First meeting? First impression? First date?

[justageek]

Every couple of months or so, I like to just sit and think about how my bf and I got started and what we''ve been through to get where we are today -- and I''m always shocked that me and bf have come ANYWHERE. I have two questions about YOUR backgrounds with your BF/SO/FI.

To the wonderful people here:

1. When was the first time you met/heard of your SO?
2. What was your first impression?

Me:
1. I first met bf at a party, where we said hello -- and that''s where the conversation ended. He ignored me for the rest of the party. AWKWARD! Left the party not knowing his name and not really wanting to ever meet him again.
2. He''s standoffish and thinks he has better things to do.

Amazing how things change

 

[OUpearlgirl]

Hehe this should be fun.

1. I went with a friend to his fraternity house.. We went into his room and he was playing beer pong. (For those of you who don't know what beer pong is, it's a drinking game involving throwing ping pong balls into cups of beer.) He was my partner and we talked and flirted a little bit.

2. I thought he was a flirt who probably didn't get any studying done. I was right about the flirting part. I was very, very wrong about how serious he can be sometimes

3. First date was to a Hibatchi place about 30 minutes out of the way. Traffic was horrible and there was a tornado warning. We barely made our reservation, sat at a table with a family having a birthday who ignored us, and had the goofiest and most awkward chef of all time. With anyone else it probably would have been a horrible date. But he was so funny and sweet about everything, I had a great time!

 

[somethingshiny]

Well, mine is DH, but I want to play, too.

I was 16 when we first met. My friend was dating his friend. The guys worked together at a grocery store. My friend and I went to talk to her BF and that''s when I saw DH. I didn''t actually meet him, but he was there. He was pretty arrogant (which I have to admit, I liked) and quite good-looking. I thought he was much older than me because he had a full goatee. A couple days later, my friend and I went to her BF''s house. DH was laying on the couch "asleep". Anyway, the little brother, 5, walked into the room asking me to help him find his "bug container". We were looking for it when the kid decides he should look UP my shirt. (apparently he thought I was hiding it.) From DH''s vantage point, he could see right up there, too. He sat up, introduced himself, and started flirting with me. I didn''t really flirt back because I was dating one of his friends. I saw him again a few nights later, just hanging out "uptown", and he was kind of ignoring me, by this time I had broken up with the first guy because I had new game. SO, when one of the other guys asked me to go for a ride in his new jeep, I gladly went along. DH waited until I returned "to make sure I got back safely". I ignored him for a few days until he showed up at my house in the middle of the night on my birthday. He wanted to be the first to say "happy birthday" so he arrived just after midnight. AWWWW. Then, a few days later, he hadn''t called yet, I ran into him at a haunted house. I said I would be terribly frightened if he didn''t hold my hand

. We''ve been together ever since, 11 years now-married 8.

 

[smiles]

i agree this could get funny!

1. one of my bff''s had been "seeing" this guy (in the 15 yr. old kind of way) and then the summer interrupted their little fling. when they "re-met" in september my bff introduced me to him cuz she kinda still thought she liked him and wanted my approval on him. 6 weeks later we were dating. i have a great bff who acted beyond her 15 yr. old age and let me have him and we all stayed friends.

2. when i first met him i was this shy high school girl and i thought he was way too cool for a not so popular girl like me and i thought it would be so cool if he thought i was cute... turns out he did!

 

[goodfun7580]

1. Well it was a random Wednesday night at a local bar. I was there with a friend and he came in with two of his friends and his uncle. His uncle started hitting on me, then one of his friends started hitting on me. His friend got distracted and took my friend to the bathroom (use your imagination). I was left talking to him and another one of his friends. When we were getting ready to leave, he asked me for my number.

2. I thought he was cute and nice, but didn''t really think much of him. I ended up seeing him at the same bar on Friday and I guess the rest is history. The first 4 months he insisted he did not want a girlfriend yet we would spend all our time together. I was finally able to talk him into us being boyfriend and girlfriend. Gosh, I can only imagine how long its going to take to convince him to want to get married. (Just kidding, kinda

)

 

[julybride]

Oooh, what fun!

1. DH and I met on a blind date. A friend of mine who used to work in his law firm kept talking to him about me and in turn talking to me about him. I had just divorced in June ''05 after being separated from my ex for nearly a year and a half. Needless to say, I certainly was not looking for another relationship. DH was a new attorney and very busy and was not really looking either. My friend gave him my number and he called me out of the blue one day and asked me out. I thought, what could it hurt? If I don''t like him, I''ll never have to run in to him again. He thought the same. Our first date (blind date) was to meet for drinks (which quickly turned into dinner) and the rest turned into complete bliss! That first date was Dec ''05 and we were engaged July ''06 and married July''07.

2. My first impression of him was that he was very sweet, sincere, and charming. I new in a couple of days that he was what was missing in my life. I can''t explain it, I just new something was different about him and I wanted to find out more about him. After that first date, we had five more dates within the following week until he had to go out of town to visit his mom for Christmas.

If someone had told me prior to meeting him that my life would have taken this kind of turn, I NEVER would have believed it! I had a terrible first marriage and feel so fortunate to have DH in my life now. Never a day goes by that I forget to tell him just how much I appreciate him.

 

[Sparkalicious]

Date: 12/1/2007 2:10:51 PM
Author:justageek
To the wonderful people here:

1. When was the first time you met/heard of your SO?
2. What was your first impression?

Justageek! You are too much fun ... I''ll play too

1. We met at a nightclub. He came up behind me, tapped me on the shoulder and said "You''re a very beautiful lady and if you would like to dance later, I would love to dance with you" Swoon

2. First impression was before the swoon attack and I was being a loser

. I literally saw him from across the room and thought he was a beautiful speciman of man, however, he looked like a pro athlete and the place where we were had lots of those jerks milling about so I basically "hated" him right away and didn''t want to have anything to do with him. I thought he would be arrogant and pompous ... I guess I must have just been looking in the mirror b/c it turns out that it was me being arrogant

Alls well that ends well!

 

[Mannequin]

1. When was the first time you met/heard of your SO?
This wasn''t very long ago for me.

This past June, I met him through Match.com when he sent me an email. We spent a lot of time talking on the phone and through email before finally meeting at the end of the month for a first date.

2. What was your first impression?
We had dinner at a neat restaurant where the food is great and the vibe is pretty eclectic. I thought he was very sweet and a bit shy, and I couldn''t help but smile at the way he snuck in a good night kiss when he walked me to my car after our dinner. We went out a number of times afterwards and ended up officially together by the end of July. He later told me that out of all the people available on that website, I was always his first choice!

He''s amazing and he''s completely, utterly, 100% head over heels in love with me. He calls me his "magazine girl" because he said it was like picking the perfect girlfriend out a a catalog when he found my online profile. We truly are a great match, and I see only the best in our future.

Sparkalicious - cute story, sounds like you have a real sweetheart.

 

[Sparkalicious]

Date: 12/1/2007 7:37:07 PM
Author: equestrienne
1. When was the first time you met/heard of your SO?
This wasn''t very long ago for me.

This past June, I met him through Match.com when he sent me an email. We spent a lot of time talking on the phone and through email before finally meeting at the end of the month for a first date.

2. What was your first impression?
We had dinner at a neat restaurant where the food is great and the vibe is pretty eclectic. I thought he was very sweet and a bit shy, and I couldn''t help but smile at the way he snuck in a good night kiss when he walked me to my car after our dinner. We went out a number of times afterwards and ended up officially together by the end of July. He later told me that out of all the people available on that website, I was always his first choice!

He''s amazing and he''s completely, utterly, 100% head over heels in love with me. He calls me his ''magazine girl'' because he said it was like picking the perfect girlfriend out a a catalog when he found my online profile. We truly are a great match, and I see only the best in our future.

Sparkalicious - cute story, sounds like you have a real sweetheart.

Equestrienne - I love your story as well! I love "Magazine Girl" ... how cute??!!

My bf is a sweetheart

Thanks! Your doesn''t sound half bad either ... Looks like we bagged some good ones, now if only mine would propose!

 

[Pandora II]

1) I first heard of my FI two days before I met him. My brother''s mad ex-gf was holding a week-end house party at this amazing house in Norfolk that her parents owned (follies, mazes, lakes, the works - it was fairytale like!). I''d done some logo design work for her and she invited me as a thankyou.

Anyhow, she had sent all the guests an email with directions and a timetable for all the weekend''s activities. At the bottom of the girls emails, she had put a list of all the single men attending with comments on each.

FI''s read: Andy: the Brains.

I hadn''t been out in nearly two years as I had been very, very ill for a long time. I was beginning to feel well again, but was rather socially avoidant as I hated having to explain why I had no job, was living with my parents at 32, why I had been ill etc etc, so my mother had had to talk me into going at all.

I was sitting in my brother''s flat reading the email out and when I got to Andy: the Brains, I asked my brother what he was like. ''Definitely not your type...'' was the reply.

2) The first event on the Saturday was a morning cocktail party and croquet on the lawns. It was an amazing day by english weather standards and getting quite hot by 11.30, so I decided to go into the house and swap my jumper for a t-shirt. As I headed for the door, this man walked out. I literally looked at him - and thunderbolts...

I remember going up to change and just thinking - please let him be still there when I get back.

Well, by 3.30pm he had walked me round the gardens and kissed me by the lake. By the end of the weekend I knew I had met the man I would marry - the first thing I told my mother when I got home!

That day is still one of the most magical of my life.

 

[basil]

I met him at work. I was assigned to his team, and he was my direct supervisor. Actually, I was almost not assigned to his team, but switched with another girl at the last minute because she needed certain days off.

I had seen his picture, so I found him in the computer room and said "Hi, are you ___? I'm ____, I'll be working with you for the month." I think I got the reply of "OK, sure, we start in an hour." Then he turned back to the computer. Hardly a magical moment! That day, I remember thinking he was tall and really funny. Kinda cute in a dorky sort of way.

I soon had a crush on him, but I thought it was just a fun little diversion. Then one day, I was sitting with him and watching him push his glasses up on his nose and thinking "oh, that's so cute how he does that and leaves a little mark on the glasses!" That's when I realized that I was in trouble, way more than a fun little crush.

After that I emailed my friend saying that I liked this guy I was working with, who was my superior, so what should I do? We decided that I should wait until we weren't working together anymore, then I should ask him out. Well, the very next day, we were walking down a stairwell, and he said "So, do you think maybe sometime you'd like to go out to dinner?" I was surprised, but I think I said "sure!". I think he didn't believe my answer, cause then he asked, "I mean, like on a date?" I said "Okay". Then we walked along in awkward silence for a while.

That night we ended up going out to dinner. I can remember exactly what I wore and everything. We ended up going to this Thai place that I love. It was kind of awkward even though we had been getting along and flirting all the time at work over the past few weeks. It was even more awkward when a group of coworkers came in the same very small and very uncrowded restaurant! Especially since we technically weren't supposed to be dating! I hardly ate a thing. But our next date was more relaxed and the third was more relaxed than that - when he finally kissed me

 

[doxielover]

We met at a state fair 2 weeks before my 16th b-day. He was with a group of friends, one of whom wanted to talk to the girl I was with. I was totally uninterested, I mean literally looking the other way while he was talking to me. I agreed to give him my number, and when he pulled out a piece of paper, it had some other girl''s number on it! For some reason, I still gave him my number thinking that I''ll probably never talk to this guy again. I guess they were playing ''lets see who can get the most numbers'' game (keep in mind he was only 17 at the time). Of course, he said he threw all the other numbers out as soon as he got home. He called the next day, and I think every day after. Here we are, 11 years later! I almost gave him the wrong number that day and I''m so glad I didn''t.

 

[aliciagirl]

1 (and 2, I guess): Oh man, the first time I met him we were in 7th grade. We never actually talked until 10th grade. I thought he was cute, he thought I was cute, we were both really shy. In high school, I decided he wasn''t good enough for me (how awful of me!) and even though he was very persistant I would not consider dating him at all. We have been very close friends since then, though. We finally got together two years ago, as juniors in college! We always had tons in common but he had very wild, high school boy ways that I wasn''t going to have. I actually made him promise abstinence for a year before I''d go on a date with him. (Haha, I know I sound like such a miserable person, I''m really not though. Just unwilling to settle. Promise

) Well, a sexless year later, he asked me on our first date and I agreed!

We''ve been great ever since.

 

[bee*]

We were setting up my friend with a guy that we used to know from another school and all the girls were going for moral support. Some of his friends came along too and I picked him out from the crowd an sat down beside him. We talked for a while and he was so shy so that was my first impressions of him.
Our first date was to Star Wars movie the following friday-I hate Star wars but sat through the whole movie to impress him!

 

[zoebartlett]

Pandora, what a romantic place and way to meet. I love your story!

 

[zoebartlett]

My FI and I met online. Not very romantic, I know. I had sworn that I would never do the online thing but one of my roommates at the time had started to do it, and that got me motivated to at least try. My FI was the fourth person I had met. I got in touch with him first and he replied soon after. We chatted a few times via e-mail and then he asked me out for coffee. We met within a few weeks of me contacting him. We ended up walking around the downtown area where we had just had coffee, talking and looking at the water. It was really fun and I hoped to see him again. I ended up going to his house the next night, where we had Chinese take out and we watched a movie.

What was my first impression? Honestly? I thought that he kind of resembled one of my ex-boyfriends. While we talked, I found out that he had a lot of the same likes and dislikes as one ex-boyfriend in particular. Even now, I see a few ways where they''re very similar. I remember also thinking that he was very quiet, and it would take some work to get him to come out of his shell.

 

[Neveah]

FUN!!!


1. One of my good friends was looking for a place to live. She answered an ad on craigslist.org for a house where 2 guys lived who were looking for another roomate. She asked me to go with her in case the guys were crazy, killers, etc.
2. He owned the house..... He was gorgeous! And I was convinced he was probably GAY. (Not because of the way he acted.... just because the house was fabulously decorated and he was very well dressed!) After talking he mentioned his sister was an interior decorator and had done his house. DING DING!!!

Anyway..... she moved in on Wednesday, we all went out on Friday..... From that night on we were inseperable. 14 months later he suprised me with a ring and in 5 months he will be my husband

Thank you craigslist.org!

 

[Sparkalicious]

Date: 12/2/2007 6:37:41 PM
Author: Neveah
FUN!!!


1. One of my good friends was looking for a place to live. She answered an ad on craigslist.org for a house where 2 guys lived who were looking for another roomate. She asked me to go with her in case the guys were crazy, killers, etc.
2. He owned the house..... He was gorgeous! And I was convinced he was probably GAY. (Not because of the way he acted.... just because the house was fabulously decorated and he was very well dressed!) After talking he mentioned his sister was an interior decorator and had done his house. DING DING!!!

Anyway..... she moved in on Wednesday, we all went out on Friday..... From that night on we were inseperable. 14 months later he suprised me with a ring and in 5 months he will be my husband

Thank you craigslist.org!

That''s such a great story, Neveah! Yay to you too!

 

[Neveah]

Date: 12/2/2007 6:41:36 PM
Author: Sparkalicious

Date: 12/2/2007 6:37:41 PM
Author: Neveah
FUN!!!


1. One of my good friends was looking for a place to live. She answered an ad on craigslist.org for a house where 2 guys lived who were looking for another roomate. She asked me to go with her in case the guys were crazy, killers, etc.
2. He owned the house..... He was gorgeous! And I was convinced he was probably GAY. (Not because of the way he acted.... just because the house was fabulously decorated and he was very well dressed!) After talking he mentioned his sister was an interior decorator and had done his house. DING DING!!!

Anyway..... she moved in on Wednesday, we all went out on Friday..... From that night on we were inseperable. 14 months later he suprised me with a ring and in 5 months he will be my husband

Thank you craigslist.org!

That''s such a great story, Neveah! Yay to you too!

Awww... thanks!!! But have to admit fiance HATES when I tell the "GAY" part of the story! He always is begging for me to leave that part out!! Ha Ha. I appreciate the metrosexual in him.... it sure helped when he designed me an incredible ering!

 

[Octavia]

BF and I met at work. I had heard of him several months before I actually met him, because a co-worker in my department thought we''d be cute together. I thought, yeah whatever. Several months later, a couple of friends who live in another city came to visit me for a weekend, and we all happened to see BF (from afar) one of the days, and they wondered why I hadn''t taken my co-worker up on the offer to meet him. I thought, yeah whatever. Silly girls.

Fast forward a month or so, and there was an event for everyone in the organization, and mutual friends (one who worked with me, one who worked with him) introduced us. He was sweet...and over the next few weeks, persistent. Initially, I wasn''t so into it for a number of reasons, but he convinced me

It''s been a little over two years, now, and I''m thankful every day that he kept calling.

 

[rubybeth]

Date: 12/1/2007 2:10:51 PM
Author:justageek

To the wonderful people here:

1. When was the first time you met/heard of your SO?

2. What was your first impression?

We were in the same Expository Writing class when I was a senior and he was a junior. I was a transfer student that year, and thought he was pretty cute--tall, dark, and handsome in a geeky way. The first time he really made an impression on me was when he corrected one of my worksheets, and gave me a star and a smiley face along with my 10/10.

We both have strong memories of being in that class together (he remembers exactly where I sat, I remember where he sat) and I kind of confessed my interest in him via a note at the end of the school year (I know, how high school, but he says it gave him butterflies). We went on a ''date'' that summer, but then I started college, and the next year he went away to school, and we just kept in touch via e-mail for the next few years. We then re-met up when he was between semesters studying abroad in Japan and I had just moved home, and my impression of him then was that he was even better than I remembered from high school! It was a frustrating couple more years after that we began dating, but once we did, it was basically like, "This is it, what have we been doing all these years?!"

 

[sunnyd]

good topic! funny, my BF and i were talking about our first date last night!

the first time we met was back in high school, where he was a senior and i was a junior. he was the sterotypical ''guy in a metal band'', and i thought he would be kinda mean. we started working together at a children''s store, and i found out he was really nice, but i wasn''t interested.

a few years later we started working together at a different job, and i realized what an amazing person he was! we flirted a little, but i was with someone at the time. when i became single again, he was the only person i even considered dating. lucky for me, he had a crush on me too!

10 months later, it''s still puppies, glitter and rainbows!!

i find more things to love everyday.

 

[ladypirate]

Aww, cute topic!

K and I met in kind of an awkward way...my parents introduced us! He got his masters at the university where my dad works and they worked in the same department while he was writing his thesis. He and my dad and a couple other coworkers started a wine tasting club together where they''d have dinner once a week. I was still in college at the time, so I wasn''t living at home, but one Christmas my parents hosted a dinner and my dad introduced us. We ended up bonding over a shared love of MST3K. We both liked each other straight off, but we didn''t pursue anything for a long time because A. I didn''t know what I was doing after college, B. He was friends with my parents, and C. Neither of us actually TOLD the other one that we liked each other.

He told me that his first thought upon meeting me was "Man, she''s awesome...why does she have to be [my Dad]''s daughter!?" My first thought was "Wow...he''s really tall and smart and funny. Too bad he''s off limits..."

As it turns out, though, my parents were hoping we''d hit it off. They were absolutely thrilled when we finally got around to it!

Our first "official" date was after we''d been a couple for a while already. We went to Disneyland.

 

[sandia_rose]

My boyfriend and I have actually "danced" around each other for about 15 years and finally met each other two years ago....

When I was in my 20s, it was the mid-late 80s, and I went out to clubs A LOT to see live music - local bands as well as arena acts like Bon Jovi, Warrant, Poison, etc. I don''t live that far from NYC, and the music scene was huge in this area back then. For example, I saw Bon Jovi in a club before they got signed. There was a club about 20 miles from my house that had local acts opening up for national acts. A few nights, I went there and noticed this guy who looked kind of like Freddie Mercury with a moustache (http://www.babelfm.com/freddiemercury/freddie_mercury.jpg), only very very tall (over 6'' tall) and with long hair. Another time, I went to the club to see The Outlaws, and the guy happened to be the singer in the band that opened up for them! I always had a thing for musicians, so needless to say, I pushed my way through the crowd to get in front and try to get his attention. Remember, Ladies, it was the 80s. I''m a redhead that looked like Tawny Kitaen (the girl in the Whitesnake videos) back then (still do, only older now), and I amped the resemblence up for all it was worth

. But...when I got up close enough, I saw that he was wearing a wedding band. Damn! I never did and never would touch another woman''s husband with a ten foot pole, so although I still went to that club and still saw the guy and his band, I didn''t try to talk to him, go near him, etc.

Fast forward to two years ago. I had gone through a nasty divorce and had spent the first year after that hanging out with my girlfriends, taking care of my son and just hiding in my apartment. A friend of mine at work kept trying to get me to go places with her when my son was with his father, and I wouldn''t go. She said, "You need to get out and meet people. It''s not good for you to sit at home all the time." I told her I wasn''t going to meet any nice men in bars, so if I went out, it''d just be to hang with the girls. Then she said, "Why don''t you try Match.com?" And I said, "Internet dating? I don''t think so." So she said, "If I paid for your membership and helped you do a profile, would you at least try?" And I said, "If it gets you to stop hounding me, OK." She can be quite persistent when she wants to be.

So, she set up my membership and helped me do a profile. She wanted me to start looking at men when we finished - so I could see for myself what was out there - and I told her to come back to my place the next day and I''d do it then instead. Secretly, I planned to "work late" so I wouldn''t have to. My divorce was horrible and honestly, I did not trust men, even after spending the first year after my divorce alone.

I never got a chance to blow her off, so to speak. I tried to call her to let her know I was stuck at work, but for some reason, her home answering machine was shut off and her cell was just going to voicemail. So I thought I''d go home and dodge her.....but she was waiting for me on my stoop with a bottle of wine. I laughed and she said, "You didn''t think you''d blow me off that easily, did you? I know you and how you think."

Halfway through that bottle of wine, we came upon a profile of a gorgeous man with salt and pepper hair. His profile picture showed him in front of a microphone, and my friend said, "OK, you like musicians. Here''s one." And I hemmed and hawed and told her, "He is freaking gorgrous! A man like that is not going to want me." So she said, "Here we go again. Just e-mail him." I told her I''d do it in the morning when I got to work. She said, "I''m going to hold you to that." When I got in work the next day, I logged into Match and was seriously going to e-mail the guy - because my friend is relentless and would give me all kinds of crap for not doing it. Only I didn''t get a chance. He saw my profile AND E-MAILED ME FIRST! His e-mail was very sweet. It said that his Match subscription had expired - he let it because he''d been on a year and hadn''t met anyone that clicked with him beyond 2 or 3 dates. But he was still in the habit of looking and actually signed up again to get my e-mail address to contact me! He said that a lot of what I wrote in my profile intrigued him and he was attracted to my natural beauty (I don''t wear a lot of make-up anymore) and smile and had a gut feeling we''d hit it off. When I talked to him on the phone, we talked for almost 3 hours. When we met in person, it was immediately comfortable and cool.

Talking over the next couple of weeks was when we learned we''d been in the same circles for a while. When his band didn''t have shows, he''d do sound for the club - that was where he worked several times a week. He was married at the time - but when I showed him pictures of myself from back then, he said that he remembered me and that I caught his eye more than once. So I said, "And you didn''t think of approaching me?" And he said, "I did. But I was married for almost 20 years and my marriage went sour early on -- but I stayed in it partly because of guilt - my ex had substance and psych issues and I felt obligated to take care of her - and partly because I had 2 little kids. Working in a rock club, I noticed women all the time, but that''s as far as it went. I never cheated on my wife or even talked to other women back then. But if I was single then, I''d have snapped you up in a second." We discovered that we have friends/aquaintances in common, too, and have a lot of the same memories because we were in a lot of the same places at the same time without being aware of that. The reason why I didn''t add 2+2 when I saw him on Match is because his hair is salt and pepper now - not black like it was. He''s cut it to just below his shoulders - and it''s curly now - his hair is straight when it is long. He''s also about 50 pounds heavier (which is not as extreme as it sounds on someone who is 6''6") than when he was younger. And now, he has a close-cropped beard along with the moustache. He looked like Freddie Mercury back then and looks like Michael McDonald (of the Doobie Brothers) today. See here - he looks a lot like this: http://www.giles.com/yamaha1/pr/corp/images/NAMMconcert/michael_mcdonald.jpg

If I look back on it, I wasn''t very mature in my 20s. He said that he wasn''t, either. Marriage and parenthood were huge adjustments for him, from what he has said. I wouldn''t have been ready to potentially parent two little kids back then. Now, he''s got the kids about 90% of the time because of his ex-wife''s issues, and he said that he''s learned a lot about parenting from having to learn the hard way and basically be a single dad. His kids are teenagers now, and I have a decent relationship with both of them. He doesn''t work in the club anymore (it closed in the 90s) and has his own construction business instead. I probably wouldn''t have appreciated him had I met him back when I first noticed him, but after the marriage and divorce from hell and the fact that we''ve both grown up, I am grateful that he''s in my life. If he proposed, I''d accept in a heartbeat!

Sorry this was so long, but that''s my story!

Bridget in Connecticut.

 

[Kaffine14]

OOOOOO This is great!

Before I say how J and I met you need to know a little history. Rewind about 2 months before we actually met (October 2005). My old roommate and good friend was dating this guy for about a year. Whenever I hung out with them together I always jokingly asked if he had any guys friends that I might like, etc etc. Well, my friend and her boyfriend were in town near my apartment visiting one of his friends from college. My good friend called me up and left me this voicemail which said, "Kathleen, I am right near your apartment visiting one of my boyfriend''s college buddies and you need to come and meet us. He lives 5 minutes down the road from you and he is soooooo cute and I think that you guys will totally hit it off." Later on, I get this message and I was intrigued but totally in a movie watching kind of mood, so I just didn''t call her back. I called her the next day and she was flipping out saying that we would have been perfect together and that I have to meet him next time they visit, so I agree. Unfortunately, my friend and her boyfriend break up a month later.

Flash forward to December 29, 2005. I was in a pissy mood, upset that New Years was coming up and I didn''t have a date let alone a guy I was interested in. I went to my best friends house to watch some TV, when I get convinced to go out to this bar. After a couple drinks and a couple different bars, I ended up at Wonder Bar with my friends. I noticed this man out of the corner of my eye and literally everything around me stopped. I just kept staring at him, giving him those, you better come and talk to me eyes (sex eyes). Next thing I know I get a tap on my shoulder and I turn around and its him! He said, "Hi, my name is J what is yours?" We talked for the rest of the night until closing and he offered to walk me home, which I turned down. He asked me if it would be alright if he called me tomorrow and said that "he never meets anyone at a bar and couldn''t get over how much we clicked." HAHA, I was thinking bull shit, I won''t believe you until you actually call the next day. Well, he called the next day and we hung out that night, and things were going so well that he invited me to his New Years party with all his friends. So, I did end up having a date for New Years and a boyfriend for almost the next 2 years.

New Years Day I was home telling my Mom, sister and my good friend (from before) about him. When my friend kept asking me these random questions like she knew him. Then we made the connection that J was the same guy that her ex-boyfriend and her tried to set me up with! I flipped out and could not believe it! Then I knew it was fate!

 

[Stephanie]

So much fun reading everyones'' memories!!

Here goes mine:

1.) It was New Years Eve 1999, during my first year at university. I really wasn''t sure that I had made the right decision to come back to school before Christmas break was over, but it gave me some time to enjoy my apartment sans roommates. Some girlfriends came over and talked me into going to the huge party that was going on in the main street of the town (small town and a bit of a party town). We arrived around 11pm and somehow I had gotten separated from the girls that I had come with, but I soon met up with some other friends that were on the other side of the massive block party. The ball dropped and I of course had no one to kiss because I had ended my relationship in October and hadn''t felt like dating. After standing in the street for what seemed like an eternity, I looked to my left and saw him, grey long sleeve polo and olive pants. I just kept staring, literally. The reason that I just stood there like an idiot was because he looked very, very familiar. He noticed me looking (and the hat that I was wearing, he later told me) and came over to me. Still, I just sat there trying to figure out how I knew him. He asked if he could take a picture with me. I said yes. After that picture was taken, his friends annoucned that they were headed back to their house. Since I couldn''t get a hold of the girls I rode with, I just went with them back to the house. The night continued and I finally realized where I knew him from - I thought that he was the guy that I had just graduated high school with. Of course, it wasn''t the guy I had graduated high school with, it was his older brother. They look exactly alike, minus some height. And we just hit it off. We talked the whole night, next morning, and had our first date 1/1/00.
2.) First impression - well, considering that there was some drinks involved - I thought that he was extremely forward since he came up to me like that. But as the night wore on, I just knew that he was perfect for me.

 

[anchor31]

Haha... It wasn''t a "love at first sight" story for us...

First time I heard of him: My brother went to a party were my FI was also invited. FI has fair skin and apparently didn''t reapply sunscreen after going swimming... He burned so bad on his shoulders and upper back he blistered. Yep, second degree burns. My first thought: "Heh, that''ll teach him."

First time we met: He wasn’t in a very good place in his life. He was 21, finishing his carpentry course full time and working full time; he was tired and didn’t have much time for himself, neither did he really make an effort to impress. I thought he was a very average guy!

First date: He took me out for my 18th birthday. He’d started to work full time as a carpenter; he came to get me from work without taking the time to change and he got stuck in traffic, so he was very late and still in his old work clothes… Somehow during the evening I still managed to get blown away by his blue eyes!

It was a slow start, but meeting me definitely motivated him to dress smarter and manage his spending habits… If someone had told me I would end up marrying him when we first met, I might not have believed them, but now I wouldn’t have it any other way!

 

[chelleliz]

First Time We Met: out at a bar one night. My BFF introduced me to him and his roommate. I was immediately drawn to his roommate LOL. The roommate and I started dating/hanging out for a couple of weeks. In the meantime, FF and I talked a lot on the phone and hung out in groups. Suddenly, I realized I was with the wrong roommate! It was weird, because weeks later things with the roommate had fizzled and we were out one night at a bar. FF and I made eye contact and I winked (not even meaning to, just kind of a habit) and that''s when we both fell. Then he had to break the news to his roommate. It was a little awkward, but totally worth it.

First Impression: I thought he was the nicest guy I had ever met. He had everything going for him -- he was hilarious, driven, sweet, family-oriented. Somehow, the physical attraction just wasn''t there. I have no idea why, because now I think he is the sexiest, most handsome man I''ve ever seen!

 

[musey]

1. We first met through mutual friends at a party (in college). We were an "item" less than a week later.

2. First impression? I thought he was quite nerdy!! He was wearing tapered CK jeans the first time I saw him. Needless to say, the first few months after we started dating included a lot of shopping trips together

3. Our first date was seeing a singer-songwriter (now friend) of ours. We now babysit his daughter together

 

[princesss]

Fun topic!

1. BF and I "met" our first day of classes freshman year of college. I was interested in someone else, and he was the obnoxious guy in class that asked annoying questions that take 10 minutes to answer 3 minutes before the end of class.

2. I thought he was annoying and a pain in the patoot. But then I talked to him and found out that he''s actually a really funny guy.

We didn''t actually start dating for a few months, we had to get our respective heads out of our butts (but I had to do that a lot more of that than he did). We were great friends, though, and I actually got a chance to get to know him. We were each other''s go-to person, and we helped each other through some really hard times which gave me a chance to find out a lot about him. Knowing how much he cares about the people around him was actually kind of surprising, because he put out a tough exterior. Plus we had some "weird" similarities: we both love maps and eat coloured candies the same way (sorted by colour, regardless of flavour).

We''ve now been together almost 3 years (January ''08, woohoo!) and I''m a very content member of the LIWFAW club. I''m so excited to be with him, and that we''re on the same page about wanting to do a ton more before considering actually getting engaged. (Yeah, yeah, why am I on the board, I know....I love diamonds and romantic stories, and this is the perfect place to get my fix!)