My baby had to go to the Hospital!!!!

[MINE!!]

I am tramautized... My child is tramautized.

I was fixing the bed this evening when I heard my six year old scream like I have never heard before.. I ran to the front room and she was sitting on the floor with blood all over. There was a dry erase board on the floor next to her. ( one of the little ones that college kids hang on their doors for messages) The plastic had come off the corner and she went to pick it up and it sliced through her little skin like butter. OMG.. I have to breathe........... OK.......

Well, I was there alone (hubby is out of town for a conference) I had my hand over the wound and I watching the blood coming through my fingers and she was screaming and I couldn't reach the phone. She had a little friend over that she had been playing with ... Who was the calmest one of the group of us... she brought me the phone and I could not get a hold of anyone. Finally, I was able to get her father and tell him to hurry over cause we had to take her to the Hospital. He finally got there and I just kept the pressure on it... we called her Pediatrician on the way and they called the Hospital to let them know we were coming.

Well, we got there and they took us back to a room and the Dr. tried to clean it out, but it was so deep that it was extremely painful. AND I had promised her on the way over that I was not going to let them hurt her. Breatheee......... Well, they gave her a shot of local, but it was not working cause it was so deep, they had to give her a deep shot and she just kept screaming MOMMY MOMMY MOMMY over and over.. begging me to make him stop...

I was trying so hard not to cry but I hurt so bad, I just could not stop from crying (I looked away when I did though) Her father was with us holding her too. She just kept beggin me to make him stop. Getting the stitches were even worse... OH MY GOD.... my poor angel...

It was horrible.

Because of where it is, she is going to have a hard time walking for a while and she is not going to be able to really run around or bend her leg cause it may open again. She was supposed to have her 7th B-day party next week, she is stressed and tramautised and sleeping (finally) with me tonight.

It was my fault, I had seen that board this morning and thought, I have to throw that away before it hurts someone... I should have done it at that moment

But I didn't and because of me, she went through this... OMG.. my poor angel. Breathe......

OMG... my poor baby.... I feel like I failed her, I told her it would not hurt, and it did, I told her that I was not going to let them hurt her really bad, and they did... and I should have picked up that friggin board when I had seen.... and I didn't. OMG.. my poor angell....

So now I am trying to calm down and wanted to share my hysterics with you....

 

[strmrdr]

that sux :{
Dont be hard on yourself stuff happens.
Prayers are outgoing for a good nights sleep for the both of you and a quick and pain free recovery for her.

 

[Jelly]

Mine, I''m so sorry to hear about the accident this morning. Good thing is that the worst is over and you did everything humanly possible once the accident happened.

Your poor little girl. Give her a nice big hug from the Pricescope family and commend her for her bravery through the whole situation!

On her way to recovery you can spoil her like nobody''s business! I bet she''s going to get some great presents for her 7th birthday!!!!

 

[HOUMedGal]

Yes, don''t beat yourself up!!! Accidents happen, it''s part of being a kid! I know it''s super scary when it''s YOUR baby, but these things happen sooo frequently. You can''t blame yourself for not picking up that board...remember that hindsight is 20/20.

I''m just happy that it wasn''t worse...I got really scared when I saw the title of this thread!!! But stitches?? No biggie.

She''ll be fine, back outside playing in no time!!

 

[sevens one]

Oh Mine- I''m so sorry.
The poor little thing.

Like Storm said; don''t be so hard on yourself.
It''s easy to say "I wish I had done this or that"
after the fact.
Life lessons are so hard on us grown ups!

Take care and get some sleep.

 

[MINE!!]

Strm~ Thanks... And espically thank you for your prayers.. I am hoping sleep will come easy.

Jelly~ Thank you... you can bet she will have a great b-day

HouMed~ You are right... I suppose I just feel so bad because it happen.. she will bounce back soon enough.... I know they are only stitches and for that... I am soooo grateful so so so grateful

Sevens-one~ Thank you.. times like these.. I wish I could just have a manual and take the hard lessons that was instead.

She asked me in th car on the way home if it hurt me too when the Dr. was giving her stiches... I told her it hurt more than she will ever know... And she said... "I know you couldn''t stop the Dr. mommy, you had to let him help me... you did that cause you love me."

She is right.. personally I wanted to take him out for hurting her...

I suppose the difficult thing is that when she was screaming holding on to me.. I was kissing her head and I caught a wiff of that baby smell that they lose when they are about 3 or so.... that innocent, helpless, baby sweet smell....

Good God... I feel like crap.

thank you everyone for your encouragement and your wonderful support

 

[aphisiglovessae]

Ah the joys of mommy-hood. Don't blame yourself, these things happen. Yes it was scary, but lord knows that children can be a little accident prone. It's a good thing it wasn't a broken bone or anything. I Hope she's ok now and I hope you get some sleep tonight. I think you did everything right, despite the panic mode.

 

[HOUMedGal]

Date: 10/9/2005 12:10:28 AM
Author: MINE!!

She asked me in th car on the way home if it hurt me too when the Dr. was giving her stiches... I told her it hurt more than she will ever know... And she said... ''I know you couldn''t stop the Dr. mommy, you had to let him help me... you did that cause you love me.''

That''s adorable. She understands, she knows that you didn''t let her down in any way! You did the best that you could in a scary situation...nevermind what coulda/shoulda/woulda been done before it happened.

And yes, get some good sleep, you''ve had a rough day!

 

[MelissaSue]

MINE!! - I''m so sorry to hear about the accident! She will be fine though, I know how scary it can be! All your stories though about your girls, they seem like the nicest, most intelligent and compassionate children I''ve ever heard of. You''re raising great kids!

 

[Demelza]

So sorry to hear about your awful day. I can only imagine how torturous it must be to watch your child in pain. It sounds like she could feel your amazing, maternal, empathy vibes and I''m sure those helped her tremendously. I can definitely relate to the "if onlys" after something bad happens. I hope you get some sleep tonight.

 

[MissAva]

Mine, do not feel bad. I was in and out of the emergency room so often that Wilfred Hall had a room for me at one point... I was a nightmare when I was younger. In a few years she will be comparing that scar and telling tales with her friends about who has had the most gruesome/horrible accidents. I have had stiches in my head three times, broken several fingers, my foot and dislocated my sholder. I am fine I am not traumatized and I have no issues with doctors nor hospitals.
She will be upset, as you will for the next few days, but please do not worry yourself too much. Things happen no matter how careful you are. I would caution about being to uh, dramatic, about it in front of your little girl, she will look to you for cues about how to handle the situation. I wish her a speedy recovery and wonderful birthday.

 

[flopkins]

Oh no! So sorry to hear about this... but glad she is overall okay. Hope she will be sufficiently recovered for her bday party... I would be so sad if I missed out on my own bday party!

 

[AGBF]

I am so sorry for her and sorry for you. I know that as a mother you feel you are betraying your child when you cannot "protect" her from pain and trauma. Of course it was not your fault, but sometimes knowing that doesn''t help. It is gut-wrenching to have your child beg you for help and be unable to help. (I experienced this when my daughter was doubled over in pain, vomiting, from appendicitis.) The great thing is that not only will she be well, but she truly knew (look at her comment about how she knew you were trying to protect her from the doctor), that you were there for her all the way.

Feel better! Both of you!

Deb

 

[atroop711]

I am so sorry to hear about your little one....I can completely relate being a mom. We always want to protect our children from everything and anything...but as we all know that is impossible. Don''t kill yourself over this (I know it is hard) because this was an accident. She knows that she is protected with you...by no means will she feel that you failed her....your MOM...you are her SAFE PLACE!

I hope she can still have her party...if not next week then maybe a week later or so....I think that will really lift her spirits....she can show everyone how big and brave she was getting her stitches and that she will be just fine.

My daughter (5yrs) loves to let me and everyone know how brave she was during some traumatic event. (ie: shots)

Hope all is well...and I am glad that she is ok....lets all thank God that she is OK

 

[msb700]

Mine!! Oh no!!!! that was so hurtful to read =((((

but like everyone said, this isn''t ur fault, everything happens for a reason and ur baby will bounce back from all this with all the strength in the world and it will only make her stronger and more conscious of things of the sort...

this is a lesson in the walkway of life, and it has only proven wat a supporting husband, loving daughter and thoughtful mother u all are...

 

[fountainfairfax]

Oh, Mine, I''m so sorry to hear of yesterday''s traumatic events

Please don''t be too hard on yourself, we can''t raise children in padded bubbles, as much as we''d like to, and I bet you are far more emotionally scarred than she is! She''ll go back to school and tell (and show) EVERYONE her battle wound

and this is a good reminder for all of us just how sharp innocent-looking plastic can be, so know that some good resulted from us all now being able to do a little reviewing (my 2 1/2 yr old niece loves to run her hand over everything, so now I''m going to go touch stuff to make sure there are no sharp edges around!)

 

[AndyRosse]

Oh Mine, I''m sorry for the horrible day! Thankfully, I bet you will remember much more about this day than she will in the future

. And stop second guessing yourself, it just makes you feel even worse, and you have nothing to feel bad about. You did everything humanly possible for your daughter, and most importantly, she knows that you did and she loves you even more for it.

Hope you got some sleep tonight, and that both of you are feeling a bit better today.

 

[hearts set]

I''m so sorry about your little one''s mishap.

I can''t imagine the scene at the hospital...made me well up just reading.

Don''t go hard on yourself. Accidents happen.

 

[movie zombie]

sorry your little one was hurt, Mine.

peace, movie zombie

 

[roppongi]

Heather....

First of all IT"S NOT YOUR FAULT!!!! Please, please, please get that through your head. In no way did you fail your daughter. It was an accident and just thank God that nothing worse came of it. The scar will heal and it will all become a very distant memory. I know exactly what you are going through and I know the guilt associated with seeing your child bleed it''s not fun. I wish I could say something to make you feel better.

I send you a lot of hugs.

Roppongi

 

[mingagreen]

aw Mine, don''t be too hard on youself. Accidents happen.
I know EXACTLY how you feel, we had our first trip to the ER w/ Eden last week, a marble top table fell on her head. No fractured scull, just a concusion and 2 black eyes. SO SCARY, when our little ones get hurt. She was back to norm in no time and so will your angel be. Hope you are doing ok today.

 

[Patty]

Awww, the poor baby!

Don''t beat yourself up. These things happen!

Our younger daughter had stitches in her chin 3 times. I felt terrible each time!

 

[MINE!!]

Hello everyone.. I just wanted to say thank you again for your support...

Last night was a but hard, she was just miserable. She couldn''t turn in her sleep so everytime she did she woke up crying. She was just so tramautised that she could not seem to really relax. This morning was a little better, but she would just break down and cry at random times.. she could not stand the thought of what had happened. She is very sensetive and she is so weepy.. poor baby. She is scared of how she is going to be able to get around at school and how she is going to sit at her chair and etc. etc. I keep telling her to relax and not worry about all that stuff...

I am trying to stop being so hard on myself, but I think that I am just so mad at me that I will think about it every now and then and I want to kick my own butt... LOL...

I changed the bandage and the swelling went down a bit.. looks icky.. but I bet that she is going to be alright.. My poor angel.

I am looking forward to sleeping tonight. I realize that I may seem to be a big baby over something that really is no big deal... but she is my baby and I just hate that she feels so bad.

Thank you everyone! You are awesome.

 

[sjz]

I''m sorry this had to happen to your daughter (and you!). But you have to remember, things like this happen no matter how hard to try to protect your kids and keep them safe. All of my kids had to make at least one trip to the ER over the years, for broken bones, stitches, sprains, whatever. My oldest had a TV set fall on him when he was around 3 years old. I had put him in the family room and turned on the TV for him to watch cartoons while I was in the shower. As I was showering, I heard a huge crash, so I jumped out of the shower and ran down the hall in a towel to see what made the noise, only to find my toddler lying UNDER the TV! It was a 24" set, so it wasn''t small, either. I managed to get the TV off of him, and all I saw was blood! I was terrified. As soon as I made sure he was still breathing, I called my mom, who lived down the street, and just sat there holding him, trying to stop the bleeding wearing nothing but a towel. As soon as my mom got to my house, I let her take over while I threw on some clothes, and we rushed him to the ER. He ended up with lots of stitches on his face and head and a broken arm from trying to stop the TV from falling on him. We never did figure out how he tipped it over on himself, but later that day we wired the TV set to the wall! I felt sooooooo guilty! I didn''t let him out of my sight for MONTHS! I only took showers when he was either asleep or at his dads for a long time. I was so paraniod of him getting hurt again. It was actually his dad (my ex) who made me see that it was just an accident, and things like that can happen no matter how hard you try to prevent them. That was one of the FEW nice things my ex ever did or said to me...lol.

I''m sure this was tramatic for all of you. But things like this are going to happen, and probably will happen again. Nothing good will come out you beating yourself up over it. And kids are made of really resilient stuff. If she''s scared or upset, the best thing you can do is be POSITIVE and let her know that she''s going to be ok. If you are upset or nervous or feeling guilty, that will rub off on her.

 

[researcher]

You poor things!!! That must have been terrifying! But, as everyone has said, accidents happen and you are not to blame. Just be grateful that it was not more serious, that she will heal. Accidents like this are scary, but you will be able to look back on this experience in the years that come as just one of several mishaps. Just remember that she''s okay, that your daughter may need some extra mommy attention, but that she''s alright. That''s what''s most important, right? Take your own advice, BREATHE, and give your daughter lots of hugs and kisses (and treats too!)

 

[LadyluvsLuxury]

Awww MINE! I''m so sorry to hear about your terrible ordeal! But you can''t blame yourself, injuries are a part of growing up, no matter how bad as a parent you would like to prevent them!

 

[Angel7]

I''m sorry Mine.

She doesn''t blame you so please don''t blame yourself.
You were there for her and made her feel better which is the best thing a mommy can do!

For your daughter for a speedy recovery!

 

[MINE!!]

Thanks again everyone. When hubby got home last night I told him all about it. He was in Denver for a conference. I had left him a message at the hotel, but his roomy had forgotten to give it to him till the next morning. It was hard not having anyone here to bring me a notch after we got back to the hosptial. So I posted on pricescope.. hoping that it would help me to maintain my sanity. You all helped me so much.. thank you for all your kind words and encouragement. DH laughed when I told him I hhad posted the event and got some wonderful responses. He just thinks that it is amazing that this place is so supportive. HE said.. ''well thank God for Pscope..." LOL...

Yes Thank God for Pscope.. and thank you for you!!

 

[pebbles]

I'm sorry I'm late chiming in, but I'm glad your daughter is OK. We made the first trip to the ER on Memorial Day when my daughter slipped and fell on the ceramic tile in the bathroom. We thought she broke her nose. She was fine and running around the waiting room.

I always remember the scene from Finding Nemo, when Marlin (Nemo's dad) and Dory are stuck in the whale (those of you that have seen the movie will know what I'm refering to). Marlin is mad b/c he told Nemo he would never let anything happen to him. Dory (the voice of wisdom

) points out that if he doesn't let anything happen to him, then nothing will happen to him. We unfortunately cannot protect our kids from everything, and you may be beating yourself up about not moving the board, but you can't do that. We can all just try our best, and even doing that, accidents will happen.

Give her a big hug from all of us.

ETA: If she is having trouble sleeping, can you put a CD on of lullabys or soothing music to keep her mind off of it?

 

[jaysonsmom]

Poor baby, ((((((hugs to mom and daughter))))). Mine, I know exactly how you feel. When one of my kids hurt themselves, I cry harder than they do. It''s not your fault though. I''m glad she is doing better.