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Thank you all. I go back Tuesday for the 2nd hcg draw. I have very very light brown spotting and I''m cramping a bit. My OB had mentioned the possibility of an ectopic pregnancy, so now I''m scared about that.
Drk- I got my positive on Tuesday, 8/25 with a First Response. My LMP was 7/22. I don''t know when I ovulated.
Vesper- Has your spotting stopped? How are you doing?
Drk- I got my positive on Tuesday, 8/25 with a First Response. My LMP was 7/22. I don''t know when I ovulated.
Vesper- Has your spotting stopped? How are you doing?
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Feb, early HCG levels have quite a range, they repeat the level to see how much it is increasing. They want it to increase by about 66% in 48 hours.
Brown spotting is usually not a huge concern, however, as I learned through experience it is a sign of an ectopic. I had brown spotting about that started about 24 hours before the extreme cramping. I''m not trying to scare you, I just want you to be aware in case you start having pain/severe cramping.
I''m really sorry that you have to deal with this. I hope everything turns out ok for you.
Brown spotting is usually not a huge concern, however, as I learned through experience it is a sign of an ectopic. I had brown spotting about that started about 24 hours before the extreme cramping. I''m not trying to scare you, I just want you to be aware in case you start having pain/severe cramping.
I''m really sorry that you have to deal with this. I hope everything turns out ok for you.
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Hi Feb, thanks for asking, but yes, my spotting finally stopped after a day and a half - we''re going to the dr. on Mon. to check everything out.
Good luck when you go to the dr. Tues. - hopefully your hcg levels will double by the time they do the second draw. You are in my thoughts, and I hope that everything turns out OK ...
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Vesper, I'm glad your spotting stopped.
I just need to vent a little. I just had my shower, which was amazing. Amazing food, fun games, a great time to be with friends and family . . .
But . . . my SIL brought me a big box of baby clothes which were from her sister (since my SIL has all boys). My sister, who is due with #3 in a month (second girl), said, oh, she needed 0-3 month things so we should look through it together. My SIL brought the box for me, ya know, with my first baby and all, but I said ok. My mom and sister had to leave imminently, so we very hurriedly went through and tried to make piles based on size. Then my sister started making a pile of what she wanted and going, "Yeah, I need pants. We don't have any pants. You have some pants, right? Can I have these?" Other than onesies, four 3-6 month outfits my mom gave me, and a couple of other outfits I got today, I don't have anything. So yes, I got two pairs of pants from my mom today. So does that mean I have enough? I don't know.
My sister speaks very quickly when she's in a hurry, and my anxiety and frustration were building in a parallel fashion with her pile of what she wanted. Several times I said, "Well, I don't really know what I need. If you think I have enough, then ok." We had a little duel over this super cute Christmas dress, and she did concede it to me, but it was in a sort of well, fine then kind of way. Fine, if you who have nothing must take this cute dress, so be it. Finally after another, "You don't need this, right?" I just blew up, telling her, "I don't know what I need! I didn't memorize what I got today! And I don't know what babies need!" and she said, oh, fine, fine, she didn't need anything, and if I did decide there was extra stuff then she could get it later. So we resolved it and I stuck up for myself, but I feel like I often get treated like a baby (I was a surprise and am 7 and 9 years younger than my siblings), and I know she just catalogued my reaction under "acting like a baby" in her head rather than realizing that SIL had brought the clothes for me, and that if my sister had wound up with a few holes to fill in her baby's wardrobe, that still didn't mean the solution was to take from someone who has nothing. I know that the best way to not be treated like a baby is not to act like one, so I am frustrated that I wound up going there when things seemed to be spiraling out of control.
I'm trying to see it from her perspective. I guess she just thought since they were hand-me-downs, they were up for grabs. And sure, if there were obvious extras or things I didn't like or want, I'd have no problem giving it to her. But she seemed to think we should just split it down the middle, I guess figuring that my SIL is her SIL too . . . Her plan was to tell me what she wanted and let me say yay or nay, but who wants to say no when she doesn't have a clue about what babies need?
It's not a huge deal, but I wish I could just be enjoying my post-shower high instead of feeling bad about what happened right before my mom and sister left. Blah . . .
I just need to vent a little. I just had my shower, which was amazing. Amazing food, fun games, a great time to be with friends and family . . .
But . . . my SIL brought me a big box of baby clothes which were from her sister (since my SIL has all boys). My sister, who is due with #3 in a month (second girl), said, oh, she needed 0-3 month things so we should look through it together. My SIL brought the box for me, ya know, with my first baby and all, but I said ok. My mom and sister had to leave imminently, so we very hurriedly went through and tried to make piles based on size. Then my sister started making a pile of what she wanted and going, "Yeah, I need pants. We don't have any pants. You have some pants, right? Can I have these?" Other than onesies, four 3-6 month outfits my mom gave me, and a couple of other outfits I got today, I don't have anything. So yes, I got two pairs of pants from my mom today. So does that mean I have enough? I don't know.
My sister speaks very quickly when she's in a hurry, and my anxiety and frustration were building in a parallel fashion with her pile of what she wanted. Several times I said, "Well, I don't really know what I need. If you think I have enough, then ok." We had a little duel over this super cute Christmas dress, and she did concede it to me, but it was in a sort of well, fine then kind of way. Fine, if you who have nothing must take this cute dress, so be it. Finally after another, "You don't need this, right?" I just blew up, telling her, "I don't know what I need! I didn't memorize what I got today! And I don't know what babies need!" and she said, oh, fine, fine, she didn't need anything, and if I did decide there was extra stuff then she could get it later. So we resolved it and I stuck up for myself, but I feel like I often get treated like a baby (I was a surprise and am 7 and 9 years younger than my siblings), and I know she just catalogued my reaction under "acting like a baby" in her head rather than realizing that SIL had brought the clothes for me, and that if my sister had wound up with a few holes to fill in her baby's wardrobe, that still didn't mean the solution was to take from someone who has nothing. I know that the best way to not be treated like a baby is not to act like one, so I am frustrated that I wound up going there when things seemed to be spiraling out of control.
I'm trying to see it from her perspective. I guess she just thought since they were hand-me-downs, they were up for grabs. And sure, if there were obvious extras or things I didn't like or want, I'd have no problem giving it to her. But she seemed to think we should just split it down the middle, I guess figuring that my SIL is her SIL too . . . Her plan was to tell me what she wanted and let me say yay or nay, but who wants to say no when she doesn't have a clue about what babies need?
It's not a huge deal, but I wish I could just be enjoying my post-shower high instead of feeling bad about what happened right before my mom and sister left. Blah . . .
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Pheonix, ugh, that''s probably exactly what you didn''t feel like dealing with at the end of your shower. It''s overwhelming and exhausting enough to look through the gifts, never mind a pile of hand me downs. Your sister should have come back next weekend or something to look through the hand me downs with you, once you had a chance to get organized.
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hey...anyone hear from LittleLysser? She is next in line and hasn''t been on in a few days! wonder if she''s hidin a lil baby boy somewhere?
As for me...my due date is RAPIDLY approaching... Sept 9th. And my BDAY is the 6th...so we''ll see! So far I am still (as of this past Fri) 1cm and 75% effaced...but NOW the baby''s head is engaged and putting TONS of pressure on my cervix. I am having lots of contractions off and on...but nothing concistant yet. I really thhought that by now I''d start being a nervous reck since im a FTM...but nope...not an ounce. Just sooooo READY to physically SEE and HOLD my lil man! Soooo......COME ON LOGAN!!!!! lol
As for me...my due date is RAPIDLY approaching... Sept 9th. And my BDAY is the 6th...so we''ll see! So far I am still (as of this past Fri) 1cm and 75% effaced...but NOW the baby''s head is engaged and putting TONS of pressure on my cervix. I am having lots of contractions off and on...but nothing concistant yet. I really thhought that by now I''d start being a nervous reck since im a FTM...but nope...not an ounce. Just sooooo READY to physically SEE and HOLD my lil man! Soooo......COME ON LOGAN!!!!! lol
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Phoenix, just to give you a heads up this is what I found I needed with Daisy for the first 3 months
6 x sleepsuits
2 x sleepgowns
6 x short sleeved onesies
6 x long sleeved onesies
6 x vests
6 x trousers with feet
3 x tights
3 x socks
3 x cardigans
2 x thick cardigan coat things
1 x sun hat
1 x warm hat
4 x dungarees
3 x bamboo bath towels
3 x bamboo flannels
loads of receiving blankets
loads of terry nappies to use as spit-up cloths - they are way more absorbent than muslins!
I found that dresses and t-shirts were a complete PITA as they ride up and frankly I don''t think that very small babies look that great in dresses - just ends up as a load of bunched up fabric. Dungarees are great and you can get really cute girls ones.
For sleepsuits I like the ones that popper down both legs - the ones that popper down one leg only are great if the baby is slightly too small, but once they fit properly it''s really hard to get their feet in.
Kimono style onesies are great as babies really hate having things pulled on over their heads.
D wouldn''t have anything to do with scratch mittens - also loads of sleepsuits have them built in. Ditto swaddling blankets - I would advising just getting one and seeing if your baby likes it first as some hate being swaddled.
Tights are great as they don''t fall off all the time like socks - another reason why I love trousers with feet: solves the sock problem!
I really recommend bamboo as a fabric - it washes like cotton, feels like cashmere, so supersoft towels/clothes/blankets.
6 x sleepsuits
2 x sleepgowns
6 x short sleeved onesies
6 x long sleeved onesies
6 x vests
6 x trousers with feet
3 x tights
3 x socks
3 x cardigans
2 x thick cardigan coat things
1 x sun hat
1 x warm hat
4 x dungarees
3 x bamboo bath towels
3 x bamboo flannels
loads of receiving blankets
loads of terry nappies to use as spit-up cloths - they are way more absorbent than muslins!
I found that dresses and t-shirts were a complete PITA as they ride up and frankly I don''t think that very small babies look that great in dresses - just ends up as a load of bunched up fabric. Dungarees are great and you can get really cute girls ones.
For sleepsuits I like the ones that popper down both legs - the ones that popper down one leg only are great if the baby is slightly too small, but once they fit properly it''s really hard to get their feet in.
Kimono style onesies are great as babies really hate having things pulled on over their heads.
D wouldn''t have anything to do with scratch mittens - also loads of sleepsuits have them built in. Ditto swaddling blankets - I would advising just getting one and seeing if your baby likes it first as some hate being swaddled.
Tights are great as they don''t fall off all the time like socks - another reason why I love trousers with feet: solves the sock problem!
I really recommend bamboo as a fabric - it washes like cotton, feels like cashmere, so supersoft towels/clothes/blankets.
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Sapphire, it sounds like things are moving along. I hope it''s soon!
Pandora, thanks for the list. I need to wash and organize all the clothes and then see where I stand. I definitely don''t want to get the baby home and go, oh crap, I don''t have any x, y, or z . . .
And thanks Vesper, Kaleigh, and Tao for the support. I know intellectually that I was right; I just wish I didn''t feel so patronized. My sister threw in a "Well, you''ll have too much stuff, but that''s ok" after she "agreed" to leave it all. It really wasn''t that much stuff. It fit in two empty diaper boxes and it went from newborn to 12 months; it wasn''t like the whole pile was infant clothes. If my sister hadn''t gotten pregnant unexpectedly with the same gender as I''m having, I would have gotten a bunch of stuff from her; I''m not complaining that I didn''t, but I also don''t think I should have to share everything I''m given with her.
At my shower, a friend whose due date is 4 days apart from mine mentioned that she might be in a position to take care of our baby when I go back to work. She got laid off last year and then found out she was pregnant and so didn''t get another job, and I know they''d like the additional income. But obviously she''s a friend, not a professional childcare worker . . . should that concern me? She also doesn''t believe in/use modern medicine for religious reasons, and I''m not sure if that means that she wouldn''t react the way that I would to signs of sudden illness. Her husband is not the same religion and does go to the doctor, take medicine, etc., so I''m not sure what their plans are for the healthcare of their baby. It didn''t seem like any of my business before I was considering leaving my baby with her, but now I have questions to ask that weren''t quite appropriate for the group conversation we were having at the shower. So obviously it''s something to think about . . . My initial feeling is that if we get into the hoity-toity daycare, that would be my first choice, but I would probably feel more comfortable with the baby being at the friend''s house than at another center as long as I know she would call us immediately when there was fever, vomiting, etc. Obviously, though, we''d need to ask her a lot about her approach to those things and if she''d call 9-11 or go the ER if there were an emergency.
In general (beliefs about medicine aside), would you feel comfortable leaving your baby with a friend who is a SAHM? Would you feel more comfortable if the baby were older than 2.5 or 3 months?
Pandora, thanks for the list. I need to wash and organize all the clothes and then see where I stand. I definitely don''t want to get the baby home and go, oh crap, I don''t have any x, y, or z . . .
And thanks Vesper, Kaleigh, and Tao for the support. I know intellectually that I was right; I just wish I didn''t feel so patronized. My sister threw in a "Well, you''ll have too much stuff, but that''s ok" after she "agreed" to leave it all. It really wasn''t that much stuff. It fit in two empty diaper boxes and it went from newborn to 12 months; it wasn''t like the whole pile was infant clothes. If my sister hadn''t gotten pregnant unexpectedly with the same gender as I''m having, I would have gotten a bunch of stuff from her; I''m not complaining that I didn''t, but I also don''t think I should have to share everything I''m given with her.
At my shower, a friend whose due date is 4 days apart from mine mentioned that she might be in a position to take care of our baby when I go back to work. She got laid off last year and then found out she was pregnant and so didn''t get another job, and I know they''d like the additional income. But obviously she''s a friend, not a professional childcare worker . . . should that concern me? She also doesn''t believe in/use modern medicine for religious reasons, and I''m not sure if that means that she wouldn''t react the way that I would to signs of sudden illness. Her husband is not the same religion and does go to the doctor, take medicine, etc., so I''m not sure what their plans are for the healthcare of their baby. It didn''t seem like any of my business before I was considering leaving my baby with her, but now I have questions to ask that weren''t quite appropriate for the group conversation we were having at the shower. So obviously it''s something to think about . . . My initial feeling is that if we get into the hoity-toity daycare, that would be my first choice, but I would probably feel more comfortable with the baby being at the friend''s house than at another center as long as I know she would call us immediately when there was fever, vomiting, etc. Obviously, though, we''d need to ask her a lot about her approach to those things and if she''d call 9-11 or go the ER if there were an emergency.
In general (beliefs about medicine aside), would you feel comfortable leaving your baby with a friend who is a SAHM? Would you feel more comfortable if the baby were older than 2.5 or 3 months?
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Thanks for posting that list Pandora! Looks really helpful.
Feb - I guess without knowing when you ovulated, it''d be hard to tell if that beta''s ok, cause the first response tests pick things up REALLY early. I can say that it''s likely way too early to be worried about an ectopic. From what I''d been reading (trying to figure out if it''d be safe to fly to Europe on vacation after IVF but before the first ultrasound, when I was at increased risk for an ectopic), it seemed like the pain and bleeding with one would start to present after you were more like 6 weeks along, which you definitely aren''t. It''s so hard to know what''s happening, cause lots of pregnancies have cramping and spotting early on and turn out fine. Not too long till you get the repeat beta and can have a better idea what''s going on. Hugs.
Feb - I guess without knowing when you ovulated, it''d be hard to tell if that beta''s ok, cause the first response tests pick things up REALLY early. I can say that it''s likely way too early to be worried about an ectopic. From what I''d been reading (trying to figure out if it''d be safe to fly to Europe on vacation after IVF but before the first ultrasound, when I was at increased risk for an ectopic), it seemed like the pain and bleeding with one would start to present after you were more like 6 weeks along, which you definitely aren''t. It''s so hard to know what''s happening, cause lots of pregnancies have cramping and spotting early on and turn out fine. Not too long till you get the repeat beta and can have a better idea what''s going on. Hugs.
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Drk- I spoke to my OB again yesterday and she said my chances of it being ectopic were slim. Not ruled out because any woman could have one, but slim because I don''t have any of the standard markers? I woke up yesterday with heavy brown spotting and am still having it today along with mild cramps. The weird thing is, it''s not getting onto my pad and it''s staying brown, not turning red, and it''s only when I use the bathroom and I check and it''s not getting any heavier. There were times yesterday that there was no spotting at all. My OB wants me in on Monday instead of Tuesday now, to do a stat HCG and another internal. I took another pregnancy test (First Response) and the line is super dark now. I have no expectations that this pregnancy is going to continue, just hope that it will. Even my DH is hoping everything turns out ok. He''s more worried about me and my health, but he has changed his stance on the pregnancy and wants the baby to be ok.
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I''m so MAD!!!
MIL, told 2 of DH''s aunts and 2 of his uncles, his grandmother, and one of his cousins about our pregnancy last night at dinnner!! When we weren''t there!! DH and I haven''t told anyone accidently, how in the world did it just SLIP!!!
MIL, told 2 of DH''s aunts and 2 of his uncles, his grandmother, and one of his cousins about our pregnancy last night at dinnner!! When we weren''t there!! DH and I haven''t told anyone accidently, how in the world did it just SLIP!!!
I''m sorry, I''m just so upset. That is our special news to tell everyone, not hers.
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Phoenix- That is just wrong that your sister did that. She should have waited for you to go through the box and asked that if there were items you didn''t want, could she borrow them. I''m so sorry that your shower ended on that note. But I''m glad that otherwise, you had a great time!!
Meresal- Ugh, that sucks., But grandparents are usually so excited that they can''t contain it! My guess is, that''s all your MIL is thinking about and she just couldn''t help but tell. It definitely was wrong, especially this early on, and your DH should say something to his parents.
Meresal- Ugh, that sucks., But grandparents are usually so excited that they can''t contain it! My guess is, that''s all your MIL is thinking about and she just couldn''t help but tell. It definitely was wrong, especially this early on, and your DH should say something to his parents.
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Phoenix- When we looked into daycares for DS#1 (before I knew I would end up working from home. I''m now a full time SAHM) I was adament that it be either in a center that had a great reputation, or a home care with someone with experience, a great reputation, CPR training, etc. Does your friend have other children or is this her first? She may have no idea how hard it will be to care for 2 infants. Plus if she handles a situation with your baby and you don''t agree, would you feel comfortable being upfront with her?
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Feb- DH called her as soon as she sent me the text messages this morning. He was livid.
I told her I understand that she is very excited and i love that she is. However, it would have been nice if she would have waited until after next weekend when we tell MY parents. One of the aunts is a huge gossip and has 4 daughters that follow in suit. I''m just worried something will slip on facebook before I even get a chance to see and talk to my parents and family. I am really only upset about that fact that it might get out, and that we didn''t get to tell his granmother. I''ve always loved seeing my granparent''s reactions when they found out that my siblings were giving them great-grandchildren. It''s such a wonderful sight, and I''m upset that Chris missed out on that.
Phoenix- I''m sorry to hear about the end of the shower. As a "baby" of the family, (My age gap between sibling in 9 yrs to 15 yrs) I know all about "acting" like a baby. It''s ridiculous. I''m sorry that you had to deal with that. I wish your mom would have said something once she noticed you were getting upset. Ya know?
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Tiffany- Did your spotting ever turn red? Mine is staying brown, not getting heavier and even lighter at times. My OB isn''t ruling out ectopic but isn''t overly concerned either. It will be one of my first questions tomorrow. If I do have a tubal pregnancy, I want it treated ASAP to avoid surgery. Right now I''m having mild cramps and the brown spotting. It had yet to go to the pad, it''s only when I check in the bathroom using tp...
But all of the research I''ve been doing the last 2 days (too much reserach according to DH because I''m starting to have some serious anxiety about it) on low hcg levels and brown spotting means either miscarriage or ectopic
I haven''t read many posts from women who had low hcg levels and the pregnancy was fine.
It''s hard because I''ve never had a miscarriage before so I don''t know if what my body is doing is normal or not.
But all of the research I''ve been doing the last 2 days (too much reserach according to DH because I''m starting to have some serious anxiety about it) on low hcg levels and brown spotting means either miscarriage or ectopic
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Hey ladies - Just wanted to check in.
Welcome Meresal! Sorry about the inlaw drama.
CC -Thanks for sharing your birth story! I''m so happy for you! Can''t wait to see pics of little Oliver!!!!
Feb - You''re in my thoughts. How are you doing?
Great belly shots everyone!
I''m 39 weeks 1 day today. Hopefully our little dude will be here soon!
At the docs on Friday I was 2 cms dilated and 75% effaced. Up from one CM last week. Doc commented that I was pretty far along for a first time mom and that he could come at any time. Baby is low and I''ve been having tons of contractions - most of them are pretty painless and random, but having them none the less.
Lost ye old mucus plus last night. It was pretty darn gross! But hey, progress is progress. Been walking around a ton, and will spend today vacuuming and cleaning and trying to stay active and get this here kid out!
So if y''all could send some labor vibes my way, that''d be awesome!!!!!
Welcome Meresal! Sorry about the inlaw drama.
CC -Thanks for sharing your birth story! I''m so happy for you! Can''t wait to see pics of little Oliver!!!!
Feb - You''re in my thoughts. How are you doing?
Great belly shots everyone!
I''m 39 weeks 1 day today. Hopefully our little dude will be here soon!
At the docs on Friday I was 2 cms dilated and 75% effaced. Up from one CM last week. Doc commented that I was pretty far along for a first time mom and that he could come at any time. Baby is low and I''ve been having tons of contractions - most of them are pretty painless and random, but having them none the less.
Lost ye old mucus plus last night. It was pretty darn gross! But hey, progress is progress. Been walking around a ton, and will spend today vacuuming and cleaning and trying to stay active and get this here kid out!
So if y''all could send some labor vibes my way, that''d be awesome!!!!!
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My parents did they same thing 2 weeks ago when we told them that we were pregnant. We live in a different state than my whole family. We called them and told them that the dr. confirmed the pregnancy, but it was VERY EARLY (only 5 weeks) so we didn''t want them to tell anyone in the extended family, in case of a miscarriage. Well, my parents have absolutely no respect for boundaries, and within 2 days both of my brothers and my aunt called to congratulate us. It''s our second kid, so I wasn''t that upset about the fact that they were told (I would have told them all within the next week or two anyway) but it annoyed me that I didn''t get to tell them the news myself. Knowing my parents, I honestly can''t expect them to be able to keep a secret, but one can always dreamDate: 8/30/2009 10:51:24 AM
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I''m so MAD!!!
MIL, told 2 of DH''s aunts and 2 of his uncles, his grandmother, and one of his cousins about our pregnancy last night at dinnner!! When we weren''t there!! DH and I haven''t told anyone accidently, how in the world did it just SLIP!!!
I''m sorry, I''m just so upset. That is our special news to tell everyone, not hers.
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Thanks Feb, vesper, and ll. It was not how I was expecting to wake up.
She called back about two hours ago, crying and telling DH he was in the wrong to call her and be mad at her this morning. I''m not really sure why she was surprised we were mad, because apparently FIL gave her a huge earful on the way home from dinner, asking her if she knew what she had just done. When talking to DH, she said, "It''s not like you all have never done anything wrong!"
This is her typical, to turn things around when she feels attacked, though I''m proud of DH because he gawfed at her comment, and told her we had every right to be upset, since my parents didn''t even know yet.
She promised to call each of the people at dinner this morning, and remind them that this is "no-share" business and needs to be kept quiet. I hope they respect that.
Ohh, well. I don''t think it will happen again, but as long as everyone stays quiet until at least next week, I''ll be happy. We are still only at like 6 weeks, I think, so we weren''t planning on telling aquaintances or anything "public" beyond our closest friends until another 2 or 3 weeks. It just puts a wrench in everything. These are the types of things that make me absolutely hate facebook. I might have to write a personal message to each of them asking them not to spread the word for a few weeks. Uggh, what a pain.
She called back about two hours ago, crying and telling DH he was in the wrong to call her and be mad at her this morning. I''m not really sure why she was surprised we were mad, because apparently FIL gave her a huge earful on the way home from dinner, asking her if she knew what she had just done. When talking to DH, she said, "It''s not like you all have never done anything wrong!"
She promised to call each of the people at dinner this morning, and remind them that this is "no-share" business and needs to be kept quiet. I hope they respect that.
Ohh, well. I don''t think it will happen again, but as long as everyone stays quiet until at least next week, I''ll be happy. We are still only at like 6 weeks, I think, so we weren''t planning on telling aquaintances or anything "public" beyond our closest friends until another 2 or 3 weeks. It just puts a wrench in everything. These are the types of things that make me absolutely hate facebook. I might have to write a personal message to each of them asking them not to spread the word for a few weeks. Uggh, what a pain.
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Well, my bleeding has offically turned dark red and the cramps have gotten worse, so I''m assuming it''s safe to say that this is a loss
Thank you all for your support and advice. While the pregnancy was a surprise it was still wanted by me, and has opened up the discussion again between DH and I for a 4th. We''re going to get through this first and then in a couple of weeks, start talking again and see what we want. If we are absolutely not having a 4th (this time planned) then DH is getting a vasectomy!
Thank you all again. Many hugs!!
Thank you all for your support and advice. While the pregnancy was a surprise it was still wanted by me, and has opened up the discussion again between DH and I for a 4th. We''re going to get through this first and then in a couple of weeks, start talking again and see what we want. If we are absolutely not having a 4th (this time planned) then DH is getting a vasectomy!
Thank you all again. Many hugs!!
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