Money dance.....

[Londongirl1]

Date: 6/2/2009 12:35:12 PM
Author: jstarfireb

FWIW, I think bridal showers are tacky too, and that it''s a thinly veiled attempt to squeeze more money out of your guests. I did not want a bridal shower under any circumstances, and I told my mom this in no uncertain terms. She threw one anyway...

I''m sooooo with you on that!!!!!!

 

[Haven]

Yikes. Okay, I certainly don''t think anyone''s culture is tacky. I''m really sorry for offending any of you ladies. I do think the money dance is tacky, *however* when it''s part of a cultural tradition, I totally understand it. I''ve posted in the past that I thought it was lovely when done as part of my Phillipino friends'' weddings, because it is definitely a part of their culture. (Their parents created the most amazing vests out of bills for the dance, it was so cool.)

I did mean to ditto the last line of PP''s post, because where I''m from, it''s just not done, and it does rank right up there with cash bars. However, as someone who treasures her culture and its traditions, I see nothing tacky about a money dance if it''s done because of tradition. Outside of tradition, though, I''m still not a fan.

 

[neatfreak]

I think a good rule of thumb for things like money dances, registries, etc. is if you have to ASK whether you should have one-then you probably shouldn''t.

If it''s such an ingrained part of a wedding celebration in your area/culture whatever that it''s a given that you''d have one-it''s probably fine.

 

[doodle]

Date: 6/2/2009 2:08:01 PM
Author: neatfreak
I think a good rule of thumb for things like money dances, registries, etc. is if you have to ASK whether you should have one-then you probably shouldn''t.


If it''s such an ingrained part of a wedding celebration in your area/culture whatever that it''s a given that you''d have one-it''s probably fine.

As always, well said, neatfreak!

 

[geckodani]

Date: 6/2/2009 3:36:10 PM
Author: doodle

Date: 6/2/2009 2:08:01 PM
Author: neatfreak
I think a good rule of thumb for things like money dances, registries, etc. is if you have to ASK whether you should have one-then you probably shouldn''t.


If it''s such an ingrained part of a wedding celebration in your area/culture whatever that it''s a given that you''d have one-it''s probably fine.

As always, well said, neatfreak!

Yup yup yup.

I voted no. I''ve only been to one wedding with a money dance and it was... odd. LOL.

 

[galvana]

Date: 6/1/2009 6:41:39 AM
Author: honey22

Date: 6/1/2009 6:27:53 AM
Author: Deelight

Date: 5/31/2009 12:37:55 PM
Author: Haven

Date: 5/31/2009 11:40:13 AM

Author: purrfectpear

I''ve heard all the ''it''s cultural'' and ''it''s regional'' excuses. All I can say is if that''s the region you live in or the culture you''re part of, you should think about moving or claiming a new culture

It''s so not done. It''s beyond tacky and rates right up there with cash bars, and listing your registration on the wedding invites.

Ditto.

I don''t think I have ever said this before but I actually find that really offensive, MY CULTURE is not TACKY and I don''t need or want a new one

. Yes we do a money dance and it is fun and there is no obligation for people to participate it is an age old tradition.

In my culture we don''t ask people to be BM''s and GM''s and expect them to pay for the honour - we pay for them, yet you don''t hear me telling people OMG that''s tacky you should get a new culture, have a little respect and senstivity for things that are different to your own.

Well said Dee. I find it offensive when people are so intolerant of other cultures. Sure, we don''t have to take in onboard ourselves, but we should accept other cultures and customs for what they are even when we don''t like or agree with it.

I agree 100% -

 

[jet2ks]

Date: 6/1/2009 2:38:31 AM
Author: honey22
I don''t think it''s a good idea to expect your friends and family to pay to dance with you. They have travelled to share in your wedding day and given a gift, it''s pretty rude to have a money dance. Although you are not asking directly for money, the expectation and pressue is on your guests to give money. They would feel compelled to give even if they didn''t want to.

If your FI''s motive for having this is really for the fun of it, why dont'' you have a dance where people can pin ''advice cards'' or write their wishes for you both on some cute paper and give these instead in exchange for a dance? Your FI still gets the fun of the dance, and you don''t look like golddiggers in the process

I''m kind of digging this idea. If the idea of a money dance upsets even one of you, don''t do it! Doing a variation on the tradition in this manner, however would make guests feel more personally involved, you would have some great momentos of the wedding and if there are members of your FI''s family that are used to a money dance, I''d bet they would include the money with the note, but it would be completely voluntary and their choice.

 

[loriken214]

Date: 6/2/2009 1:57:38 PM
Author: Londongirl1

Date: 6/2/2009 12:35:12 PM
Author: jstarfireb

FWIW, I think bridal showers are tacky too, and that it''s a thinly veiled attempt to squeeze more money out of your guests. I did not want a bridal shower under any circumstances, and I told my mom this in no uncertain terms. She threw one anyway...

I''m sooooo with you on that!!!!!!

I agree and we got THREE...all couples showers!!!

Lori