I Just Found the LIW Forum: Time to Introduce Myself

[trueblue101]

Hello All,

I discovered Pricescope about a year ago and I have to say that it has been an invaluable resource in my ER purchase. I am so touched how people take time out of their busy day to give advice without asking for anything in return. As a result of this great advice and knowledge, I was able to get my dream ring about two months ago but I am still not engaged so add me to the list please!

It is so nice to meet all of you and I cannot wait to hear all of your stories during this "interesting" time!

After being active on this site for over a year, I still cannot believe that I did not find this LIW forum until today!!!!

 

[Mico]

hiiii! welcome!

can we seee pictures of your sparkly?

 

[mary poppins]

Welcome! What does your dream ring look like?

 

[trueblue101]

Hello! No photos, only videos. Can we post videos here?

 

[trueblue101]

Welcome! What does your dream ring look like?

It is a 3 carat antique style cushion set in the classic Leon Mege double claw solitaire and it is very pretty

 

[madelise]

Hello! No photos, only videos. Can we post videos here?

I've heard no, but everyone seems to be linking to youtube with no problem, and no one intervening to take 'em down. Photos you do need to actually upload to PS to show us, though since they don't want any broken links years from now.

PLEASE SHARE ASAP! Your ring sounds dreamy!

 

[maebelle]

Welcome!

 

[Phdecorate]

Welcome and wow that sounds like quite a ring! Can't wait to see it!

 

[pandabee]

welcome! the ring sounds GORGEOUS can't wait to see it!!

 

[trueblue101]

Hello Ladies!
I will be sure to post once I get engaged...whenever that is. Sigh.

How do you ladies deal with the anticipation? Do you ever get angry or resentful? I know this sounds awful but its almost like the waiting is going to take away from the experiecne once I finally get engaged. I know that he is ready to get engaged but is just waiting for the right time--which really annoys me because I told him that I do not need anything special and that he can do it when we are at home sitting in our sweats. Knowing that it means so much to me to get engaged asap I just do not understand why he has not done it already. I wouldn't push him if he wasn't ready but I know he is. He has had the ring for months and I am forced to look at it everyday because it is just sitting on his desk (mocking me).

I do realize that I am in a good position because, unlike many other people, I actually know who I am going to marry so I apologize if I sound bratty but I knew you ladies would understand.

Thanks!

 

[madelise]

Hello Ladies!
I will be sure to post once I get engaged...whenever that is. Sigh.

How do you ladies deal with the anticipation? Do you ever get angry or resentful? I know this sounds awful but its almost like the waiting is going to take away from the experiecne once I finally get engaged. I know that he is ready to get engaged but is just waiting for the right time--which really annoys me because I told him that I do not need anything special and that he can do it when we are at home sitting in our sweats. Knowing that it means so much to me to get engaged asap I just do not understand why he has not done it already. I wouldn't push him if he wasn't ready but I know he is. He has had the ring for months and I am forced to look at it everyday because it is just sitting on his desk (mocking me).

I do realize that I am in a good position because, unlike many other people, I actually know who I am going to marry so I apologize if I sound bratty but I knew you ladies would understand.

Thanks!

Anticipation and anxiety sucks. But look at it this way: that waiting makes it a surprise. The "problem" (some think) about getting an active voice in choosing and designing your own ring is that you take part of the element of surprise away from the traditional proposal. If he's able to "hold it" for a while and make you wait, at least you don't know when it's coming, and he can surprise you. I know how eager you can feel, though. It sort of feels like, "HELLO, I'm ready, what on earth are you waiting for?!"

A lot, a lot of gals post here about their anxieties. But let him have his part of the fun in the engagement too. If he wants to plan something special, let him. Sometimes we forget that an engagement isn't all about us It's about the both of us.

Maybe you can ask him to stop torturing you, and hide the ring? It sitting on his desk is quite taunting. Poor you! If that were the case for me, I'd be sitting AT his desk, every single free minute I had, trying it on and staring at it.

Vent away and rant away here, sweetie! We're here for you!

 

[trueblue101]

Hi Madelise,

Thanks so much for taking the time to post! I swear, the women on this board never ceases to amaze me at how they are always willing to go out of their way to give advice to complete strangers! I am in awe of you all.

You are so right about it being his proposal too and that I should let him enjoy the process as well. I think that I was harassing him a bit too much and he totally put me in check so I have been alot better about it (but that does not mean I cannot vent to you guys!!!!).

He said that he was going to hide the rings today, which I think is the best thing to do because I am always looking at it and I do not want anything to take away from when I actually get it!

Thanks again!

 

[madelise]

Hi Madelise,

Thanks so much for taking the time to post! I swear, the women on this board never ceases to amaze me at how they are always willing to go out of their way to give advice to complete strangers! I am in awe of you all.

You are so right about it being his proposal too and that I should let him enjoy the process as well. I think that I was harassing him a bit too much and he totally put me in check so I have been alot better about it (but that does not mean I cannot vent to you guys!!!!).

He said that he was going to hide the rings today, which I think is the best thing to do because I am always looking at it and I do not want anything to take away from when I actually get it!

Thanks again!

No prob We're all in the same boat! and yes, we do have an amazing bunch of LIWs

Yes, feel free to vent here. We drive our SOs bonkers by ranting and venting since we can't vent to friends and family.. that only drives SO crazy! So bottle up all that frustration in front of SO, and come here to let it out

Yay for him putting the ring away! You'll get a bigger shock at its beauty this way. If you see it everyday, it'll become something expected pretty quick. If its been a while since you've seen your stunner, you'll fall in love with it all over again as if it were your first time laying your eyes on it!

( I was hoping you'd post a quicky pic for us first before stashing it away, though! hehe. selfish ol' madelise.)

 

[star sparkle]

Welcome! Your ring sounds AMAZING, I absolutely cannot wait to see it!!!

Don't feel bad for one second about being anxious/impatient for the proposal. My BF has had my completed ring since November(!!) and still hasn't proposed yet. We had a timeline that we'd be engaged by the end of June, but I thought that he might propose much earlier since we got the ring a lot earlier than anticipated...WRONG! A couple of months ago I was starting to feel upset and resentful that he was making me wait, but then I realized that it's not all about me and that we DID agree to a timeline of before the end of June, so I had no right to be getting upset that it wasn't happening yet because we haven't even gotten to the end of our timeline. I the meantime we've been talking about our wedding and honeymoon and everything that goes with them, and that has also helped ease my anxiety since we're *planning* for everything even though we aren't yet engaged.

Feel free to vent all you want, that's what we're here for!

 

[trueblue101]

Welcome! Your ring sounds AMAZING, I absolutely cannot wait to see it!!!

Don't feel bad for one second about being anxious/impatient for the proposal. My BF has had my completed ring since November(!!) and still hasn't proposed yet. We had a timeline that we'd be engaged by the end of June, but I thought that he might propose much earlier since we got the ring a lot earlier than anticipated...WRONG! A couple of months ago I was starting to feel upset and resentful that he was making me wait, but then I realized that it's not all about me and that we DID agree to a timeline of before the end of June, so I had no right to be getting upset that it wasn't happening yet because we haven't even gotten to the end of our timeline. I the meantime we've been talking about our wedding and honeymoon and everything that goes with them, and that has also helped ease my anxiety since we're *planning* for everything even though we aren't yet engaged.

Feel free to vent all you want, that's what we're here for!

Star Sparkle,

Wow, I cannot get over how similar our stories are. My boyfriend and I also agreed to a time line (July 25th to be exact). On 1/25/12, I told him that he had to propose within 6 months (which may sound bad but I cannot wait around forever) and he told me that he probably would not make me wait that long so I thought it would be more like 3-4 months but it still has not happened. Like you, I recognize that it is unfair to get mad at him because we are not at the end of the timeline so I am trying to back off.

I cannot believe that he has had the ring since November. Do you have access to it ? What does it look like? Specs? Photos?

Thanks so much for your advice and I hope it happens for you really soon!

 

[audball]

First off, welcome! Secondly, I think we have an AMAZING group of ladies here. I have seen so many people post youtube videos here of stones. I think the key is making sure they aren't personally identifying since that isn't allowed on PS. Show us!! *enabling over*

There are several other threads in the first page or two of the LIW forum about anxiety and other related pressures. Join in on the conversations! Get to know us

Get yourself on the list!!

 

[trueblue101]

First off, welcome! Secondly, I think we have an AMAZING group of ladies here. I have seen so many people post youtube videos here of stones. I think the key is making sure they aren't personally identifying since that isn't allowed on PS. Show us!! *enabling over*

There are several other threads in the first page or two of the LIW forum about anxiety and other related pressures. Join in on the conversations! Get to know us

Get yourself on the list!!

Hi Audball,

Thanks for the reply. Oh, I did not know that I had to add myself to a a specific list, I will try to find it now.

Okay, I am so tech challenged so where can I find how to upload a video to youtube? I have downtime right now so I will start by doing a google search and hopefully can find it on my own.

I will report back once I get it up.

Thanks!

 

[audball]

Hi Audball,

Thanks for the reply. Oh, I did not know that I had to add myself to a a specific list, I will try to find it now.

Okay, I am so tech challenged so where can I find how to upload a video to youtube? I have downtime right now so I will start by doing a google search and hopefully can find it on my own.

I will report back once I get it up.

Thanks!

Hey hey. maebelle (our listkeeper) will probably see this and add you directly, but up towards the top there is a "sticky" thread that doesn't move called The Ladies in Waiting List. Post a reply asking to be added (if you want) and watch your name climb up as other posters get engaged!

As for youtube, you have to have an account (it's free). Once you're in, you can click on the upload button (located 3 over from the search bar at the top of the page). From there, follow the instructions to select the file from your computer. When it's uploaded, to the right you will see a few different options. If you select "Unlisted", it won't be searchable and only those with the link can see it. I usually do this because I'm posting to share with certain people/friends/family, not the world. Up to you, though! Hope this helps!

 

[madelise]

you can also use TinyPic. They let you upload videos without having to sign up, so there won't be any links to your email address or youtube username or whatever, in case you're afraid of privacy problems.

I'm currently waiting F O R E V E R and a day for my video to upload!

 

[trueblue101]

Hello,

I went to add my name and you were right, it was already there! So YT is blocked from work so I sent the video to my boyfriend and he is going to upload it now for me so I should have the link soon!

Thanks again!

 

[trueblue101]

Okay, so here is the link, I hope it works!

http://yo​utu.be/Ht​rzelLH1O8

 

[trueblue101]

you can also use TinyPic. They let you upload videos without having to sign up, so there won't be any links to your email address or youtube username or whatever, in case you're afraid of privacy problems.

I'm currently waiting F O R E V E R and a day for my video to upload!

Hi Madelise, thanks for the suggestion. I may try it if the youtube one does not work.

I cannot wait to see the video of your ring!

 

[star sparkle]

Star Sparkle,

Wow, I cannot get over how similar our stories are. My boyfriend and I also agreed to a time line (July 25th to be exact). On 1/25/12, I told him that he had to propose within 6 months (which may sound bad but I cannot wait around forever) and he told me that he probably would not make me wait that long so I thought it would be more like 3-4 months but it still has not happened. Like you, I recognize that it is unfair to get mad at him because we are not at the end of the timeline so I am trying to back off.

I cannot believe that he has had the ring since November. Do you have access to it ? What does it look like? Specs? Photos?

Thanks so much for your advice and I hope it happens for you really soon!

I don't think it sounds bad, so don't worry. I also had a conversation with him wherein I told him I couldn't wait around forever, was unwilling to do so, and I think he got where I was coming from. I had a mini melt-down in early April because we went on a fabulous vacation to the Virgin Islands in February where I had thought/hoped he might propose, but he didn't. Then I stewed for all of March and it finally boiled over in April right before my bday where I told him I was feeling frustrated and sad and maybe a tad resentful, and he was genuinely confused because, as he said, "but it's not the end of June yet, why are you getting upset?" Boys. But yeah, we talked it through and he made me feel better about it, so I've been able to be way more relaxed since then. And as the end of June is approaching, I'm feeling a lot more calm and content.

Until Christmas, the ring was in a place where I had access to it and he knew I would look at it almost every day. I would play with it and try it, and honestly I think that made my anxiety even worse. Then one day he moved it without telling me, and when I asked him what happened to it he said that he hid it. It sucks that I haven't put it on in so long, but that makes me even more excited to see it again!

It's a vintage OEC ring that I stumbled across at Lang Antiques in San Francisco and decided that I just had to have. Luckily he agreed and bought it for me the week after I first saw it! I've posted some pictures on PS before, here are a few:

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[trueblue101]

Hi Star Sparkle:

First and foremost, your ring is amazing!!!!! The stone has so much character and fits you perfectly.

I am sorry to hear about your mini-meltdown but I can relate about thinking he would propose on vacation and/or around your birthday bc the same thing happened to me (I cannot even tell you how many texts I received on my birthday asking if I was engaged). I am glad that you two were able to talk it out. It's funny I totally get the meltdown but boys don't.

Wow, so you have not had your ring since December? I know it is hard but I think it will make you love your ring even more once you get it. I had access to mine until recently and now the bf has hid and I actually think it is the right move because I played with it more than I should have (and more than he knows!).

I wonder if my youtube link worked?

 

[star sparkle]

Hi Star Sparkle:

First and foremost, your ring is amazing!!!!! The stone has so much character and fits you perfectly.

I am sorry to hear about your mini-meltdown but I can relate about thinking he would propose on vacation and/or around your birthday bc the same thing happened to me (I cannot even tell you how many texts I received on my birthday asking if I was engaged). I am glad that you two were able to talk it out. It's funny I totally get the meltdown but boys don't.

Wow, so you have not had your ring since December? I know it is hard but I think it will make you love your ring even more once you get it. I had access to mine until recently and now the bf has hid and I actually think it is the right move because I played with it more than I should have (and more than he knows!).

I wonder if my youtube link worked?

Thank you! I it and yeah, it's been in hiding since the end of December. In March or something I asked him to pull it out so I could see it with a band I had just bought, which he did, but that was only for like 20 minutes so I didn't get TOO much time with it.

I got a gazillion questions about being engaged around Christmas, New Years, Valentine's, our vacation, my birthday...yeah, the questions are getting old. Is it bad that I've been avoiding certain people recently because I just know they're going to ask and make a huge deal out of it?

I can't access youtube here at work so I can't check. I hope it did, though, because I want to see it later!

 

[audball]

Okay, so here is the link, I hope it works!

http://yo​utu.be/Ht​rzelLH1O8

I can't get it to work. It's got a period between the u and b in youtube. I took it out, didn't work. Added the "www", that didn't work either. Can you try again when you get a chance? The hyperlink you posted didn't fully link either so I copied/pasted into my browser but didn't have any luck. I want to see it though! Keep trying!

 

[trueblue101]

Hi Audball,

I am still at work but I will try when I get home! Thanks for the update!

 

[audball]

No problem!

 

[madelise]

Doesn't work for me, either. The youtu.be spelling is the shortened URL, that's fine. It's the "Ht​rzelLH1O8" that's wrong. Did you copy it over correctly? I switched the O with a 0 and that didn't work either

What did he title the video? The username? Can we search for it?

 

[trueblue101]

Hi Madelise,

Oh no, I do not know the answer to any of these questions and he is out right now. I am going there around 8:30PM and I will try it again. Thannks ladies!!!