Can I put my foot down and say "because I want to"???

[Hudson_Hawk]

AhHa! So this is the thread you were referring to earlier...

She sucks. I''m so sorry you have to go through this when you''re trying to plan. I can''t even imagine how hard it is to plan a DW, let alone trying to please one psycho step-in-law-zilla. I mean really. Your getting married in the Yucatan. Why WOULDN''T you go to see the ruins? As for the fear of water? Why are they staying an extra 3 days if she''s afraid of the water? And the guilt trip over the $$$ is just BS. I wish you could tell her to go stuff it! In a way I feel bad for FIL. It sounds like he''s really lonely and misses your FI''s mom a lot. That''s the only reason I can think of for why he''s being blindsided by this harpy (who sounds like she might have some gold digging tendencies). Their priority on this trip should be your wedding, not a vacation!

 

[swimmer]

Oh dear. hugs. Will you be invited to their honeymoon? Then why does she think they are invited to yours?

 

[FrekeChild]

GREAT IDEA Swimmer! Invite yourselves to their honeymoon!!!! See how they like it!!!

(I''m full of vinegar today!)

 

[EricaR]

Oh HH, I have yet another "fun" thread to bump. Freke heard allllllll about that last night!

This lady is just hi-larious. I know it should bother me more but really I am just laughing. OH!!! And I don't remember if I mentioned this in a previous post but this will be FFIL's fifth wedding and her sixth. hehe. And FFIL's dead wife was not FI's mom - he's been married twice since her. I hope I'm not offending anyone, but FI and I talk really bluntly about the whole thing.

Really, the demands she is making are crazy considering that most of us don't think she'll be around in another year or two. Looking at her track record the average length of her marriages has been 3.5years!

 

[honey22]

I am late to this thread, but I am totally speechless. She sounds like a selfish gold-digger and your FFIL''s attitute is apalling. You need to make it clear to your FI and to anyone else that this is your time, and you the the priority. They can go jump!

 

[brooklyngirl]

WOW

You can end this very quickly by telling her to stuff it next time she feels to need to inject herself into your wedding/honeymoon (seriously, honeymoon?!). You don't have to yell at her, or have a harsh tone, but I don't see why you can't just tell her exactly what you told us. Make it clear that this is your wedding, and *the only one you will have*

, so you will do what you want, and don't want to hear anything from anyone.

If I learned anything from planning my wedding, is that it's ok to be selfish during this time.

You're an adult, she's an adult. Treat her the same way you would treat any other adult.

 

[E B]

Erica, I''m so sorry you''re having to deal with this. She sounds like a real gem of a woman. I agree with the others- don''t bend to her one bit more than you already have! This is YOUR wedding, and you''ll regret giving certain things up because FFIL and his new fiance "don''t feel like it" or "would rather." If they don''t feel like doing something, that''s their problem, not yours. Do what you and your fiance want.

*hugs*