LIW...would you rather have a $35k E-ring or a $35k wedding?

[ksluice]

Date: 10/3/2009 7:33:56 PM
Author: princesss
Changed my mind. I''d have to bargain it down a little, but this is what I''d pick:

They did say they would bargain, too

 

[diamondseeker2006]

Date: 10/1/2009 12:02:25 AM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 9/30/2009 11:16:53 PM
Author: diamondseeker2006
Okay, I am not a LIW, but I''d want half for the ring and half for the wedding!

DS
don''t give us the easy answer

sooo...which one would you pick?

I''d pick the ring!!!! I just can''t see spending $35,000 on something that lasts a few hours!

 

[Rock_of_Love]

Is it just one OR the other, and if you choose one, you don''t get the other AT ALL???

If I have a $35K ring, do I not get a wedding? Would I have to just go to justice of peace? Or, do we still have our own money that we can use for a wedding?

If I have $35K for a wedding, do I not get a ring? Or, do we still have our own money to buy a ring?

Hmmmm....

If we still have our own money to use, I would choose the wedding...because that is costing more for us right now than the ring.

If I can have both, I would do $15K for ring and $20K for wedding. Or, half and half!!!!

 

[elisekelly]

Definitely the ring. I want a small wedding with less than 30 people there... only people i''ve talked to in the last 2 months or so!!

 

[Clairitek]

Ring. No contest.

 

[risingsun]

Ring-a-ding-ding

 

[TooPatient]

Date: 10/4/2009 12:45:15 AM
Author: PilsnPinkysMom
Ring. All. The. Way.

Which makes me wonder- WHY are we paying out of pocket for a too-close-to-35k-for-comfort wedding?! WHY do we want to wine and dine so many people?! ...If only I could go back one year and re-start this wedding-planning process....

(Well, if I had a 35k ring it means I''d need to get FI a 35k *something*... a lifetime of season tickets for the Broncos?)

If it all had to go to one, then I''d pick the ring. Otherwise, split it between the two.


Why would you have to get him $35,000 something? He''ll more than get his $35,000 somethings in power tools, speakers, boats, and whatever else his hobbies are.
Besides, he gets to spend his life looking at you and how happy you are with your ring. (and that is worth much more than $35,000)

Just joking of course. I love B and very much like to buy him stuff I know he''ll like. Especially stuff I know he wants but can''t bring himself to spend the money on.

 

[Dreamgirl]

The ring for sure. You wear it for the rest of your life. The wedding is only one day and all that you will have left is some great photos and memories. You can still have a great wedding without having to pay that much. Then again, you can have a great ring without having to pay that much.

Either way, I''d never have a $35k ring or a $35k wedding anway.

 

[mousey]

ring. im not even engaged yet, but i am starting to get nervous about the wedding. i think i d like to elope, but my family would disown me. the thought of having 100 people looking at me, and ooohing and aaaahing over me freaks me out no end. the idea of the trip down the alter, with everyone turned to look at me is actually my idea of a nightmare. i d love to go from being engaged to being married without the wedding. is that really weird?

 

[gls]

I would be so scared to wear a 35k ring everyday but I would choose the ring over the wedding.
I would love an elegant wedding but I guess thats one day, it comes and goes, but the symbolism of what the engagement ring means is important. And the engagement ring will always be there, the memory of getting married will always be special, even if its at the local town hall.

 

[vespergirl]

Date: 10/1/2009 7:30:39 AM
Author: vespergirl
Definitely the ring. I didn''t care about having a big wedding - we had a small (12 people) destination wedding on a cliff overlooking the ocean in Bermuda. DH bought me an expensive ring, and I splurged on my dress, but I had no interest in buying hundreds of people dinner.

Just wanted to update and say that my first wedding, 10 years ago, cost my parents $30K for 150 guests. I didn''t want a big wedding then, but it''s a cultural thing for them, a point of pride, so I just told them to plan what they wanted - I didn''t care enough to put the kibbosh on it. My parents friends talked and raved about the wedding for months, but I was exhausted and can barely remember things, there was so much going on.

My small destination wedding to my second husband, that cost under $10K, was much more special and memorable.