Co-worker Copied my Wedding Set!!!

[Tacori E-ring]

Date: 10/4/2007 8:07:09 PM
Author: thing2of2
And Tacori, I think I would be beyond p*ssed if someone actually told me to my face they were going to get my exact same ring! Wow. At least Harleigh''s copy cat had the good sense to keep her mouth shut about copying her!

I was really upset. Luckily didn''t happen.

Harleigh, at least everyone knows that she coped YOU. I would be angry with your jeweler too. That seems unprofessional.

 

[Daydreamer7130]

You are so sweet and gracious. I had a similar situation at work where a co-worker copied my wedding set. She was very nice about it and I was completely flattered. However, she was not the competitive type which makes the world of difference.

It sounds like everyone already sees the writing on the wall with her. So, please don''t lose another wink of sleep. If you handle yourself with dignity and style, you will make her look worse by keeping yourself in check.

She sounds like a person with low self esteem and confidence and possibly lazy without an imagination. You on the other hand, sound like someone who is the complete opposite and add a dash of grace and you really have it goin'' on, girl !

Think of yourself as a trend setter and a leader ! I would ask her.... "what is it like to constantly follow? as I have never been in that situation before and want to learn from that perspective?"

If worse comes to worse, think of how horrible her fingers will look when they swell up, especially if they are tight now!

Cyn

 

[diamondfan]

Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, BUT she could have asked if you minded (I would honestly have told her I did, and could she come up with something else)...and your jeweler should have called you. This is your ering and you worked hard, you did not just buy something from inside a case. Where I live, whenever I buy an expensive gown for an event, my salesgirl asks what I am attending. This way, if someone else in my circle buys from her, she knows what I am wearing and will not sell the same thing for the same event to a friend. It has flaws, since obviously I wear things more than once, but it is nice to know that I will not walk in to a party and have on the same dress as someone else. This is your ERING, you wear it all the time, and it she was sneaky about it, before and after, hiding her hand and acting weird. I would not be thrilled either, but I know you will be gracious because that is who you are. I would not show her things for a while!!!

 

[Madam Bijoux]

Evil old witch that I am, I probably would have given her set a pitying glance and said "Aw, what a shame he botched it."

 

[jas]

She was eating a lollipop at a staff meeting? Niiiiiiice.

You are beyond patient. I would have lost it just with that. (I really hate cutesy, and she sounds like the queen of it.)

Just remember B*tch stands for Being In Total Control of Herself.

At least that''s what I tell myself when I''m called that.

 

[Harleigh]

Oh my goodness, everyone! I tutored pvertime yesterday after school and then stayed way later then I wanted to, then ran to a few craft stores to get some supplies for my DIY wedding invites... I got home much later than planned, but I was sooooo looking forward to coming home and responding to you all, and wouldn''t you know it, my internet was down ALL night!!! Dang that Comcast! I was so frustrated and kept trying to get on just about every 5 minutes, but I amazingly enough managed to actually accomplish something since I wasn''t on here the whole time!

I''ll try to respond to all of you more during my lunch hour and after school...suffice it to say, the co-worker in question avoided me ALL day yesterday, and I have yet to see her this morning!

Thanks for all your support! You all are the BEST!!!!

 

[Gypsy]

Just saw this Harleigh. What a spoiled child she is. I would have been INCREDIBLY irritiated. If someone on HERE copies a set or a look... fabulous. But if someone I saw everyday did???? Well, unless it was something very classic like a tiffany solitare or something... I''d be irrritated, especially if it was in such an underhanded way. I do think it''s hilarious that it doesn''t fit her fingers though. I have short fingers and the space between my knuckles is ridiculously short, I could never carry off the look of your beautiful set, and wouldn''t try. Cause I''ve got common SENSE.

I''ll be honest with you. She sounds a little pathetic and I pity her. She looks ridiculous copying you, and it''s even worse knowning she can''t move her FINGER because of her childish vanity and envy.

((HUGS)) honey. I''m with those who suggested the highroad. Although mentally I would have been shoving that lollipop into her hair and watching her freak out once it got good and tangled. LOL.

 

[Harleigh]

Date: 10/5/2007 1:56:51 PM
Author: Gypsy
Just saw this Harleigh. What a spoiled child she is. I would have been INCREDIBLY irritiated. If someone on HERE copies a set or a look... fabulous. But if someone I saw everyday did???? Well, unless it was something very classic like a tiffany solitare or something... I''d be irrritated, especially if it was in such an underhanded way. I do think it''s hilarious that it doesn''t fit her fingers though. I have short fingers and the space between my knuckles is ridiculously short, I could never carry off the look of your beautiful set, and wouldn''t try. Cause I''ve got common SENSE.

I''ll be honest with you. She sounds a little pathetic and I pity her. She looks ridiculous copying you, and it''s even worse knowning she can''t move her FINGER because of her childish vanity and envy.

((HUGS)) honey. I''m with those who suggested the highroad. Although mentally I would have been shoving that lollipop into her hair and watching her freak out once it got good and tangled. LOL.

Hi Layla,

Thanks so much for your kind thoughts...I have been avoiding this thread like the plague, because the more I think about it, the more irritated and sad I get! (I will kindly take the virtual hugs, though!)

For the record, I have not encountered the little wench in person since last Thursday at work, but several people have noticed that she has MY wedding set and have commented on it! (Which I suppose is good that they knew I planned mine out first!)

However, my dilemma with this is that I cannot wear my two wedding bands until next July when we get married...so everyone will be seeing HER new set and may assume I copied hers, which is in no way the case!

I know I should just let it go, but I am so p-o''d about this, and I have thankfully kept my mouth shut at work about it. Someone asked me today if I was just LOVING my ring, and I of course said yes, but I somehow DID manage to refrain from saying I''d like it a lot better if that nitwit of a girl could''ve thought for herself instead of stealing exactly what I did! I mean, for God''s sake, I''ve had my ring less than 3 months, and to get to that poin took several months of research and planning to get what I wanted, and next thing you know she''s got the EXACT same thing on her hand??? Arghhhhhh!

Thanks again for all of your support and also for letting me vent...when I saw her in the parking lot this morning at work, I wanted to run her over...well, not all of her, just her left hand. Is that wrong of me???

 

[monarch64]

Date: 10/9/2007 12:44:50 AM
Author: Harleigh

Date: 10/5/2007 1:56:51 PM
Author: Gypsy
Just saw this Harleigh. What a spoiled child she is. I would have been INCREDIBLY irritiated. If someone on HERE copies a set or a look... fabulous. But if someone I saw everyday did???? Well, unless it was something very classic like a tiffany solitare or something... I''d be irrritated, especially if it was in such an underhanded way. I do think it''s hilarious that it doesn''t fit her fingers though. I have short fingers and the space between my knuckles is ridiculously short, I could never carry off the look of your beautiful set, and wouldn''t try. Cause I''ve got common SENSE.

I''ll be honest with you. She sounds a little pathetic and I pity her. She looks ridiculous copying you, and it''s even worse knowning she can''t move her FINGER because of her childish vanity and envy.

((HUGS)) honey. I''m with those who suggested the highroad. Although mentally I would have been shoving that lollipop into her hair and watching her freak out once it got good and tangled. LOL.

Hi Layla,

Thanks so much for your kind thoughts...I have been avoiding this thread like the plague, because the more I think about it, the more irritated and sad I get! (I will kindly take the virtual hugs, though!)

For the record, I have not encountered the little wench in person since last Thursday at work, but several people have noticed that she has MY wedding set and have commented on it! (Which I suppose is good that they knew I planned mine out first!)

However, my dilemma with this is that I cannot wear my two wedding bands until next July when we get married...so everyone will be seeing HER new set and may assume I copied hers, which is in no way the case!

I know I should just let it go, but I am so p-o''d about this, and I have thankfully kept my mouth shut at work about it. Someone asked me today if I was just LOVING my ring, and I of course said yes, but I somehow DID manage to refrain from saying I''d like it a lot better if that nitwit of a girl could''ve thought for herself instead of stealing exactly what I did! I mean, for God''s sake, I''ve had my ring less than 3 months, and to get to that poin took several months of research and planning to get what I wanted, and next thing you know she''s got the EXACT same thing on her hand??? Arghhhhhh!

Thanks again for all of your support and also for letting me vent...when I saw her in the parking lot this morning at work, I wanted to run her over...well, not all of her, just her left hand. Is that wrong of me???

Right...but by next July who''s going to even remember her rings? Or care? LOL! And probably by then she''ll have changed her mind about this latest set and decide to have it remade. She''s a nutcase and a total freak in my book, who DOES something like this? I still can''t get over the fact that she copied yours exactly and it''s not even just "similar." Blech.

Question: (and maybe this is totally crazy) have you thought of some minor detail you could add to your rings that would make them totally unique from hers? Maybe a surprise diamond or engraving, or something? Just a thought. Of course you mustn''t say anything to her or anyone else, it would have to be your little secret and maybe then you''d be able to mentally have the satisfaction of knowing she didn''t completely get away with copying your set. What do you think?

 

[Evelynn]

Date: 10/9/2007 12:44:50 AM
Author: Harleigh

Date: 10/5/2007 1:56:51 PM
Author: Gypsy
Just saw this Harleigh. What a spoiled child she is. I would have been INCREDIBLY irritiated. If someone on HERE copies a set or a look... fabulous. But if someone I saw everyday did???? Well, unless it was something very classic like a tiffany solitare or something... I''d be irrritated, especially if it was in such an underhanded way. I do think it''s hilarious that it doesn''t fit her fingers though. I have short fingers and the space between my knuckles is ridiculously short, I could never carry off the look of your beautiful set, and wouldn''t try. Cause I''ve got common SENSE.

I''ll be honest with you. She sounds a little pathetic and I pity her. She looks ridiculous copying you, and it''s even worse knowning she can''t move her FINGER because of her childish vanity and envy.

((HUGS)) honey. I''m with those who suggested the highroad. Although mentally I would have been shoving that lollipop into her hair and watching her freak out once it got good and tangled. LOL.

Hi Layla,

Thanks so much for your kind thoughts...I have been avoiding this thread like the plague, because the more I think about it, the more irritated and sad I get! (I will kindly take the virtual hugs, though!)

For the record, I have not encountered the little wench in person since last Thursday at work, but several people have noticed that she has MY wedding set and have commented on it! (Which I suppose is good that they knew I planned mine out first!)

However, my dilemma with this is that I cannot wear my two wedding bands until next July when we get married...so everyone will be seeing HER new set and may assume I copied hers, which is in no way the case!

I know I should just let it go, but I am so p-o''d about this, and I have thankfully kept my mouth shut at work about it. Someone asked me today if I was just LOVING my ring, and I of course said yes, but I somehow DID manage to refrain from saying I''d like it a lot better if that nitwit of a girl could''ve thought for herself instead of stealing exactly what I did! I mean, for God''s sake, I''ve had my ring less than 3 months, and to get to that poin took several months of research and planning to get what I wanted, and next thing you know she''s got the EXACT same thing on her hand??? Arghhhhhh!

Thanks again for all of your support and also for letting me vent...when I saw her in the parking lot this morning at work, I wanted to run her over...well, not all of her, just her left hand. Is that wrong of me???

lol! Picturing that scene unfolding is pretty funny...ONLY her left hand is smooshed on the pavement... lol

In all seriousness, I agree that imitation is flattery, however she should have asked, or at least mentioned it to you. You have an unbelieveably gorgeous, sparkly set - wear it with pride, and nevermind that lollipop-sucking snotty girl - you researched your purchase and came out with a beautiful stone and setting!

Who eats lollipops in meetings anyway?????

 

[Harleigh]

Date: 10/9/2007 1:19:03 AM
Author: monarch64

Date: 10/9/2007 12:44:50 AM
Author: Harleigh

Date: 10/5/2007 1:56:51 PM
Author: Gypsy
Just saw this Harleigh. What a spoiled child she is. I would have been INCREDIBLY irritiated. If someone on HERE copies a set or a look... fabulous. But if someone I saw everyday did???? Well, unless it was something very classic like a tiffany solitare or something... I''d be irrritated, especially if it was in such an underhanded way. I do think it''s hilarious that it doesn''t fit her fingers though. I have short fingers and the space between my knuckles is ridiculously short, I could never carry off the look of your beautiful set, and wouldn''t try. Cause I''ve got common SENSE.

I''ll be honest with you. She sounds a little pathetic and I pity her. She looks ridiculous copying you, and it''s even worse knowning she can''t move her FINGER because of her childish vanity and envy.

((HUGS)) honey. I''m with those who suggested the highroad. Although mentally I would have been shoving that lollipop into her hair and watching her freak out once it got good and tangled. LOL.

Hi Layla,

Thanks so much for your kind thoughts...I have been avoiding this thread like the plague, because the more I think about it, the more irritated and sad I get! (I will kindly take the virtual hugs, though!)

For the record, I have not encountered the little wench in person since last Thursday at work, but several people have noticed that she has MY wedding set and have commented on it! (Which I suppose is good that they knew I planned mine out first!)

However, my dilemma with this is that I cannot wear my two wedding bands until next July when we get married...so everyone will be seeing HER new set and may assume I copied hers, which is in no way the case!

I know I should just let it go, but I am so p-o''d about this, and I have thankfully kept my mouth shut at work about it. Someone asked me today if I was just LOVING my ring, and I of course said yes, but I somehow DID manage to refrain from saying I''d like it a lot better if that nitwit of a girl could''ve thought for herself instead of stealing exactly what I did! I mean, for God''s sake, I''ve had my ring less than 3 months, and to get to that poin took several months of research and planning to get what I wanted, and next thing you know she''s got the EXACT same thing on her hand??? Arghhhhhh!

Thanks again for all of your support and also for letting me vent...when I saw her in the parking lot this morning at work, I wanted to run her over...well, not all of her, just her left hand. Is that wrong of me???

Right...but by next July who''s going to even remember her rings? Or care? LOL! And probably by then she''ll have changed her mind about this latest set and decide to have it remade. She''s a nutcase and a total freak in my book, who DOES something like this? I still can''t get over the fact that she copied yours exactly and it''s not even just ''similar.'' Blech.

Question: (and maybe this is totally crazy) have you thought of some minor detail you could add to your rings that would make them totally unique from hers? Maybe a surprise diamond or engraving, or something? Just a thought. Of course you mustn''t say anything to her or anyone else, it would have to be your little secret and maybe then you''d be able to mentally have the satisfaction of knowing she didn''t completely get away with copying your set. What do you think?

Hi monnie,

I love your thoughts...I am just fresh out of them as THIS is exactly what I wanted. Sadly, when I look at my set, it just doesn''t seem as special anymore. I know that''s dumb, but there you have it. I truly hope she changes her mind about hers...

I didn''t even tell my FI about her copying it...for one, I did not want him to see how much it upset me, and two, I didn''t want him to blow a gasket! There isn''t much I could do without him knowing, and I wouldn''t want to ask him to change anything before I even got my rings all put together.

I really like the idea of engraving, but that would probably be something I would have to do on my own...FI wouldn''t even think about something like that...much as I love him, he can be a bit obtuse about things like that, if you know what I mean! =o)

I am not sure what to do...I keep hoping she''ll burn so many bridges at my school that she''ll be forced to look elsewhere, but alas, she''s in her second year at my school. I''ll have to think of something, though, because seeing her all of the time may just drive me batty!

Thanks for keeping an eye on me...it''s nice to know you guys care! Hugs to you!

 

[Harleigh]

Date: 10/9/2007 1:22:58 AM
Author: Evelynn

Date: 10/9/2007 12:44:50 AM
Author: Harleigh

Date: 10/5/2007 1:56:51 PM
Author: Gypsy
Just saw this Harleigh. What a spoiled child she is. I would have been INCREDIBLY irritiated. If someone on HERE copies a set or a look... fabulous. But if someone I saw everyday did???? Well, unless it was something very classic like a tiffany solitare or something... I''d be irrritated, especially if it was in such an underhanded way. I do think it''s hilarious that it doesn''t fit her fingers though. I have short fingers and the space between my knuckles is ridiculously short, I could never carry off the look of your beautiful set, and wouldn''t try. Cause I''ve got common SENSE.

I''ll be honest with you. She sounds a little pathetic and I pity her. She looks ridiculous copying you, and it''s even worse knowning she can''t move her FINGER because of her childish vanity and envy.

((HUGS)) honey. I''m with those who suggested the highroad. Although mentally I would have been shoving that lollipop into her hair and watching her freak out once it got good and tangled. LOL.

Hi Layla,

Thanks so much for your kind thoughts...I have been avoiding this thread like the plague, because the more I think about it, the more irritated and sad I get! (I will kindly take the virtual hugs, though!)

For the record, I have not encountered the little wench in person since last Thursday at work, but several people have noticed that she has MY wedding set and have commented on it! (Which I suppose is good that they knew I planned mine out first!)

However, my dilemma with this is that I cannot wear my two wedding bands until next July when we get married...so everyone will be seeing HER new set and may assume I copied hers, which is in no way the case!

I know I should just let it go, but I am so p-o''d about this, and I have thankfully kept my mouth shut at work about it. Someone asked me today if I was just LOVING my ring, and I of course said yes, but I somehow DID manage to refrain from saying I''d like it a lot better if that nitwit of a girl could''ve thought for herself instead of stealing exactly what I did! I mean, for God''s sake, I''ve had my ring less than 3 months, and to get to that poin took several months of research and planning to get what I wanted, and next thing you know she''s got the EXACT same thing on her hand??? Arghhhhhh!

Thanks again for all of your support and also for letting me vent...when I saw her in the parking lot this morning at work, I wanted to run her over...well, not all of her, just her left hand. Is that wrong of me???

lol! Picturing that scene unfolding is pretty funny...ONLY her left hand is smooshed on the pavement... lol

In all seriousness, I agree that imitation is flattery, however she should have asked, or at least mentioned it to you. You have an unbelieveably gorgeous, sparkly set - wear it with pride, and nevermind that lollipop-sucking snotty girl - you researched your purchase and came out with a beautiful stone and setting!

Who eats lollipops in meetings anyway?????

LOL..thanks for making me chuckle, Evelynn! Really, what would I do with the rest of the body???

I don''t know what she was thinking, but I dread sitting through a 4-hour long inservice tomorrow afternoon while she will more than likely be sucking on another lollipop, which, btw, I forgot to mention, seems to be her new MO so she can show off my, oops, I mean HER, new wedding set...

Gosh, I just want to smack her!

 

[Gypsy]

Date: 10/9/2007 12:44:50 AM
Author: Harleigh

Date: 10/5/2007 1:56:51 PM
Author: Gypsy
Just saw this Harleigh. What a spoiled child she is. I would have been INCREDIBLY irritiated. If someone on HERE copies a set or a look... fabulous. But if someone I saw everyday did???? Well, unless it was something very classic like a tiffany solitare or something... I''d be irrritated, especially if it was in such an underhanded way. I do think it''s hilarious that it doesn''t fit her fingers though. I have short fingers and the space between my knuckles is ridiculously short, I could never carry off the look of your beautiful set, and wouldn''t try. Cause I''ve got common SENSE.

I''ll be honest with you. She sounds a little pathetic and I pity her. She looks ridiculous copying you, and it''s even worse knowning she can''t move her FINGER because of her childish vanity and envy.

((HUGS)) honey. I''m with those who suggested the highroad. Although mentally I would have been shoving that lollipop into her hair and watching her freak out once it got good and tangled. LOL.

Hi Layla,

Thanks so much for your kind thoughts...I have been avoiding this thread like the plague, because the more I think about it, the more irritated and sad I get! (I will kindly take the virtual hugs, though!)

For the record, I have not encountered the little wench in person since last Thursday at work, but several people have noticed that she has MY wedding set and have commented on it! (Which I suppose is good that they knew I planned mine out first!)

However, my dilemma with this is that I cannot wear my two wedding bands until next July when we get married...so everyone will be seeing HER new set and may assume I copied hers, which is in no way the case!

I know I should just let it go, but I am so p-o''d about this, and I have thankfully kept my mouth shut at work about it. Someone asked me today if I was just LOVING my ring, and I of course said yes, but I somehow DID manage to refrain from saying I''d like it a lot better if that nitwit of a girl could''ve thought for herself instead of stealing exactly what I did! I mean, for God''s sake, I''ve had my ring less than 3 months, and to get to that poin took several months of research and planning to get what I wanted, and next thing you know she''s got the EXACT same thing on her hand??? Arghhhhhh!

Thanks again for all of your support and also for letting me vent...when I saw her in the parking lot this morning at work, I wanted to run her over...well, not all of her, just her left hand. Is that wrong of me???

LOL. I understand the urge. But sweetie. Just think of how small a person you have to be, how unhappy and insecure, to do that. It''s more than your ring she wants to copy, I''m thinking. And more than her imagination and taste that she''s unhappy with. You have self confidence and poise and are really loved and happy in your relationship. It comes through in your POSTS, so I''m sure IRL it REALLY comes through... and probably drives her nuts, cause she wants to be like you. And isn''t.

 

[Harleigh]

Thanks, Layla...you''re right, of course, and of course I would NEVER do anything like that, but I had to let out my thoughts on here before I say something out loud at work!

Good thing she''s steered clear of me for a bit...I''d hate to have to try to be nice right now! (Which is NOT in my nature to be unkind, but she just keeps rubbing me the wrong way!)

I will be strong and behave myself!!! (At least I promise to at least try!)

 

[Evelynn]

Seriously?? A lollipop? (I really want to call it a sucker, but I won''t

)

Maybe to showcase yours, you could go into work a little early and set up a small spotlight show over where normally sit during your meetings. You know, grab some extra extension cords from home, maybe have the Fi build some sort of wood bracing system to support the 5 or 6 or 20 overhead lights. You may need some sort of cooling system for when the heat of the lights starts to get to you, so either a built in air conditioner or maybe a gigantic fan would do the trick. And maybe set up the tripod to snap any good photos of your rings to post on pricescope when you get home, just in case!

Nothing too over the top, but a little more, ahem, "classy" than the old lollipop.....

All in good fun!!!

 

[monarch64]

Date: 10/9/2007 2:07:11 AM
Author: Evelynn
Seriously?? A lollipop? (I really want to call it a sucker, but I won''t

)

Maybe to showcase yours, you could go into work a little early and set up a small spotlight show over where normally sit during your meetings. You know, grab some extra extension cords from home, maybe have the Fi build some sort of wood bracing system to support the 5 or 6 or 20 overhead lights. You may need some sort of cooling system for when the heat of the lights starts to get to you, so either a built in air conditioner or maybe a gigantic fan would do the trick. And maybe set up the tripod to snap any good photos of your rings to post on pricescope when you get home, just in case!

Nothing too over the top, but a little more, ahem, ''classy'' than the old lollipop.....

All in good fun!!!

OMG, you are hilarious Evelynn! ROFLMAO!!

Harleigh, I wish you could tell your FI without it upsetting him as well...it must be tough not to be able to talk to him about this frustrating turn of events. Will you ever tell him or just keep it to yourself? Just curious, I don''t think I could keep something I had such a strong reaction to from DH, even if it meant adding to his own stress level. Maybe you are more selfless than I, though.

 

[Gypsy]

Date: 10/9/2007 2:07:11 AM
Author: Evelynn
Seriously?? A lollipop? (I really want to call it a sucker, but I won't

)

Maybe to showcase yours, you could go into work a little early and set up a small spotlight show over where normally sit during your meetings. You know, grab some extra extension cords from home, maybe have the Fi build some sort of wood bracing system to support the 5 or 6 or 20 overhead lights. You may need some sort of cooling system for when the heat of the lights starts to get to you, so either a built in air conditioner or maybe a gigantic fan would do the trick. And maybe set up the tripod to snap any good photos of your rings to post on pricescope when you get home, just in case!

Nothing too over the top, but a little more, ahem, 'classy' than the old lollipop.....

All in good fun!!!

Evelynn!! SHAME ON YOU! I can't believe you've been lurking for all this time and depriving us of your humor!!! Glad you are on here, cause LMAO @ this!!

'classy'

Harliegh honey, I think your DH will take your lead. If you just tell him that you want to run over her hand but are restraining yourself cause we ordered you to... inject some humor and pity in your tone, he'll be okay. Well, mine would anyway.

 

[Evelynn]

 

[chinglish]

I must say this forum is really full of fantastic, supportive people. I love reading all the encouraging words and stories here.

Harleigh, you are really dealing with the situation superbly - I admire your patience - my tongue would have been bitten off and swallowed by now! Wonder if that would be filed under workers comp - due to coworker''s infuriating annoying sense of being - although she has that non-existent sense of self.

Whew I think I''m blowing off some steam too.
My FH has a friend who really looks up to him. Clothing, activities, sports, neighborhood to live in, type of condo, you name it, he has exact same opinion and most often gets the same thing. FH deals with it as I always tell him its the highest form of flattery. His friend has best of intentions and is a really nice guy - but is just socially awkward and needs the comfort that his choices are ''right'' - the annoying thing is he never confirms where his choices came from, he always takes own credit for his ''copying''. Anyway his friend found out which local designer FH got my engagement ring from. And he calls FH and says, "Guess where I''m getting the e-ring from?", and basically describes the exact setting and design as my e-ring! Poor FH is trying to remind him to get the ring that best fits the girls personality and personal taste but the friend just spouts on and on about why he wanted to go with this particular designer ... basically all the reasons FH had mentioned to his friends before...

FH couldn''t sleep for the better part of the week and was even hoping she would say no! Well she didn''t and they''re now engaged. FH still hasn''t met up with the couple, fearful of what he will see. All I could say is, all our friends know this guy does this ALL the time and they know FH spent three months looking and finding the best designer to design the best ring for me. I tell him this all the time, the ring he gave me is from his heart - no one can duplicate that!

 

[Ellen]

Date: 10/4/2007 8:42:42 AM
Author: Lorelei
I tend to think that people who do this lack confidence as they don't have faith in themselves to make their own decisions. I have been the victim of this a lot with a family member and it is extremely irritating, even down to the food I eat and the perfume I wear and even my HAIR! It is as if *I* can eat it, it is safe and the person won't gain weight, they don't seem to consider the hours I spend doing cardio and watching the calories!

With my perfume and hair etc, you can guarantee if I wear a new scent, the person will drop huge hints at Holidays and birthdays that they would like ' oh you know...some of that perfume you were wearing the other day...' then pretend they don't know the name of it when they do - ugh!!! I don't want this person to copy my perfume!! It drives me insane, let alone how you must feel with having a ring hijacked, but try to take comfort that you have the original ring and the vision which brought it to life, and that your creativity is obviously excellent to have someone want to use your design on something so costly!

Harleigh, I'm just now catching this!

I totally agree with Lorelei. And I too have had no less than 3 women copy my stuff on a regular basis. At first it might have been flattering, but it quickly became enfuriating. I don't follow trends per se, and I don't like to look like others. I like to look like ME, with my own style. So, having someone copy me got old. I had one "friend" that I literally started lying to about where I got certain clothing items (she'd ask, a LOT), because if I said, she'd immediately go buy it.

But the worst, by far, was when I walked into my very wealthy SIL's house (read, they could afford anything), only to find, she had copied my livingroom furniture.

The furniture I had waited years to buy. It was rather expensive, and is wooden with inlaid parquetry borders. The only thing that kept me from saying anything is that her set was a knock off of mine, and only had a painted border, not the real thing.

I'm sure it's only cuz she couldn't find my exact set.

So my dear, I can only IMAGINE how YOU felt. You are handling it with such class. Good for you! I honestly don't know what I would have done if that happened to me.....

And as has been said before, you have the "original" set, so, you win.

 

[surfgirl]

Harleigh, I know it's totally freaking annoying to have this happen to you. I'm torn about whether or not I'd be pissed or flattered if someone copied the design of my rings. As some said, it's the highest form of flattery but on the other hand, yeah, this chick needs to buy a clue!

If it makes you feel better, why not start calling her out on her bs? For instance, next time you're near a group of people, or in this next meeting, grab her hand and exclaim REAL loud, "oh my God! You got the same exact set as I have! I'm so happy you love my taste enough to copy my set! I had NO IDEA I was such a trendsetter! Wait til I tell everybody! Wow!" Say it REALLY REALLY LOUD and maybe, just maybe, she'll be so mortified she wont do it anymore. I know, I know, some will say it's childish, but think of how SATISFYING that would be!

 

[Pandora II]

I'm not great at knowing what looks good on me (I'm a menswear specialist), so I tend to look at girls with similar figures to mine and see what they look good in. Then I might buy something similar myself (but never identical).

There was a girl I worked with in one Italian fashion company who was almost identical to me in height and size and shape and I used to look at her clothes for ideas all the time.

It came as a total shock when she asked me one day if I minded that she was looking at what I wore and buying similar things!

Lol.

However, that is just out of order!

Was your ring a custom design or a stock setting? If it was custom based on your ideas I would go nuts at the jeweller.

I would have no problem with people basing their's on mine (after all, I got my inspiration from PS), but I wouldn't be at all amused if a work colleague showed up with a split-shank tsavorite e-ring.

 

[MoonWater]

I agree with everyone else, it must be some sort of self esteem thing. Reading everyone else''s stories reminded me of a friend I have like this. Oddly enough, I''m not speaking to her at the moment. She would constantly copy my style. From my stockings (I use to collect fishnets, still only wear fishnets, but now it''s Donna Karen

), to my hair. I didn''t think much of it when we were younger, because friends like to dress the same etc etc. But when we got in our early to mid twenties she started doing something insane. We''d go shopping together, and there would be a pair of shoes I loved but couldn''t afford right then and there. She''d pick out her size and buy it. She did this with clothing as well. It was so bizarre and maddening. I don''t bother shopping with her anymore.

 

[sera]

How 'bout to show her no hard feelings... go on a shopping trip... point out all the *coughhideousbutbelievablecough* outfits you're going to purchase. When she beats you to it and wears them to work, you can point at her (with your finger that can bend) and snicker.

Seriously, it's sad she can't be herself... how tiring and unsatisfying to run around trying to be someone else. I feel sorry for her, but even feeling sorry for her I would be really upset too. I want something that's different and I can't imagine after I finally get a setting that someone would run out and have mine copied.

And ya know what, what she is doing isn't going unnoticed! I will bet more than one person knows (and she even admits this to at least to one person) that she copied YOUR ring and thinks yours is prettier. She is not happy and I'll bet, like was mentioned, it won't be long before she changes it.

Your ring is still special- not because it's prettier than hers, but because it was made after your grandma's and it's the one you wanted for so long. Her copying it doesn't change that (it may be infuriating, but it doesn't change it). And well, you can let your coworkers know when and why your ring was made or you can keep it to yourself. Either way, yours is special and hers lacks being special because hers was made for the sake of copying or out-doing or whatever reason was rattling around in her head. And she knows it... how sad for her to have her rings that are supposed to represent love n stuff instead represent such pettiness, deceitfulness, insecurity, etc. Don't let her steal your joy/happiness/etc.

She's not happy with her lame copy, so hopefully she will quickly decide (with some integrity) to re-set it again- to something different than yours this time- to her own ring for the right reasons.

 

[anchor31]

I can''t imagine copying someone''s wedding set. Wedding ring''s are so personal, I would never want to have the same thing as someone I actually know! What an unimaginative person.

 

[Harleigh]

Date: 10/9/2007 2:07:11 AM
Author: Evelynn
Seriously?? A lollipop? (I really want to call it a sucker, but I won''t

)

Maybe to showcase yours, you could go into work a little early and set up a small spotlight show over where normally sit during your meetings. You know, grab some extra extension cords from home, maybe have the Fi build some sort of wood bracing system to support the 5 or 6 or 20 overhead lights. You may need some sort of cooling system for when the heat of the lights starts to get to you, so either a built in air conditioner or maybe a gigantic fan would do the trick. And maybe set up the tripod to snap any good photos of your rings to post on pricescope when you get home, just in case!

Nothing too over the top, but a little more, ahem, ''classy'' than the old lollipop.....

All in good fun!!!

LMAO Evelynn...where have you been all this time??? So glad you joined PS!

Luckily, our meetings today were separated by grade level, so I only had to tolerate her during the break in the staff room. However, this morning while I was waiting to meet with my principal, she walked by and wouldn''t even look at me, so I''m hoping she is at least somewhat aware of my irritation. I''d really like to hit her over the head with it, though!

 

[Harleigh]

Date: 10/9/2007 2:11:26 AM
Author: monarch64

Date: 10/9/2007 2:07:11 AM
Author: Evelynn
Seriously?? A lollipop? (I really want to call it a sucker, but I won''t

)

Maybe to showcase yours, you could go into work a little early and set up a small spotlight show over where normally sit during your meetings. You know, grab some extra extension cords from home, maybe have the Fi build some sort of wood bracing system to support the 5 or 6 or 20 overhead lights. You may need some sort of cooling system for when the heat of the lights starts to get to you, so either a built in air conditioner or maybe a gigantic fan would do the trick. And maybe set up the tripod to snap any good photos of your rings to post on pricescope when you get home, just in case!

Nothing too over the top, but a little more, ahem, ''classy'' than the old lollipop.....

All in good fun!!!

OMG, you are hilarious Evelynn! ROFLMAO!!

Harleigh, I wish you could tell your FI without it upsetting him as well...it must be tough not to be able to talk to him about this frustrating turn of events. Will you ever tell him or just keep it to yourself? Just curious, I don''t think I could keep something I had such a strong reaction to from DH, even if it meant adding to his own stress level. Maybe you are more selfless than I, though.

Hi Monnie...I wish I could tell my FI, too, but I am afraid I won''t be able to tell him without getting upset and crying, which I very rarely do, and also, I''m afraid he may want to go off on the jeweler, who I plan to deal with myself somehow.

I do plan to tell him, but we were so busy this past weekend and we just don''t get much time to speak during the week with our hectic schedules that I hated to ruin the short amount of time we have together with this misery hanging over our heads.

I think I just need to settle it somehow in my mind and come to grips with the whole situation a bit more. Selfless? Me? I''m not too sure about that, but I am trying to work things out on my own for now, and then when I do tell him, I might be able to be a bit more reasonable about it without completely losing it...at least that is my hope!

 

[Harleigh]

Date: 10/9/2007 2:27:36 AM
Author: Gypsy

Date: 10/9/2007 2:07:11 AM
Author: Evelynn
Seriously?? A lollipop? (I really want to call it a sucker, but I won''t

)

Maybe to showcase yours, you could go into work a little early and set up a small spotlight show over where normally sit during your meetings. You know, grab some extra extension cords from home, maybe have the Fi build some sort of wood bracing system to support the 5 or 6 or 20 overhead lights. You may need some sort of cooling system for when the heat of the lights starts to get to you, so either a built in air conditioner or maybe a gigantic fan would do the trick. And maybe set up the tripod to snap any good photos of your rings to post on pricescope when you get home, just in case!

Nothing too over the top, but a little more, ahem, ''classy'' than the old lollipop.....

All in good fun!!!

Evelynn!! SHAME ON YOU! I can''t believe you''ve been lurking for all this time and depriving us of your humor!!! Glad you are on here, cause LMAO @ this!!

''classy''

Harliegh honey, I think your DH will take your lead. If you just tell him that you want to run over her hand but are restraining yourself cause we ordered you to... inject some humor and pity in your tone, he''ll be okay. Well, mine would anyway.

LMAO Layla! He would probably help me pump up the tires to make sure they were at the optimum pressure for flattening her hand! I''ve never been good at restraint...but I sure am working on it these days!

 

[Harleigh]

Date: 10/9/2007 11:55:57 AM
Author: chinglish
I must say this forum is really full of fantastic, supportive people. I love reading all the encouraging words and stories here.

Harleigh, you are really dealing with the situation superbly - I admire your patience - my tongue would have been bitten off and swallowed by now! Wonder if that would be filed under workers comp - due to coworker''s infuriating annoying sense of being - although she has that non-existent sense of self.

Whew I think I''m blowing off some steam too.
My FH has a friend who really looks up to him. Clothing, activities, sports, neighborhood to live in, type of condo, you name it, he has exact same opinion and most often gets the same thing. FH deals with it as I always tell him its the highest form of flattery. His friend has best of intentions and is a really nice guy - but is just socially awkward and needs the comfort that his choices are ''right'' - the annoying thing is he never confirms where his choices came from, he always takes own credit for his ''copying''. Anyway his friend found out which local designer FH got my engagement ring from. And he calls FH and says, ''Guess where I''m getting the e-ring from?'', and basically describes the exact setting and design as my e-ring! Poor FH is trying to remind him to get the ring that best fits the girls personality and personal taste but the friend just spouts on and on about why he wanted to go with this particular designer ... basically all the reasons FH had mentioned to his friends before...

FH couldn''t sleep for the better part of the week and was even hoping she would say no! Well she didn''t and they''re now engaged. FH still hasn''t met up with the couple, fearful of what he will see. All I could say is, all our friends know this guy does this ALL the time and they know FH spent three months looking and finding the best designer to design the best ring for me. I tell him this all the time, the ring he gave me is from his heart - no one can duplicate that!

Aww, chinglish, thanks for sharing! I think that is almost worse than my situation, because you probably see this person on a personal level...I only have to deal with this wench at work. And now that I think about it, I don''t know if I would be overly civil to her outside of the workplace...hope I never have to find out!

I''m sorry your FH has to experience a "friend" like this...I guess some of us really just need to keep our big mouths shut about where we get things...maybe then we''ll have something of our own! I hope his GF does NOT have the same ring as you, and I appreciate your venting on my behalf!

(BTW, welcome to PS

, and have we seen pix of your ring yet???)

Thanks again!

 

[Harleigh]

Date: 10/9/2007 12:18:16 PM
Author: Ellen

Date: 10/4/2007 8:42:42 AM
Author: Lorelei
I tend to think that people who do this lack confidence as they don''t have faith in themselves to make their own decisions. I have been the victim of this a lot with a family member and it is extremely irritating, even down to the food I eat and the perfume I wear and even my HAIR! It is as if *I* can eat it, it is safe and the person won''t gain weight, they don''t seem to consider the hours I spend doing cardio and watching the calories!

With my perfume and hair etc, you can guarantee if I wear a new scent, the person will drop huge hints at Holidays and birthdays that they would like '' oh you know...some of that perfume you were wearing the other day...'' then pretend they don''t know the name of it when they do - ugh!!! I don''t want this person to copy my perfume!! It drives me insane, let alone how you must feel with having a ring hijacked, but try to take comfort that you have the original ring and the vision which brought it to life, and that your creativity is obviously excellent to have someone want to use your design on something so costly!

Harleigh, I''m just now catching this!

I totally agree with Lorelei. And I too have had no less than 3 women copy my stuff on a regular basis. At first it might have been flattering, but it quickly became enfuriating. I don''t follow trends per se, and I don''t like to look like others. I like to look like ME, with my own style. So, having someone copy me got old. I had one ''friend'' that I literally started lying to about where I got certain clothing items (she''d ask, a LOT), because if I said, she''d immediately go buy it.

But the worst, by far, was when I walked into my very wealthy SIL''s house (read, they could afford anything), only to find, she had copied my livingroom furniture.

The furniture I had waited years to buy. It was rather expensive, and is wooden with inlaid parquetry borders. The only thing that kept me from saying anything is that her set was a knock off of mine, and only had a painted border, not the real thing.

I''m sure it''s only cuz she couldn''t find my exact set.

So my dear, I can only IMAGINE how YOU felt. You are handling it with such class. Good for you! I honestly don''t know what I would have done if that happened to me.....

And as has been said before, you have the ''original'' set, so, you win.

Hi Ellen!

Thanks for sharing, and for always making me feel better! I''m so sorry that your SIL did that with your furniture...I know people do stuff like this all the time, but when it''s the same exact jewelry or house or furniture or CAR (had a friend buy a NEWER convertible Mustang right after I bought my slightly used one!) or anything that shows personal taste... As Lorelei said, it does show a lack of confidence in themselves, and while I feel sorry for some of these people, I still can''t get over the pain that it causes me to see that damn ring on her short, stubby, ugly finger!!! (Phew, thanks for letting me get that out!)

As always, I love and appreciate your support! Thank you!