Introducing him as ''Boyfriend''

[fieryred33143]

Date: 12/12/2008 9:41:35 AM
Author: Guilty Pleasure
What''s up with ''wifey''? Is it really common in a particular region? I have never heard it in my entire life. It sounds like a sweet word that has been misused so much that people hate it now.

It depends on where you are from.

First of all, no one should call you their "wifey" if they have no intention on actually marrying you. A lot of guys in our circle use the term "wifey" but if you ask whether or not they''ll actually get married some day (or even propose) the answer is always "hell no" So using the term is a slap in the face.

The other part of it also is something I can''t really explain but I''ll try.

Most guys, again where I''m from, that use the term "wifey" usually have more girls on the side. And that term is used as a code word. "I''m with the wifey today" means don''t call me. "I have to help wifey do xyz" usually means I can''t go to the club with you tonight so let my other girl know.

It''s like a term that says you are playing the role of a wife without really being a wife. Sometimes its really cute and sometimes its meant in a sweet way. Most times, again where I''m coming from, its not.

 

[mtjoya]

I understand how you feel. I don''t like saying oh yeah this is my bf, btw. I hopefully figure to call him fiance soon!

 

[tessari]

There''s something I wanted to add here...
Being called boyfriend or girlfriend is nothing to sneeze at--maybe a lot of people forget but even getting to call each other that is a huuuuuuge step in a relationship, especially for those of us that got to a "rolling start" in our relationships. My BF and I had been dating for an embarrassingly long time before we started referring to each other as BF and GF and I still cherish that title because it took some time and effort to get there...

 

[musey]

I always hated the word, but not because I felt it was insignificant... it just felt funny to say. I never introduced anyone as "my boyfriend," I always just said "this is Steve" (or whoever). I think people figure out rather quickly that you're a pair without being informed of it

I also didn't like "this is my fiance," largely because it seemed to be interpreted as an opening for wedding talk (which I didn't really enjoy). "This is my husband" has been a little bit better, more fun really. I still don't introduce him as "my husband," though, I only use it playfully ("what a silly husband I have"). He does introduce me as his wife, though.