I just wanna say -- the random comments thread

[lilyfoot]

Date: 6/22/2010 12:53:39 PM
Author: princesss
I don't really want to go into details, but our financial situation is going to change drastically soon, and it's making things kind of tight. My opinion is that we're adults and we take care of ourselves, no matter how stressful. I'm sorry to keep it so vague, but I just really don't feel like putting more detail than needed out there about this, KWIM?

As far as luxuries - we decided a long time ago not to get cable, internet access at home is mandatory for my job, we're cutting our gym membership, our cell phones are at the most basic plan and we'd have to pay out our contract if we cancel them, the only subscription we have is Netflix - but we need some kind of entertainment and that's relatively cheap, all things considered. I'm probably going to stop climbing for a while, and everything else we do is either free or frisbee, and frisbee is pretty darn close to free. If I'm lucky, I overestimated how much we spend on food/gas, and we can find ways to stretch that, but I'd rather that go into savings than rent. Unless, of course, we can't find a decent neighbourhood, in which case it has to go to rent. I'm just stressed out because of all the unknowns. I need facts, not estimations, to feel comfortable and right now I just don't have them. (I really do think I drastically overestimated how much gas we use....so that's a plus. I was thinking $30/week/car, but it seems like it's more like $30/wk/total, which should help.)

I know exactly what you mean - I tend to either be vague about situations, or just not post about them at all on PS. I know it's pretty anonymous here, but I still don't feel right sharing my/our "business".

I also know what you mean about needing facts to feel comfortable, especially when it comes to finances. I'm the same way. I don't need to know our cable bill will be "around $90", I want to know it's going to be "$94.48", for example (totally made up numbers, btw).

Choosing a neighborhood to live in can be really tough with financial limitations. Just keep an eye out for the types of people you see there, types of cars, activities, how many children/families, etc.

I am 100% with you on being self-sufficient as adults. It was a discussion I had to have with my husband once, when we were dating/living together/sharing finances; he was going out with friends one night, and borrowed money from his mom. It's not that we didn't have money, he just didn't have "enough" in his personal spending account. I was not a happy camper! But, he just did it because it's what he was used to, and he happened to be at her house that day. He completely understood when I explained being a self sufficient adult/partnership, he needs to come to me first about our finances, etc, - he's hasn't done anything similar since.

 

[lilyfoot]

Date: 6/22/2010 12:57:29 PM
Author: princesss
Here''s the chair

Oh, it''s gorgeous! I hope it works out for you!

I''d be way too scared of a white chair with the husband + doggies ..

 

[gemgirl]

Date: 6/21/2010 11:31:08 AM
Author: AdiS

Date: 6/21/2010 9:43:01 AM
Author: gemgirl

Date: 6/18/2010 3:05:04 PM
Author: AdiS
I''m dying for a new diamond band. I just know I''mma do something stupid now. I don''t even know how these 4 different vendors'' sites popped open in front of me...

You and me both Adi. I''m SO in the mood for something new, that it''s starting to hurt!

Oooh, I so know the feeling. Today I almost ordered this pretty channel set band, but managed to restrain myself... all three times.

It''s futile though, when I''m feeling that restless, sooner or later I always end up buying whatever it is that I''m craving.

And I''m calling Lesley in the next couple of days to get my fishtail pave'' band going

. I decided. It''s time.

 

[AdiS]

Date: 6/22/2010 1:14:51 PM
Author: gemgirl

Date: 6/21/2010 11:31:08 AM
Author: AdiS

Date: 6/21/2010 9:43:01 AM
Author: gemgirl

Date: 6/18/2010 3:05:04 PM
Author: AdiS
I''m dying for a new diamond band. I just know I''mma do something stupid now. I don''t even know how these 4 different vendors'' sites popped open in front of me...

You and me both Adi. I''m SO in the mood for something new, that it''s starting to hurt!

Oooh, I so know the feeling. Today I almost ordered this pretty channel set band, but managed to restrain myself... all three times.

It''s futile though, when I''m feeling that restless, sooner or later I always end up buying whatever it is that I''m craving.

And I''m calling Lesley in the next couple of days to get my fishtail pave'' band going

. I decided. It''s time.

Yay, great choice!

Love that band.

I decided to visit my favourite local jeweller before I order online, because I''m so tired of this shipping/customs/duties/VAT odyssey. If he can find anything good for me, I might just end up with a new band way sooner than I expected.

 

[yssie]

Date: 6/22/2010 12:53:39 PM
Author: princesss
I don't really want to go into details, but our financial situation is going to change drastically soon, and it's making things kind of tight. My opinion is that we're adults and we take care of ourselves, no matter how stressful. I'm sorry to keep it so vague, but I just really don't feel like putting more detail than needed out there about this, KWIM?

As far as luxuries - we decided a long time ago not to get cable, internet access at home is mandatory for my job, we're cutting our gym membership, our cell phones are at the most basic plan and we'd have to pay out our contract if we cancel them, the only subscription we have is Netflix - but we need some kind of entertainment and that's relatively cheap, all things considered. I'm probably going to stop climbing for a while, and everything else we do is either free or frisbee, and frisbee is pretty darn close to free. If I'm lucky, I overestimated how much we spend on food/gas, and we can find ways to stretch that, but I'd rather that go into savings than rent. Unless, of course, we can't find a decent neighbourhood, in which case it has to go to rent. I'm just stressed out because of all the unknowns. I need facts, not estimations, to feel comfortable and right now I just don't have them. (I really do think I drastically overestimated how much gas we use....so that's a plus. I was thinking $30/week/car, but it seems like it's more like $30/wk/total, which should help.)

Ugh, princess, lilyfoot said everything I was thinking but I want to say I hope things work out for you both!
::HUGS::

 

[April20]

I am an IDIOT.

I re-heated some fingerling potatoes in a skillet on the stove before I left my house a couple hours ago and when I got home, I discoverd I''d LEFT THE BURNER ON. We have a gas stove, so it''s not like the stove was just hot. And I didn''t leave it on low where it looks off like I''ve done before. I left it on 2, which is a flame. I am lucky I didn''t burn the frigging house down.

 

[Luckyeshe]

Date: 6/22/2010 9:59:08 PM
Author: April20
I am an IDIOT.

I re-heated some fingerling potatoes in a skillet on the stove before I left my house a couple hours ago and when I got home, I discoverd I''d LEFT THE BURNER ON. We have a gas stove, so it''s not like the stove was just hot. And I didn''t leave it on low where it looks off like I''ve done before. I left it on 2, which is a flame. I am lucky I didn''t burn the frigging house down.

Oh my goodness!!! Glad the house is still standing!!! I have done a variation of this before and ended up burning plastic on the stove. I learned my lesson too....I''m glad everything is ok, April!

 

[April20]

Date: 6/22/2010 10:41:54 PM
Author: Luckyeshe

Date: 6/22/2010 9:59:08 PM
Author: April20
I am an IDIOT.

I re-heated some fingerling potatoes in a skillet on the stove before I left my house a couple hours ago and when I got home, I discoverd I''d LEFT THE BURNER ON. We have a gas stove, so it''s not like the stove was just hot. And I didn''t leave it on low where it looks off like I''ve done before. I left it on 2, which is a flame. I am lucky I didn''t burn the frigging house down.

Oh my goodness!!! Glad the house is still standing!!! I have done a variation of this before and ended up burning plastic on the stove. I learned my lesson too....I''m glad everything is ok, April!

Thanks... the worst part was my puplet was home. I would not be able to forgive myself if something had happened to him.

The only excuse I have is that I had a ton of dental work done today and was a little bit out of it. But that''s no excuse really. I have got to be more careful.

 

[April20]

Date: 6/22/2010 12:42:03 PM
Author: lilyfoot
Yay, the desk is still available! I''m going to snatch it up tonight .. (ETA: the drop-leaves do go up)

Lilyfoot, I love the desk. Great find!

 

[that_someone_special]

It is 86 degrees , 60% humidity and the dew point is 68%

BLAH!!!!!


The good news, is that I might be getting my iPhone 4 tomorrow (a day before launch day).... fingers crossed!

 

[Arkteia]

Read TBjumper''s posting. I think that given the abundance of hybrids, it is only fair that someone is driving a big car.

TBj''s story reminded me a totally different episode. I once bought a lambskin coat. It gets cold in winter! So, I am entering our hospital, wearing this lambskin, and a receptionist looks at me with disdain and says, "So, which beautiful animal had to part with its life so that you could wear it?"

"Lamb", say I. "La-amb?". "Yes, lamb, the one you probably eat because they sell it in Costco". "A-a-a" (very disappointed. She wanted to pose as a protector of animal rights, but since it is just a lamb...).

 

[lilyfoot]

Date: 6/22/2010 11:07:50 PM
Author: April20

Date: 6/22/2010 12:42:03 PM
Author: lilyfoot
Yay, the desk is still available! I'm going to snatch it up tonight .. (ETA: the drop-leaves do go up)

Lilyfoot, I love the desk. Great find!

Thanks!

Yep, I verified that it is Pennsylvania House - good quality, solid wood. It's in awesome condition, the retired couple I bought it from were the original owners. It is now happily residing in our apartment!

ETA: I think we're going to take off the leaves (we don't need them right now), and replace the knobs (which come off really easily). Of course, we will save all of these original pieces so they could be put back on later, but it'll blend better with our existing bedroom furniture with the small "remodeling".

 

[Luckyeshe]

Date: 6/23/2010 9:18:34 AM
Author: lilyfoot

Date: 6/22/2010 11:07:50 PM
Author: April20

Date: 6/22/2010 12:42:03 PM
Author: lilyfoot
Yay, the desk is still available! I''m going to snatch it up tonight .. (ETA: the drop-leaves do go up)

Lilyfoot, I love the desk. Great find!

Thanks!

Yep, I verified that it is Pennsylvania House - good quality, solid wood. It''s in awesome condition, the retired couple I bought it from were the original owners. It is now happily residing in our apartment!

ETA: I think we''re going to take off the leaves (we don''t need them right now), and replace the knobs (which come off really easily). Of course, we will save all of these original pieces so they could be put back on later, but it''ll blend better with our existing bedroom furniture with the small ''remodeling''.

That is awesome!!!! I wish I knew what to look for when it comes to antiques! I''ve always admired them, but I never knew how to look and verify that the antique in question is the real deal...

 

[Strawdermangrl]

Any PH.D peeps out there that can offer some insight to how to be supportive to someone finishing up one? OMG.

 

[dragonfly411]

Strawder: I don''t have any help to offer, other than to say that I''ll be sending good vibes in your direction!

 

[Strawdermangrl]

Date: 6/23/2010 11:53:13 AM
Author: dragonfly411
Strawder: I don''t have any help to offer, other than to say that I''ll be sending good vibes in your direction!

Thanks Dragonfly- J is super close to being done but is in the last panic stages. I am trying to not be in the way just didn''t know if there was anything I could/should do in particular!

 

[choro72]

Date: 6/23/2010 11:44:59 AM
Author: Strawdermangrl
Any PH.D peeps out there that can offer some insight to how to be supportive to someone finishing up one? OMG.

Who are you supporting? Here are some tips for a SO.
When the scholar gets pissy and snarky at everything, just take it. When the scholar cries spontaneously, hug. Don''t ask questions such as "what do you want for dinner?"; just make it and serve. Let the chores go. Don''t criticize if the dishes aren''t put away. Keep conversations about other people''s achievements to a minimum.

If it''s a friend you are supporting, give that person a call once in a while to gossip. Invite said scholar for parties or BBQ, and let them decide if they can come or not.

When my dad got his PhD 15 years ago, my mom threw a huge party. Last night she told me that the party was for her, not my dad

 

[monarch64]

Date: 6/21/2010 10:53:37 AM
Author: TBjumper
Mini-Rant Alert:

Will people PLEASE stop glaring at me when I am at the local organic health food stores driving my ENORMOUS vehicle.

Yes, I know how bad they are for the environment, yes I would LOVE to get 45 mpg, yes I would love to park in the spot ''reserved for Eco-friendly cars'' BUT until a mini cooper/hybrid/gas sipping spaceship of a car can haul a 16ft goose-neck trailer hauling 3 horses around, I simply CAN NOT drive anything any smaller then said gas guzzler.

Yes people, I can be a holistic organic veggie loving tree hugger AND drive a a vehicle that gets 15 mpg and be ok with it!!

Rant over.

If people knew the circumstances under which I bought my SUV, they probably wouldn''t be giving me dirty looks either. Right there with ya, TBjumper.

 

[Strawdermangrl]

Date: 6/23/2010 12:05:49 PM
Author: choro72

Date: 6/23/2010 11:44:59 AM
Author: Strawdermangrl
Any PH.D peeps out there that can offer some insight to how to be supportive to someone finishing up one? OMG.

Who are you supporting? Here are some tips for a SO.
When the scholar gets pissy and snarky at everything, just take it. When the scholar cries spontaneously, hug. Don''t ask questions such as ''what do you want for dinner?''; just make it and serve. Let the chores go. Don''t criticize if the dishes aren''t put away. Keep conversations about other people''s achievements to a minimum.

If it''s a friend you are supporting, give that person a call once in a while to gossip. Invite said scholar for parties or BBQ, and let them decide if they can come or not.

When my dad got his PhD 15 years ago, my mom threw a huge party. Last night she told me that the party was for her, not my dad

Yeah, its my SO. He is SOOO close. I just kind of let whatever go. I am just trying to make things fun when he wants a break and make him laugh. Be supportive, ect. He asked me to come to the defend which is a big deal. I just want him to be done so HE will relax. Kind of anxious by nature so this is really wearing on him. I am just trying to give space and not put pressure on him to spend time with me. It is almost over...poor thing.

 

[that_someone_special]

I just got our two iPhone 4s today!!!!! a day before launch day!!! wooohoooo!

 

[TBjumper]

Date: 6/23/2010 2:10:42 AM
Author: crasru
Read TBjumper''s posting. I think that given the abundance of hybrids, it is only fair that someone is driving a big car.

TBj''s story reminded me a totally different episode. I once bought a lambskin coat. It gets cold in winter! So, I am entering our hospital, wearing this lambskin, and a receptionist looks at me with disdain and says, ''So, which beautiful animal had to part with its life so that you could wear it?''

''Lamb'', say I. ''La-amb?''. ''Yes, lamb, the one you probably eat because they sell it in Costco''. ''A-a-a'' (very disappointed. She wanted to pose as a protector of animal rights, but since it is just a lamb...).

Funny how that works eh Crasru?! I love how because I am a woman driving a big vehicle and wear a suit during the day that during fill ups, and store trips people love to huff and grumble then assume I am just "one of those type woman" that want a big car for status.

Yeah thats right people, I just LUURRRVVEEE putting 85$ worth of fuel in my car. Give me a break.

Sorry about your experience as well. I feel your pain.

 

[TBjumper]

Date: 6/23/2010 12:08:47 PM
Author: monarch64

Date: 6/21/2010 10:53:37 AM
Author: TBjumper
Mini-Rant Alert:

Will people PLEASE stop glaring at me when I am at the local organic health food stores driving my ENORMOUS vehicle.

Yes, I know how bad they are for the environment, yes I would LOVE to get 45 mpg, yes I would love to park in the spot ''reserved for Eco-friendly cars'' BUT until a mini cooper/hybrid/gas sipping spaceship of a car can haul a 16ft goose-neck trailer hauling 3 horses around, I simply CAN NOT drive anything any smaller then said gas guzzler.

Yes people, I can be a holistic organic veggie loving tree hugger AND drive a a vehicle that gets 15 mpg and be ok with it!!

Rant over.

If people knew the circumstances under which I bought my SUV, they probably wouldn''t be giving me dirty looks either. Right there with ya, TBjumper.

Somehow I knew you would be with me sista!

And thx for the PSA about the helments... I went through a stage in college where I was soooooo good that I didn''t need one, heck I was a trainer... yadda yadda. I took one spill that lucky just left me sore for 4 days. Needless to say I wear mine ALL THE TIME. It hurts more when you get chucked when you''re over 30 and paying your own insurance catches up with ya eh??

 

[monarch64]

Date: 6/23/2010 3:15:18 PM
Author: TBjumper

Date: 6/23/2010 12:08:47 PM
Author: monarch64

Date: 6/21/2010 10:53:37 AM
Author: TBjumper
Mini-Rant Alert:

Will people PLEASE stop glaring at me when I am at the local organic health food stores driving my ENORMOUS vehicle.

Yes, I know how bad they are for the environment, yes I would LOVE to get 45 mpg, yes I would love to park in the spot ''reserved for Eco-friendly cars'' BUT until a mini cooper/hybrid/gas sipping spaceship of a car can haul a 16ft goose-neck trailer hauling 3 horses around, I simply CAN NOT drive anything any smaller then said gas guzzler.

Yes people, I can be a holistic organic veggie loving tree hugger AND drive a a vehicle that gets 15 mpg and be ok with it!!

Rant over.

If people knew the circumstances under which I bought my SUV, they probably wouldn''t be giving me dirty looks either. Right there with ya, TBjumper.

Somehow I knew you would be with me sista!

And thx for the PSA about the helments... I went through a stage in college where I was soooooo good that I didn''t need one, heck I was a trainer... yadda yadda. I took one spill that lucky just left me sore for 4 days. Needless to say I wear mine ALL THE TIME. It hurts more when you get chucked when you''re over 30 and paying your own insurance catches up with ya eh??

I think it was someone else, maybe Irishgirrl, who made the PSA? I''m on board with that idea ,nonetheless.

 

[Lekde]

We just felt earthquake tremors from Canada ... it was scary as my building swayed back and forth ...I''m 60miles north of NYC. I''m glad no one got hurt in Canada.

 

[TBjumper]

Date: 6/23/2010 3:24:31 PM
Author: monarch64

Date: 6/23/2010 3:15:18 PM
Author: TBjumper

Date: 6/23/2010 12:08:47 PM
Author: monarch64

Date: 6/21/2010 10:53:37 AM
Author: TBjumper
Mini-Rant Alert:

Will people PLEASE stop glaring at me when I am at the local organic health food stores driving my ENORMOUS vehicle.

Yes, I know how bad they are for the environment, yes I would LOVE to get 45 mpg, yes I would love to park in the spot ''reserved for Eco-friendly cars'' BUT until a mini cooper/hybrid/gas sipping spaceship of a car can haul a 16ft goose-neck trailer hauling 3 horses around, I simply CAN NOT drive anything any smaller then said gas guzzler.

Yes people, I can be a holistic organic veggie loving tree hugger AND drive a a vehicle that gets 15 mpg and be ok with it!!

Rant over.

If people knew the circumstances under which I bought my SUV, they probably wouldn''t be giving me dirty looks either. Right there with ya, TBjumper.

Somehow I knew you would be with me sista!

And thx for the PSA about the helments... I went through a stage in college where I was soooooo good that I didn''t need one, heck I was a trainer... yadda yadda. I took one spill that lucky just left me sore for 4 days. Needless to say I wear mine ALL THE TIME. It hurts more when you get chucked when you''re over 30 and paying your own insurance catches up with ya eh??

I think it was someone else, maybe Irishgirrl, who made the PSA? I''m on board with that idea ,nonetheless.

whoops, sorry ''bout that.

 

[kama_s]

Date: 6/23/2010 3:26:13 PM
Author: Lekde
We just felt earthquake tremors from Canada ... it was scary as my building swayed back and forth ...I''m 60miles north of NYC. I''m glad no one got hurt in Canada.

Felt it here in Toronto as well, just a few hours away from the epicenter. No one seems to have been hurt, very minimal damage. My MIL lives right at the epicenter!

 

[kama_s]

Date: 6/23/2010 12:05:49 PM
Author: choro72

Date: 6/23/2010 11:44:59 AM

Author: Strawdermangrl

Any PH.D peeps out there that can offer some insight to how to be supportive to someone finishing up one? OMG.

Who are you supporting? Here are some tips for a SO.

When the scholar gets pissy and snarky at everything, just take it. When the scholar cries spontaneously, hug. Don''t ask questions such as ''what do you want for dinner?''; just make it and serve. Let the chores go. Don''t criticize if the dishes aren''t put away. Keep conversations about other people''s achievements to a minimum.


If it''s a friend you are supporting, give that person a call once in a while to gossip. Invite said scholar for parties or BBQ, and let them decide if they can come or not.


When my dad got his PhD 15 years ago, my mom threw a huge party. Last night she told me that the party was for her, not my dad

EXACTLY this! Choru totally nailed it. Also, make sure he keeps eating. I would forget to eat - my lil brother would come home at 6 to find out that all I''ve had all day would me 5 cups of coffee!!

 

[yssie]

There is a certain thread in RT that is making me want to copy Tgal's avatar so badly.

I give up.

 

[princesss]

Date: 6/23/2010 6:56:47 PM
Author: yssie
There is a certain thread in RT that is making me want to copy Tgal''s avatar so badly.

I give up.

Now I want to see....

Thanks for the encouragement earlier. I know we can make this work, and still save money, and be happy - I just want the data to back that up right now instead of having to try doing it and see! Grrrr....

 

[yssie]

Date: 6/23/2010 7:20:49 PM
Author: princesss

Date: 6/23/2010 6:56:47 PM
Author: yssie
There is a certain thread in RT that is making me want to copy Tgal''s avatar so badly.

I give up.

Now I want to see....

Thanks for the encouragement earlier. I know we can make this work, and still save money, and be happy - I just want the data to back that up right now instead of having to try doing it and see! Grrrr....

It''s cliched, but I really think having confidence in that is the MOST important part. I can totally understand wanting confirmation now though..!