part is getting starting and letting go!

 

[DivaDiamond007]

Date: 6/12/2008 12:53:40 PM
Author: Jas12
Tgal--you still have twinges of incision pain, i still have pelvic pain upon sit-ups and push-ups, so i guess no matter what way you give birth the body will provide reminders of the feat for a long time. How is the incision healing? I don''t think i;ve ever seen a c-section scar (i guess cuz they are low and smaller than they used to be?)

RE exercise: I was able to resume aerobics classes (expect spinning cuz of the stitches) a little over a week after the birth, but only NOW do i feel like i am back to my regular intensity. Hitting the 8 week postpartum mark seemed to be when things changed for the better. At 6 weeks i was still feeling ''birth effects''--my pelvis ached for weeks and walking was actually harder than jumping around for some reason.

Pave--my DH is a pack-rat and i struggled with him to ''let it go'' --it was hard! He is as nostaglic as they come (keeps ticket stubs and scraps of paper with little notes from random ppl for goodness sake!) I tried to reason with him by asking if he had even looked or thought about some of these items in the past year or so, if the answer was no then he had to either give it away or toss it. We still have piles of stuff, but it''s getting better. Now the ''battle of the baby-goods'' has begun. This man wants to keep Cohen''s tiny onesies to remind us of how small he once was...oh boy.

Pave - My DH is just like this too! He is currently using the closet in the nursery and has to cut his stuff by half. He still has clothes from high school (he''s been graduated for 12 years!). He keeps everything. Ticket stubs from movies and concerts, scraps of paper with illegible notes on them (his writing) and all other sorts of crap. Our 1.5 car garage is filled with his crap to the point where I can barely get my car in there to park! After we found out I was preggo I told him point blank that he had to get rid of the crap or else I would for him - and that means getting a dumpster and tossing all of it. DH''s father has a hoarding problem so that''s where he gets it from. DH is working on it - slowly but surely.

Snlee - your preggo brain is showing - I wish I were due in a week! I have 7 more weeks to go before I''m due

 

[snlee]

Burk, sorry about the scary tornado touch down! I am glad you are ok!

Diva, oops. Yeah, I think I''m losing it! I keep getting June and July mixed up and my memory is horrible!

 

[pavelover]

Ephemery- couple of hours later and I haven''t done a thing yet,lol. How are the closets going? I have to run out and do some errands but maybe I will start the closet today? We will see. I live in Campbell,Ca(next to San Jose, N. Ca). My brother lives in West Chester now and they have two kids. It seems like a good place to have a family I think. My parents are in Devon(near 252 and 202). I like that area better since it has more history- but then again Overbrook/center city is awesome for architecture and houses with character/history. Schools are another story, though I am afraid.

Jas12-thanks for sharing your experience with your husband. I know being sentimental gets too much sometimes, but I think it''s cute that your dh wants to save the onesies!!!

Snlee- hang in there- we can get through it together, haha. When we got some gifts/money after our wedding, I wanted to use some of it for a professional organizer. I swear I want to be rescued by one of those shows on HGTV. Keep me posted on your progress-maybe you can inspire me?

Diva- the hoarding problem is in my dh''s family too! I think that is why it stresses me out so much. Cause I can only imagine what our place could grow to look like. Yikes!! I thought I would try to be a hard*** if my guy doesn''t get onboard- but something is telling me that ultimatums or something like them aren''t going to work on him. He just gets angry. Oh the joys of getting to know each other.

 

[Kay]

I have a totally random question about C sections. I know most, if not all, of you who had C sections had them on an "emergency" rather than planned basis. I am looking at a planned C section if this damn placenta doesn''t move. Have any of you heard of cases where a plastic surgeon closes the top layer? I have heard about women having plastic surgery to "revise" bad C scars, but it seems to me it would be better to just have someone who is an expert in avoiding scars close you up in the first place. I have had a couple of knee surgeries, and I have seen various surgery scars (but no C scars) on other people, and it makes a huge difference if the surgeon got the margins of the wound perfectly lined up before suturing. I picture letting the OB do the surgery, remove the baby, close the uterus and other internal layers, and then just have the plastic surgeon close the top layer of skin. I’m not sure how to bring it up with my doctor because I don’t want to offend him or have him think I am nuts. I just wonder if anyone else has done this.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

TGal, I haven''t lost any weight for a month (at least) DEPRESSING! I am fed up with it now 7 months PP. Before I was too tired to care! I am sure you look great.

RE preggo brain: hate to tell you ladies but mommy brain is just as bad!

Sometimes I feel like I am losing my mind!!!

Luckily space is not an issue with us. We have a pretty big house and STILL feel over run by baby stuff. I don''t know how you guys do it in your one bedroom apartments. You must be so organized!

 

[softly softly]

Date: 6/12/2008 3:12:42 PM
Author: Kay
I have a totally random question about C sections. I know most, if not all, of you who had C sections had them on an ''emergency'' rather than planned basis. I am looking at a planned C section if this damn placenta doesn''t move. Have any of you heard of cases where a plastic surgeon closes the top layer? I have heard about women having plastic surgery to ''revise'' bad C scars, but it seems to me it would be better to just have someone who is an expert in avoiding scars close you up in the first place. I have had a couple of knee surgeries, and I have seen various surgery scars (but no C scars) on other people, and it makes a huge difference if the surgeon got the margins of the wound perfectly lined up before suturing. I picture letting the OB do the surgery, remove the baby, close the uterus and other internal layers, and then just have the plastic surgeon close the top layer of skin. I’m not sure how to bring it up with my doctor because I don’t want to offend him or have him think I am nuts. I just wonder if anyone else has done this.

Kay I have had two C sections, one emergency and one planned. My scar after the first one was definitely not the best, but because my second one was planned the doctor was able to take more time to ensure the scar was a lot less prominent afterwards - in fact he was quite focused on making sure the scar would be unobtrusive as possible. To answer your question, no I haven''t heard of anyone having a plastic surgeon close the top layer, but that''s not to say it isn''t possible. If you are concerned about the scar I''d mention it to your doctor as in my experience they are aware of this and do understand that it is an issue.

 

[mrssalvo]

hi gals.

tgal-i noticed Jake''s cry has changed too. especially on sunday when my 3 week old niece was here. she still has the tiny baby cry and then Jake woke up and let out a CRY!! holy cow.

so, i took Jake for his 9 week check-up yesterday. He''s 23 inches long and a whopping 14 lbs. We''ve been hitting the pool and Jake lOVES the water..

 

[Tacori E-ring]

MrsS, he is so handsome!!!

ETA: Anyone else ever see "Yo Gabba Gabba"? T LOVES it! She squeals, laughs, talks, jumps....See has a good attention span at least. I personally think it is very strange.

 

[Kaleigh]

Jake is adorable MrsS, love his big blue eyes!!!

 

[TravelingGal]

MrsS, what a studmeister he is! I have a question though...since peds don''t recommend sunscreen until the babies are 6 months old, what do you do for sun protection?

Kay, I haven''t looked at my scar, but I bet it''s not the best. I was bummed that my doc didn''t do my c-section (another doc in his practice did). My doc apparently won some kind of award for fantastic suturing or something so I bet he would have done a better job. But honestly, I don''t care...my stomach will never be (and has never been) flat, so it''s not like I''m going to see it easily. Yes, my hubby will, but in IMHO, the uglier the better so he knows what I went through. Hehehe.

Unless you wear some serious low riding pants or bikini, no one will ever see your scar except you and DH. Hopefully both of you can bear looking at it.

Tacori, I''m not being modest. I''m massive right now..beating my heaviest weight ever by 15 pounds. It''s awful. I''m still wearing maternity clothes. Everything looks hideous on me. The best way I can describe myself is "thick." Ugh. TGuy (who has also gained a crapload of weight) and I don''t even want to have nookie with each other...not because we don''t want to look at each other nekkid, but because we don''t want to subject each other to ourselves!!!

Jas, I think it healed fine (like I said, I haven''t seen it because of the overhang, and I don''t have the energy to lift it to check it out...spend enough energy lifting the baby!) I didn''t know about the ongoing pelvic pain. I guess whatever method you give birth, it''s just fun fun fun afterwards eh?

 

[mrssalvo]

Date: 6/12/2008 7:35:33 PM
Author: TravelingGal
MrsS, what a studmeister he is! I have a question though...since peds don''t recommend sunscreen until the babies are 6 months old, what do you do for sun protection?

tgal- I put it on him anyway. we were in florida last week and i kept him in the shade the whole time on walks and the beach and he somehow got a little sunburn on his arms. I honestly do not have any clue when or how because I was so careful to keep him in the shade. I asked my dr about it and she also said they do not recommend sunscreen until 6 months and to keep him shaded as much as possible but if he is going to be in the sun it''s better to put some on him. So, I do. I only keep him in the pool for 10-15 minutes..he snoozes the rest of the time and I bathe him as soon as I get home. so far, he seems to be ok. As you all know, I''ve got the 2 girls and we hit the pool just about every day. there is no way I can be there and not take Jake in. Plus, it''s so darn hot here, I take him in partly to cool him off. I put sunscreen on my 6 year old when she was younger than 6 months too and she''s turned out alright. the funny thing is, we''re supposed to keep them shaded but then I was told to give Jake a vitamin D supplement b/c there isn''t enough in breastmilk. it the old days, the women worked the field''s with babies on their backs so they got plenty of sun/vitamin D.....now it''s no sun and some yucky dropper full of liquid vitamin''s

 

[mrssalvo]

Date: 6/12/2008 6:27:02 PM
Author: Tacori E-ring


ETA: Anyone else ever see ''Yo Gabba Gabba''? T LOVES it! She squeals, laughs, talks, jumps....See has a good attention span at least. I personally think it is very strange.

ha, my 4 year old has watched it from time to time. I''m with you though, it''s very, very strange....

 

[mrssalvo]

Date: 6/12/2008 6:32:27 PM
Author: Kaleigh
Jake is adorable MrsS, love his big blue eyes!!!

thanks kaleigh. they are a beautiful blue. I really hope they stay blue. I have brown, hubby has blue and my girls both have hazel but jake''s eyes started a whole lot lighter and brighter blue than the girls. Both of them were born with more of a grey/blue color.

 

[Gemma12]

Whoa

!

I’m not sure where to start-I have been too busy to check in for a few days, so I’m sorry not to have responded earlier.

First, Jas, I’m so glad that things are looking better! What I intended to say in my original post (obviously clumsily!) was that the sleep thing was the only indication that made me wonder if you might have PPD. I cannot imagine taking care of a small baby on so little sleep

. I’m soooo glad that you are feeling better!

LitigatorChick, since you asked, I was taken aback by your first post. I did not know that you have had postpartum anxiety, and my post was in no way directed to you. I am sorry that it offended you-that was not intended. I am very glad that things are improving for you. It is great that you have not experienced any stigma in discussing your journey-I agree that that is how it should be. I respectfully disagree that there is no stigma at all for anyone however. I am not saying that is right, just that is how I perceive it to be. I stand by my concerns that I would offend Jas-if she wanted to come back and tell me to mind my own business, she could. If I’m bringing up the question of someone’s health on a public bulletin board, when she hasn’t asked for advice, I think it’s worth treading carefully. As Curly noted, hormones and sleep deprivation are at their peak in pregnancy and postpartum so I wanted to be clear that my intention was to offer a suggestion not make a diagnosis. I know that PPD is a illness (as I said in my original post) but not everyone may see it that way. Again, I’m not saying that is correct, just the way I’ve seen it play out in people’s lives.

I appreciate the regular posters on this thread who have come out in support of both LitigatorChick and myself-this is a caring community, and when it comes to discussing difficult topics there is an opportunity to get offended. This particular thread is a great source of advice and encouragement and it is in no way my intention to distract from that. I’m glad that everyone has had a chance to say what they think and hope that this can be put to rest. “Peace” of pie anyone?