"I love you" - how long until the words, and how?

[Lauren8211]

Date: 6/25/2009 10:51:34 AM
Author: AdiS

Date: 6/24/2009 10:42:55 AM
Author: princesss

Hahaha, we''re definitely one of the say it every day type of couples. Multiple times a day. I just love saying it, lol. I love showing him I love him and telling him I love him and just plain loving him, lol. And in part it''s just because I never, ever want the last thing I say to him to not be that I love him. I want that to be what he carries with him into the day, and just in case....well, if anything happens to either of us, I never want to worry that maybe he didn''t hear it.

By the same token, I don''t think we''ve ever really called each other by our actual names. In fact, one time he used my name on the phone and I had convinced myself there was another girl there or he was mad at me or something. We''re a nickname/terms of endearment-only couple.

Same here, princesss. It may sound weird and even creepy, but that''s exactly what I want to make sure.
When I got hit by a car on the street around 4 years ago, I had just gotten out of our car. DH was driving me to the University where I had classes. We had a stupid fight during the ride, I don''t even remember the reason. I think it had something to do with him trying to call me earlier that day and me not answering because the phone was in my bag so I hadn''t heard it was ringing.

Anyway, I got off the car, still mad at him and told him in a grumpy voice ''Well, I hope you have a great day, now that you''ve ruined mine'' or something like that. He answered accordingly, of course, and took off. I took a step forward and that speeding car just came out of nowhere and hit me with the power of a locomotive. DH saw it all in his rear view mirror. I was ok, miraculously, just a few bruises. But DH was not. I had never seen him like that before and hope I never again will. He came running, leaving the car in the middle of the road, grabbing me in his arms and just saying that he loves me, over and over again. And I was terrifyed not because of the accident, but because I realised that I could''ve been dead that very moment and the last words we exchanged would''ve been some petty stupid bickering.
Phew, this is getting long. lol Point is, from that day on, we both make sure to say ''I love you'' as many times a day as possible, we never part angry at each other if we had a fight and we basically try to devote more time to more pleasant things than bickering.

OMG, adis!

That is a crazy story! Thats like an awful story you''d see on a lifetime movie or something (well, if you had not survived and had serious injuries)

I cannot even imagine how your DH felt... seeing that. AWFUL!

 

[OUpearlgirl]

I love this thread! My boyfriend and I said it for the first time last weekend!!!

We met about six or seven weeks ago and have been together ever since. I was up visiting him and we were getting ready for bed. He has this adorable way of looking at me and I KNOWWW he is thinking cheesy thoughts. He had been telling me how much I scared him and that he liked me too much. Then he took a deep breath, looked down and then back up at me and said "I think I''m in love with you." I was so giddy because I had been trying to hold it back too... It is just so soon!! We''re both big fans of the tv show "How I Met Your Mother." One of the characters last name is Mosby, and he always tells girls he loves them too soon and freaks them out. They call it "Mosbying" well we both started cracking up when we said we were terrified we were going to "Mosby" the other one.

We don''t say it super often just yet and I can tell it''s because we''re both kind of nervous to. But, he plays this Zac Brown Band song "Whatever it Is" allllll the time. If you like corny country songs, download it. I was in his room this weekend getting ready and he was watching TV in the living room. I had his iTunes playing The Beatles. Well, I guess his iphone has an app where he can change music on his computer like a remote. He sneakily switched it to that song and I got all teary.... sigh.

I''m so happy right now!

 

[AdiS]

Date: 6/25/2009 10:59:36 AM
Author: elledizzy5

Date: 6/25/2009 10:51:34 AM
Author: AdiS

Date: 6/24/2009 10:42:55 AM
Author: princesss

Hahaha, we''re definitely one of the say it every day type of couples. Multiple times a day. I just love saying it, lol. I love showing him I love him and telling him I love him and just plain loving him, lol. And in part it''s just because I never, ever want the last thing I say to him to not be that I love him. I want that to be what he carries with him into the day, and just in case....well, if anything happens to either of us, I never want to worry that maybe he didn''t hear it.

By the same token, I don''t think we''ve ever really called each other by our actual names. In fact, one time he used my name on the phone and I had convinced myself there was another girl there or he was mad at me or something. We''re a nickname/terms of endearment-only couple.

Same here, princesss. It may sound weird and even creepy, but that''s exactly what I want to make sure.
When I got hit by a car on the street around 4 years ago, I had just gotten out of our car. DH was driving me to the University where I had classes. We had a stupid fight during the ride, I don''t even remember the reason. I think it had something to do with him trying to call me earlier that day and me not answering because the phone was in my bag so I hadn''t heard it was ringing.

Anyway, I got off the car, still mad at him and told him in a grumpy voice ''Well, I hope you have a great day, now that you''ve ruined mine'' or something like that. He answered accordingly, of course, and took off. I took a step forward and that speeding car just came out of nowhere and hit me with the power of a locomotive. DH saw it all in his rear view mirror. I was ok, miraculously, just a few bruises. But DH was not. I had never seen him like that before and hope I never again will. He came running, leaving the car in the middle of the road, grabbing me in his arms and just saying that he loves me, over and over again. And I was terrifyed not because of the accident, but because I realised that I could''ve been dead that very moment and the last words we exchanged would''ve been some petty stupid bickering.
Phew, this is getting long. lol Point is, from that day on, we both make sure to say ''I love you'' as many times a day as possible, we never part angry at each other if we had a fight and we basically try to devote more time to more pleasant things than bickering.

OMG, adis!

That is a crazy story! Thats like an awful story you''d see on a lifetime movie or something (well, if you had not survived and had serious injuries)

I cannot even imagine how your DH felt... seeing that. AWFUL!

Yeah, not something I like to think about really but it seemed relevant to the discussion. Well, at least now I know there''s someone/something looking after me up there.

Also, experiences like this one make you bond with your SO like nothing else.
DH says he''s never been more scared in his life and that I did it on purpose to get back at him by giving him a heart attack.

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 6/25/2009 11:00:16 AM
Author: OUpeargirl
I love this thread! My boyfriend and I said it for the first time last weekend!!!

We met about six or seven weeks ago and have been together ever since. I was up visiting him and we were getting ready for bed. He has this adorable way of looking at me and I KNOWWW he is thinking cheesy thoughts. He had been telling me how much I scared him and that he liked me too much. Then he took a deep breath, looked down and then back up at me and said ''I think I''m in love with you.'' I was so giddy because I had been trying to hold it back too... It is just so soon!! We''re both big fans of the tv show ''How I Met Your Mother.'' One of the characters last name is Mosby, and he always tells girls he loves them too soon and freaks them out. They call it ''Mosbying'' well we both started cracking up when we said we were terrified we were going to ''Mosby'' the other one.

We don''t say it super often just yet and I can tell it''s because we''re both kind of nervous to. But, he plays this Zac Brown Band song ''Whatever it Is'' allllll the time. If you like corny country songs, download it. I was in his room this weekend getting ready and he was watching TV in the living room. I had his iTunes playing The Beatles. Well, I guess his iphone has an app where he can change music on his computer like a remote. He sneakily switched it to that song and I got all teary.... sigh.

I''m so happy right now!

Awwww!!!!

I''m so happy for you OU! That is AWESOME!

<~~ happy tears!!

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 6/25/2009 11:14:01 AM
Author: AdiS

Date: 6/25/2009 10:59:36 AM
Author: elledizzy5

Date: 6/25/2009 10:51:34 AM
Author: AdiS

Date: 6/24/2009 10:42:55 AM
Author: princesss

Hahaha, we''re definitely one of the say it every day type of couples. Multiple times a day. I just love saying it, lol. I love showing him I love him and telling him I love him and just plain loving him, lol. And in part it''s just because I never, ever want the last thing I say to him to not be that I love him. I want that to be what he carries with him into the day, and just in case....well, if anything happens to either of us, I never want to worry that maybe he didn''t hear it.

By the same token, I don''t think we''ve ever really called each other by our actual names. In fact, one time he used my name on the phone and I had convinced myself there was another girl there or he was mad at me or something. We''re a nickname/terms of endearment-only couple.

Same here, princesss. It may sound weird and even creepy, but that''s exactly what I want to make sure.
When I got hit by a car on the street around 4 years ago, I had just gotten out of our car. DH was driving me to the University where I had classes. We had a stupid fight during the ride, I don''t even remember the reason. I think it had something to do with him trying to call me earlier that day and me not answering because the phone was in my bag so I hadn''t heard it was ringing.

Anyway, I got off the car, still mad at him and told him in a grumpy voice ''Well, I hope you have a great day, now that you''ve ruined mine'' or something like that. He answered accordingly, of course, and took off. I took a step forward and that speeding car just came out of nowhere and hit me with the power of a locomotive. DH saw it all in his rear view mirror. I was ok, miraculously, just a few bruises. But DH was not. I had never seen him like that before and hope I never again will. He came running, leaving the car in the middle of the road, grabbing me in his arms and just saying that he loves me, over and over again. And I was terrifyed not because of the accident, but because I realised that I could''ve been dead that very moment and the last words we exchanged would''ve been some petty stupid bickering.
Phew, this is getting long. lol Point is, from that day on, we both make sure to say ''I love you'' as many times a day as possible, we never part angry at each other if we had a fight and we basically try to devote more time to more pleasant things than bickering.

OMG, adis!

That is a crazy story! Thats like an awful story you''d see on a lifetime movie or something (well, if you had not survived and had serious injuries)

I cannot even imagine how your DH felt... seeing that. AWFUL!

Yeah, not something I like to think about really but it seemed relevant to the discussion. Well, at least now I know there''s someone/something looking after me up there.

Also, experiences like this one make you bond with your SO like nothing else.
DH says he''s never been more scared in his life and that I did it on purpose to get back at him by giving him a heart attack.

LOL... that''s one hell of a payback!

I''m glad everything turned out OK and you had a new appreciation for your relationship with your DH.

 

[Squirrly]

Date: 6/25/2009 11:14:01 AM
Author: AdiS

Date: 6/25/2009 10:59:36 AM

Author: elledizzy5

Date: 6/25/2009 10:51:34 AM

Author: AdiS

Date: 6/24/2009 10:42:55 AM

Author: princesss


Hahaha, we''re definitely one of the say it every day type of couples. Multiple times a day. I just love saying it, lol. I love showing him I love him and telling him I love him and just plain loving him, lol. And in part it''s just because I never, ever want the last thing I say to him to not be that I love him. I want that to be what he carries with him into the day, and just in case....well, if anything happens to either of us, I never want to worry that maybe he didn''t hear it.



By the same token, I don''t think we''ve ever really called each other by our actual names. In fact, one time he used my name on the phone and I had convinced myself there was another girl there or he was mad at me or something. We''re a nickname/terms of endearment-only couple.

Same here, princesss. It may sound weird and even creepy, but that''s exactly what I want to make sure.

When I got hit by a car on the street around 4 years ago, I had just gotten out of our car. DH was driving me to the University where I had classes. We had a stupid fight during the ride, I don''t even remember the reason. I think it had something to do with him trying to call me earlier that day and me not answering because the phone was in my bag so I hadn''t heard it was ringing.

Anyway, I got off the car, still mad at him and told him in a grumpy voice ''Well, I hope you have a great day, now that you''ve ruined mine'' or something like that. He answered accordingly, of course, and took off. I took a step forward and that speeding car just came out of nowhere and hit me with the power of a locomotive. DH saw it all in his rear view mirror. I was ok, miraculously, just a few bruises. But DH was not. I had never seen him like that before and hope I never again will. He came running, leaving the car in the middle of the road, grabbing me in his arms and just saying that he loves me, over and over again. And I was terrifyed not because of the accident, but because I realised that I could''ve been dead that very moment and the last words we exchanged would''ve been some petty stupid bickering.

Phew, this is getting long. lol Point is, from that day on, we both make sure to say ''I love you'' as many times a day as possible, we never part angry at each other if we had a fight and we basically try to devote more time to more pleasant things than bickering.

OMG, adis!


That is a crazy story! Thats like an awful story you''d see on a lifetime movie or something (well, if you had not survived and had serious injuries)


I cannot even imagine how your DH felt... seeing that. AWFUL!

Yeah, not something I like to think about really but it seemed relevant to the discussion. Well, at least now I know there''s someone/something looking after me up there.

Also, experiences like this one make you bond with your SO like nothing else.

DH says he''s never been more scared in his life and that I did it on purpose to get back at him by giving him a heart attack.

was it by chance a silver SUV that got you too? thankfully the guy i was dating at the time wasn''t around (nor did i get hit as hard as you did i think- i don''t remember the impact, just beforehand and getting up afterwards, and i''m quite glad you''re all right!!) but then again considering he just shrugged it off when i told him, perhaps its a good thing he''s not my boy anymore. even though M didn''t even know me at the time, he gets awfully worried when i cross streets now. i maintain i still have two frogger lives left and i won''t be jumping on logs in a river any time soon.

i''m with you on the saying i love you often just in case bit though. i''d much rather be prepared for the worst than to have any regrets!

ps: did anyone nickname you roadkill after they were quite satisfied that you were allright, or was that just my crazy friends (who escorted me across streets for the rest of the year)

 

[Bia]

Yesterday, all day long, the whole saying ''I love you'' thing stayed cognizant in my brain. When FI got home I decided to not just mindlessly blurt out ''i love you,'' but to instead say something more meaningful. So after dinner, I made him his green tea, and after I brought it to him I massaged his shoulders for a few minutes and then put my arms around him and said, ''Baby, I am so in love with you. Thank you for being so amazing...'' along with some other stuff.

It totally changed the rest of the evening. He got off the computer (internet chess/downloading music junkie that he is!) and made a little cot on the floor where we cuddled and watched a movie together. It was so nice. AND very romantic for a blah Wednesday evening.

>>

 

[LilyKat]

Date: 6/25/2009 12:11:36 PM
Author: Bia
Yesterday, all day long, the whole saying 'I love you' thing stayed cognizant in my brain. When FI got home I decided to not just mindlessly blurt out 'i love you,' but to instead say something more meaningful. So after dinner, I made him his green tea, and after I brought it to him I massaged his shoulders for a few minutes and then put my arms around him and said, 'Baby, I am so in love with you. Thank you for being so amazing...' along with some other stuff.


It totally changed the rest of the evening. He got off the computer (internet chess/downloading music junkie that he is!) and made a little cot on the floor where we cuddled and watched a movie together. It was so nice. AND very romantic for a blah Wednesday evening.

>>

Aww Bia, how sweet! I'm glad this thread is having positive benefits worldwide

 

[LilyKat]

Date: 6/25/2009 11:00:16 AM
Author: OUpeargirl
I love this thread! My boyfriend and I said it for the first time last weekend!!!


We met about six or seven weeks ago and have been together ever since. I was up visiting him and we were getting ready for bed. He has this adorable way of looking at me and I KNOWWW he is thinking cheesy thoughts. He had been telling me how much I scared him and that he liked me too much. Then he took a deep breath, looked down and then back up at me and said ''I think I''m in love with you.'' I was so giddy because I had been trying to hold it back too... It is just so soon!! We''re both big fans of the tv show ''How I Met Your Mother.'' One of the characters last name is Mosby, and he always tells girls he loves them too soon and freaks them out. They call it ''Mosbying'' well we both started cracking up when we said we were terrified we were going to ''Mosby'' the other one.


We don''t say it super often just yet and I can tell it''s because we''re both kind of nervous to. But, he plays this Zac Brown Band song ''Whatever it Is'' allllll the time. If you like corny country songs, download it. I was in his room this weekend getting ready and he was watching TV in the living room. I had his iTunes playing The Beatles. Well, I guess his iphone has an app where he can change music on his computer like a remote. He sneakily switched it to that song and I got all teary.... sigh.


I''m so happy right now!

OUPeargirl, congratulations! Seeing as I got my first "I love you" on Tuesday, do you think we''re on the same Love Timeline? If there is such a thing?

 

[star sparkle]

SO and I had known each other for about 4 months before things started to get really serious between us. In those first 4 months we both knew we really liked each other, and I knew I was falling hard for him, but I had no idea where he was at and I thought he didn''t really have as deep of feelings as I did. Then we got a LOT more serious, and I really wanted to say it to him but I was afraid and decided I was going to wait for him to say it first. For like 2 weeks he kept saying that there was something he really wanted to tell me and I thought it would be that, but whenever I was like "OK, what is it?", he would get really shy and not say it. So of course that deepened my suspicions, and I figured that he wasn''t fully ready and I wasn''t going to push it.

Then one day we took a little day trip together and were holding hands and walking around, then we found a little bench to sit on that overlooked the beach. He pulled me to sit on his lap and he put his arms around me, and said again that he had something he wanted to tell me. I asked again what it was, and he got shy again and said he was nervous. My heart started beating really fast ''cause I thought he was finally going to say it, but he was quiet for a few minutes just hugging me and then asked me what I was thinking at that moment. So many things went through my mind right then and I fought with myself about whether I should say it or not, ''cause I really wanted to but I didn''t know if it was the right time. I decided that I was going to because I was going to burst if I held it in any longer, so after a short pause I leaned in close and whispered in his ear "I''m thinking that I really love you." His head turned so fast towards me and he had the HUGEST smile on his face, and he started kissing me. In between kisses he said "Well that''s good, because I really love you too."

Now I joke with him all the time that I must love him more since I''m the one who said it first. He says that I may have said it first, but he THOUGHT it first. Lol, silly boy.

We say it all the time, multiple times per day. He just loves telling me how much he loves me.

(sorry, that was really long!)

 

[stephinextremis]

It was three days in for me. Background: J and I met on the internet, and met in person ten days later. The day after our first date, I told my closest friends that I had met the man I was going to marry. That same night (so, the second time I''d ever seen/gone on a date with him!) J nonchalantly told me, "You''re SO going to marry me!"

So, on the THIRD date, we were sitting around watching Weeds on DVD (are there any fans here?) and there was a scene where two of the teenage characters, Silas and Quinn, are also sitting around, and talking about sex...

Silas: Come on! Think of the time this will save us on foreplay. You just whisper ''shoot me in the optimum kill zone'' and I''ll be good to go.

Quinn: I could whisper ''linoleum'' and you''d be good to go!

I laughed so hard at that line that my stomach hurt afterward, and J did too. "Shoot me in the optimum kill zone?!" I crowed. "That''s hilarious, and kind of hot!"

He was laughing so hard he was crying, and he looked at me with this enormous grin on his face and said, "Oh my god, I love you."

I looked at him and said, "DUDE. You just said you love me. You said it fiiiiiiirst!"

And six weeks later I was wearing a ring

 

[4ever]

He said it first. It freaked me out because I was young and a comitaphobe.

I didn''t say it back for ages and he understood, I was too scared.

One day it slipped out while I was joking around. I knew as soon as I said it I really ment it.

 

[AdiS]

Date: 6/25/2009 11:57:52 AM
Author: Squirrly

was it by chance a silver SUV that got you too? thankfully the guy i was dating at the time wasn''t around (nor did i get hit as hard as you did i think- i don''t remember the impact, just beforehand and getting up afterwards, and i''m quite glad you''re all right!!) but then again considering he just shrugged it off when i told him, perhaps its a good thing he''s not my boy anymore. even though M didn''t even know me at the time, he gets awfully worried when i cross streets now. i maintain i still have two frogger lives left and i won''t be jumping on logs in a river any time soon.

i''m with you on the saying i love you often just in case bit though. i''d much rather be prepared for the worst than to have any regrets!

ps: did anyone nickname you roadkill after they were quite satisfied that you were allright, or was that just my crazy friends (who escorted me across streets for the rest of the year)

Nope, it was a 100-year old black Renault. And I don''t know what that says about them (

), but the car was damaged and I wasn''t (the side mirror was gone after the impact with my head!). Hence - the nickname. Not roadkill (lol!!!) but thickhead

Guess my friends are not any more normal than yours. Oh, and they''re still escorting me across streets whenever they can.
Glad you''re ok too, Squirrly! It''s not a nice memory to have but we''re survivors!

elle - it''s true, a hardship like this one can either make or break a relationship!

Sorry for the HUGE threadjack, LilyKat! Congratulations to you and OUpeargirl on getting your first "I love you"-s! Great thread, btw - it''s so nice to read all these sweet stories!

 

[hawaiianorangetree]

5 day after meeting my FI said... i think i am falling in love you with you, i said, i think i am falling in love with you too.

We both fell hard and fast but it still took 2 years to get engaged!!!

 

[FroggyMont]

A month and half into I said to my Mom that this was it for me! My parent''s met him the week before and my Mom told me that the night after she met him, when my Aunt asked how it went, she told her that she met her future son-in-law. So my parents could see it too! I waited another month till I told him, with the help of a lot of beer! I didn''t say it again cause I was waiting for him to say it. The the next month he drove me crazy cause I could tell that he wanted to say it but wasn''t. He planned a weekend trip away for us after three months, and he was waiting till them to tell me. So I had to wait longer for it, but it was totally worth it cause he made the moment so special and one that I will never forget!

 

[elrohwen]

Uhh, I think it was maybe 3 months? I can't believe I don't remember this! We started dating in April, and we said I love you in my new apartment which I moved into on July 5th ... so it must have been between 2 and 3 months.

I actually said it to him first as we were lying in bed. I just couldn't wait anymore! Unfortunately in my last relationship I got the "Oh ... I can't say the same thing right now" back. You'd think that would stop me from saying it first in this relationship, but I couldn't help myself and luckily he said he loved me too

Initially we weren't sure the relationship would go anywhere because he didn't have a job yet (we were just graduating college) and I had one near NYC. So, I said that if he got one near me, we'd stay together. Otherwise, I wasn't willing to do an LDR for a 2 month old relationship. Luckily he got a job near me! Yay

We did the "I love yous" while he was visiting me in my apartment before he started work. I think that was when we knew we would really be together long term because everything had come together and worked out for us.

 

[elrohwen]

Date: 6/24/2009 10:05:49 AM
Author: Bia

Date: 6/24/2009 9:58:24 AM
Author: elledizzy5
We had been dating about 4 months. We were on a trip to Las Vegas and both kind of liquored up enough to have the nerve to say it. It was in our hotel room after we had a really awesome night out on the Vegas Strip.

We are not an 'I Love You' every day couple. I know couples who say it every time they hang up the phone. I think it wears it out.

That's us!

In our defense, I think it's habit too. We both came from 'i love you' families...you know, every time you talk on the phone, or say good bye, you say 'i love you...'

You're right, it does sort of wear it out. BUT, there are different ways to say it, you know? For instance, when I say it in Spanish, it means 'romantic time papi'

Bia, we're the same way. We must say it 20 times a day!

He comes from an "I love you" family, but I really don't. So I blame it on him that we say it so much

I will admit that I like it though

ETA: We also only use pet names. We call each other "buddy" so much that our friends asked if it would be in our vows

But he uses "buddy" with his sister and mom (and his sister uses it too) so it's not as specific to us as it is just a term of endearment in general for his family. FI's huge on the nicknames though and always comes up with 10 for me for every 1 I come up with for him. He even comes up with a million nicknames for our bunny, Otto

Haha.

 

[OUpearlgirl]

Date: 6/25/2009 2:06:03 PM
Author: LilyKat

Date: 6/25/2009 11:00:16 AM

Author: OUpeargirl

I love this thread! My boyfriend and I said it for the first time last weekend!!!



We met about six or seven weeks ago and have been together ever since. I was up visiting him and we were getting ready for bed. He has this adorable way of looking at me and I KNOWWW he is thinking cheesy thoughts. He had been telling me how much I scared him and that he liked me too much. Then he took a deep breath, looked down and then back up at me and said ''I think I''m in love with you.'' I was so giddy because I had been trying to hold it back too... It is just so soon!! We''re both big fans of the tv show ''How I Met Your Mother.'' One of the characters last name is Mosby, and he always tells girls he loves them too soon and freaks them out. They call it ''Mosbying'' well we both started cracking up when we said we were terrified we were going to ''Mosby'' the other one.



We don''t say it super often just yet and I can tell it''s because we''re both kind of nervous to. But, he plays this Zac Brown Band song ''Whatever it Is'' allllll the time. If you like corny country songs, download it. I was in his room this weekend getting ready and he was watching TV in the living room. I had his iTunes playing The Beatles. Well, I guess his iphone has an app where he can change music on his computer like a remote. He sneakily switched it to that song and I got all teary.... sigh.



I''m so happy right now!

OUPeargirl, congratulations! Seeing as I got my first ''I love you'' on Tuesday, do you think we''re on the same Love Timeline? If there is such a thing?

Hehe congratulations to you too!! It''s possssible.

 

[ladypirate]

Awww, this thread is adorable! K definitely said it first...literally 4 days after we started dating. To be fair, we had been close friends for several years and he later told me that he had been in love with me for months and was just waiting for me to come to my senses and date him. He waited until a few days later to day it again, when he got sick and I stayed home from the concert that we had tickets for to take care of him. That time I said it back.

Now we say it all the time--we''re both from big touchy feely I love you families, so it works. My future in laws and I even tell each other we love each other and he''s the same way with my parents. We''re all a bunch of saps.

Also, I knew I was going to marry him before we started dating. I actually didn''t say yes the first time he asked me out officially because I knew that if we started dating I was going to marry him and I wasn''t sure if I was ready to give up my singlehood and settle down! A month or so later I had had time to think about it and we started dating officially.

 

[princesss]

Date: 6/26/2009 11:14:54 AM
Author: ladypirate
Awww, this thread is adorable! K definitely said it first...literally 4 days after we started dating. To be fair, we had been close friends for several years and he later told me that he had been in love with me for months and was just waiting for me to come to my senses and date him. He waited until a few days later to day it again, when he got sick and I stayed home from the concert that we had tickets for to take care of him. That time I said it back.

Now we say it all the time--we''re both from big touchy feely I love you families, so it works. My future in laws and I even tell each other we love each other and he''s the same way with my parents. We''re all a bunch of saps.

Also, I knew I was going to marry him before we started dating. I actually didn''t say yes the first time he asked me out officially because I knew that if we started dating I was going to marry him and I wasn''t sure if I was ready to give up my singlehood and settle down! A month or so later I had had time to think about it and we started dating officially.

Awwwwwwww, LP, that''s SO CUTE. I love stories about you guys.

 

[ladypirate]

Date: 6/26/2009 12:04:53 PM
Author: princesss

Awwwwwwww, LP, that''s SO CUTE. I love stories about you guys.

Aww, thanks Princesss! I love your story too. It''s adorable that you recreated the moment just to find out if he meant it.

 

[princesss]

Thanks. I think the word you''re looking for is "dorky," though.

 

[Indylady]

In an email..haha and prob about 3 weeks. I think I was mad over something stupid (I don''t remember what about) and he wrote me an email saying that he felt like he was playing a game of chess in which he didn''t know all the rules but the stakes were the highest imaginable, and then he said that he thought he had fallen in love with me. It was so sweet! It makes me happy just thinking about it.

 

[arjunajane]

what a cute topic.!

Ours was probably about 2 to 3 weeks in, Fi actually texted "I luv you" at the end of s message, so of course I texted back that I love you too.

Surprisingly, I can't actually remember who said it in person after that, but I've got a feeling
it was me...It was during the whole "is this serious, are we going to take this all the way?" kinda talk.

Fi, being cheeky, always insists it was me who said it first because he said "Luv" and not "Love", lol..
cheeky !

Isn't it lovely that butterflies feeling when it happens for the first time?!

we are the type that say it many times a day too, but this thread has inspired me to start being a
bit more creative with it - gorgeous story Bia, love it!

 

[gwendolyn]

I''m terrible, I can''t actually remember the situation surrounding it... I''m sure he said it first because I had been trying to figure out if I was ready to tell him and wasn''t sure I wanted to freak him out by saying it, and then he made all my worrying moot because he said it to me. But I have no idea how far along into our relationship it was. I *do* remember that the first time he mentioned marrying me was at his father''s birthday party barbecue a couple of years ago. He''d had lots of beer and told me that he usually tells everyone he loves them when he''s had too much to drink, but that with me he would do one better than that and just ask me to marry him. I thought that was pretty cute.

 

[Kitiaral]

Our first "I love you" isn''t a fond memory for me unfortunately. We had met about three months before, but we had only been officially dating maybe half of that time. We went away for a weekend in Michigan, our first weekend away together! We had woken up next to each other and I just said "I love you". And he said "No you don''t" !!!!!!!!!!! I was sooo hurt. I always put my feelings out there. I can''t bottle things up.

Anyway for the rest of the weekend things were kinda weird. And after he dropped my off at my house things were still awkward. Later that night I called him and broke up with him. I told him I couldn''t be the only one starting to feel things and have him lagging behind making up his mind. If he didn''t love me that was fine, I could deal with it. But it would be too hard to date him because I would always be wondering when he would love me.

The next day after work I was already missing him, so when he called I picked up. He was on his way over (he lived about an hour away). I told him to just not even bother b/c I didn''t want any drama. But he came anyway.

I told him I didn''t want him to say he loved me now, b/c then he would be saying it just to say it But he finally opened up and gave me this cute little speech about how this is the first time he had felt that way about someone and he was just scared. He was also scared that I didn''t really mean it (but of course I did b/c I''m not the kinda girl to say it just to say it).

Obviously we got back together, and he told me that he really did love me and it was so cute and sweet the way he said it the very first time!

 

[simplefears]

We said I love you exactly 3 weeks after we started dating, on Valentines day. But I knew I loved him 6 months before we started dating, I had the hugest crush in him! I said it first and he said "shoot, I wanted to say it first!" I wanted him to too, but I just couldn''t hold it in any more and I didn''t want him to think if he said it first and I said it back that I was only doing it to be nice (he knew that''s what happened with my last boyfriend).

What a great topic!

 

[Callisto]

About 6 months after we''d started dating we were just laying in bed cuddling and he whispered that he loved me, and I said I loved him too. We were both so excited that we basically just kept repeating "I love you" and giggling for like the next hour haha.

But I too had an accidental "I love you slip". We''d been dating for about a month and i was leaving him a voice mail and was in a goofy mood and not really paying attention to what I was saying and out of habit from talking with my close girlfriends blurted out "Ok, Love you bye!... Ummm I mean.... yeah I''m gonna go" and really awkwardly hung up. Haha, we just laughed about it but I was really embarrassed at the time.

Oh and we''re a say it all the time couple too. Probably like 20 times a day or more haha. But theres also a different tone when we have the rarer really heartfelt and sentimental "I''m so in love with you" moments.

 

[lilmissrugger]

I''m so glad other women have this "problem" but my FF and I say ''I love you'' like saying ''I love you '' is going out of style, and we''re in a ''saying I love you'' contest, and the reward for saying ''I love you'' is five billion dollars and free beer for the rest of our lives.

...or something like that.

Also, we''re huge on nicknames. We used to call one another babe all the time, but that got annoying to us (because my family was constantly mocking us) so we switched it to "one" like, "hey one!"- I also call him ''head'' and he calls me ''face''....don''t exactly remember how that one got started

 

[Skychick]

I just came across this thread!

BF were dating about 3 months when he said that he was falling in love with me. However, I didn''t saying anything back other than "ok" because we were having sex at the time. I was in the camp that believed men would say ANYTHING during the act.

A month later we were spooning on the couch. A whisper of "Do you love me" came from him. I said yes and asked if he loved me. He said yes.