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Let it all hangout -- The Grumpies, whinies, complainies Get It Off Your Chest Thread....

@RunningwithScissors

I'm irritated that they treated you this way.
I would absolutely not give them my money.
And I would communicate with the manager as to why.
Can you order the item online for comparison, and send it back if you don't like it?
 
I went to visit my kids in Portland and came home with a cold and swollen glands. Tested negative for Covid twice. Winter kills me.
 
Can I just say that I thought that this was a non-white people problem, without sounding offensive? Seriously. I just figured these stores only dismissed minorities! But wow. At least they are equal opportunity aholes!

You wanna try shopping in a posh store in working clothes- because you want to buy something, have the money and have 20min before the train home
they look one up and down like we are pieces of sh*t
Used to happen to be often been i worked in Wellington in a hardware store
So what ? They think they are better than me ? I probably made more sales because i dont judge my customers on their clothes
Btw this never happened at any jewlers
 
@RunningwithScissors, I’ve had better customer service from a 16 year old while picking out a $20 toy at Target. It’s not difficult to treat people with kindness and respect. Your story really reflects poorly on Cartier.

My reaction reflects i am happy that at least there is someone out there giving a customer respect
 
I'm so fvcking mad I could SPIT! I've been using Pirate Ship for a lot of my packages because UPS can be quite a bit cheaper than USPS depending on weight and where the package is going. WELL. I just got notification that six of my shipments, going back to January, were "adjusted," making the box dimensions 13 x 12 x 12 instead of 12 x 12 x 12, and therefore increasing the price between $5 and $8 for each one. I USE STANDARD 12 X 12 X 12 BOXES and just measured one packed and closed. No dimension on that box is over 12 inches!!! And the adjustments are for shipments Jan to early Feb. I've shipped a LOT since then. Are all of those going to be adjusted too?!? ARGH!!!!!!!!!!
 
I am so F****** tired of cancel culture. One of the stupidest F****** things to come out of this generation. Especially when it's directed towards ORDINARY PEOPLE. You'd think some of these keyboard warriors had a 10-year career in investigative journalism or something... grinds my gears
 
Just found out that we live about 15 miles from what is likely to be the main target on the west coast if we ever have a nuclear war. I hadn't been too concerned about anything hitting near us as the things I thought would be the clear west coast targets are a ways away and would likely not impact us directly. Not going to live in fear or anything, just surprised. (Also a bit impressed that the importance of the place is so well downplayed.)
 
Dh and sister think I'm veering into tin foil hat territory.... I bought 110 m of heavy duty duct tape , heavy duty tarp, lightweight tarp and downloaded FEMA, EU, French and German govt pdf's "how to survive a nuclear cloud/fallout" I mean Europe's biggest nuclear plant in Ukraine had a FIRE going on yesterday and the Russian army didn't let the firefighters in for several hours. The Russians already hold the TCHERNOBYL site now.... DOES that ring a bell?? Am I going crazy!? Honestly I'd be pretty furious at myself if a cloud was coming my way and my basement (1,5 m walls around me, yay!) was way less safe than it could be 'cause I didn't pick up 11€ worth of duct tape to make the doors airtight (-ish)... Seriously wondering here....
 
Dh and sister think I'm veering into tin foil hat territory.... I bought 110 m of heavy duty duct tape , heavy duty tarp, lightweight tarp and downloaded FEMA, EU, French and German govt pdf's "how to survive a nuclear cloud/fallout" I mean Europe's biggest nuclear plant in Ukraine had a FIRE going on yesterday and the Russian army didn't let the firefighters in for several hours. The Russians already hold the TCHERNOBYL site now.... DOES that ring a bell?? Am I going crazy!? Honestly I'd be pretty furious at myself if a cloud was coming my way and my basement (1,5 m walls around me, yay!) was way less safe than it could be 'cause I didn't pick up 11€ worth of duct tape to make the doors airtight (-ish)... Seriously wondering here....

I am with you. I watched it unfold with horror. How stupid is Putin? If the wind blows one way Russia is toast. I was thinking about Chernobyl the entire time. Thank goodness no radiation was detected. BUT OMG what was he thinking. No, you are not going crazy. He is crazy. No doubt about it. Please take good care and be safe @MaisOuiMadame sending you good vibes and gentle hugs. May this be over soon and no more lives lost.
 
Dh and sister think I'm veering into tin foil hat territory.... I bought 110 m of heavy duty duct tape , heavy duty tarp, lightweight tarp and downloaded FEMA, EU, French and German govt pdf's "how to survive a nuclear cloud/fallout" I mean Europe's biggest nuclear plant in Ukraine had a FIRE going on yesterday and the Russian army didn't let the firefighters in for several hours. The Russians already hold the TCHERNOBYL site now.... DOES that ring a bell?? Am I going crazy!? Honestly I'd be pretty furious at myself if a cloud was coming my way and my basement (1,5 m walls around me, yay!) was way less safe than it could be 'cause I didn't pick up 11€ worth of duct tape to make the doors airtight (-ish)... Seriously wondering here....

We already owned a radiation meter so I don't find the duct tape crazy at all!
 
Remember how birthdays always take a bad twist? Yeah.... It is 10:30pm. My birthday is tomorrow but we were celebrating today. There is a freaking BAT flying around our living room! Cats and dogs are closed upstairs (current on vaccines, thankfully!). I am hiding in the bathroom searching for what to do. DH is out watching Incase it comes out of the bookcase getting ready to try to net it to haul it outside. Seriously. I could not make this up :eek-2: :???: :oops2:

ETA: DH got the bat outside but it may or may not be injured. I am torn between thrilled it is out, upset it may have been hurt (DH panicked and might have squished it some), and completely freaked out there may be more. Inspection with pest control requested. Likely to get a call tomorrow to schedule. They find any place something could come in, live trap (and release) any they may find, and then fix any openings so they can't get in again.
 
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Remember how birthdays always take a bad twist? Yeah.... It is 10:30pm. My birthday is tomorrow but we were celebrating today. There is a freaking BAT flying around our living room! Cats and dogs are closed upstairs (current on vaccines, thankfully!). I am hiding in the bathroom searching for what to do. DH is out watching Incase it comes out of the bookcase getting ready to try to net it to haul it outside. Seriously. I could not make this up :eek-2: :???: :oops2:

ETA: DH got the bat outside but it may or may not be injured. I am torn between thrilled it is out, upset it may have been hurt (DH panicked and might have squished it some), and completely freaked out there may be more. Inspection with pest control requested. Likely to get a call tomorrow to schedule. They find any place something could come in, live trap (and release) any they may find, and then fix any openings so they can't get in again.

Happy birthday first of all!!!

I'm sorry this happened, but I'm quite sure the bat is A-OK. I'm sure your DH as an animal lover treated teh situation with the utmost delicacy, possibly better than pest control!!


Good for checking if there might be more, but I hope you can enjoy your birthday in the meantime.
 
Remember how birthdays always take a bad twist? Yeah.... It is 10:30pm. My birthday is tomorrow but we were celebrating today. There is a freaking BAT flying around our living room! Cats and dogs are closed upstairs (current on vaccines, thankfully!). I am hiding in the bathroom searching for what to do. DH is out watching Incase it comes out of the bookcase getting ready to try to net it to haul it outside. Seriously. I could not make this up :eek-2: :???: :oops2:

ETA: DH got the bat outside but it may or may not be injured. I am torn between thrilled it is out, upset it may have been hurt (DH panicked and might have squished it some), and completely freaked out there may be more. Inspection with pest control requested. Likely to get a call tomorrow to schedule. They find any place something could come in, live trap (and release) any they may find, and then fix any openings so they can't get in again.

Happy Birthday - early! It's wonderful to hear the bat is gone and hopefully they will find no more to be had in your home. I've lived through that a few times in my life, and frankly, most everything else feels better after its gone. I hope it is the same for you so you can dance, dance, dance on your birthday!
 
One of our neighbours has a 5 yo daughter who likes to just pop in unannounced. Just open the door and saunter in like she actually lives here. We don’t always have the door locked as dad likes to have the breeze come through with a small gap in the door.

This little girl will scare the living hell out of you just because you don’t expect anyone to be in the room, maybe you go to check something in the living room or get a glass of water, and BOOM there she is, sitting on the floor or chair and talking to our cats. We have 7 cats and 5 of them are very fearful of her, they don’t like small children, and my biggest worry is that they will attack her when they feel threatened. She tends to run after them and try to smother them—anyone who has a cat knows that that is a sure recipe for disaster… not to mention the medical expense and possible issues that will arise if she gets hurt by our cats…

I always have to deposit her back home once I find her. Children are delightful, sure, but frankly it’s getting quite irritating… she’ll barge in while I’m working, while we’re cooking or cleaning, and it’s so hard to get her to leave sometimes. I try to be pleasant with her father (who is home more often than the mum) but how do I politely tell him to please keep an eye on his daughter! I’m not a babysitter. I already care for a senior and a PWD. I don’t need a child to look out for on top of this. I don’t even want children of my own. Ugh!!!!
 
but how do I politely tell him to please keep an eye on his daughter!

Tell him truth. You aren't comfortable having her come into your house uninvited and would he please speak to her. You can always get a screen door to keep her out. Failing any reasonable measures, I'd call child protective services and report him. I think it's negligent for a parent to not know where his child is and allow her to enter peoples' homes where all manner of bad things might happen.
 
One of our neighbours has a 5 yo daughter who likes to just pop in unannounced. Just open the door and saunter in like she actually lives here. We don’t always have the door locked as dad likes to have the breeze come through with a small gap in the door.

This little girl will scare the living hell out of you just because you don’t expect anyone to be in the room, maybe you go to check something in the living room or get a glass of water, and BOOM there she is, sitting on the floor or chair and talking to our cats. We have 7 cats and 5 of them are very fearful of her, they don’t like small children, and my biggest worry is that they will attack her when they feel threatened. She tends to run after them and try to smother them—anyone who has a cat knows that that is a sure recipe for disaster… not to mention the medical expense and possible issues that will arise if she gets hurt by our cats…

I always have to deposit her back home once I find her. Children are delightful, sure, but frankly it’s getting quite irritating… she’ll barge in while I’m working, while we’re cooking or cleaning, and it’s so hard to get her to leave sometimes. I try to be pleasant with her father (who is home more often than the mum) but how do I politely tell him to please keep an eye on his daughter! I’m not a babysitter. I already care for a senior and a PWD. I don’t need a child to look out for on top of this. I don’t even want children of my own. Ugh!!!!

Are you serious? What in the world!?

How about “next time I find your daughter in my home uninvited I won’t be returning her, I’ll be calling both the police and CPS” :eek-2:

Very little gets my goat as thoroughly as parents who won’t parent :angryfire:
 
One of our neighbours has a 5 yo daughter who likes to just pop in unannounced. Just open the door and saunter in like she actually lives here. We don’t always have the door locked as dad likes to have the breeze come through with a small gap in the door.

This little girl will scare the living hell out of you just because you don’t expect anyone to be in the room, maybe you go to check something in the living room or get a glass of water, and BOOM there she is, sitting on the floor or chair and talking to our cats. We have 7 cats and 5 of them are very fearful of her, they don’t like small children, and my biggest worry is that they will attack her when they feel threatened. She tends to run after them and try to smother them—anyone who has a cat knows that that is a sure recipe for disaster… not to mention the medical expense and possible issues that will arise if she gets hurt by our cats…

I always have to deposit her back home once I find her. Children are delightful, sure, but frankly it’s getting quite irritating… she’ll barge in while I’m working, while we’re cooking or cleaning, and it’s so hard to get her to leave sometimes. I try to be pleasant with her father (who is home more often than the mum) but how do I politely tell him to please keep an eye on his daughter! I’m not a babysitter. I already care for a senior and a PWD. I don’t need a child to look out for on top of this. I don’t even want children of my own. Ugh!!!!

Ha, you brought back a memory! When I was a little kid about 8, one of the neighbor's kids used to just come into our house at all hours periodically. This was mid eighties so kids tended to be left to their own devices more- and she had four or five siblings. You never knew where she'd be- in your kitchen, under your bed, rifling through our toys, watching TV...she was five at the time, like your B&E queen. I remember the last time she got away with it. My younger sister and I came down for cartoons in the early morning to find her standing on our countertops eating out of our cupboards, this time wearing my mother's fancy lipstick out of her purse.
Once my mom saw the her wearing her lipstick, her life of crime was over. :lol:
 
I’m Grumpy because I think there are a lot of vendors out there saying their jewelry is antique and it‘s actually really good repro. Repro with the intent to deceive. I don’t say anything because I don’t want vendors who are otherwise selling nice jewelry and providing a valuable service in keeping good artisans and traditional design and fabrication methods afloat, to go under. However their behavior isn’t ethical, IMO. Buyers should not be told a fake story about expensive items. I’m also annoyed about vendors who claim a modern piece is “Eco Friendly” because it contains a pulled apart or pulled out component of an antique piece. Done all the time. It -is- Eco Friendly, that’s not a lie I guess. That’s all. I am being a grumpy today.
 
Hi,
margauxmines-- I know we are not supposed to comment and I have told myself to butt out, but----
My brother used to be rather irritated when he found his neighbor's daughter in his house petting and playing with their cat. His children were no where to be seen, but this little girl loved the cat, and played with, what I would call a miserably tempered cat, without any problems. She would dress the cat, put it in a doll carriage, and had a good time. She grew up to be a model and seriously dated Sylvestor Stalone.(not that that is important, just threw it in there for color). Children don't think about B&E. Your little girl is only five, her parent is not negligent, for not watching her 24/7. She lives in a neighborhood and is visiting her neighbor because she has cats, and leaves the door open for her. If the door was closed she would not enter. Is the child responsible or the owner of the door.? It may be annoying, but not negligent on the part of the parent. IMO
I have a story of my own. It is true. A little girl one and a half, with excellent vocabulary skills, knocked on my door one summer morning. When I answered, Taylor, asked if she could come in and could I make her a cup of coffee. I invited her in, and asked if she would accept tea instead of coffee. Yes, she said, but could I make her some popcorn to go with the tea. Being a good hostess, I complied. We had morning tea together and popcorn together and then she went home, and left me with such a smile on my face, that I invited her to come again.
One day she was missing and her mother was starting to panic. Running here, running there, oh my, where could she be? We found her asleep in one of my bedrooms with a large stuffed animal. I never even knew she was there.

Just my 2 cents.

Annette
 
We are at our other house. My husband decided to put his dirty underwear and clothing on top of my clean bedding in the closet so he could remember to take them home. What kind of reasoning is this??? I blew my top. It was pretty ugly. He thought I was too picky…Um..no..It’s my son’s bedding too. Gross..
 
My husband decided to put his dirty underwear and clothing on top of my clean bedding in the closet so he could remember to take them home. What kind of reasoning is this??? I blew my top. It was pretty ugly. He thought I was too picky…Um..no..It’s my son’s bedding too. Gross..

My dumba** DH used a dirty pair of briefs to wipe off the kitchen island when I asked him to clean up his mess. I blew my top and was told I was too picky. They really don't have to work so hard to prove their the inferior sex. We know, we know.
 
My dumba** DH used a dirty pair of briefs to wipe off the kitchen island when I asked him to clean up his mess. I blew my top and was told I was too picky. They really don't have to work so hard to prove their the inferior sex. We know, we know.

It’s mind boggling….TG I’m not only one with a dirty bird husband. :lol:
 
Tell him truth. You aren't comfortable having her come into your house uninvited and would he please speak to her. You can always get a screen door to keep her out. Failing any reasonable measures, I'd call child protective services and report him. I think it's negligent for a parent to not know where his child is and allow her to enter peoples' homes where all manner of bad things might happen.
Are you serious? What in the world!?

How about “next time I find your daughter in my home uninvited I won’t be returning her, I’ll be calling both the police and CPS” :eek-2:

Very little gets my goat as thoroughly as parents who won’t parent :angryfire:

Thanks @Matata & @yssie : unfortunately here "CPS" is not as active as it likely is elsewhere. The little girl actually has a nanny, as the parents both work full-time (but I assume father has a more flexible WFH sched than the mother), and the nanny often seems more preoccupied with being on Facebook or TikTok than watching her charge. Several times already she's come banging on our door (not knocking, mind you, but really banging), only for me to open it to her saying in my face "Can you let [little girl] out already, she's been there too long" when the 98% of the time the child isn't here (out in the playground) and her accusatory tone rubs me the wrong way. Still, I try to be civil. I tell her she's not here, sorry. If she is, I call the little girl and tell her it's time to go home.

Whenever I deposit the child home during one of her uninvited episodes, the nanny actually seems rather annoyed. One time she even remarked, "So soon??" as if her charge is my responsibility.

Ha, you brought back a memory! When I was a little kid about 8, one of the neighbor's kids used to just come into our house at all hours periodically. This was mid eighties so kids tended to be left to their own devices more- and she had four or five siblings. You never knew where she'd be- in your kitchen, under your bed, rifling through our toys, watching TV...she was five at the time, like your B&E queen. I remember the last time she got away with it. My younger sister and I came down for cartoons in the early morning to find her standing on our countertops eating out of our cupboards, this time wearing my mother's fancy lipstick out of her purse.
Once my mom saw the her wearing her lipstick, her life of crime was over. :lol:
I side with your mum on this one! :lol:

Hi,
margauxmines-- I know we are not supposed to comment and I have told myself to butt out, but----
My brother used to be rather irritated when he found his neighbor's daughter in his house petting and playing with their cat. His children were no where to be seen, but this little girl loved the cat, and played with, what I would call a miserably tempered cat, without any problems. She would dress the cat, put it in a doll carriage, and had a good time. She grew up to be a model and seriously dated Sylvestor Stalone.(not that that is important, just threw it in there for color). Children don't think about B&E. Your little girl is only five, her parent is not negligent, for not watching her 24/7. She lives in a neighborhood and is visiting her neighbor because she has cats, and leaves the door open for her. If the door was closed she would not enter. Is the child responsible or the owner of the door.? It may be annoying, but not negligent on the part of the parent. IMO
I have a story of my own. It is true. A little girl one and a half, with excellent vocabulary skills, knocked on my door one summer morning. When I answered, Taylor, asked if she could come in and could I make her a cup of coffee. I invited her in, and asked if she would accept tea instead of coffee. Yes, she said, but could I make her some popcorn to go with the tea. Being a good hostess, I complied. We had morning tea together and popcorn together and then she went home, and left me with such a smile on my face, that I invited her to come again.
One day she was missing and her mother was starting to panic. Running here, running there, oh my, where could she be? We found her asleep in one of my bedrooms with a large stuffed animal. I never even knew she was there.

Just my 2 cents.

Annette
@smitcompton : Thank you for your perspective! I missed in my OP, the child has a full-time nanny to take care of her, but nanny seems to prefer passing on that responsibility to random neighbours because she'd much rather be on Facebook or TikTok than with her charge :wall: Unfortunately, even with a closed door (but unlocked), she will let herself in... I'm not a whole grouch, she can be pleasant to spend time with. But not when I'm in the middle of a meeting, or cooking dinner, or administering my parents' medicines... most of my days are taken up with responsibilities of my own, so to add a child to look out for on top of that, is a little too much for me!

Another note, while 2 of our 7 cats do like to play with her, she chases after and forces the 5 other fearful ones to play too, despite firm warnings on my part to please not bother them. Having to corral all 5 fearful, hissy, and growling cats into a separate room just to accommodate an unannounced visitor is no easy feat.

I am fine spending time with her in the playground on some afternoons, but I think I may need to give a gentle reminder to the father that I am busy most days... maybe a happy medium; I could give him my mobile so he can let me know that little girl wants to come over, and I can say yes/no. That way it's a happy experience for everyone, and I'm not left gritting my teeth. lol!
 
Whenever I deposit the child home during one of her uninvited episodes, the nanny actually seems rather annoyed. One time she even remarked, "So soon??" as if her charge is my responsibility.

Then you should be paid for watching the girl. The nanny is derelict in her duties, completely irresponsible, and should be fired. Imo, this is not a situation that calls for gentle reminders to the parents. It is a situation which requires firmness and a line in the sand. If you want to spend time with this girl, you're the only one who gets to choose when and for how long and you should be the only one who determines when you have the time to do so. The parents and the girl need to learn what boundaries are and they need to learn how to respect those boundaries.
 
When possible, I'd rather solve a neighbor problem on my own than involve the problem neighbors.

This reminds me in a way of the neighbor behind me, years ago. She would instruct her frequent guests to park their cars in my side yard because the easement "belongs to the city anyway." You know, how the first few feet of your yard at the street (I had a corner lot) technically belongs to the city, in case they ever decide to put in a sidewalk or whatever. But in practice, that means nothing because you still have to cut that grass and so on.

Her guests could have easily parked in her driveway, the street, or the easement in her own yard since it also "belongs to the city anyway." But no, she designated my side yard as her personal parking area and there would frequently be two or three cars lined up there. The cars would leave ruts when it rained but mainly the audacity of it p*ssed me off.

Since I'd already had a couple of run-ins with unreasonable neighbors by then, my husband and I decided to quietly plant some trees along that strip and that was the end of it.

I wouldn't let a five-year-old go to a neighbor's house alone. But, in itself, it also doesn't sound to me at a level where the authorities would get involved.

That said, I think allowing the child to stay "sometimes" is keeping this going. I'd say the easiest solution would be to just keep the door locked, and crack a window for the fresh air. Good luck. :)
 
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@margauxmines, I think the time has passed for gentle reminders. This little girl showing up whenever is a total inconvenience for you and the nanny is not doing what she is being paid for. I would just straight up tell the dad and nanny that you are a caregiver with many responsibilities and you can't entertain the child so please don't allow her to come over to your house uninvited.

It has taken me many years to realize it's ok to set boundaries. And I'm in my early 60's lol. Better late than never. You are not happy with this situation and it's ok to let these people know that.
 
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