Frustrated at friends

[Cravin My Emerald cut]

Date: 1/22/2008 10:01:56 AM
Author: jng2b
I agree- I think you should have not said anything about the ring you want. It does seem a little rude to talk about the 2-carat ring that you want when your friend is all excited about her brand new ring that is much smaller. She might not be jealous - but she probably thinks that you are jealous that she is engaged and that you are trying to show off. This is like a friend I used to have - I would talk about how much I wanted a house - any house! And she would then talk about her townhome, and then her $600,000 single family home, and then the THIRD home that she was about to buy! It just pissed me off - it was inconsiderate of her to talk about all of her houses when she knew how hard it was for me to afford just one small house! So I''d bet that your friend is feeling the same way - she can''t understand why you are bragging about a 2 ct stone that you don''t even have, when she just wants you to be excited for her ring and her engagement. Just a perspective from the other side! Next time, just don''t say anything.

Ok....to defend myself a little. I was by no means bragging about the size of the ring I "hope" to get. I was asked and I told. We weren''t talking about her ring, but rings in general. Also, as I mentioned in a few other posts in this thread....most of our friends and coworkers have 1-1.5 carat rings, so it''s not like a 2 carat emerald would be the "monster" of the bunch. My engaged friend could''ve gotten a much larger stone, but her boyfriend surprised her with the ring and he''s into name brands and wanted a Birks ring for his girl. I''m sure it''s probably D or E color and he shelled out a pretty penny for it. She loves it and that''s all that matters.

When my boyfriend first brought up the topic of rings, I was hoping for something around the 1 carat mark....HE is the one that wanted to get something larger for me. HE told me his budget and I have since been educating myself so I can decide what "trade-offs" I''m willing to make. I personally do not want to pay for a name brand, and am willing to compromise slightly on color seeing as how I personally can''t see a huge difference.

Engagement rings are a very personal thing and I never criticize them, because it''s their ring not mine. I also think the stone shape and setting someone chooses says as much (if not more) about them as the size of the stone.

 

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Date: 1/22/2008 5:43:07 PM
Author: Cravin My Emerald cut

Date: 1/22/2008 10:01:56 AM

Author: jng2b


Engagement rings are a very personal thing and I never criticize them, because it''s their ring not mine. I also think the stone shape and setting someone chooses says as much (if not more) about them as the size of the stone.

On that front, I whole-heartedly agree.