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Hello !!

This is probably not a new topic but -- how did you know that your dress was '' the one''
Im the first of my girl friends to get engaged and be on my way to getting married so none of them understand any of my wedding issues. My biggest problem currently is doubts about the one dress I really like Although I did have a ''moment'' in the dress, I found that I came home with alot of doubt about whether it was the one. I tried on a few dresses and I liked all of them but this one did stick out so then why the second guessing ergh!! Help please Im just confused now. Isnt this supposed to be a fun exciting experience? but Im only feeling stress and anxiety


So my fellow Pricescopers after lurking for a long time I have finally come to a point where i have to ask -- How did you know??
 
I never had that moment, to be honest. I''m not sure most brides do. I didn''t really shop for more than a day and in that day I probably tried on a dozen or more dresses. The one I chose was the most "me". I thought it was pretty, I thought it flattered my figure, it was below budget. I wasn''t interested in shopping around anymore, so I bought it and loved it and that was it!
 
I searched online for styles I liked. Went to a store with a list I wanted to try on and waited for my then fiance/now husbands'' face to light up. When it did I knew I''d found the right dress for me. I didn''t hear angels sing or anything dramatic, he liked me in it and I thought/think it''s a beautiful dress that suits me.

Good luck shopping!
 
I had that moment.

I knew in the dressing room before I saw myself in my dress. I looked down and I just knew I would marry my then-FI in that dress. I felt like the most beautiful girl in the whole wide world, and then when I saw myself in the dress it was the first time that I looked as incredible as I felt about marrying my man. There was no question about it, that was my dress.
 
i had that moment....and then i didnt want to take it off...i must have pranced around alfred angelo for over an hour in that damn dress before giving it back. and this is coming from someone who was dreading dress shopping. that day i joked about the lady having to drag me into the dressing room!
 
I never had that moment. It took me 5 trips to David''s Bridal and 2 to Alfred Angelo (I must have tried on 40-50 dresses), an initial purchase, and then an exchange to finally settle on the dress. But my situation was complicated by a fundamental conflict between what I knew I wanted and what FI wanted for a wedding dress. The first dress was what I wanted for myself, but even then, there wasn''t an "OMG this is the dress!" moment. The exchange was a compromise on my part for a dress that would make FI''s eyes light up on our wedding day. I took into account my sense of style, my memory of all the other dresses I had tried on, my mom and MOH''s encouragement, and what I knew my FI would want...so the decision was more of a rational weighing of pros and cons and less of a visceral "wow!" moment. I suppose that''s not the typical process for most brides!
 
I didn''t have "the moment." I liked my dress better than any of the others I''d tried on, and when they offered to sell me the sample, that sealed the deal. I went to 6-7 bridal stores over the course of 2-3 months, and tried on a probably close to 50 dresses. I was pretty much set on a Casablanca dress, but I had one appointment left so I kept it. I tried on what is now my dress, and it just looked more "wedding-y" to me than any of the other dresses. It was above my budget, but then they offered to sell me the sample and I negotiated the price down even more. I should say that a lot of the dresses just didn''t fit me, or more accurately, didn''t camoflauge (sp?) my figure flaws the way I needed them to. Or, the style just wasn''t "me." And, I was on a budget; I wanted to keep it right around $600-$700 max. So, it was a calculated decision, based on my gut instinct that I liked this one the best.
 
I never had that moment. Actually I pretty much kinda didn''t like every dress I tried on but finally after a million bridal stores and close to 70 dresses I tried one on with my mom and liked so we bought it. It was the LAST dress I was trying on...I am happy with my decision!
 
Haha I haven''t started trying on dresses yet but I just wanted you all to know that it''s so encouraging to know you tried on 40, 50, even 70 dresses!! I have this huge list of dresses I want to try but was so worried it was going to be an insane amount compared to what most people try. I''m actually starting to look forward to it now!
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I saw a dress in a magazine and 6 months later was able to try it on. I loved it. I think I knew the moment I saw it in the magazine that it would be my dress. I only maybe tried on 10-15 dresses total and didn't really like any of them, so it wasn't a hard choice. I guess I just know what I like and what looks good on me. Or I just got lucky.
 
I think you just know, it''s this feeling you get, and it tells you that this is what you are meant to wear, and be seen in. It just feels right, and cry really just seals the deal. I bursted in to tears. Without any makeup, and my hair fizzy I had never felt most beautiful in my whole life.
 
I guess I did have that moment ! Now I just pray my fiance loves it as much as I do, and we make love while im in it lol
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Date: 12/19/2008 7:51:58 AM
Author: luvthemstrawberries
Haha I haven''t started trying on dresses yet but I just wanted you all to know that it''s so encouraging to know you tried on 40, 50, even 70 dresses!! I have this huge list of dresses I want to try but was so worried it was going to be an insane amount compared to what most people try. I''m actually starting to look forward to it now!
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wow, i must be lucky. i think i tried on five.
 
dont worry strawberries, you''ll find the one! make your dress trying as special as you can each time - bring girlfriends along and make it a girly day - and try not to try on too many in one day or you''ll go batty (from what i hear from a friend who had to try on alot!)

good luck :)
 
Date: 12/19/2008 9:04:21 AM
Author: DMBFiredancer
dont worry strawberries, you''ll find the one! make your dress trying as special as you can each time - bring girlfriends along and make it a girly day - and try not to try on too many in one day or you''ll go batty (from what i hear from a friend who had to try on alot!)


good luck :)
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I know this is crazy and goes against any kind of girl-pact that exists, but I honestly have found that I don''t like going dress shopping with other people. I did the first couple times, and I got to be too swayed by their opinion. I passed on dresses I liked and started to contemplate dresses they loved, just because of all the reaction. I plan on taking my BF and mom or FMIL to get their opinion on the one I am thinking about buying, but until then, I am going solo (although I do feel really self conscious about this still--have only done it once since I made this decision).

The other advice I heard that I really liked is that you don''t need to worry about ranking them or keeping other dresses in mind. You have a "favorite" and "the rest". I have found some I love, but I wasn''t able to buy any of them on the spot. That is how I would guess I found "the one." I wouldn''t really expect myself to feel that way, though--I just don''t have that kind of deeply passionate response in my personality. I am much more an uncertain or a want-to-really-think-it-out-and-feel-like-I-made-a-rational-decision kinda gal.
 
Date: 12/19/2008 11:31:41 AM
Author: katamari

Date: 12/19/2008 9:04:21 AM
Author: DMBFiredancer
dont worry strawberries, you''ll find the one! make your dress trying as special as you can each time - bring girlfriends along and make it a girly day - and try not to try on too many in one day or you''ll go batty (from what i hear from a friend who had to try on alot!)


good luck :)
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I know this is crazy and goes against any kind of girl-pact that exists, but I honestly have found that I don''t like going dress shopping with other people. I did the first couple times, and I got to be too swayed by their opinion. I passed on dresses I liked and started to contemplate dresses they loved, just because of all the reaction. I plan on taking my BF and mom or FMIL to get their opinion on the one I am thinking about buying, but until then, I am going solo (although I do feel really self conscious about this still--have only done it once since I made this decision).

The other advice I heard that I really liked is that you don''t need to worry about ranking them or keeping other dresses in mind. You have a ''favorite'' and ''the rest''. I have found some I love, but I wasn''t able to buy any of them on the spot. That is how I would guess I found ''the one.'' I wouldn''t really expect myself to feel that way, though--I just don''t have that kind of deeply passionate response in my personality. I am much more an uncertain or a want-to-really-think-it-out-and-feel-like-I-made-a-rational-decision kinda gal.
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Katamari, I think that''s so true. I tried going with my mom a few times, and I realized that her sense of style is just sooo different from mine that it wasn''t working. She liked things that I hated and vice versa. Finally I went with just FI and it was great. He doesn''t have strong tastes, so he lets me pick out what I like, but he will honestly tell me if one dress was more flattering than another. It was so quick and easy to not have to justify what I liked to others that I was able to say "Yes, I love this dress and I''m going to get it." I was never confident in my decisions with others there because they were influencing my decision too much.

My advice to any girl about to go try on dresses would be to go by yourself or with one trusted friend that knows your style (or your FI or your mom, whatever) and narrow your choices down to just a few. Then, if you really think you might want to buy one of the dresses, go back with an entourage of people to help you make the final decision. Just pick an initial person who won''t try to influence you, but will be honest about how things look on you.
 
I definitely had that moment! I couldn''t stop smiling because I felt sexy and beautiful and just knew it was the dress. I didn''t want to take it off and I kept dancing around in it. It also helped that both my mom and my sister gasped and said "OMG Pocahontas, this is the one." Up until that point, the three of us couldn''t agree on a single dress. I seriously cannot wait to wear it!
 
I didn''t think I would have that "moment." Although I watch Say Yes to the Dress, to me, the dress is well, just a dress. Yeah, well, she stuck a veil on me and sudddenly I got really sentimental. Go figure!

Some people do, some people don''t. I''m just kinda sad that only after 15 dresses I found my dress. It was pretty fun trying on dresses! But, since my friend is getting married, I get to go through the whole process with her! Yippeee!!!!
 
I didn''t really have a moment either but I just knew that the dress I picked was the one for me. I tried on a lot of dresses after I tried on mine and everyone I tried one on, I said to my mam I preferred my one so that was it.
 
I dunno if I had "the moment" or not. But the dress was everything that I had ever imagined as a little girl. It looked amazing on my. I couldn''t beat the price. And I guess the real clincher was that I''m no delicate flower and always felt that I needed to lose weight for the wedding day. But when I put on my dress. I felt so beautiful and I knew that I would feel just that beautiful on my wedding day even if I didn''t lose a pound.
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I never knew that my dress was the "one", and I still don't. Trying on dresses wasn't really a fun experience for me which is odd because I LOVE fashion and shopping. There were dresses I hated, dresses I liked, dresses I really liked, and then the one I loved. So I went with the only dress I actually loved. My dress FINALLY came in last weekend so I went to try it on, and had some doubts, but then I look at more dresses online and the only dresses I am drawn to are the ones that look like mine. I can be pretty indecisive so I have to factor that into my doubts.

Just pick one that stands above the rest, order it, and stop looking for dresses!

I should also add, that my mom didn't care for the dress I chose and did everything in her power to get me to NOT purchase it, which really didn't help my doubts either.
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Wow Thanks so much guys. Everyone has such valid points
You definitely made me feel much better. There is one dress I am drawn to -- so you know what that means Pics for you guys yay !!
 
I think that because I have a pretty curvy body and I''ve learned what looks good on me I pretty much knew my dress before I tried it on. That being said I knew as soon as I saw it on the hanger. I went in wanting one dress but the store didnt have a sample yet since the style was so new. When the sa told me the price i decided that the dress I saw in the pic sadly I would never try one. So...I told her all of the details that I wanted in my dress and she brought in 5. I looked at them on the hanger and said...thats it..pointed to my dress but decided to try it on second so that I didn''t buy the first dress I tried on. I did indeed buy the second. Quite recently I''ve lost some weight so I''m hoping that my dress still looks as good on me when it comes in. I had the moment!
 
I''ve been saying lately that I never had that moment, but I think that''s not true--I did have a ''moment'', just not with the dress I chose.

The very first dress I tried on I LOVED. Loved. I still feel a little sad that I didn''t wear it for my wedding. Even though I know that the one I ended up choosing was the better choice, I still feel a pang of sadness when I run across a picture of "the" dress.

The one I chose I did have a moment with, but a lesser one. It was a "oh, this has all the elements I wanted, and looks lovely on me" moment as opposed to the "OH. MY. GOD. THISISMYDRESS." moment that I had with the first one. I will, in the long run, be glad I chose the one I chose, though. I passed over the "OHMYGOD" dress because it didn''t achieve what I wanted to achieve on my wedding day (to accent my hourglass figure and have an antiquey feel), where dress #2 did. My 50-year-old no-longer-in-shape self will thank my 23-year-old self for it.


Anyway, I posted in another thread recently that not everyone is capable of "this is it" moments. I''ve never really had one in my life over anything (I don''t think the dress moment counts, as it wasn''t an accurate feeling). You don''t have to have that moment with your dress to know that it''s the dress. What makes a dress the dress is you loving it, feeling beautiful in it and wearing it on your wedding day. That''s it, no more and no less. Just keep trying them on, try not to pressure yourself and choose the dress that you keep coming back to--"moment" or no!
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