I feel a * BREAKDOWN* coming on....

[aquarius_ser]

I also understand his point of view... and he is correct about some girls being materialistic, just wanting the ring and then maybe they can go show it off to their friends or whoever. Also some girls do constantly obsess to their BF about it.... I, however, have not.

I have been very, very, verrry good! No obsessing to HIM, just on PS and my co-workers (who are ready to kill me). Maybe that''s why I had to let it all out finally! I bottled it up for all those weeks and I was about to EXPLODE!

I feel much better now..... and I''ve been a good girl since the *Breakdown* - it hasn''t come up since!

 

[ladykemma]

Date: 8/4/2006 11:42:14 AM
Author: sean_morrison44
thought i should throw a guys opinion out there about this.

if it was me, the more you talk about it-the less i'd want to do right then. I'd want to do it when your wern't thinking about it.
I woudlnt want you to be obsessed about it. I'd want your love to be for me, not for an item i bought for you.(we guys are not trying to buy your love, but make you truly love us)

And honestly, hearing you talking about it would push me away from you(like isolate myself). the obsession of hearing you talk about it, or hearing you trying to guess when it happens would make me change plans of when i was going to do it (back off longer -again the not in your mind thing)

anyways, i'm just one guy-but maybe that will help you understand whats going on in your guys mind (or he might have a different set of thoughts on it, who knows-hehe

well i know it is tough on you to waiting, but just try not to think about it, and goodluck!

-Sean

ok, so let me get this straight.

if she wants know what's happening (to lower the stress, to make wedding arrangmements, to be able to plan and move forward in her life ) you push the date back.

charming.

 

[sean_morrison44]

i actually didnt read what this forum was called-just saw the message, so i hope i didnt offend anyone in here!

by no means am i tryin to cause any trouble, and i wasnt saying that aquar was being way. i''m actually kinda in a similar situation myself so i just couldnt help but put input in. thou i havnt had a ring that long, and am hoping to give it tomorrow.
ladykem..as for the part about puttin the date back-i actually decided what i thought would be a neat day to get married-so we''ve already been planning stuff out. i shoulda made it clear i was kinda putting my situation in this too -not just aqua''s, but my only intention was to help her understand what could be inside a guy''s mind. Just like us guys NEED TO UNDERSTAND WHAT''S IN A GIRLS MIND too.

if we could all do that it would just be easier on both sides. my situation myself is a bit awkward-cus we live with her parents, so she was talkin to her mom guessing when i''d give it while i was around her and able to hear it (as you can tell that influenced what i put in my earlier post)
i can definatly understand that girls should get excited about a once in a lifetime event, and i get excited about being able to give it-but the fun part for me is having it at least half suprised-don''t want to be giving it to her because were bein forced to, but because we want to!
hope this helps clears some things up, and helps you
-again, i''m not looking to start a fight, this is friendly talk from my side

best of luck to you girls waiting for the proposal

 

[ladykemma]

that''s cool. it''s just that a lot of the ladies in waiting threads make my stomach hurt. the passiveness, the out of control - feeling, the stuckness, bothers me.

and the men who might be playing mind games. (not you)

have a great evening, sean!

 

[diamondfan]

I think it is a tough call. He wants it to be special. Now that you know the ring is there, you are thinking, what is going on already? Just figure something and DO IT. It is not curing cancer, and as creative and special as he might like to make it, I am not sure we are reinventing the wheel here. I see the guy''s view, but, once it is pretty clear that you love one another and the proposal is inevitable, and granting that knowing that, the guys often like to have SOMETHING be unknown, men can still be a bit obtuse. I find most men do not respond to subtle things, but need it to be spelled out. No drama, no manipulation, just straight talk. "Knowing you have had the ring here for two months without having given it to me is hard on me. This is stressful and it is taking away the joy and replacing it with tension. Are you waiting for something in particular? Do you need to know what, in general terms, I would like in terms of a proposal?" Or something like it. Crying and keeping it in will only make you more likely to explode, and as you saw in the basement, he is totally in the dark!! good luck, be strong, and it will be fine in the long run and maybe you will be able to laugh about this later!!!

 

[KristyDarling]

As usual, DF, you give out GREAT advice. I couldn''t have said it any better!

Aquarius -- hang in there hon, just remember that men are weird.

 

[aquarius_ser]

In case you didn''t see my post from yesterday, I think it might happen tonight!

He made reservations at this nice restaurant downtown that we don''t usually go to... the catch is... it''s where we went on our first date!

I can hardly contain myself!! I woke up at 6:30 this morning and I couldn''t get back to sleep - I was so excited already! (I feel so dumb! like I''m a little kid and it''s Christmas or something!) I haven''t had this much energy in a while, I''ve already done all the laundry and I''m getting ready to cut the grass!!

I can''t wait to finally be engaged... he is so awesome and I can''t believe it might FINALLY be here.

** Can you imagine the letdown if it''s NOT tonight? UGGGHHHHH!!!!!

 

[robbie3982]

I''m so excited for you Aquarius!!! I''m keeping my fingers crossed and sending tons of sparkely vibes

 

[diamondfan]

Date: 8/5/2006 3:21:58 AM
Author: KristyDarling
As usual, DF, you give out GREAT advice. I couldn''t have said it any better!

Aquarius -- hang in there hon, just remember that men are weird.

Thanks, KD... I was certainly there about 17 years ago and it drove me nuts. Not a happy feeling.

Aqua, I hope it is tonight. It would be the logical place and really neat to bring it all full circle. Makes total sense to do it there, so I will cross my fingers for you!