No ''making love'' till marriage...

[sunnyd]

Date: 2/23/2010 2:18:23 PM
Author: Lilac

Date: 2/23/2010 1:48:38 PM
Author: LilyKat

Date: 2/23/2010 12:41:04 PM

Author: Lilac

Date: 2/22/2010 10:05:45 AM

Author: Laila619

DH and I waited until our wedding night, and let me just say, it was TOUGH....

And let me just say that you don''t need to go all the way to know if you are sexually compatible.

Gotta agree with Laila here. Just because you don''t have sex until you''re married doesn''t mean you won''t know if you''re sexually compatible.

Ditto. It always amuses me when people think those of us waiting for marriage spend our alone time with our partners sitting primly with our legs crossed, drinking tea and talking politely about the weather...

Haha yes... of course that''s what we did! Sat together in public places supervised with our legs crossed talking about bunnies.

No sex until marriage doesn''t always equal nothing *at all* until marriage.

The at all is the best part, personally!

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 2/24/2010 11:47:12 AM
Author: sunnyd

Date: 2/24/2010 12:42:01 AM
Author: mrhand

Date: 2/17/2010 3:11:05 PM
Author:MermaidKelly
at times it can be super hard

I bet. For his sake, please consider an alternative.

Bahahaha!!! No one caught this?!

LMAO!

NO! Love it!!!

 

[MermaidKelly]

Date: 2/24/2010 11:52:59 AM
Author: elledizzy5

Date: 2/24/2010 11:47:12 AM

Author: sunnyd

Date: 2/24/2010 12:42:01 AM

Author: mrhand

Date: 2/17/2010 3:11:05 PM

Author:MermaidKelly

at times it can be super hard

I bet. For his sake, please consider an alternative.

Bahahaha!!! No one caught this?!

LMAO!


NO! Love it!!!

Don''t worry! He''s a good guy...he''ll be careful not to hurt me

An alternative? No way. He doesn''t want anyone else and neither do I.

 

[FrekeChild]

Date: 2/24/2010 9:26:15 PM
Author: MermaidKelly
Don't worry! He's a good guy...he'll be careful not to hurt me

An alternative? No way. He doesn't want anyone else and neither do I.

I believe they were referring to doing other activities besides intercourse.

 

[princesss]

Date: 2/24/2010 9:30:17 PM
Author: FrekeChild

Date: 2/24/2010 9:26:15 PM
Author: MermaidKelly
Don''t worry! He''s a good guy...he''ll be careful not to hurt me

An alternative? No way. He doesn''t want anyone else and neither do I.

I believe they were referring to doing other activities besides intercourse.

*stomps foot*

NO! We JUST cleared this up on the LAST PAGE that people who wait until marriage sit around with their legs crossed in public places talking about bunnies. WHY ARE YOU TRYING TO RUIN THIS FOR ME?!?!?!?!?!?!

*pouts*

 

[FrekeChild]

Date: 2/24/2010 9:39:32 PM
Author: princesss
*stomps foot*

NO! We JUST cleared this up on the LAST PAGE that people who wait until marriage sit around with their legs crossed in public places talking about bunnies. WHY ARE YOU TRYING TO RUIN THIS FOR ME?!?!?!?!?!?!

*pouts*

Hey Pouty Princesss Wanna-Be-Prissy-Pants!

Sorry for the reality check.

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 2/24/2010 9:30:17 PM
Author: FrekeChild

Date: 2/24/2010 9:26:15 PM
Author: MermaidKelly
Don''t worry! He''s a good guy...he''ll be careful not to hurt me

An alternative? No way. He doesn''t want anyone else and neither do I.

I believe they were referring to doing other activities besides intercourse.

and what would that be?

 

[FrekeChild]

Date: 2/25/2010 2:37:49 AM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 2/24/2010 9:30:17 PM
Author: FrekeChild

Date: 2/24/2010 9:26:15 PM
Author: MermaidKelly
Don''t worry! He''s a good guy...he''ll be careful not to hurt me

An alternative? No way. He doesn''t want anyone else and neither do I.

I believe they were referring to doing other activities besides intercourse.

and what would that be?

Perhaps you should snag a copy of "The Joy of Sex" DF...

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 2/25/2010 2:41:06 AM
Author: FrekeChild

Date: 2/25/2010 2:37:49 AM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 2/24/2010 9:30:17 PM
Author: FrekeChild

Date: 2/24/2010 9:26:15 PM
Author: MermaidKelly
Don''t worry! He''s a good guy...he''ll be careful not to hurt me

An alternative? No way. He doesn''t want anyone else and neither do I.

I believe they were referring to doing other activities besides intercourse.

and what would that be?

Perhaps you should snag a copy of ''The Joy of Sex'' DF...

do you have a used copy that i can borrow?

 

[FrekeChild]

Date: 2/25/2010 2:54:13 AM
Author: Dancing Fire
do you have a used copy that i can borrow?

Now why would you want a USED copy?

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 2/25/2010 2:56:27 AM
Author: FrekeChild

Date: 2/25/2010 2:54:13 AM
Author: Dancing Fire
do you have a used copy that i can borrow?

Now why would you want a USED copy?

never mind...i wanna remain a virgin.

 

[FrekeChild]

Date: 2/25/2010 3:04:37 AM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 2/25/2010 2:56:27 AM
Author: FrekeChild

Date: 2/25/2010 2:54:13 AM
Author: Dancing Fire
do you have a used copy that i can borrow?

Now why would you want a USED copy?

never mind...i wanna remain a virgin.

You must drive your poor wife and daughters nuts.

(I could say something inappropriate, but I''ll leave that to you.

)

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 2/25/2010 3:14:53 AM
Author: FrekeChild

Date: 2/25/2010 3:04:37 AM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 2/25/2010 2:56:27 AM
Author: FrekeChild

Date: 2/25/2010 2:54:13 AM
Author: Dancing Fire
do you have a used copy that i can borrow?

Now why would you want a USED copy?

never mind...i wanna remain a virgin.

You must drive your poor wife and daughters nuts.

(I could say something inappropriate, but I''ll leave that to you.

)

there''re different ways you know...we are living in the 21 century.

 

[bee*]

Personally I could not have waited until marriage but each to their own. I was with D for 18 months when we first had sex and I was 19. We got married last year when I was 27 so we''ve had many years together and our wedding night sex was very special even though we didn''t wait. As others said, I couldn''t marry someone not knowing about that part of our relationship.

 

[ladypirate]

Date: 2/20/2010 12:34:57 AM
Author: FrekeChild

Date: 2/20/2010 12:18:20 AM

Author: MermaidKelly

-BF is not a virgin, but he fully supports waiting and often brings me down to earth when I get too frisky lol. Also he controls himself very well!

He says he feels happy and proud that we are waiting because it is something that means a lot to me.

(On a side note, he says ''it''s harder since he''s had it before''. Is that true? Once you''ve had it it''s harder to resist?)

Yes. It''s true. Because he knows what he is missing. And what he''s missing is

good

.


Don''t mind me. I also wanted to wait for marriage as a result of my bringing up by very Catholic parents, but that didn''t last past age 16. Having said that, he was my high school sweetheart, we were both virgins and our relationship lasted almost 4 years, so it did mean something, but in my experience, the pain masked any emotional connection.


BTW, not all women hurt the first time. If your hymen is broken already, there shouldn''t be any problem, but breaking that is what hurts.


And whatever you do, ignore any comments made by DancingFire.

Just a note--the state of the hymen isn''t the only factor in terms of pain the first time. If your guy is...ahem...well endowed, it can take some getting used to.

 

[Miss Sparkly]

Date: 2/25/2010 6:12:09 PM
Author: ladypirate

Date: 2/20/2010 12:34:57 AM
Author: FrekeChild

Date: 2/20/2010 12:18:20 AM

Author: MermaidKelly

-BF is not a virgin, but he fully supports waiting and often brings me down to earth when I get too frisky lol. Also he controls himself very well!

He says he feels happy and proud that we are waiting because it is something that means a lot to me.

(On a side note, he says ''it''s harder since he''s had it before''. Is that true? Once you''ve had it it''s harder to resist?)

Yes. It''s true. Because he knows what he is missing. And what he''s missing is

good

.


Don''t mind me. I also wanted to wait for marriage as a result of my bringing up by very Catholic parents, but that didn''t last past age 16. Having said that, he was my high school sweetheart, we were both virgins and our relationship lasted almost 4 years, so it did mean something, but in my experience, the pain masked any emotional connection.


BTW, not all women hurt the first time. If your hymen is broken already, there shouldn''t be any problem, but breaking that is what hurts.


And whatever you do, ignore any comments made by DancingFire.

Just a note--the state of the hymen isn''t the only factor in terms of pain the first time. If your guy is...ahem...well endowed, it can take some getting used to.

......I wish mine was....oh, did I say that out loud?

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 2/25/2010 9:24:03 PM
Author: Sparkly Blonde

Date: 2/25/2010 6:12:09 PM
Author: ladypirate


Just a note--the state of the hymen isn''t the only factor in terms of pain the first time. If your guy is...ahem...well endowed, it can take some getting used to.

......I wish mine was....oh, did I say that out loud?

SB
size means nothing if IT doesn''t perform!!

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 2/25/2010 3:14:53 AM
Author: FrekeChild

You must drive your poor wife and daughters nuts.

(I could say something inappropriate, but I''ll leave that to you.

)

sweet and innocent me ??? don''t know anything that would be inappropriate.

 

[Miss Sparkly]

LOL!

 

[purrfectpear]

There''s nothing more ridiculous than someone hanging on to being a "technical" virgin

Talk about a tattered claim to fame, LOL. Sorry, but if you''re indulging in the ''everything else'', there''s very little virginal about you...no matter what delusion you hang on to. Either that, or you don''t think Bill Clinton was having sex

 

[monkeyprincess]

Wow, purrfectpear, I assume that was directed at me and the others who have waited until marriage. How very judgmental of you. I am happy with the decisions I have made, regardless of how ridiculous you think they may be. I don't think of my virginity as a claim to fame. In fact, very few people know this about me other than my fiance and a few close friends. I was just sharing with others the decision I have made and to support those who have made the same choice. And for the record, I did not say I have indulged in other forms of sex, I just said we have been physically intimate. To some people any kind of sexual touching or contact is a no-no. I'm happy with the decision I have made. As I said before, I do not judge those who have made other decisions. It would be nice if you would do the same.

 

[Lilac]

Date: 2/27/2010 6:14:48 PM
Author: purrfectpear
There's nothing more ridiculous than someone hanging on to being a 'technical' virgin

Talk about a tattered claim to fame, LOL. Sorry, but if you're indulging in the 'everything else', there's very little virginal about you...no matter what delusion you hang on to. Either that, or you don't think Bill Clinton was having sex

There are other ways of being physically intimate with a partner without engaging in intercourse *or* oral sex. In fact, sometimes those "other" things can be better.

And I don't think many people would say that kissing or touching someone = losing your virginity.

 

[Indylady]

Date: 2/27/2010 6:14:48 PM
Author: purrfectpear
There's nothing more ridiculous than someone hanging on to being a 'technical' virgin

Talk about a tattered claim to fame, LOL. Sorry, but if you're indulging in the 'everything else', there's very little virginal about you...no matter what delusion you hang on to. Either that, or you don't think Bill Clinton was having sex

I can understand this thought process entirely, and didn't find this offensive at all. As someone who is waiting, I think it makes sense: if I'm getting the same "ends" with a different "means", is there really that much of a difference? Of course this is an issue we're all going to see differently, and I think what matters most is making the choices that make you and your partner the happiest, regardless of how others may take it.

 

[RaiKai]

My husband and I were definitely not virgins before we married, and we certainly were not each others firsts. We both had a few previous long-term relationships before we met.

Neither of us regret our past experiences, or that we ourselves did not wait. We had sex after three weeks of dating.

Our sex life together is special and unique, and very healthy. Our wedding night was amazing even though we had sex before (we had hot unmarried sex the night before, and hot married sex the night of!). We love one another greatly and THAT is what makes our sex life special.

As I just commented on another thread in this forum, I enjoy being each others lasts much more than I would have enjoyed being firsts!

I think it is fine to wait if that is a decision that you have made for your own personal reasons. I just think it is important not rush into marriage just to be able to get into bed. I have seen a few couples who did that, and it generally not ended well (there are exceptions of course). I also think it is important not to have this expectation that the sex is automatically going to be better because you waited. That is not automatically the case. A wonderful, healthy sex life with your spouse is contingent on far more than whether or not your cherry was popped before you were married or not (or even whether you are married).

And, whether you have sex or not before you marry your partner, it is VERY important to be open and honest about your sexual expectations, preferences, values, and so on both before and after marriage.