Love my man... Not the proposal...

[purrfectpear]

Mel is getting married, Mel is getting married

And with a gorgeous cushion no less !!! Can''t wait to see your ring.

 

[diamondfan]

Mel, that was my point too, that you can reframe events and be happy and contented instead of seeing what might have been missing. He is so itching to marry you, and that is what is most special. Cannot wait to see your ring and please have a great time planning your wedding!

 

[Linda W]

Mel, congratulations on your engagement. I, too, can''t wait to see pictures of your ring. I know how disappointed you must me about not having the ideal proposal, but the most important thing is your FI loves you with all his heart.

My husband of going on 28 years told me "we are getting married and thats that" ha ha ha. Now that is some proposal.


I wish you both a lifetime of love and happiness.


Linda

 

[mel047]

Again, thanks for all the lovely advice ladies.

Just in case some of you didn''t see, I started a SMTR thread with pictures...

https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/pics-of-my-erd-cushion-halo.89892/

 

[Imdanny]

Date: 7/7/2008 10:40:48 PM
Author: mel047
Thanks ladies. I''m surprised at how much response this got. Anyhow, most of the things you said are exactly what I needed to hear, so thanks bunches. Basically I''ve been telling myself the very same things all weekend long, but it always works better to hear it from someone else.


Surfgirl - While I definitely agree with the points you''re trying to make, I do feel you were particularly harsh and took it very personally. Pricescope is a great place for advice and such, but you do have to remember there is a person and a heart on the other end. I don''t think it''s fair for you to call me selfish and immature when you''ve heard one story out of my whole life. I am actually extremely practical and am known for being so, and the storybook proposal is really the only one thing I wanted to be ''perfect.'' You point out that I need a good story just to tell others, but really the good story is entirely for me. And the bit about volunteering really ticked me off, because you don''t know me or what I need. I have volunteered more than a few weekends working at food pantries, soup kitchens, after school tutoring places and the like. In fact, I chose to go into medicine, not for the money or the ''prestige'' but in hopes to really make a difference in kids lives.

I know what you mean when you say that one has to remember that there is a person and a heart on the other end. I''m sorry your proposal wasn''t what you wanted. Your ring is beautiful, however.

 

[waterlilly]

I actually think that is a great proposal story! I hope you didn''t tell him you were disappointed with his first proposal...keep that venting for here!
Try to put yourself in his shoes, the guy drove 5 hours to get your ring and probably thought you were going to be disappointed if he didn''t do it that night, he made the best he could of an improvised situation.

 

[Amanda.Rx]

It''s OK to be a girl... from day 1 we dream of the perfect man, the perfect ring, the perfect proposal, the perfect dress, the perfect wedding, and the perfect life.

It''s also OK to dream- it''s NOT OK to expect your dreams to come true 100% of the time... that''s when you encounter disappointment!

In the grand scheme of life, it won''t matter exactly where it was or what was said- what matters is that you made a committment to each other in that moment that impacted the rest of your life. There are so many single women that dream of having the perfect man (step one, and the most important step).

Obviously he loves YOU with all of himself- just think- at least he asked YOU in that parking lot and not some other girl! Look how many women Don Juan and Casanova had- you want someone like THAT?

Dissapointment is temporary... the sooner you change your perspective, the sooner it will go away.

It''s not having what you want- it''s wanting what you''ve got. Remember that and you''ll be happy for life.

 

[Amanda.Rx]

And your ring is PHENOMENAL, by the way!

 

[bensbride]

Congratulations! As a member of the "nonfancy proposal club" I can see where you''re coming from. However, I loved the fact that his proposal was private and from the heart. I think you will come to love the fact that your fiance was so excited that he couldn''t wait and that he origionally picked a place that had special meaning in his mind. Plus, when the resturaunt was closed, he just gave up all plans and went for it. I think its romantic and I know deep in your heart, you will find that where and when and how doesn''t matter. Why is what matters. Just remember WHY he asked you to be his wife and leave the other stuff to circumstance.