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I think we are the shortest so far at 11 months. When ya know ya know. We''ve already been living together for 10 months too! The ring is in hand hoping for an engagement this month or next.
 
Date: 5/11/2010 7:07:59 AM
Author: damons
My girl and I have been together for 3.5 years. I am proposing on June 26. I can''t wait!!
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Excellent choice of date! That''s my anni with my man! Best of luck to you!
 
We were together a little over 4 years when we got engaged and will have been together about 5 1/2 years when we get married.

Re "when you know, you know" - I''m sure a lot of us who have been together longer periods of time "knew" early on in the relationship as well. We just have/had different preferences with regard to length of relationship before marriage or places in life (school, buying house, etc.)
 
Only 11 months here as well (actually, not quite 11 months yet!). It really is true, though...you just know. I''ve been in 6-year-long relationships and it just never felt like this.
 
Date: 5/11/2010 10:42:43 AM
Author: lucyandroger
Re ''when you know, you know'' - I''m sure a lot of us who have been together longer periods of time ''knew'' early on in the relationship as well. We just have/had different preferences with regard to length of relationship before marriage or places in life (school, buying house, etc.)
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Very true, and I''m sorry if the when-you-know-you-know-ing offends! I think those of us in newer relationships are so used to having to defend our readiness to marry that we sometimes forget that statements like that can be flipped around to mean something along the lines of "you should know early on or something''s wrong," which is not the intention at all.
 
Date: 5/10/2010 9:43:29 PM
Author: Narwhal

Date: 5/10/2010 7:57:49 PM
Author: audball
A little over 4 1/2 years. We''ll be 5 years Nov 7. Living together since July of 06.
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We are almost relationship twins! Will be 5 yrs in Oct. And living together since June of 06.

And i completely understand about making past the previous long standing relationship. We passed that at the 4 yr make. Both in uncharted territory now. Where as it was just I in uncharted territory before:)
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We sure are! I was S''s longest relationship at about a year, so I wonder if he felt that way. My longest before this was just two weeks shy of 3 years. When we celebrated our 3 year, I was
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. Glad we''re both in new territory now.
 
We "officially" started dating after about 2 months of unofficially dating (we weren''t seeing other people, but we didn''t have the "girlfriend"/"boyfriend" titles).

We got engaged at 6 months, and married at 10 months. Our 1 year anniversary of (officially) dating would''ve been this June (we probably won''t celebrate this anymore).
 
Just gone 3 years, 4th May, day after my birthday :-) For about 2 months before that we were as good as together, just separated by a hundred miles or so. The day we got together was the earliest I could see him again after we first met, and the deal was sealed :-) We had a lot of marriage and babies talk early on, though that was definitely down to honeymoon period, and now I''m lucky if he considers living with me after finishing uni. I definitely know he''s the one I want to be with, however sometimes I''m not so sure he does.
 
Date: 5/11/2010 10:55:53 AM
Author: blacksand

Date: 5/11/2010 10:42:43 AM
Author: lucyandroger
Re ''when you know, you know'' - I''m sure a lot of us who have been together longer periods of time ''knew'' early on in the relationship as well. We just have/had different preferences with regard to length of relationship before marriage or places in life (school, buying house, etc.)
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Very true, and I''m sorry if the when-you-know-you-know-ing offends! I think those of us in newer relationships are so used to having to defend our readiness to marry that we sometimes forget that statements like that can be flipped around to mean something along the lines of ''you should know early on or something''s wrong,'' which is not the intention at all.
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Yes, I didn''t mean to imply that people who have been together longer didn''t "know"... just that some people also because of their age, past, life circumstances can also know after a shorter amount of time. Being a lady-in-waiting in a shorter relationship can sometimes make me feel judged as if my relationship hasn''t earned the the proposal because of time spent. I am impressed with people who have been together through thick and thin for 3, 4, 7, 9 years... but I don''t think that means they "know" any more or less than I do. I guess it goes both ways.
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Date: 5/11/2010 10:42:43 AM
Author: lucyandroger
We were together a little over 4 years when we got engaged and will have been together about 5 1/2 years when we get married.


Re ''when you know, you know'' - I''m sure a lot of us who have been together longer periods of time ''knew'' early on in the relationship as well. We just have/had different preferences with regard to length of relationship before marriage or places in life (school, buying house, etc.)
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That and there are different ways to measure the meaning of "when you know, you know" - as it is a common phrase and lots of people know at some point...and then don''t! I think it is more important to understand why you feel that it is true and apply it to your situation. An ex and I thought that too when we moved in with one another earlier. Turns out what we were basing our "knowing" on was a little bit fragile.

But how I arrived at "when you know, you know" then is very different than I would at this time in my life. For me now, it is about far more than a "feeling" based on romantic love and more about being very emotionally intimate and close, as well as sharing values, goals, being totally open and honest with one another (scarily so at times!), being accepting of self and other, being self-aware, and so on. It''s a lot more complicated...but also a lot more simple. And, I can say I did not know what it was all about really until I found it. I feel quite blessed, though I also know there is more to it than romance! So, I can say again "when you know, you know"...but now it is more about being ready both as an individual(s) and as a couple. When I was a lot younger...it was a bit more romantically based.

I am not sure any of that made sense! This is just my own thoughts and experiences. It does not matter what time-frame a couple takes...as long as they are self-aware about it all and it is right for them as individuals and as a couple and so forth.

DH and I dated for one year, were engaged at one year, married at just under 15 months.
 
We started dating January of 07. So coming up on 3.5 years. Moved in together in Jan. of 09 and got engaged end of April 2010.
 
We''ll be 3.5 years this weekend. I don''t have the patience to wait much longer.
 
Date: 5/11/2010 11:45:42 AM
Author: RaiKai


Date: 5/11/2010 10:42:43 AM
Author: lucyandroger
We were together a little over 4 years when we got engaged and will have been together about 5 1/2 years when we get married.


Re 'when you know, you know' - I'm sure a lot of us who have been together longer periods of time 'knew' early on in the relationship as well. We just have/had different preferences with regard to length of relationship before marriage or places in life (school, buying house, etc.)
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That and there are different ways to measure the meaning of 'when you know, you know' - as it is a common phrase and lots of people know at some point...and then don't! I think it is more important to understand why you feel that it is true and apply it to your situation. An ex and I thought that too when we moved in with one another earlier. Turns out what we were basing our 'knowing' on was a little bit fragile.

But how I arrived at 'when you know, you know' then is very different than I would at this time in my life. For me now, it is about far more than a 'feeling' based on romantic love and more about being very emotionally intimate and close, as well as sharing values, goals, being totally open and honest with one another (scarily so at times!), being accepting of self and other, being self-aware, and so on. It's a lot more complicated...but also a lot more simple. And, I can say I did not know what it was all about really until I found it. I feel quite blessed, though I also know there is more to it than romance! So, I can say again 'when you know, you know'...but now it is more about being ready both as an individual(s) and as a couple. When I was a lot younger...it was a bit more romantically based.

I am not sure any of that made sense! This is just my own thoughts and experiences. It does not matter what time-frame a couple takes...as long as they are self-aware about it all and it is right for them as individuals and as a couple and so forth.

DH and I dated for one year, were engaged at one year, married at just under 15 months.
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I agree with everything you wrote, as usual, RaiKai.

Another point to bring up is simply because you know this is the person you want to be with forever/marry, doesn't mean you have to get engaged or married right then and there.

We obviously got engaged/married pretty soon after starting dating, but that doesn't mean we are more in love, more right for each other, more anything than other couples who wait longer, or take longer to be ready for marriage. It just happened to be that we are (very very very) blessed that our lives were at the point that we were comftorable making that decision, and taking those steps to becoming married.

I think it does go both way though - if you haven't been together very long, you feel like you have to defend your relationship, but if you've been together a long time, you also feel like you have to defend your relationship. What we should all realize is that every relationship is different, and no relationship is any more or less special because they are, or aren't, engaged or married.
 
The strength of a relationship cannot to be judged by the time spent in it.





--- luckynumber, circa 2010
 
My SO and I have been together for a little over 2 years and have lived together for almost 1 year.
 
Date: 5/11/2010 3:36:13 PM
Author: luckynumber
The strength of a relationship cannot to be judged by the time spent in it.





--- luckynumber, circa 2010
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You''re hilarious!
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6 years in August, time has gone by so fast!
 
7.5 years! We got engaged last year at 6.5 years, and are getting married in 2.5 weeks!!!!!
 
2 years, I know, after leaving a relationship of 8 years where I called off the engagement twice coz it felt wrong, I am pretty sure this is how its supposed to feel. Willing to give him some time though.
 
3 months...
however we met under exceptional circumstances... we met the day before my Hen''s with my ex-fiance, 2 weeks before my wedding ( planned) with my ex-fiance... On that day, I was the happiest I have ever been with another person,100 x more happy than my ex-fiance ever made me in the 4.5 years that we were together
 
It will be 6 years at the end of June. I guess you''d call us high school sweethearts.
We''re not engaged yet due to financial reasons, but we''re also not in a big hurry. I just turned 22 and we were waiting until I finished school (I graduated last December.) We''re intending to get engaged next year at the 7 year mark and probably married about 6 months after.
 
Date: 5/12/2010 9:20:21 AM
Author: MissDimity
3 months...
however we met under exceptional circumstances... we met the day before my Hen''s with my ex-fiance, 2 weeks before my wedding ( planned) with my ex-fiance... On that day, I was the happiest I have ever been with another person,100 x more happy than my ex-fiance ever made me in the 4.5 years that we were together
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Oh wow!
 
It''ll be 6 years May 28th so girlface is the only one to beat me out so far! lol

That''s 6 years of dating and a little over 3 being ready for marriage and still no hint of a ring
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About 5.5 years. But we are still young (22 and 24 this year). It''s difficult being a young LIW. On one hand you have people asking, "Five years and no ring yet??". Others say, "Wait until 30 to get married."

I try to ignore both really.
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In June, we''ll have been together 3 years. We broke up for a couple months around the 1 year mark because I didn''t feel like the relationship was progressing enough. He came to his senses, and we have been inseparable and so much more committed since then. We got engaged at the 2.5 year mark, and we will be married in 3 months.
 
7 years, next week!
 
My SO and I have been dating for 3 years and 4 months.

We''ve been dating local, long distance, local, long distance, living together, and now we''re long distance again but moving in together again in a couple months! We''ve been through a lot and have made our relationship pretty strong. Looking forward to getting engaged in the next couple of years (but hopefully a lot sooner than later.)
 
We make two years in June. And we''ve been living together for only two months less than that. We''re definitely ready for the next step!
 
This thread is a HUGE relief for me. SO and I have been together for 4 years. He is 23 and I am 24. He''s not really ready for engagement yet. He knows he wants to be with me, his is more of instilled fear of jumping in too fast with marriage. He watched his parents split, and his mother go through man after man after man. The only successful marriages he''s ever witnessed are his father''s parents and my grandparents. He is TERRIFIED of messing things up. He knows he wants to marry me, he''s just afraid of doing it too young and ending up with us not getting where we want to be in life (him with his own business... me graduated from college... stable finances).


I hate waiting though
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Everyone I know is getting married. It''s poop.
 
8 months!! should get asked within 1-2 months but we do not plan to be married til September of 2012!! :) Hes "THE ONE" and i knew that from day 1.

NIkkI!
 
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