emotional bride?

[LauraBabe08]

I think there have been threads on this topic before...but I will ask again anyway.

I am worried about being an emotional bride on my wedding day. I am very sentimental and I don''t want to cry when I walk down the isle or when FI and I are saying our vows. Anyone else feel the same?

Any advice?

 

[kittybean]

I don''t really have much advice, but I am right there with you. I really don''t want to be blubbering through my vows and smudging my makeup, but I''m such a crier . . .

What I do now if I feel myself tearing up is try to think of something funny or happy. Don''t laugh too much--lately I think of puppies playing together. It kind of works!

 

[redfaerythinker]

ME! I''m going to cry. And from what I remember from the other threads was that if you feel the tears coming... let them come. If you try to stop yourself you''ll just be a quivery mess. But if you just let it out, it may stop. Also, people love to see the bride and groom cry at weddings.

 

[ilovethiswebsite]

I always find it heartwarming when brides/grooms shed a tear during their vows

 

[dcgator]

Hey Laura,

I am sure I will be a bit of a basketcase, especially since my fiance and I will not see eachother before the ceremony. But, I think it will add to the moment and make it more memorable. If not, at least I don''t have a videographer to record it, lol.

Either way, I look so forward to the moment, and I''m sure that both you and I will survive, weeping ladies or not...Just remember waterproof mascara!

 

[fieryred33143]

Let it all out. Otherwise your pictures will be a beautiful scrunched up face that is trying to fight back tears.

 

[bee*]

I''m not very emotional at all but I do get a bit teary thinking of the wedding. I really don''t want to cry on the day, mainly due to the slagging I''d get from my friends who know that I''m not emotional

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

Lately when it comes to the wedding stuff all I do is cry (not in a bad way). I broke down in a teary mess when I found my dress and then cried some more when I saw myself in the photos.

I am kind of hoping that there will be so much going on the day of my wedding I will be much too excited to cry. However, if I do feel tears coming on, I think it will be far worse if I try to push them away. If I have to stop while saying my vows to give myself a moment, that''s what I have to do. I have always surprised myself - instances where I fully expected to cry I''ve not shed a tear and instances where I never anticipated crying I''ve been overwhelmed with emotion. I think I may need to put my make-up person on call for after the ceremony!

 

[galvana]

I m with you, i think iim going to cry too! the thoughts of the whole day make me teary, i lost my mom when i was 17 and never knew my dad, so im basically a bride with no parents.
My gram (moms mom) has always been very close to me and she is going to walk me down the aisle, just typing this makes me teary.
Im afraid i wont even be able to get ready - never mind make it through the ceremony, my fiance is like my gift from god so i know seeing him will make me cry more! and then the ceremony! forget it!
LOL
i guess we all have some story and something that makes us who we are. I''ll cry too and im worried about it, but not too much! i am who i am and there is nothing i can do to change it!

Let''s just hope I can get ready - lets hope we all make it through just fine! right ladies???

 

[Haven]

I cried like a baby. I''m glad I did, because it was totally honest to the moment.

I wouldn''t worry about things that you really can''t control.

 

[honey22]

Just enjoy your ceremony without worrying about it. Crying is a human emotion and you shouldn''t be ashamed of it. I will probably blubber during my wedding but that''s ok, cos that''s who I am.

Don''t let it stress you out

 

[Gypsy]

Date: 12/31/2008 7:22:11 PM
Author: Haven
I cried like a baby. I''m glad I did, because it was totally honest to the moment.

I wouldn''t worry about things that you really can''t control.

Ditto.

I am not a crier but I LOST IT when DH said his vows. I mean serious SOBBING. Was great. Very honest as Haven so eloquently put it.

I''m a control freak and worried about this too, but it was only for a short while until I got overwelmed by all the stuff that I could control that I had to worry about! Wedding planning is a PITA, I wouldn''t do it again-- I''d elope like I wanted to in the first place, don''t worry about things you have NO WAY of controlling. If it happens, it happens.

 

[Winslet]

My fiance is a big mushball and when he cries it gets me going too!! I don''t think there''s any hope for us not crying at the altar

 

[museikchik]

I am the kind of person that doesn''t usually like to cry in front of people but I know that it is going to be impossible on my wedding day. It will sort of be a bitterweet moment. My younger brother died of leukemia almost two years ago so I know there will be at least one time during the day that I will wonder what it would''ve been like if he were there. On the flip side my dad (who is really my step-dad but has been more of a dad then my biological father) and I will have the father daughter dance and I know I am going to lose it. When I was growing up my biological father left when I was 8 and my dad was stationed in Okinawa for awhile so I have never been to a father daughter dance. I don''t know what it is like to be "Daddy''s little girl" because I didn''t get the opportunity to be the typical teenager when I was growing up. With that being said I think the dance is going to overwhelm me because my whole life I have always wondered what that would feel like. I am going to experience it for the first time in front of everyone. The last reason I know I am going to cry is because my FI and I have been through soo much together that it is going to be pretty intense thinking about the events that happened to get us to this point.

I know that you probably didn''t want an autobiography but I guess what I am trying to say is that I agree with everyone else. It is your day and you are entitled to do "whatever" (as long as it is legal) you want, even cry.

 

[LauraBabe08]

Thanks girls for all the positive replies.

I agree that there is nothing wrong with crying on the wedding day, and I am sure that I will let out some tears when I am walking down the isle with my Dad, and when FI and I say our vows. It is natural though, and completely real, so I know that I should not and will not feel ashamed.

I plan to use one of my grandmothers hankerchifs (sp??) at the ceremony. It can be my "something old" as well as serve a very useful purpose!!

 

[palomablancabride]

I was paranoid that I would end up crying a lot and lose a fake eyelash, but I didn''t cry at all! I was so smiley and happy. I wouldn''t worry about it too much!