Odd ring styles in your search for the *perfect* ring

[LoveLikeCrazy]

I didn't say "if he doesn't spend a lot of $, he doesn't love you". I don't feel that at all. I have dated plenty of guys that were poor, and SO and I are both from dirt poor backgrounds that include bankruptcy, coming to the US from a 3rd world country, and not knowing where we'll get our next meals. That's why I mentioned that I'd rather have a plain band (or maybe a yummy antique filigree band?), which is cheaper, or nothing at all.

And I get that most men don't know anything about rings. Most people, regardless of gender, don't. I'm still learning. But it's that effort and research that shows, well, their effort. The guys coming in on RT all the time are adorable. They're soaking in as much info as possible. and it doesn't matter that they buy a $200 ring, or a $200,000 ring. They're getting the best they can for the one they love best. What bothers me is those guys who buy the first thing they see, and end up with a maul store piece that isn't even worth the $900 price tag.

IMO it's not about the money behind it. It's about the dedication to research and self-education.

Well stated madelise! My best friend was looking at an illusion setting, i nicely coaxed her away from it! She ended up trying it and didn't like it anyways. I think the general public is not as educated as this community, so all they see is the maul store, and if they are "pushing" these illusion settings, thats what these people think are in. They must be popular enough if they are still selling them, thats all i can think of.

Also my 900 dollar(quadrupled) comment was also my personal want/opinion based on the fact my bf wears rolex watches. I could have worded it better in my original post. He has probably $18k in watches...Money does not = love, but if he can spend $18k on himself for watches, i would hope he would spend a fraction on my engagement ring(and he agrees!). AGAIN that was my opinion based on my personal circumstance. Everyone comes from different financial backgrounds and what one can afford another cannot, and i have seen gorgeous rings on here at EVERY size. (much of them i could never afford, i just drool

Unfortunately, our opinions must have hit a nerve. No harm was meant at all. It was all just opinion, we just all shared a similar dislike and kinda ran with it. Sorry if anyone felt singled out.

 

[Ella]

There is a big difference between gently offering buyers better options and many of the comments posted in this thread.

Threads like the one you linked have ruffled many feathers in the past and similar warnings have been issued. We have removed threads that have gotten out of hand with rude posts just as we will again.

Multiple posters have reported this thread feeling hurt about the comments posted here already. I assure you that if you read the comments posted in this thread from the viewpoint of someone who has an illusion ring and loves it or has a $900 engagement ring they are hurtful and unnecessary.

 

[CaprineSun]

Madelise, I said what I did in my post in reference to what you said here:

I thought the ring was supposed to represent the couple, and how he feels for the gal? Like, "I-love-you-so-much that I-saved-up-for-a-long-time to buy-you-this-perfect-ring?"

For a lot of people, how much a guy spends does not represent the couple or how much he loves the woman. That's all I'm saying.

Illusion settings are not my cup of tea either.

 

[madelise]

I'm sorry if it appears I have denoted that thought. That was not what I meant at all. What I was talking about is that a man usually does have to go out of his way to create the funds for an extra purchase. Not everyone has $ sitting readily available to buy these luxuries. I did not mean for it to sound like he had to save ALOT.

I'm bowing out of this conversation before Ella shuts this topic down. But before I do post my last post here, I want to share another "odd" ring style, if no one can get all upset over this being offensive.

Because I'd actually like this one. I think it's clever. Just not very.. safe. I'd hate to accidentally knock SO in the head while we're sleeping.

 

[LibbyLA]

I could understand someone being upset if she'd posted a picture of her ring and there were negative comments about it, but I don't understand anyone taking comments on this thread, about generic "odd" ring styles personally. I love oval diamonds but if someone says that's her least favorite shape and she hates them, I am not going to get my feelings hurt. I like what I like, regardless of what anyone else thinks and my opinion is not going to change just because someone else thinks differently from me.

If you have one of the styles mentioned here as something someone here doesn't like, but you LOVE your ring, why should it matter what anyone here thinks? I've seen so many rings here that I couldn't tell you who has a quad-princess or an illusion setting or a cluster (all at least somewhat common/popular settings), much less one of those geometric/architectural rings that were early in the thread. Any comments about likes and dislikes coming from me are made without any memory of what poster has what ring.

Instead of being upset and unhappy that someone doesn't like the same thing you like, turn it around and think that there's just that much less competition for what you like, more for you. It would be a pretty boring world if we all had the same tastes.

liz

 

[LibbyLA]

madelise,

Actually, he'd probably have the pointy one .

That set is pretty clever.

liz

 

[Ella]

Ladies, we will not debate this with you, however, here are a few quotes pulled from this thread that illustrate why we as well as some members felt attacked or were hurt. There is a significant difference between some of the comments in this thread and saying you don't prefer something. We have no problem with disagreement or saying you don't care for something, but again, it is all about the tone.

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Quotes from this thread:

lmfao at the curved wedding bands...

And I'm not a snob, but unless you are dirt poor, if my bf tried to propose with a 900 dollar ring i'd tell him to save for 4 years to quadruple that budget...LOL

*faint* that is terrible...first of all, if you want a square shape, why would you fill it up with round brilliants? second of all...EWWWWWWW. I would throw that at someone's head.

Illusion settings are pieces of lies.

Honestly, I think if a man resorts to buying THIS kind of stuff, I feel**** he's lazy and doesn't care "enough" for the gal.
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I am sure they were not meant to be mean, but reading these comments I hope you can all see that it's easy to cross the line into being mean.

 

[audball]

I'm sorry if something I shared offended someone. It was certainly not my intention.

 

[woofmama]

I'm not a LIW, have been married 15 years to my DH. I lurk on PS often, in search of the perfect anniversary ring. I'm very surprised at the nasty tone in this thread. Wow...
I would like to make a point...many of you were sounded like petulant, spoiled brats in this thread. Now I am probably old enough to be some of your mothers but I honestly agree 100% with the comments Ella highlighted.

Are you all that materialistic that the cost of the ring is more important than the thought? When my husband proposed it was with a .40ct marquise that he chose by himself. And guess what, I still wear it, yep every day. It doesn't embarrass me at all because I remember his proposal like it yesterday and how happy I was. We can afford a much bigger ring now, which is in the works, but I still cherise my original ring.
And our marriage has lasted a lot longer than some of the couples I know with big rocks. So don't judge a book by it's cover. The size or style of ring has zero bearing on the strength of the relationship. Good luck in life trying to outdo each other, that's a great way to live (not).
Did it ever occur to those of you with the rude and snobby comments that perhaps, in this economy, that is all they can afford? Or that the guy has no idea where to shop or even that this site exists?
Do you honestly think that everyone heads to the internet and magically finds pricescope to do months of research? Not one person that I know in real life found this site before buying a ring.

It will serve all of you well in life to remember, if you have nothing nice to say, shut your pie hole.

Ciao girls

 

[madelise]

I'm not a LIW, have been married 15 years to my DH. I lurk on PS often, in search of the perfect anniversary ring. I'm very surprised at the nasty tone in this thread. Wow...
I would like to make a point...many of you were sounded like petulant, spoiled brats in this thread. Now I am probably old enough to be some of your mothers but I honestly agree 100% with the comments Ella highlighted.

Are you all that materialistic that the cost of the ring is more important than the thought? When my husband proposed it was with a .40ct marquise that he chose by himself. And guess what, I still wear it, yep every day. It doesn't embarrass me at all because I remember his proposal like it yesterday and how happy I was. We can afford a much bigger ring now, which is in the works, but I still cherise my original ring.
And our marriage has lasted a lot longer than some of the couples I know with big rocks. So don't judge a book by it's cover. The size or style of ring has zero bearing on the strength of the relationship. Good luck in life trying to outdo each other, that's a great way to live (not).
Did it ever occur to those of you with the rude and snobby comments that perhaps, in this economy, that is all they can afford? Or that the guy has no idea where to shop or even that this site exists?
Do you honestly think that everyone heads to the internet and magically finds pricescope to do months of research? Not one person that I know in real life found this site before buying a ring.

It will serve all of you well in life to remember, if you have nothing nice to say, shut your pie hole.

Ciao girls

This thread is dead, please don't revive it just to stir the pot. I already requested my comment to be removed since it upset people, even though I was not intending to.

I can say ALOT to you, in response to every line you wrote. But I just want this thread to die. So thanks for pulling it up just for the sake to cause drama. And remember, if you have nothing nice to say, shut your pie hole.

 

[Ella]

Ladies, these types of responses on both sides do not belong on Pricescope. This thread will now be closed. Lets try to all be a little nicer to each other from now on.