I wouldn''t call it a "panic attack" but...

[sumbride]

Update on this....

So I''m getting nervous because I think we''re getting closer to the proposal... still completely guessing though. We leave for CA in 2 weeks and that''s been it in my head for a while.... I guess when the trip is over we''ll either be engaged or I''ll know that''s not when he''s planning to do it!

I never got around to making a collage like Londonblue suggested, but today I put together an email with links to about 20 settings I like, plus basic info on the diamond I want, and sent it to him. He replied "I thought you wanted to pick it yourself." Ok, Ok, so he IS going along with what I want??? Why couldn''t he just TELL me that???? Anyway, I''m happy, but I laughed for a while, completely frustrated with him! It''s just so silly! Of course, picking out what I want happens AFTER the proposal, so I still have NO idea!

 

[Selkie]

Well, that''s good news...frustrating that you had to go through a month of wondering about it...but good news nonetheless! And now you have the collage to work from.

 

[sumbride]

Very true! I''m relieved now!

We went to a great local jeweler today because both of my watches have dead batteries and this particular place replaces them for FREE! Great way to get us in the door! They told me it would just be 20 minutes so I said "let''s look around" but he said he heard "let''s look at rings" so I said "ok!" ha!

The first case I walked up to had Simon G and Tacori settings in it and I said "these are really expensive, let''s look at something else" and he said "that''s not what you were expecting?" I said "spend the money on the stone, not on the designer setting!" While I was looking at more settings, he noticed the case with the diamonds in it and started gasping a little at the price tags, but all was not lost... I pointed out he was looking at 2 and 3 carat stones! No way, honey! I''m NOT expecting or wanting that! Nor would I wear that in Baltimore city. It''s good that they put them in there though because after looking at those, the 1.2 carats look SO much more reasonable! He walked on a little further and gasped again, this time at a 6 ct. ideal cut rb spinning on a mirrored turntable. I gasped too. It was STUNNING. But I said "um, I''m at least 50 years too young for that!!!" The price tag was obscene, but it was, well, WOW. Gorgeous!

We looked at some lovely sapphire rings as well and I told him that was my favorite colored gemstone and he asked me what the others were... I had a tough time rambling them off but was surprised he asked. He''s getting more receptive to this whole jewelry thing... he actually walked beside me and looked in the cases himself too! I''m so impressed. And I really liked the store. It''s huge, 50,000 sq. ft, but a family-owned place that has been in business since 1914, not some "maul store". They don''t have commissioned sales people. So if we don''t go thru the internet, we may have just found our jeweler. At least I know where to go to get my watches fixed! He''s planning to take his old Skagen in soon... a RETURN trip!!! Woo hoo!!!

 

[sumbride]

So he decided to surprise me today by getting my ipod adapter installed in my car. We carpooled because of the air advisory, so he had my car for the day after dropping me off at the train station. This, I must say, was really his first attempt to surprise me, EVER, aside from sending flowers on our anniversary, and once after a fight. He just doesn't do surprises.

And now I know why.

He had to conference me in with the best buy employee to find out where I wanted it installed. He'd forgotten to find that part out. He was so dissapointed in himself that he wasn't actually able to show up at the train station with it installed tonight and surprise me, but I said "but you did surprise me! I didn't know you were going to do that today! Thank you!"

I wonder if he's practicing for the proposal? All this idea of surprising me... it requires being detailed, and that just has never been his strong suit. I'm ok with that, but I don't want him to set himself up for dissapointment.

I hate the concept of "surprise". And I really hope the Best Buy lady put it in the right place after making him ruin it.

eta: I'm also really touched that he did call because it means that he wanted to do what I wanted, he wanted it perfect for me, and that in itself means so much more than the surprise. That is so applicable to the whole ring situation!