Feeling disappointed with FMIL

[gwendolyn]

Date: 6/24/2009 2:27:14 PM
Author: elledizzy5
Glad you''re feeling better, Gwen!


One step a time!

Now you can work on the sister!

Hah! That would take more dust that even PSers can manage.

Thanks, Lorelei m''dear--it is good news! I hate not getting along with people.

 

[FrekeChild]

I''m glad to hear that she apologized and things are better. Can James call my dad please?

 

[gwendolyn]

Date: 6/24/2009 3:26:15 PM
Author: FrekeChild
I''m glad to hear that she apologized and things are better. Can James call my dad please?

Sure! He''s getting good at this kind of stuff. I''d told him to just tell his mom to forget about helping us with money (to save our sanity), and now she''s giving us more than she was going to originally. What kind of magic should he work for you?

 

[LilyKat]

Glad it''s all working out

It must be a huge relief for you. Weddings do bring out the latent psychopath in all of us.

 

[tlh]

that is great news! I''m glad you were able to iron things out!

Plus, even like w/ Deco said, if your FMIL was getting upset that an american wedding "ceremony" would divert attention, funds etc, from the legal wedding, I''d just calmly remind her in ways that aren''t wedding related that she gets to see you both at all the holidays and more often than you get to see your family and friends... sorry if I don''t make sense, Sometimes when pepes lose their heads over crazy stuff, they have forgotten the luxuries of proximity... and how those that are far away are envious OF THAT, more than any party or celebration.

 

[choro72]

Date: 6/24/2009 4:24:23 PM
Author: LilyKat
Glad it's all working out

It must be a huge relief for you. Weddings do bring out the latent psychopath in all of us.

Oh, tell me about it! I think weddings are tightropes the thickness of sewing threads. They mercilessly jiggle to drop friendships and family bonds. On top of that, they are masked in ribbons and flowers! Though if we walk very carefully, it will be a show to remember

Gwen, I'm so glad it all worked out. J is a very brave man!

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

Gwen I am so happy that you spoke with her and resolved the issue - that shows a very good relationship from both your side and hers - always a good way to start things out

I''ve noticed, especially in my dealings with my own FMIL (who I do adore), that sometimes the mother of the groom seems to see-saw back and forth. I suspsect, at least in my case, that this is because the mother of the groom doesn''t typically get the attention that the mother and father of the bride get. It seems a little off balanced as both sides are giving their children away but I guess tradition speaks a bit louder than logic at times.

You may find that you encounter these sorts of displeasantries over the course of the next year. I think it''s compltely normal and so long as you keep your head on straight and try to maintain balance within yourself you should overcome these awkward moments. Wedding are very emotional times and they tend to bring out the best and the worst in all parties involved - if you can continue to take care of yourself and your needs I believe all else will fall into place. Try to keep things in perspective and don''t take everything personally, otherwise you will drive yourself mad.

I really do hope that everything, and I mean EVERY THING, works out for you a J - you are such a lovely couple you deserve nothing but the wedding that resides within both your hearts. I am looking forward to 2010 when I get to see all the photos and hear all about just how worth it all this was!

 

[FrekeChild]

Date: 6/24/2009 3:29:14 PM
Author: gwendolyn

Date: 6/24/2009 3:26:15 PM
Author: FrekeChild
I''m glad to hear that she apologized and things are better. Can James call my dad please?

Sure! He''s getting good at this kind of stuff. I''d told him to just tell his mom to forget about helping us with money (to save our sanity), and now she''s giving us more than she was going to originally. What kind of magic should he work for you?

I just want my dad to stop stressing me out. That''s all.

 

[sunnyd]

Yay Gwennie! Glad everything is working out for you two.

 

[CDNinNYC]

Gwen, I''m glad to hear she''s apologized; I''m keeping my fingers crossed that the situation with the sister improves.

 

[packrat]

I''m glad it got all straightened out for you guys!