No Longer a LIW - NOT the way I wanted. *sigh*

[bluebubbles]

Date: 2/5/2008 6:48:57 PM
Author: Independent Gal
OK, Bubbles, you listen to me!!! Do not go back to this a-hole. What he has done has shown that he''s emotionally childish, callous, manipulative, dishonest, and that he doesn''t care about you.

Now, you said in your post above that he used to like to control you, to make you feel badly, you said you would grovel for forgivenss. So what he is doing right now is trying to maintain his control over you by trying to sweet talk you into coming back. Whatever he says, YOU ARE NOT GOING TO GIVE IN!!! You are going to remind yourself first of all that he is not saying these things because he loves you, he''s saying them because he wants to keep control over you. You are also not going to give in, because any man who would actually let you grovel and make you feel like things are your fault when they are not, never mind the other forms of manipulation, lies, deception, is a man it is better to be dead than married to.

This is a bad marriage that you just dodged. And as my grammy says, there is nothing in life so sweet as a good marriage, and nothing so horrible as a bad one.

Don''t go running back to him because it will ruin your life. DON''T DO IT!!!!

Come back and read this if you feel even a little bit tempted. OK?

Thanks Independent Gal. I know what you are saying and I am holding strong. I believe that your encouragement is helping. I am slowly feeling better and thinking about him less. Sometimes the harsh things people say is not to be mean, but because they care. My good friend and I kind of got into a tiff and she said this to me "Did it ever occur to u that your b/f doesn''t respect ur relationship but most of all u? He doesn''t know how to treat women right. These men are a dime a dozen." It stung, but it was true. I printed it out and put it in my journal to remind me that I need to regain my self respect and my own sefl worth. You are right, I need to go back and read what everyone wrote here when I feel tempted. Thanks!

 

[LegacyGirl]

Stay strong girl. Do not take him back. He sounds like a huge jerk. Things will get better with time.