Help resolve and argument with my DH...

[elle_chris]

Date: 4/18/2010 10:02:00 PM
Author: Kaleigh
I don''t get why this is an argument?? Your husband''s brother got engaged... His future wife is your husband''s SIL and will be a SIL to you as well.

I shared this with my husband, he was like why is this even a question?? I am with him...


Unless the rules have changed? This is how it''s been for years....

I''m wondering if this also cultural. I know in my family and my husbands (both eastern europe), we really don''t consider someone that far removed from our immediate family as "family". I don''t believe there''s even a word for it in Russian. But I could be wrong.

Oh, and my husband reminded me how i refer to his sisters husband, "my sister-in-laws husband".

 

[janinegirly]

Pretty sure it's sister-in-law, much like she becomes aunt to all children etc. My sister refers to my DH as brother in law so I just assumed it carried out.

But DH's brother just married his LIW as well and I'm not a fan, so please let me know if I can just refer to her as HIS sister in law,

Let us know the conclusion!

 

[Dreamer_D]

Date: 4/18/2010 10:02:00 PM
Author: Kaleigh
I don''t get why this is an argument?? Your husband''s brother got engaged... His future wife is your husband''s SIL and will be a SIL to you as well.

I shared this with my husband, he was like why is this even a question?? I am with him...


Unless the rules have changed? This is how it''s been for years....

LOL! He and I are arguing over the semantics.

I just think that if he becomes both of our sisters in law it implies he and I are somehow related by blood, like incest or something

If my husband''s brother is my brother in law (which we both agree he is) and then his wife is both my husband''s and my sister in law, then it all sounds like a bunch of brothers and sisters married or something!

I still think technically the relationship labels are not as broad as the colloquial use that everyone here espouses. Like people use "cousin" to refer to all sorts of "once removed" and "first/second" cousin relationships. I think this is the same thing, and I want to know what the technical term is.

Someone asked here too and as someone said earlier, she would be my "sister-in-law by marriage" technically, but I suppose shorted to SIL http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/marriage/husband-brothers-wifes-brother-law-147008.html

So technically I am right

I will tell DH now.

 

[hawaiianorangetree]

To me, she would be you sister in law because she is your husbands sister and law and whats his is yours?? (Hope that made sense!)

 

[Cehrabehra]

I would always just say "sister in law" because it really doesn''t matter who is married to whom, you know it is a ''by marriage'' relation and not a blood one. If I needed to clarify things I would say, "my husband''s brother''s wife" because technically if I just say, "my husband''s sister in law" I could be referring to my own sister lol

 

[Cehrabehra]

BTW my husband''s sisters - the younger one calls me her sister in law and the older one when she introduces me says, "this is my friend Sara. She''s married to my brother". We went to kindergarten together and she still thinks of me as her friend first lol

 

[radiantquest]

I would say my brother in laws wife.

 

[charbie]

i say she is your sister in law. you and your husband are now your own family.

kaleigh- i keep laughing as i''m looking through this. you keep popping in, and it''s like, "um, hello people. duh!" and i mean that most endearingly

 

[elrohwen]

I consider your DH''s sister to be your SIL, and her husband to be your BIL. He would also be your DH''s BIL.

 

[elle_chris]

Date: 4/19/2010 9:29:35 AM
Author: Cehrabehra
BTW my husband''s sisters - the younger one calls me her sister in law and the older one when she introduces me says, ''this is my friend Sara. She''s married to my brother''. We went to kindergarten together and she still thinks of me as her friend first lol

There are times when I do this as well. Introduce my sister-in-law as my husbands sister. I think that''s really what it comes down to, how you view the person.

 

[LadyBlue]

Date: 4/19/2010 1:36:29 AM
Author: dreamer_d

Date: 4/18/2010 10:02:00 PM
Author: Kaleigh
I don''t get why this is an argument?? Your husband''s brother got engaged... His future wife is your husband''s SIL and will be a SIL to you as well.

I shared this with my husband, he was like why is this even a question?? I am with him...


Unless the rules have changed? This is how it''s been for years....

LOL! He and I are arguing over the semantics.

I just think that if he becomes both of our sisters in law it implies he and I are somehow related by blood, like incest or something

If my husband''s brother is my brother in law (which we both agree he is) and then his wife is both my husband''s and my sister in law, then it all sounds like a bunch of brothers and sisters married or something!

I still think technically the relationship labels are not as broad as the colloquial use that everyone here espouses. Like people use ''cousin'' to refer to all sorts of ''once removed'' and ''first/second'' cousin relationships. I think this is the same thing, and I want to know what the technical term is.

Someone asked here too and as someone said earlier, she would be my ''sister-in-law by marriage'' technically, but I suppose shorted to SIL http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/marriage/husband-brothers-wifes-brother-law-147008.html

So technically I am right

I will tell DH now.

I will technically said your DH is right, since she will be you Co sister in law.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brother-in-law