My mom''s MOB dress? What do you think?

[Independent Gal]

OK, seeing both dresses beside each other make me want to say something. What I''ll do is send HER a pic of them side by side and say... er...? what do you think we''d look like standing next to each other? I''m pretty sure she''ll see what I mean! Without me having to say anything offensive like ''Maaa! Yer 60!!!! Stop!''

 

[surfgirl]

Okay, I''ll stop pontificating over this but...I''m with zoe! See, when I look at both the dresses I think about what your wedding photos will look like and it just seems like the two dresses - together - are too much, in different ways. Yours is quite busy in terms of the intricateness of the folds and material, and the one your mom likes is very busy in terms of color, beading, sequins, etc. Together I think it will be over the top, visually speaking, in your photos. If that''s important to you, I''d consider shopping with mom to see if you can find something that goes with your dress a bit more. I could see anything dark charcoal grey, black, silver, for your mom, that would be more fitting with your dress. I''m thinking more along the simpler lines of Georgio Armani or Calvin Klein? Maybe a fabulous silver, charcoal or black lame dress? Something stunning, but that will look nice in photos next to your dress....

 

[E B]

I agree with those who think it''s a bit over the top. It''s a nice dress, it''s just very, very formal.

What about something like this? She''ll match your fabulous color scheme!

 

[Independent Gal]

I love that dress, EBree, but my mom won''t. She may like the colour though, and that''s a start!

I''m going to visit her for a week in November. Hopefully, we can do some shopping together then.

 

[upgrading mama]

I think it is beautiful and if she feels comfortable wearing it than why shouldn''t she?
I am greek and traditionally we have formal weddings. My mom wore a beige gown that had beading on it with an overlay coat that was also scattered with beads. I liked it
Personally, it turns me off when mom''s are dresses in dresses that aren''t very formal, like their daughter''s day wasn''t worth something a little more fancy.

 

[Harleigh]

Hi Indy...

I think both dresses are lovely, but I think the one your mother chose would definitely put the question in your guests'' minds as to who the spotlight should be on, and that should be you, NOT your mother!

I definitely think she should choose something a little more reserved and allow the focus to be on YOU and ONLY YOU!

I really hope you get her to come around!

 

[risingsun]

The dress your mother likes is truly stunning. I don't think I would feel comfortable having her wear it at the wedding. That dress is a show stopper and I don't think that's what a bride would want. Good luck talking to her about it

 

[Independent Gal]

ARGH! I keep going back and forth. I guess I''m not totally comfortable with it, mostly from the ''mom might look silly... it''s a little young for her'' angle and a little from the ''we''ll look ridiculous in pictures'' angle. But then I think I''m being ridiculous. My wedding isn''t about the pictures, it''s about the wedding. It''s not like mom and I have ever coordinated before, like when we''ve gone to fundraisers together and stuff, so why should I be so fussed about it now? Except for the pictures? And maybe I''m not that fussed about the pictures. I am a TITCH worried about my mom looking more amazing then me, but hey, the upside of that is maybe I''ll look that amazing when I''m 60 too!

Ultimately, do I really care if my mom looks flashier than me at my wedding? Well, a little. But not THAT much.

I''m going to talk to her in a vague way about some of the issues today, and tell her that ultimately, I want her to wear whatever makes her feel like a knockout, and not just a mom.

I''ll let you guys know how it goes!

 

[RoseAngel04]

I actually like her choice of dress for a formal wedding if she can pull it off. It will depend on her body type/style.