LIW...would you rather have a $35k E-ring or a $35k wedding?

anchor31 · Oct 1, 2009

Between the two, I''d chose the ring. My dream wedding was always an elopment anyway. The wedding we had was great (and thankfully inexpensive), but not what I wanted.

btrflygrl23 · Oct 1, 2009

Not a lady in waiting but I have to say if I had the choice RING all the way. A wedding actually doesn''t even last 24hrs really and I would wear the ring all the time everyday for the rest of my life. Plus you can have a really pretty wedding for not too much money. What''s important is that you and your FI are there to celebrate the start of your new life together and that your family and close friends are there to take part in the celebration that doesn''t have to cost a fortune.

E B · Oct 1, 2009

Date: 9/30/2009 11:16:53 PM
Author: diamondseeker2006
Okay, I am not a LIW, but I'd want half for the ring and half for the wedding!

This! A $17,500 e-ring would be plenty for me, and I had a wonderful wedding celebration for ~$16k.

Luckyeshe · Oct 1, 2009

Not LIW either, but for those 2 choices, I''d go for the....RING! But, honestly, I''d split it up, and put the money towards a house or retirement instead

...yup, wedding isn''t even on that list since it''s only 1 day and marriage is til death do you part! (as another PSer said ahead of me!)

iloveny · Oct 1, 2009

I''d take the ring- we are having a small wedding with immediate family and friends- it will cost like $5000 including the honeymoon. FH Definitely splurged on my ring (not 35K splurge tho!), and I''m glad we did it this way!

sparklyheart · Oct 1, 2009

I''m not a LIW but.. I''d go for the RING!

If I spent 35K on a wedding it would be for everyone but me because I don''t care about the big wedding.

chiapet · Oct 1, 2009

Absolutely, no question, the RING! I think weddings are a waste of money.

LadyBlue · Oct 1, 2009

The ring

, I''m already thinking in a Emerald cut ring

Dancing Fire · Oct 1, 2009

Date: 10/1/2009 9:11:55 AM
Author: tyty333
Definitly the ring! But what if we had the choice for a $35k honeymoon? Now that would be a tough
decision!

(BTW - I''m not a LIW...I''m an old married fart)

$35K honeymoon?

are you inviting all the guests to your honeymoon too?

icet · Oct 1, 2009

Not a LIW but totally understand, I got a ring that I love and had a small wedding coz I thought all the time and money needed to throw a big wedding should be used towards more diamonds!
Definitely would choose the ring

Stone Hunter · Oct 1, 2009

Date: 10/1/2009 9:48:03 PM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 10/1/2009 9:11:55 AM
Author: tyty333
Definitly the ring! But what if we had the choice for a $35k honeymoon? Now that would be a tough
decision!

(BTW - I''m not a LIW...I''m an old married fart)

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$35K honeymoon?

are you inviting all the guests to your honeymoon too?

A $35K honeymoon would probably include several months off of work and extensive world wide travel!

Oh and if I only had the OP''s choices it would be the ring.

Sizzle · Oct 2, 2009

I''d take the ring. Sparklies last for a lifetime a wedding is one day. I had my wedding and the bling costed more than the ceremony and there are NO regrets!

princesss · Oct 2, 2009

Date: 10/1/2009 10:46:43 PM
Author: Stone Hunter

Date: 10/1/2009 9:48:03 PM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 10/1/2009 9:11:55 AM
Author: tyty333
Definitly the ring! But what if we had the choice for a $35k honeymoon? Now that would be a tough
decision!

(BTW - I''m not a LIW...I''m an old married fart)

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$35K honeymoon?

are you inviting all the guests to your honeymoon too?

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A $35K honeymoon would probably include several months off of work and extensive world wide travel!

Oh and if I only had the OP''s choices it would be the ring.

6 months, 3-4 continents, and plenty of fun!

Given the choices in the OP, though, I''d go with the wedding. That way I could have the destination wedding I want, and we could fly out the people important to us to make sure they''re there on the day and don''t have to stress about travel and hotel costs.

mariewest · Oct 2, 2009

How about $1,000 for the ring, $5,000 for the wedding, $5,000 for the honeymoon, and put the rest towards a house. I couldn''t imagine spending $35K for a ring! $35K for a wedding, sure, but I don''t need to spend that much.

Winks_Elf · Oct 2, 2009

If I HAD to pick between the two, definitely the ring!

That being said, I''d rather take the money and use it as a down payment on a house.

crossmyfingers · Oct 2, 2009

If I *have* to pick between ring and wedding, definitely ring. I don''t even want a wedding. Just some quick vows to make it legal and then a party sometime later to celebrate with friends/family. But I''d be a nervous wreck with a $35k ring on my hand, that would take a LOT of getting used to!

If I could just have $35k I''d put some toward a new car and some toward my mortgage.

What would you pick, Dancing Fire?

setell · Oct 2, 2009

Date: 10/1/2009 12:59:01 AM
Author: trillionaire
If it was a contest, then the $35K wedding. I personally think that 35K for one day is a waste, but if it''s free, fine. That way I can elope and have a big party for my friends at no cost to me

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If I took the 35K ring, I would sell it, buy a reasonable ring (5-7K), then use the rest for our new home!

Hmm... now that I think about it, I guess I should take the ring... I want a house more than a wedding and big party!

I second what trillionaire will do. I am too cheap to walk around with a 35k ring so I''ll take it buy a way cheaper ring and use the rest for a down payment on a house!

*I feel like a dummy but yet super happy since I finally figured out how to quote here!

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Dancing Fire · Oct 2, 2009

Date: 10/2/2009 3:19:28 PM
Author: crossmyfingers
If I *have* to pick between ring and wedding, definitely ring. I don''t even want a wedding. Just some quick vows to make it legal and then a party sometime later to celebrate with friends/family. But I''d be a nervous wreck with a $35k ring on my hand, that would take a LOT of getting used to!

If I could just have $35k I''d put some toward a new car and some toward my mortgage.

What would you pick, Dancing Fire?

a $35K diamond ring.

Still_Waiting · Oct 2, 2009

Ring

Londongirl1 · Oct 2, 2009

Date: 10/1/2009 10:13:48 AM
Author: purselover

Date: 10/1/2009 9:41:45 AM
Author: ckrickett

Date: 10/1/2009 9:24:43 AM
Author: sba771

Date: 10/1/2009 7:30:39 AM

Author: vespergirl

Definitely the ring. I didn''t care about having a big wedding - we had a small (12 people) destination wedding on a cliff overlooking the ocean in Bermuda. DH bought me an expensive ring, and I splurged on my dress, but I had no interest in buying hundreds of people dinner.

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Oh I agree with this 100%, sadly no one else agreed with me about the wedding part. So you could almost say I am attending my own wedding somewhat against my will.

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see that will be my problem I want like max 50 people but it will probably be triple that....

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agreed as well, I''d rather have the ring unfortunately I''m having the wedding

I wouldn''t spend £35k on buying hundreds of people dinner either - that''s why I''m not doing it! I''m having 75 people max and I''m not getting railroaded into changing my plans for anyone!