Ladies on the list: Want to share an update?

[Bia]

BIG UPDATE: >

Well, as some of you might already know, BF has been discussing this topic more and more--particularly when he's feeling especially lovey dovey. However, 6+ years is a LONG time ladies and its starting to "get" to me--whether its societal, relationship or family pressures, it has been bugging me as of the last 3-4 months. As mentioned before, I have been trying to be good about not mentioning it too much b/c I didn't want him to feel pressured but have noticed that over the last few weeks, I have been mentioning it...I would probably bring it up a lot more had it not been for PS. Aside from bringing it up, I am thinking about it constantly, to the point of insanity! I think about the proposal, the ring, the "moment," and most of all "WHEN, WHEN, WHEN????!!!!"

Now, yesterday, on the way to his parents house for dinner (is it just us, or do you find that many fights take place in the car?) we started talking, mind you I was already not in a great mood. The reason? Well, at work I was speaking to a colleague and she was telling me about how her Fiance proposed. See?! I am obsessed to the point where I pry into other people’s love life!

Anyway, she told me how she picked out the ring and that she knew it was coming (to the day!) but that she was surprised as to the way he did it. She lives in Brooklyn and apparently her BF arranged to have them walk over the BK bridge or Williamsburg bridge, whichever has a view of a particular historic building/factory. Okay, I am rambling… ANYWAY…He strung Christmas lights that read, “[NAME] Will you marry me?”

Now, hearing that just made my already insane brain go into overdrive. I thought it was so sweet that he went that extra mile to do something that takes some effort. So this made me think about everything even more…by the time I got home and we headed to BF’s parent’s house, I was brooding. So I decided to casually bring up the story about my coworker who just got engaged and how her man was sooooo sweet and how he obviously went to a lot of trouble. What did BF do? He laughed his ass off! He said, “Babe, I get it, you think its romantic but to me, that’s so not my style.” I was LIVID, and I’m not sure why, to be honest—the man has a right to an opinion right? This is why I know I am not in my right frame of mind. Anyway, I proceeded to tell him, “I think it was sweet and he obviously went to a lot of trouble to make it a dream proposal…” yada yada yada. We ended up getting into an argument and he basically said that he would do it “his” way and that all I was doing was putting pressure on him to do it “my way” and “to be honest, you are not making this an enjoyable time.”
WHOAA…

There is more but I’ll let you ladies figure it out. So, after clearing my head a little bit, I have come to realize that I am the crazy one and in a sense, my asking all the time IS putting pressure on him to do something amazing, to get the right ring, etc. The reality is this, if I keep pestering him, he’s going to feel pressured and it might ruin it for him and for myself. I haven’t been thinking about his feelings in this whole thing too much. What do you all think?

Anyway, I have decided to 1.) apologize to him, which I did in an email (was that cowardice?) hoping that he will wipe the slate clean and will realize this is a special time for us…not be pressured and be happy about it! AND 2.) Stop talking about. Meaning, we can talk about spending our lives together but anything that has to do with rings, proposals and timelines will have to cease. Mainly because I don’t want to disappoint myself because I envisioned this dream proposal/ring/moment. Does that make sense? And of course, I want him to experience the same excitement and happiness I hope to when we do eventually get engaged.

Grrrr…I really am hating this whole process when I know I should be happy!

Anyway, for those of you who are experiencing a smooth-sailing engagement process, I am really happy for you!

 

[Dreamgirl]

Date: 4/18/2008 9:47:27 AM
Author: gwendolyn

Date: 4/18/2008 9:42:12 AM

Author: Delster

Date: 4/18/2008 9:36:47 AM


Author: gwendolyn


Those of you not on the list but hoping for an engagement soon, I''ve always wondered why you aren''t on the list. Are you afraid you''ll jinx something, concerned your boyfriends will see you on there or do you just not see the point of actually being on a list?

The last one

That''s kinda what I thought, since I almost said not to put me on the list either for the same reason. Ah well, to each their own!

Uh oh, is it bad to be on the list?????

 

[gwendolyn]

Date: 4/18/2008 2:01:31 PM
Author: Dreamgirl
Uh oh, is it bad to be on the list?????

No no no, don''t worry about it! I didn''t mean it like that--I almost didn''t sign up simply because I''m waiting for our situation to change for us to get engaged, not waiting for my boyfriend to be ready for marriage. And I was just wondering if the folks who didn''t put their names on the list were superstitious in any way or if it was something else. There''s nothing bad about the list!! Sorry to make you think that.

 

[Bia]

Date: 4/18/2008 2:01:31 PM
Author: Dreamgirl

Date: 4/18/2008 9:47:27 AM
Author: gwendolyn

Date: 4/18/2008 9:42:12 AM

Author: Delster

Date: 4/18/2008 9:36:47 AM


Author: gwendolyn


Those of you not on the list but hoping for an engagement soon, I''ve always wondered why you aren''t on the list. Are you afraid you''ll jinx something, concerned your boyfriends will see you on there or do you just not see the point of actually being on a list?

The last one

That''s kinda what I thought, since I almost said not to put me on the list either for the same reason. Ah well, to each their own!

Uh oh, is it bad to be on the list?????

I know...now I am thinking maybe I shouldn''t be on the list right now. It might be much later than sooner...

 

[gwendolyn]

No, no, I''m sorry, I didn''t mean it was a bad thing! It''s fine, it''s fun! I''m sorry!

 

[catty77]

Bia, I totally feel for your pain. My BF and I had a fight on Tuesday night about something he was frustrated with me about and because I''ve been brooding and stewing I turned all crazy and was like how dare he have an issue with me when he hasn''t proposed to me and is keeping me hanging like this! And I tried to turn it around and compare it to how I was feeling about being in limbo. Bad idea - it got ugly fast. Why does talking about such a wonderful thing (engagement/proposal/weddings) have to turn into an argument? Ugh.

The next day I IMed him and asked if we could discuss it again later when we weren''t as emotional and we had a nice talk that night. He assured me (again) that he wants to marry me. I expressed my fears that he was waiting for some perfect opportunity that may never happen. He confessed that he had planned to propose on our trip to DC a few weeks ago, but his recent job shakeup prevented him from doing so. He''d even asked friends about their diamond guys and those friends asked him after DC if he had any news. Which he didn''t. Poop. Oh well, even though it bummed me out that it didn''t happen, it''s good to know I wasn''t crazy and reading between the lines in the months leading up to it. He said that he was almost glad he didn''t do it because he wants it to be a surprise and didn''t like that I was able to guess. He asked me to continue to be patient and let him figure out the logistics. Blah blah blah, the ususal.

I feel a little better, but it''s still hard seeing all the engagements. They''re everywhere! Last night I was jogging on the treadmill at the gym, watching Access Hollywood when they showed the engagement that happened on American Idol. And I came home to the FOURTH wedding related announcement in a week. On top of that there was talk of it on The Office (don''t want to ruin it for anyone who hasn''t seen it) and Ashlee Simpson is wearing my dream ring. Ha. I can''t escape it! No wonder I''m going crazy. I''m just trying to take it day by day and to limit my freaking out by trying to think positive thoughts.

 

[Bia]

Date: 4/18/2008 2:14:40 PM
Author: gwendolyn
No, no, I''m sorry, I didn''t mean it was a bad thing! It''s fine, it''s fun! I''m sorry!

Not you honey, I am just a little down today. Went to the gym this morning for the first time (trying to go in the AM instead of after work--not easy!) and NOTHING--"endorphins" and all, but still bummed.

I love that you all give such great advice. I just worry that I might by hyping it all up for something that is not coming soon...

 

[Dreamgirl]

Date: 4/18/2008 2:14:40 PM
Author: gwendolyn
No, no, I''m sorry, I didn''t mean it was a bad thing! It''s fine, it''s fun! I''m sorry!

Ok, I never thought that it could be a jinx though lol (now Im a little worried that Im on the list) it will pass lol

 

[CNOS128]

Date: 4/18/2008 1:43:11 PM
Author: Bia


There is more but I’ll let you ladies figure it out. So, after clearing my head a little bit, I have come to realize that I am the crazy one and in a sense, my asking all the time IS putting pressure on him to do something amazing, to get the right ring, etc. The reality is this, if I keep pestering him, he’s going to feel pressured and it might ruin it for him and for myself. I haven’t been thinking about his feelings in this whole thing too much. What do you all think?


Anyway, I have decided to 1.) apologize to him, which I did in an email (was that cowardice?) hoping that he will wipe the slate clean and will realize this is a special time for us…not be pressured and be happy about it! AND 2.) Stop talking about. Meaning, we can talk about spending our lives together but anything that has to do with rings, proposals and timelines will have to cease. Mainly because I don’t want to disappoint myself because I envisioned this dream proposal/ring/moment. Does that make sense? And of course, I want him to experience the same excitement and happiness I hope to when we do eventually get engaged.

I think you are a lovely, smart woman and that it''s a good idea to ease off on talking about engagement/proposal stuff. But if you want, I can put your name in lights on some building in Brooklyn. It''s not a proposal, but wouldn''t you feel special??

 

[Bia]

Date: 4/18/2008 2:31:48 PM
Author: TheBigT

Date: 4/18/2008 1:43:11 PM
Author: Bia


There is more but I’ll let you ladies figure it out. So, after clearing my head a little bit, I have come to realize that I am the crazy one and in a sense, my asking all the time IS putting pressure on him to do something amazing, to get the right ring, etc. The reality is this, if I keep pestering him, he’s going to feel pressured and it might ruin it for him and for myself. I haven’t been thinking about his feelings in this whole thing too much. What do you all think?


Anyway, I have decided to 1.) apologize to him, which I did in an email (was that cowardice?) hoping that he will wipe the slate clean and will realize this is a special time for us…not be pressured and be happy about it! AND 2.) Stop talking about. Meaning, we can talk about spending our lives together but anything that has to do with rings, proposals and timelines will have to cease. Mainly because I don’t want to disappoint myself because I envisioned this dream proposal/ring/moment. Does that make sense? And of course, I want him to experience the same excitement and happiness I hope to when we do eventually get engaged.

I think you are a lovely, smart woman and that it''s a good idea to ease off on talking about engagement/proposal stuff. But if you want, I can put your name in lights on some building in Brooklyn. It''s not a proposal, but wouldn''t you feel special??

HAHAHA! It''s the DOMINO sugar factory...never seen it (at least don''t know that I have) you know where it is? I was in Williamsburg on Saturday and I don''t remember seeing it. Is that a "been done" proposal?

Its me...I''m just a mess about this whole thing. But thank you for being so sweet and supportive. I think you (and the other LIW) are just as lovely, sweet and clever and your men are incredibly lucky to have you! Corny? Yes but true

 

[gwendolyn]

Date: 4/18/2008 2:19:23 PM
Author: Bia

Date: 4/18/2008 2:14:40 PM

Author: gwendolyn

No, no, I''m sorry, I didn''t mean it was a bad thing! It''s fine, it''s fun! I''m sorry!

Not you honey, I am just a little down today. Went to the gym this morning for the first time (trying to go in the AM instead of after work--not easy!) and NOTHING--''endorphins'' and all, but still bummed.


I love that you all give such great advice. I just worry that I might by hyping it all up for something that is not coming soon...

Oh, I used to go to the gym before work, and it was so difficult! I admire the fact that you did that, and on a Friday of all days!! You rock!!

As for being afraid of getting your hopes up too early, I know exactly how you feel. Not about the proposal, but our preparation for it--J''s been trying to get an additional job to save up for when we move in together in the summer, and it''s been 6 months and nothing. I constantly get my hopes up that he''s found something, and that we can start saving, but no. There''s not been anything especially encouraging, so I try to go back to not expecting anything, until I start to remember what I want again, which is when my hopes start to build again. I keep trying to find a happy medium somewhere in there, but for the most part, I tend to be at one extreme or the other, which is really hard.

So...I guess I probably didn''t help at all just then, because I don''t know how to stay in the middle. But I do know how you feel, I think. So consider yourself hugged.

 

[choro72]

Bia, I feel your pain...And kudos to your email! Hopefully after a while, he will be at least amused to listen to these stories that you get. I was in the same boat, and I also stopped harassing him about it. After a while, when I tell my BF PS stories (because I love telling these kind of stories) his reaction turned from "WAA! STOP PRESSURING ME!!" to "Ooo, is that what you want? ''tease, tease...''"

 

[Bia]

Choro: Firstly, thank you. Secondly, I agree with you completely. BF is a good soul, he indulges me much of the time. The problem is my getting upset about what is not going down with us...I am envious of other happy couples that have such an amazing thing to be happy about, to be honest--its terrible. And then he faces my wrath because who else can? We live together so there is no way out for him!!! Also, its like, "why after all this time haven''t we just done it?!" Thats the irrational part of my brain talking. The rational side knows that we haven''t been ready up until a recently. So, I get it. I just am not the patient type and this whole thing is making me insecure. Its crazy right? We know (for certain) they love us and they want to be with us and yet we still go stark raving mad!

I think my email said all I need to say. He knows where the lunacy is coming from and why I have decided to let it go...for both our sakes. I just love him so much and I am ready to have that declaration made...you know? God, I am such a sap today!!!

 

[Dreamgirl]

Date: 4/18/2008 1:43:11 PM
Author: Bia
I have come to realize that I am the crazy one and in a sense, my asking all the time IS putting pressure on him to do something amazing, to get the right ring, etc. The reality is this, if I keep pestering him, he’s going to feel pressured and it might ruin it for him and for myself. I haven’t been thinking about his feelings in this whole thing too much. What do you all think?


Anyway, I have decided to 1.) apologize to him, which I did in an email (was that cowardice?) hoping that he will wipe the slate clean and will realize this is a special time for us…not be pressured and be happy about it! AND 2.) Stop talking about. Meaning, we can talk about spending our lives together but anything that has to do with rings, proposals and timelines will have to cease. Mainly because I don’t want to disappoint myself because I envisioned this dream proposal/ring/moment. Does that make sense? And of course, I want him to experience the same excitement and happiness I hope to when we do eventually get engaged.

Bia- You and I should be best friends. lol I know how you feel. I was the same way with my guy and if you have read about my story, I couldn't STOP talking about e-rings to the boyfriend. I was driving him nuts and felt so bad about it. I promised him I would STOP talking about it bla bla. So far I've been fairly good. I had a slip over the last weekend and I thought "UH OH!" But instead of e-rings, I suggested to him that our 10 year anniversary is coming up and I thought about retiring this ring I wear that he gave me and get a Tiffany Jazz celebration band to replace it. (I know, I know, stupid me to suggest that!) It's not cheap and I knew he wouldn't go for it. Bad timing too because people are getting laid off at his job. But I still had to drop that on him. He said "WHY would you get something like that if you are only going to wear it for a short time?!" I looked at him for a few seconds and said "A SHORT TIME? " I said "Why would I wear it for a short time?" he says "Because then you wont wear it anymore after you get an e-ring" and I said "Yes I will, I will wear it on my right hand" Then he went on to tell me why do I talk about these things all the time bla bla (and Im thinking uh oh taking 10 steps back, but its ok cause I didn't everything is fine).... and I told him "Im not talking about e-rings, so I thought it would be ok" and he says to me "Yeah, so you stop talking about e-rings and start talking about this other ring instead"

OK, OK Im sorry I brought it up, it was just a thought dont get mad at me! lol He told me maybe sometime in the future I could have something like that but not now. lol I told him I was sorry and that it's not about the ring, I just thought its a "celebration" ring and 10 years together is HUGE!!!! I told him I didn't need one, it was just a thought. He said ok. lol. None the less, it wasn't a fight, it was just a suggestion followed by a no lol. Then I thought to myself "RATS! I knew that would happen" but it was worth trying anyway.

Im still though, not talking about e-rings for some of the same reasons you will not talk about them to your guy. I know he is happy about that.

BTW, did you notice how he said a short time?

Im thinking "Forget the celebration band, Ill just wait for my e-ring!!!!"

 

[Bia]

Catty: Thank you for giving insight as to what you're dealing with. Its not easy. I wonder at times, why is it usually US who obsess about this whole thing? Why don't the guys constantly ask us, "when are you ready?" I mean some guys do, of course, just not these!!! LOL

I will say that, in your case, I can appreciate why you're getting antsy. But definitely HOLD OFF, because you don't want to know (unless you really do) when it is going to happen. You already know it will soon. I suppose I should be taking my own advice. The difference is that he just talks about wanting to ask me, he hasn't started looking for rings or asking around. Not to my knowledge anyway. He did tell me that some of the guys he works with told him that, in their opinion, the ring was the least of importance and that many girls nowadays don't put much emphasis on the idea of an e-ring--like anything will do. I looked at him like he had three heads. And he laughed so I know he is just trying to irritate me (he's so good at that!). I told him, from what I have seen, I HIGHLY BEG TO DIFFER...

He is a great guy and is not stingy with demonstrating how much he loves me. What he isn't is a planner, so I worry about that. However, this is a big deal so he may surprise me as far as how he prepares for the process. Either way, it will be fine. I am glad you realize the same and continue to be supportive of your BF.

Thank you again. I can't tell you how much it helps to have an outlet for all this ridiculous stress.

----I almost forgot you DREAMGIRL---MY TIFFANY OBSESSED BUDDY!!!

Yes, we are in somewhat of the same boat! However, you are doing what you should...laying low. It seems to me like our men are waiting for the right time, not asking themselves if it should happen. You mentioned your BF's company is having to layoff employees--that is a HUGE deal and I can see why your BF would feel the need to step cautiously. I mean, an e-ring won't sparkle that brightly if you two are living on the street! So, I think you backing off a bit is helping. This way he knows that you see where the priorities lie and I am sure he will love you all the more for it.

We will stay strong together until the blessed events happen already!!! LOL

 

[Dreamgirl]

My guy is extremely wonderful. He is very lovey dovey with me, we both are and I think its so great to still be that way with each other after all these years! He always tries his best to make me happy. He sure is ornery too, the little booger. Oh how I love him so......

I also have several very lovely things from him. I'll hold out for that e-ring. He is worth the wait!

 

[Dreamgirl]

Date: 4/18/2008 3:47:37 PM
Author: Bia
----I almost forgot you DREAMGIRL---MY TIFFANY OBSESSED BUDDY!!!


Yes, we are in somewhat of the same boat! However, you are doing what you should...laying low. It seems to me like our men are waiting for the right time, not asking themselves if it should happen. You mentioned your BF's company is having to layoff employees--that is a HUGE deal and I can see why your BF would feel the need to step cautiously. I mean, an e-ring won't sparkle that brightly if you two are living on the street! So, I think you backing off a bit is helping. This way he knows that you see where the priorities lie and I am sure he will love you all the more for it.


We will stay strong together until the blessed events happen already!!! LOL

Yeah, laying low is key lol. As far as them waiting until the right time, that is very much my guy. I know this because he has told me so. He plans on getting a better job with his degree sometime within the summer or fall maybe. That is extremely important to him. Then eventually things should start looking up in e-ring land. lol. In the meantime, I love love love talking about all this stuff here! I've got girls like you who are like me and we can go on and on without annoying eachother! HA!

Im here for you!!!!

 

[jennypoo]

I think I'm #19 on the list now.

No progress to report, unfortunately. We recently took a trip to Mexico with another couple, and some of my friends back home thought it may happen then, which of course, it didn't. To make matters worse (I know, this will sound awful), a friend of mine who has also been dating her boyfriend forever got engaged during their vacation to the islands. People said to her while I was away, "Uh oh, does Jenny know?"

Next Wednesday (April 23) is my birthday, but I've been disappointed on such occasions in the past so I try not to get my hopes up.

Our 9 year anniversary is approaching on August 24, but again, not getting my hopes up.

Basically I have no idea. We had a talk at the beginning of the year (because I had a post-Christmas meltdown), and he told me it would probably happen this year (but I've been told that before, too).

I've talked to his mom about it (because she totally understands my frustrations and has complete empathy), and she told me that HE told her it would likely happen this year. (The only reason she told me was not to ruin a potential surprise, but because she knows how anxious I've become).

Anyway...

All that having been said, I really do love him, although I don't understand what is motivations are when it comes to just getting it over with already!

However... a tip for all of the other LIWs... that friend I mentioned above said although she often felt the same way I do, when her boyfriend FINALLY popped the question, she cried like a baby (because she had NO CLUE), and said she wouldn't have had it any other way. She loved the fact it was a complete and total surprise and said it was DEFINITELY worth the wait. She's also now sporting some serious 1.5 carats worth of BLING!

 

[KCCutie]

I have to ad this b/c it's just too cute. Last night E and I went shopping and he loves to shop (crazy I know). He loves to go to Marshalls and outlet type stores and he'll run his finger along the rack of shirts and pick out an amazing find without even looking. He says he has the magic touch. So we were joking about that and I asked "Is that how you shop for presents for me?" He looked at me with this cue little grin and said "Of course not I have resources for that."

So at this point I'm thinking what resources? I hope he's using the right resources. So this morning I called my sister hoping he would ask her knowing she wouldn't really say anything if he did but she's a horrible liar

She was like "Hmm I have NO idea what he's talking about he hasn't talked to me," but I can tell that was not true.

I guess I shouldn't be too excited b/c my birthday is coming up in about 3 weeks so they could be working on some other surprise but I'm SOOO gald I took my sis ter ring shopping so she knows what like. Just in case

Either way I'm excited that they are working on some sort of surprise.

ETA: After the shopping trip we took a trip to his neighborhood and looked at some really cute houses we might actually be able to buy! It's so cute that he's so excited about it all and now he's making comments about how good the schools are near the houses we found

 

[moderatelypoorstudent]

Hey Everyone,
I haven''t been on in a while and I think my last post made little to no sense as I was in a daze of numbers and factoids from studying for an exam. Oof! Sometimes I think I just have an eccentric sense of humor, other times I just realize I''m going nuts from stress.

Anyway, as for the progress front: I think I''m pretty sure now that it isn''t happening on vacation in June, which is a little disappointing, but at the same time, I''ve been having some family issues and I''m not sure it''s the best time.

I''ve been a little more unsure lately since I was initially so excited to get engaged and now... honestly I''m just feeling unsure. It isn''t really that I have coldfeet about him. He''s wonderful. Long story short: my mom may lose her job and it shook me since she''s had the same job for 25+ years and is still helping a good deal with my living expenses, while I take out loans for everything else. So I suddenly realized that I''ve only been able to support myself monetarily for about 2 years if we count the money I saved up from the one year I did work. Just gave me this sudden shock of horror to think I was metaphorically going straight from my mother''s home to my husband''s. Does that make any sense? Like I''ve spent my entire life as a dependant, save one or 2 years?

Anyway, so I had a meltdown about that and told him I didn''t want to think about getting engaged anymore. But he just wants to keep on the same track we''re on now. Maybe he just figures I''ll get over my little crisis by sept 08, since that''s when I think he wants to propose. It''s especially looking good around that time because I have vacation in 1st week Sept. Lucky him!

On the other hand, he could totally throw me for a loop since we''re supposed to go on vacation in June and he bought the tickets w/o my permission (we had talked and picked dates, I just tried to insist I pay my own way) and has refused to send me the itinerary. He says it''s just because he''s lazy, and I''m inclined to believe him. But doesn''t that sound odd to anyone?

Either way, whenever it happens, I just hope my answer is yes and not "someday soon, but not now." Wouldn''t that be the worst LIW irony of all?

 

[*RubyRN*]

I posted awhile back that I think (hope!) it''s going to happen on our vacation in 3 weeks.. I still think so, but I''m really trying not to get my hopes up too much just in case. I have been trying not to tell anyone that I think it''s going to happen for that very reason, but Last week I thought I was going to explode if I didn''t tell someone. I had just decided that I would talk to one of my best girlfriends about it (the only other one of us not engaged yet but in a relationship) when she sent me a text that she had just gotten engaged

I felt all of those smiley face emotions at the same time LOL. I''m so excited for her but at the same time it made me sad that I''m STILL waiting and have been dating much longer than them. I know it''s not a competition, but I think many of us have that yucky feeling of "I''m the last one.." and boy did I have it that day. On the up side, if I do get engaged soon, it will be really fun to plan our weddings together! I''m just trying to stay positive and not think about it too much so I can actually enjoy our upcoming trip.

 

[aliciagirl]

My last post was about BF potentially getting a job in DC. Well, he kind of did. But he got a better offer in Cleveland so he accepted it instead. It''s actually really exciting because he''s in Cleveland now for school, so things aren''t going to change that much and I''ll still get to see him every weekend until I move in. I finish my classroom work for pharmacy school this Sept and was starting to get really antsy about him not having a job yet since I was going to need to find and schedule my rotations in whatever city he ended up in.

But! All my rotations are set up for Cleveland! I just signed the forms today! So we will officially be moving in together in Sept! SO keeps hinting that we will definitely be engaged before I move in. I think it would be like the.sweeetest.thing.ever if he did it on the first day I lived there, but I would take it before then, haha.

I didn''t think Cleveland was my ideal place to live (and I''m still not convinced we''ll stay there long) but it''s definitely the best possible way things could have worked out right now. We already know our way around there, we still get to see each other mostly every weekend until Sept, and I was able to get rotations set up pretty quickly AND at great hospitals!

We''re going to a nine tree bonfire weekend after next and while that isn''t relevant to my update at all, I''m pretty excited about it, too. Haha.

..... can''t take the country out of the girl, or something.

 

[Bliss]

FAIRY DUST TO YOU ALL!!!!!!

BF and I are talking about general seasons for wedding dates. We're thinking of getting married next summer.

I'm torn as to whether or not I should "help" him with a setting for the e-ring.

We already have the diamond.

Reena's Leon is my dream ring!
https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/you-can-call-me-reeyonce.21349/

He has always disliked halos saying the stone is commanding on its own -- that is, until I tried one on recently.
We both swooned.

I think this setting is the one! We're still taking things slowly... not rushing.

It's hard not to get caught up in the excitement, though!

Our general timeline is by July. But we say we already feel married so it's not a huge rush. We're just giddy!

I love him so much. He is my best friend. He makes average Tuesdays extraordinary.
I have fun with him standing in line at the grocery store and he makes me laugh so hard I fall down.
With him, I don't feel the angst or drama I've always experienced in past relationships, but the calm and strong feeling of being loved and trusting him completely.

It's like the time I slipped and fell and as I was falling, in a split second - he shoved his hand between my hip and the hard edge of the table. Of course, I slammed into his hand instead of the table edge. His first thought was of concern for me and he asked if I was hurt! And I'm concerned about his poor hand that he put between me and the table!

Gosh, that's love. (Double swoon!)

 

[anniee19]

We have looked at rings together a few times, and he knows what I want. We just recently purchased our first home together, so he''s saving up for the ring, but I don''t think it will be too much longer!
We''ve been talking seriously about getting married for the last year, and we both agreed that 2009 will be the best time to get married, so hopefully it won''t be too much longer for me!

 

[claireabelle]

Hi everyone!

I''m new on the list... it''s exciting hearing about everyones updates - it''s great to share excitement because you can''t talk to family or friends...

My story so far:

We have been together for 6 years and my BF has always been talking about marriage and asking me to try rings on! However, I was a terrible nail biter and would never go to try rings on because I was so self conscious about my hands!! Can you believe it? Then one day something just changed in me and I grew my nails and told him I was ready for a ring!

He has been a ''Man in Waiting'' for years - it''s so funny! I think maybe I was never truly ready to get engaged until now - because lets face it, the nail biting excuse was pretty lame! I think I just needed an excuse to put it off until I was ready.

So anyway - here I am with pretty nails and I am just gagging to get engaged to my BF!

We went to Tiffany''s and I tried on a 1ct Legacy which we both fell in

with instantly. However, it was way out of budget so we decided to buy a diamond and have the setting custom made. I dropped a few hints about the jeweler I wanted to use and then the rest of the design process was left to him. Hopefully, it will be very similar to the tiffany legacy with a cushion brilliant.

I have no idea if the ring is finished or where it is... It could be in our apartment as I am typing this

BF keeps trying to throw me off the scent. He keeps teasing me saying to maintain a nice manicure and jokingly inspecting my nails constantly (cheeky!!)!! But he also keeps saying he wants to holiday in September... so who knows!!

It will definitely be this year sometime... the suspense is just awful!

I''m sure it''s going to be worth the wait though!

 

[Bia]

New UPDATE!

Some of my fellow LIW might remember my post from two weeks ago...shortest recap: I was touchy about the "engagement/proposal" subject and he was laughing at me and it all ended in a big blowout.

Well, I took advice from friends and you all (my new friends!) and apologized to him in an email. He wrote me back that he loved what I had to say, and that he loves it more when I am honest and I open up and tell him how I am feeling rather than just getting angry and screaming (why do I do that?!). He then said, verbatim, "Babe, we are getting engaged this year and please know that you can never ruin any moment for me because you are the biggest blessing in my life."

FYI: He told his parents a few months ago (privately but seriously told them) that he wants to ask me! I just found out! I think he didn't want to tell me this, but it accidentally slipped when we were discussing our future babies--it has been a big family week as his nephew was born on Thursday (so adorable--I love him!) so we were at his sister's house a lot this week talking about babies.

SO, now that I have cleared the air, I feel a thousand times better about the impending engagement. I am not thinking about it every second (just every other) and I am excited about him handling it his way--something he clearly needs. I mean, I am still obsessing but at least in private (with you all) and not with him LOL!

Thank you for the kind words and support. I appreciate it so very much.

 

[KCCutie]

I decided to revive this thread rather than starting my own I just had to share my little update

Well I didn''t get the chance to sneak in a trip to a jewelry store this weekend but we did actually go to an open house and look at these gorgeous new row houses right in his neighborhood. We had been talking about possibly living in his 1 bedroom apartment when my lease is up until we find the perfect house and I wasn''t really happy with that as I''d have to move twice and store most of my stuff in the meantime. Well Sunday out of the blue he was like "I wonder if we could see one of those row houses" of course I jumped on that band wagon real fast. We got in the car and headed to that area. Two of them were open and the agent must have been somewhere else so we got to look around just the two of us

and we just LOVE them! They are a bit out of our range so we went to lunch and talked about everything!

We''ve pretty much decided that I will move in with him when my lease is up so we can keep an eye on those houses and pounce on a good deal as soon as one pops up. We know it will be a little tight but it will be temporary.

We also talked about our wedding plans and how buying a house and paying for the wedding will work out. He kept saying he doesn''t want a long engagement and he was thinking we could get married in January (somewhere warm). I told him even if we waited until March that still wouldn''t be a long engagement b/c it''s May now and we''re not even engaged yet. I told him we needed to give my family at least 6 months notice since we want to do a destination wedding I want everyone to have enough time to save and plan for the trip. The look on his face was so precious! I can''t help but think the proposal will be coming sooner than I thought b/c initially he wanted a 2-3 month engagement and I said how about 6 and now he''s got a January date in his mind which would be 6 months after our 2 year anniversary.

It''s so amazing to see him all excited about getting married! At lunch he kept saying that his life is just all going perfectly right now and that having the house we looked at and the new cars and a beautiful wife and our two dogs was more that he ever thought possible. I''m just over the moon today!

Oh and my mother gave me an emerald necklace last week she said it was the first emerald my dad ever gave her and she wanted me to have it since it is my birthstone too. I showed it to E yesterday and he looked at like a PSer! I think the stone has a visible inclusion which is no big deal I''m so happy to have it but he zoned right in on it

I think he been doing some stone gazing of his own!

 

[Bliss]

Oh gosh, now I''m kind of guessing how this is all going to take place. Nervous, actually! Why am I the one who''s nervous? I guess it''s because this means so much.

We had brunch with my friend and her husband -- they''re expecting a baby. We were soooo happy for them. And we talked about it afterward... FI was so cute. He said, "I''m getting ready for a little peanut of our own." And then he gave me a huge hug and a kiss.

We''re getting the ring insured today and then it''s in his hands on Tuesday. I''ll be waiting! He''s told me it''ll be this month or next, but hopefully this month. He''s taking me on vacation out of the country in July and I said -- please don''t make me wait until then!

But if he did, that would be OK. I''d be shooting a bunch of fashion shows with flowers before then! I have zero self discipline when it comes to surprises. I am so bad. He knows this. I know this. I am a bad, bad girl.

I''m so lucky he loves me, bad girl or not!

It''s in a very simple platinum solitaire setting and we''re getting it re-set in a delicate halo setting. I think he will propose with it in the current setting and then get it set later. We''re a little torn as to getting engaged with the current setting -- and setting it a little later or getting it reset first?

It doesn''t matter to me! Either way, we''ll be ringless for 4 weeks. Might as well be before! I''m just so excited.

How did I get so lucky? He''s amazing. (Sorry for the saccharine, ladies!!!)

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

I did a different thread about my progress but figured I started this thread with the intent of keeping all of us updated on what''s happening with each of us.

So, over the weekend I found (completely accidentally) that my SO has spent quite a bit of time on-line visiting assorted websites looking at settings and stones. I am happy that he is progressing but still not anticipating a proposal until the end of summer at the earliest.

It would be pretty neat if he did it on my birthday in a few weeks but I''ll just have to wait and see what other surprise he has up his sleeve for that day. He''s got a tough year to beat: last year he got me a Wii and a Burberry purse so I told him he set himself up with an impossible standard. He told me I make it so easy on him by understimating him all the time

 

[kittybean]

The MINI is my dream car too--I''ve been lucky enough to own one for almost four years. Ladies, I say you should buy your MINI if you can. The novelty never wears off, it is an amazing car, and the resale value is incredible. After four years, my car is worth only $3K less than what I paid for it. Having such an adorable, fun car will take your minds off of the other waiting .