How and Why you decided to have more kids... or not.

[peasypeas]

Two things stood out to me when reading your post. One, that you want another baby. Two, that you don't feel like your family is "finished." Those two things for me would solidify my decision to have another. Everything else I think would fall into place, priority-wise. You can change your lifestyle to accomodate your wishes as far as living comfortably/within your means while still being able to take family vacations. You may have to redefine what "going without" means, and you may have to get creative with family vacations so they're more about family bonding and experience rather than posting glamour shots on FB, but I think where there's a will, there's a way.

this is all true.
honestly I don't think any family ever regrets having a child
I think I've always wanted six.
we had one, two years (within a few weeks) we had another.
I thought, ok I'm done, this is comfortable, I'm raising these kids on my own with all these deployments. and so on.
then somewhere after that I decided another would be good, she's also almost exactly 2 years younger than my last
I struggle with more because I wanted another in 2010 and 2012 but we put that on hold because of other life changes. Now I'm wondering if I'm too old. and like you I want to take everyone on vacations, we're thinking Hawaii next and let's face it five tickets from the east coast isn't cheap, but we've had fun closer vacations too. so as long as we're together, having fun and such the place isn't that big of a deal.
and as long as we can save for college and retirement, that was a concern for us.

 

[bubbly1126]

Thanks so much for all your replied. I truly appreciate your honesty and advice.

I don't have time tonight for a full response but I'll be back at some point this weekend. I can tell you that DH and I had a long discussion tonight about the subject. No decision yet but we'll get there...