Lookey what I got...

[TravelingGal]

And that's my point anyway...be happy!

I am happy. What you mean is "be happy with what you have" or maybe "learn to appreciate what you've got" another bon mot thrown at me when I engaged in the fun of pondering the myriad options jewelery offers.

And more generally, though I doubt you will atart it this time, I await thread in Hangout alluding to this thread and my inexplicable and bizarre behavior, without naming me but allowing everyone to weigh in and cast opinions about "people" who "can never be satisfied" so people can pat themselves on the back for being the "better" jewelry hobbiests

ETA: And Tgal, what is with all the jibes here woman? What are you looking for me to say? I have sold all my missteps and adventures. I don't plan, and did not plan, to sell these. Can you give it a rest? You have talked about selling and profits like 5 times in the last two pages.

Dreamer, I really think you are taking it personally. No, I don't mean happy with what you have. What I mean, is enjoy what you're doing, whatever it is. You really are reading into what I am saying? If I wanted to say something like be happy with what you have, I'd say it.

What inexplicable and bizarre behavior? WHAT are you talking about?

Well, maybe it is just me, but I felt attacked by you in this thread. If you are being playful, then sorry I misinterpreted. I had some unpleasant exchanges about "fickleness" or whetever the heck you want to call it on the bizarro world PS (i.e., FB), and that thread Deco started a while back in Hangout with all the judgement and condemnation of "fickle pickles" bothered me, since it was posted the same day I listed a "hot potato" item for sale. Whatever, I am keyed into this issue. I am of the mind that when people say things like, 'Well, I cannot fathom what you are doing, it is inexplicable to me, but if you enjoy it go for it!" it is judgemental. In a passive aggressive way, but judgemental none the less. If you do not mean it that way, then thats a good thing and I won't read your posts that way. I consider us friends and it hurt my feelings to read things that seemed like jibes or barbs.


ETA: No, as I said in my post I meant now Deco or someone will start a thread about this, not you. Sorry that was not clear. The good old "hot potato" thread that was NOT about me listing my Aurora

OK, you made it sound like I started that thread. FWIW, I don't think I knew (or remember) that you were going to sell the Aurora, so I didn't know what that thread was all about!

My attention was NOT attacking you. I was DISAPPOINTED (yes, I know I should shove it in my jewelry box, lol) that after everything, this suite was not for you, and that you don't have the stones yet to set (unless you go with the middle suite.) I've said it in another thread, but I am so excited and over the moon about my three stone, that it's (three stones) my "thing" for the moment. I LOVE to see others get theirs too.

I am not part of the FB group. I have long said I stay from it because of the unpleasantness that is said to be had there. I don't like behind the scenes stuff, and I like saying what I mean, and meaning what I say. MY opinion has always been that you're anal. Coming from a completely unanal (digustingly so) person, this actually means you are middle of the road, I've told Mara the exact same thing and she is a friend of mine, so it's not like it's an insult. She told me upon seeing my brooch that my stones aren't a perfect match. I said, yeah, thanks, and set them anyway.

btw, I'm not judging when I say that "I don't understand but enjoy". I am saying, I don't get it, I really don't, but I find it fascinating when people DO vary. As I said Dreamer, I have been very excited for you, so I really and truly did not mean offense. In fact, I think have been one of your most avid followers in your pursuit of your three stone, doncha think? So please don't read it that way. You have to understand that although I am around PS all the time, I read about 10% of the threads and don't always realize what is going on. AND I have the memory of a pea.

I do apologize about the fickle pickle remark if it offended you. I did not recall the fickle pickle thread had anything to do with your listing...I just like the phrase and joked with it.

ETA and of course I didn't know about any fickle comments on PSFB because I wasn't there. And anyone who I speak with offline knows I don't want to know anything about it or what goes on.

 

[Dreamer_D]

Apology accepted TGal, and thank you, and sorry for being too sensitive. I am not on bizarro PF anymore for all the reasons you mention.

You are a great supporter! And listen, here is the thing -- I totally 100% dig the mega-bling three stone. It is uber awesome. And if I did not own a mega bling band already this would not even come up in my mind! I would set em and go from there.

But its like Demelza said "I don't *need* two honking solitaires!" I don't need two honking blingy bands! I would like different looks. Like you have your mega-watt three stone and a solitaire. Different and complimentary, and you can get different types of pleasure from them.

It is true that the two rings are different. The Aurora more subtle And different faceting. But really, the overall look is similar.

I was disappointed too after a week or so when I had been wearing the ring and was noticing things that would bother me about the three paired together (the sides being cushiony not round), and noticing that my BIG HUGE 7mm dream stone did not stand out . And feeling a little embarassed of the ring and how huge it is.

Anyways I am pondering. And yes, it is making me happy

 

[mrssalvo]

I like the proportions of the middle one too...

 

[TravelingGal]

Well good! Friends then?

I understand about sitting on things a week. If you recall, I liked the engraving on the original model that was gold better. After wearing it for a week, I flipped and liked my ring as it stands. Sometimes you have to sit on it and wear it for awhile to see how it goes. I also agree that I love that I do really have two different looks. In fact, all my rings are different (ering, beaudry, amelia ring, and 3 stone), so I get that.

Ponder away...I'll still be here to say "yay!" or "boo."

btw, I still like the middle suite.

 

[decodelighted]

HEY! What the heck did I do? And, as I recall, my thread about Hot Potato items was about thinking something could be WRONG with the item if it's getting passed around so much and no one seems to want to keep it and cherish it and call it George. Re: flipping. PS has made it's policy clear. Buy w/the intention of flipping, sales no go in "Pre-loved". If you're making up a whole emotional roller coaster ride for every item on your eventual, inevitable road to resale --- perhaps a career in fiction-writing would be more profitable!

ETA: For some reason the term "suite" for diamonds ANNOYS the heck out of me. Much like some folks find the words "moist" and "panties" objectionable.

 

[Gypsy]

Dreamer, You know I consider you a friend and care about you. And, you may not forgive me for saying this, but honey you are really oversensitive to 'jibes' and seem to expect attack, and not it's just on here if you know what I am saying. Even people who you say are friends, you don't trust not to betray or criticism you, even when they are doing nothing of the sort. And I don't think it's Deco, or T-gal or anyone else. I think your kinda oversensitive and insecure and kinda have a persecution complex going on and I don't think it's healthy and it hurts me to see it so often. You jump at shadows, then blame the shadows.

Just do what you want to do, and have confidence in it. You are a great person and we are all really happy you finally have your dream diamonds, or potentially so. And we don't really care if it's a short term or long term dream. We're just happy for you. And we just want you to happy for yourself, and stop getting in the way of your own happiness.

 

[Dreamer_D]

Gypsy, are you ok? I am really not sure what you are talking about. You must have me confused with someone else.

Deco your post annoys me, so how about I keep using the term "suite" and we will be equally annoying?

TGal: Of course we are friends! You have a great collection of rings, wonderful variety.

 

[Rhea]

I like the look of the middle set the best. I want to like the look of the suite that you bought when they are lined up, but it's just not my favorite. I have a solution though! Get a 9.5mm for the center and it'll be prefect! I kid, I kid. What size are the stones in the middle again?

 

[Gypsy]

Gypsy, are you ok? I am really not sure what you are talking about. You must have me confused with someone else.

No. I know exactly who I'm talking to. It's too bad you don't recognize yourself. Best to you. Hope you find happiness.

 

[Dreamer_D]

Gypsy, are you ok? I am really not sure what you are talking about. You must have me confused with someone else.

No. I know exactly who I'm talking to. It's too bad you don't recognize yourself. Best to you. Hope you find happiness.

Gypsy, your post is really off base. I am surprised at you. Well, not really surprised, but it is almost comical actually.

The idea of friendship online in an interesting one. Of course, most of us don't actually know one another. I have never met TGal, and when I use the term "friend" to reply to her I mean she is an online Buddy I chat with. I think she and I both know the limits of online communication and how that affects and causes miscommunications. She and I had a grown up exchange after an apparent misunderstanding -- TGal's jokes and humour rubbed me the wrong way, and perhaps touched on some trigger points I have. But she responded to my honest expression of hurt in a sincere way. And I am glad, because I enjoy my online interactions with her.

But I am not sure why you felt the need to insert your self into a conversation that did not involve you and make grandiose diagnoses of me, my personality, and my life! Especially ones so wildly bizarre. You and I know each other a little from the internet, but clearly are not friends the way your post implies. I don't have some secret persecution complex. I am not insecure. I am an average person, I have good days and bad, and I have feelings like everyone else that can be hurt. I am confident enough to express them to someone when I care to maintain a good relationship with them.

There are a few types of bullies on the internet. And maybe in real life too, though I have not encountered them in person since I was about 15. Online, there are the "tell it like it is" bullies who say hurtful things to others and then claim to simply be honest when their victim expresses hurt or pain. There are the passive aggressive types, who make sweeping statements about "some people" and their strange behavior, when everyone in the broader social circle knows their comments are directed at one or two particular people, and then deny that they meant anyone in particular when their taget confronts them! (oh the benefits of passive aggression: deniability). And there are the people who use faux concern to look down on others, talking about "honey" this and "I am worried about you" that. Perhaps you can recognize your behavior in there somewhere? I am well aware of my own foibles. I am not sure you are aware of your own.

 

[packrat]

I like the middle set best. Starts the questioning in my head again about a smidge bigger center for mine. Bah. I have to wear stuff too to know if it's me or not. You're smart tho and won't be left with two settings you paid retail for when you reset and be out all that money. What kind of setting willyou do?

 

[Dreamer_D]

I like the look of the middle set the best. I want to like the look of the suite that you bought when they are lined up, but it's just not my favorite. I have a solution though! Get a 9.5mm for the center and it'll be prefect! I kid, I kid. What size are the stones in the middle again?

Addy, thanks for commenting on the actual topic at hand

A 9.5mm center stone, yes that is the answer! I'll get right on it.

 

[Bella_mezzo]

I the 4.8mm sidestones.

Of course, there is always the 9.5mm solution

 

[yennyfire]

I also like the proportions of the middle set, though it would also depend on how you plan to set them. Where are you in terms of type of setting? I am in NYC and went to M. Khourdipor after dropping a couple of things with Yeukitel. They had two 3 stone rings with very similar sized stones, but set very differently and it made such a difference in how the size of the stones looked. Shockingly so to me...

So that would play a part in which proportions I'd go with.

 

[Dreamer_D]

I like the middle set best. Starts the questioning in my head again about a smidge bigger center for mine. Bah. I have to wear stuff too to know if it's me or not. You're smart tho and won't be left with two settings you paid retail for when you reset and be out all that money. What kind of setting willyou do?

Packrat I was thinking of you when I was pondering this thread and my recent posts. There are a few of us who are like that -- need t otry things out. But how to do it without it costing us? I suspect you and I are both terminally cheap as well, which might be why we are afraid to "make a mistake" in jewelery.

Setting. No clue. Something simple. Since I enjoy the process I am in the "play with the loose stones and daycread" phase at the moment! I am pretty smitten with my center stone, so that's good. The sides and setting are just a little in the air

I think you shold get a bigger center stone before you pony up for a settign, for what that's worth Keep saving and enjoy what you have for now since its lovely, and try to get the bigger center when you can. THEN set it! You seem to enjoy a good project too.

 

[stargurl78]

Another vote for the middle set! I do like it with the smallest stones as well though.

(And Dreamer, if you think 4.3mm stones would be perfect with your center, I would be open to returning the stone I purchased from you. Just let me know.)

 

[Laila619]

Loving the center stone is half the battle, so that's a big plus!

 

[junebug17]

I think I like the one in the center the best too - but I can't rule out the top one either, especially since you want to highlight your center stone and make it more of the focus of the piece- but I'm thinking you *might* miss the finger coverage the slightly larger stones will give you -even though finger coverage and blinginess isn't your ultimate goal. I'm new to all of this, so hopefully that made a little sense!

And I'm enjoying your journey! My jewelry buying days are over for quite a while and there are no more projects in my future, so it's fun to live vicariously through you! And it gives us something fun to talk about!

 

[InnaR]

Dreamer,
Here is what I think. I think that even though you are in love with your center right now and reached your 7mm goal, after awhile 7mm would look smaller (especially comparing to all those 4+ old stones recently bought be PSers). And your goal will become 8mm, 9mm and so on.
To me it feels that you are actually longing for a large honker stunner (aren't we all?).
So how about consigning your goodies + aurora with Erica/Grace and selling them at a retail price?

I totally see a huge solitaire on you finger in the near future.

P.S. and once you have him on your finger, you can take care of a smaller things like bands, earrings and settings.

 

[Mara]

I think Inna is onto something re: the 2c being what you really want. Fess up...hehe.

Though if you really do feel uncomfortable wearing the 3 stone in your area, then can't imagine a 2c would be that much less uncomfy. But I tend to not care what others think re: what I wear and just wear what *I* like and what brings me pleasure. That's the whole point of jewelry IMO. I don't wear or buy it for anyone else.

 

[diamondseeker2006]

I buy jewelry for my own pleasure, too, but I also have a comfort level of what size stone I would wear in my own world. I believe Dreamer is a lot like that as we both had 1.6+ct. diamonds in the past and I knew for certain that was as large as I wanted in a rb. I never once had DSS. Now I would go larger weight in a cushion since they are deeper and face up smaller. So I know where she is coming from.

Dreamer, I like all three options but they are all different. When the side stones are really small (maybe smaller than your smallest option?), I think of that more as a solitaire with side stones as opposed to a "three stone" ring. But my personal preference of the three options in regard to size would be the middle and largest stones. But I also "get" the thing about the shape of the largest sides, too.

 

[shimmer]

Dreamer,

Jumping in late here so not sure if this is an option, but why not do a solitaire with side-stone jacket a la Bliss? Best of both!

ETA: or a couple of side-stone jackets in different sizes to mix it up

 

[Circe]

Dreamer,

Jumping in late here so not sure if this is an option, but why not do a solitaire with side-stone jacket a la Bliss? Best of both!

ETA: or a couple of side-stone jackets in different sizes to mix it up

Oh, I LIKE this idea.

 

[decodelighted]

Dreamer,
Jumping in late here so not sure if this is an option, but why not do a solitaire with side-stone jacket a la Bliss? Best of both!
ETA: or a couple of side-stone jackets in different sizes to mix it up

Now THERE is some sense talking!

 

[TravelingGal]

Dreamer,
Jumping in late here so not sure if this is an option, but why not do a solitaire with side-stone jacket a la Bliss? Best of both!
ETA: or a couple of side-stone jackets in different sizes to mix it up

Now THERE is some sense talking!

It's a good idea in theory - except that no matter how well made (and Bliss' ring is well made), you can't have the seamless flow of a complete 3 stone ring. Dreamer has already said the gallery is important for her. A 3 stone jacket I don't believe can match from both gallery views?

 

[diamondseeker2006]

I couldn't do the jacket thing, either. Have to have a solitaire and another 3 stone.

 

[Haven]

I like the proportions of the middle option best.

I REALLY like DS's idea--you clearly need a honkin' solitaire AND a three-stone.

Your discomfort with the three-stone as it was (size-wise) makes me wonder if you're really a solitaire gal at heart who loves the way three-stones look in pictures or on other people. My original e-ring stone and my current stone are probably similar face-up sizes, but the original e-ring was set on an eternity band and my upgrade is a solitaire, and the solitaire is so much more discreet.

That being said, I know how long you've wanted a three-stone, so maybe I am totally off-base here. I just wanted to share that I am pretty shocked to see just how different it *feels* to wear a true solitaire vs. a ring with side stones or a blingy band. And even now, I will sometimes wear my original wedding band (an eternity band) with my upgrade, and THEN people stare at my ring and notice my solitaire. It's very interesting.

And hey, if you have any design ideas that you want to see in crappy drawings, let me know! I had a blast drawing up those ideas last time, and now I'm even more available since I've been stuck on my sofa for weeks and weeks with morning sickness. I need a suitable distraction, and I've already watched every episode of Girls, Game of Thrones, and Weight of the Nation on HBO!

 

[Mara]

Haven I can't believe your ring is subtle!! That thing would totally draw my eye! Love!

 

[diamondseeker2006]

Haven I can't believe your ring is subtle!! That thing would totally draw my eye! Love!

Umm, no kidding!!!!

 

[Haven]

Haven I can't believe your ring is subtle!! That thing would totally draw my eye! Love!

Aw, thanks Mara and DS! It is so subtle IRL. My husband even noticed that I got so many more comments on my original set, and that man doesn't notice much. I like it this way, now I can tell who really has great taste. (ETA: <---Kidding about that last bit, just in case anyone gets offended!)