okay I''m married...now what???

[Hudson_Hawk]

Date: 7/17/2009 1:50:31 AM
Author: FrekeChild
Ah. My fear in 6 months.


The problem for me, is that we''re not going to have any kids (that''s the current plan anyway), so I won''t ever ''graduate'' to FHH.


Yeah Colored Stones is great, but recently I''ve started to drift from there as all of our excess money goes into wedding planning stuff, and it''s not as much fun when you aren''t buying anything. I still poke around LIW, but after being around and posting so much there in my earlier days, I have little patience for it. Hangout...eh.


So in a lot of ways, I already feel kind of lost on PS.


Newlywed board? All for it. I may have to stay there for a long time though...

I hear you on the colored thread Liz. I lurk in the jewelry-related threads because I''m not nearly as knowledgeable as the regular posters over there. I also find I develop obsessions with jewelry/stones after spending a lot of time in those threads which drives me/DH to make expensive purchases. So I try to stay away from those LOL...

 

[kittybean]

Date: 7/17/2009 4:53:16 AM
Author: bee*
I kind of feel the same way but I guess I''ll join you in the ''just floating'' group.

+1 for the floaters!

I''m planning on sticking around in BWW for a bit to help others plan. The recently (and not-so-recently!) married brides were so helpful to me through my planning process.

IRL, I''m pretty relieved and happy that the wedding is over. While party-planning is fun for a few months, a whole year of planning for one party was a little much. I was so sick of it by the end, and I just wanted to go back to my wonderful everyday life with DH. So far, I haven''t been disappointed one bit .

 

[NewEnglandLady]

HH, I''m in the exact same boat. I sort of lurk around to see how other people are doing or drool at new pieces that are posted. I would LOVE a newlywed thread! D and I are on the cusp of buying a home, thinking about TTC and I think it would be a great place for people who are in similar situations to congregate.

 

[EricaR]

Why don''t we just start a Newlywed Discussion thread right here in BWW?

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Should it be here or in FH&H?

 

[ficklefaye]

oh gosh, that''ll be me in a few months as well, i was in the rockytalky and show me the ring threads for awhile since i reset my e-ring twice, but now that i''m all done with that and honestly can''t afford anything because of this wedding, i''ve been floating around myself, i''m embarassed to say that i didn''t even know that ps had this bridal sections until now, i''ve only recently started joining in the threads

i''m not sure what i''ll do after the wedding since i''m not knowledgeable enough to help people with diamonds or colored stones, maybe i''ll save up enough money by then to buy something

 

[FrekeChild]

Date: 7/17/2009 11:36:06 AM
Author: Hudson_Hawk
Should it be here or in FH&H?

Here. To be honest, I don''t feel comfortable over in FHH. I know it''s Family, Health and Home, but really, it''s more "family" (and by "family" I mean TTC, pregnancy, parenting and kid stuff) than health and home. And seeing as how we don''t plan to be parents...yeah.

Having said that, there are posters who are over in FHH even though they don''t plan on having kids either. That''s just my personal take on it.

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Date: 7/17/2009 11:19:46 AM
Author: EricaR
Why don''t we just start a Newlywed Discussion thread right here in BWW?

I like this idea.

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Date: 7/17/2009 12:52:15 PM
Author: FrekeChild

Date: 7/17/2009 11:36:06 AM

Author: Hudson_Hawk

Should it be here or in FH&H?

Here. To be honest, I don''t feel comfortable over in FHH. I know it''s Family, Health and Home, but really, it''s more ''family'' (and by ''family'' I mean TTC, pregnancy, parenting and kid stuff) than health and home. And seeing as how we don''t plan to be parents...yeah.


Having said that, there are posters who are over in FHH even though they don''t plan on having kids either. That''s just my personal take on it.

Really?? I think it totally belongs there. It''s Family, Home, and Health and your husband is your family and as newlyweds you''re sharing/building a home together. I look at BWW as a place for wedding planning, and wedding-related stuff, not a place to talk about how you change your name or how to file your taxes together for the first time...

 

[zipzapgirl]

Maybe they can open up another forum for us?

I was a lurker through my engagement and have been posting a lot lately now that the wedding was a big success. (I guess I need that confidence before I felt like weighing in on other people''s topics!

) I think I''m going to get tired of reading the same things we''ve all read/discussed in the past year about weddings over and over... It''s already started with these topics...

Open bars at weddings
Inviting a Plus One or not
Cutting the guest list/Family members insisting on inviting more people

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Date: 7/17/2009 1:46:53 PM
Author: zipzapgirl
Maybe they can open up another forum for us?


I was a lurker through my engagement and have been posting a lot lately now that the wedding was a big success. (I guess I need that confidence before I felt like weighing in on other people''s topics!

) I think I''m going to get tired of reading the same things we''ve all read/discussed in the past year about weddings over and over... It''s already started with these topics...


Open bars at weddings

Inviting a Plus One or not

Cutting the guest list/Family members insisting on inviting more people

Right. But I do think those subjects deserve a place to be discussed ad nauseam. Times change, people change, and newbies should be berated because they ask a question that was asked 6mo to a year ago when the question is directly applicable to the subject they''re posting under. This is after all a site for and about learning.

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 7/17/2009 1:56:22 PM
Author: Hudson_Hawk

Date: 7/17/2009 1:46:53 PM
Author: zipzapgirl
Maybe they can open up another forum for us?


I was a lurker through my engagement and have been posting a lot lately now that the wedding was a big success. (I guess I need that confidence before I felt like weighing in on other people''s topics!

) I think I''m going to get tired of reading the same things we''ve all read/discussed in the past year about weddings over and over... It''s already started with these topics...


Open bars at weddings

Inviting a Plus One or not

Cutting the guest list/Family members insisting on inviting more people

Right. But I do think those subjects deserve a place to be discussed ad nauseam. Times change, people change, and newbies should be berated because they ask a question that was asked 6mo to a year ago when the question is directly applicable to the subject they''re posting under. This is after all a site for and about learning.

Totally agree, HH!

Also, I think there should definitely be a newlywed thread in FHH! It''s the only part of Family, Home, and Health that isn''t accounted for over there!

We can discuss how we keep messing up our new signatures.

 

[shimmer]

Date: 7/17/2009 2:31:41 PM
Author: elledizzy5

Date: 7/17/2009 1:56:22 PM

Author: Hudson_Hawk

Date: 7/17/2009 1:46:53 PM

Author: zipzapgirl

Maybe they can open up another forum for us?



I was a lurker through my engagement and have been posting a lot lately now that the wedding was a big success. (I guess I need that confidence before I felt like weighing in on other people''s topics!

) I think I''m going to get tired of reading the same things we''ve all read/discussed in the past year about weddings over and over... It''s already started with these topics...



Open bars at weddings


Inviting a Plus One or not


Cutting the guest list/Family members insisting on inviting more people

Right. But I do think those subjects deserve a place to be discussed ad nauseam. Times change, people change, and newbies should be berated because they ask a question that was asked 6mo to a year ago when the question is directly applicable to the subject they''re posting under. This is after all a site for and about learning.

Totally agree, HH!


Also, I think there should definitely be a newlywed thread in FHH! It''s the only part of Family, Home, and Health that isn''t accounted for over there!


We can discuss how we keep messing up our new signatures.

Ha! I still sign my maiden name ALL the time, it''s been nearly 3 months!

I agree it should be in FH&H, my DH and I are totally a family, and we certainly don''t need kids to be one.

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

DH was so annoyed with me on the honeymoon because when I signed things to the room I''d use my maiden name. But that''s the name the resort had on file for me. I didn''t want them to be like "who the heck is Stephanie last name"? On the wedding gift checks I had to sign my name Stephanie maiden name new name because they were all made out to Mr. and Mrs. last name but my account is Stephanie maiden name. Ugh, it''s all so confusing.

I have to practice my signature as well. The new name is a lot longer than my old one and I mess it up every time...

 

[cocolaw]

oh yuck a new signature!!! only 4 months for me. i cannot do a cursive "K" for the life of me, but i guess i need to learn how soon!

Mrs. HH: I do hope you stick around for a while (at least until my wedding

) bc i think you give great advice and your posts are always so well written!

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 7/17/2009 2:47:12 PM
Author: cocolaw
oh yuck a new signature!!! only 4 months for me. i cannot do a cursive ''K'' for the life of me, but i guess i need to learn how soon!

Mrs. HH: I do hope you stick around for a while (at least until my wedding

) bc i think you give great advice and your posts are always so well written!

I practice at work on legal pads sometimes when I''m bored.

I feel so juvenile... but... I don''t want to mess up once I am officially changed! Those cashiers will be watching and judging as I sign my credit slips...

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

cocolaw...thanks...this one might have some spelling errors as I''m TOTALLY distracted by the yummy shoes in your avatar.....

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Date: 7/17/2009 2:48:52 PM
Author: elledizzy5

Date: 7/17/2009 2:47:12 PM

Author: cocolaw

oh yuck a new signature!!! only 4 months for me. i cannot do a cursive ''K'' for the life of me, but i guess i need to learn how soon!


Mrs. HH: I do hope you stick around for a while (at least until my wedding

) bc i think you give great advice and your posts are always so well written!

I practice at work on legal pads sometimes when I''m bored.

I feel so juvenile... but... I don''t want to mess up once I am officially changed! Those cashiers will be watching and judging as I sign my credit slips...

Those cashiers are going to be watching your sparkling ROCK as you sign your name.....

 

[DMBFiredancer]

I was JUST thinking of this today...wondering sadly "where will I go once I am married?" since I am not having kids...Hopefully a forum will open!

otherwise I think it will be the Hangout for me

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

I''ve asked Andrey and Ali about a forum related to newlyweds...

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Date: 7/17/2009 3:21:09 PM
Author: Hudson_Hawk
I''ve asked Andrey and Ali about a forum related to newlyweds...

Thanks HH!!

And yeaaah gotta ditto everyone on the signature thing, too. I keep messing mine up. Today I actually used the wrong debit card (the one w/ the old name) need to shred it but had it in my wallet still. But I caught it in time! I want my new license..VA is now mailing them to you with their new system which means I am STILL waiting for it!! I have to carry around this piece of paper which is annoying.

So much for just grabbing your wallet and running in the store or something. Hopefully it came today? Haven''t checked the mail yet..

 

[geckodani]

Date: 7/17/2009 2:43:17 PM
Author: Hudson_Hawk
DH was so annoyed with me on the honeymoon because when I signed things to the room I''d use my maiden name. But that''s the name the resort had on file for me. I didn''t want them to be like ''who the heck is Stephanie last name''? On the wedding gift checks I had to sign my name Stephanie maiden name new name because they were all made out to Mr. and Mrs. last name but my account is Stephanie maiden name. Ugh, it''s all so confusing.

I have to practice my signature as well. The new name is a lot longer than my old one and I mess it up every time...

Hee hee. The same thing happened to us, since I''m the one that made the reservations! Including them announcing Mr. and Mrs. (insert my maiden name here) at our reception luaua.

I called down to the front desk and they changed it in the records, LOL.

 

[geckodani]

Date: 7/17/2009 2:48:52 PM
Author: elledizzy5

Date: 7/17/2009 2:47:12 PM
Author: cocolaw
oh yuck a new signature!!! only 4 months for me. i cannot do a cursive ''K'' for the life of me, but i guess i need to learn how soon!

Mrs. HH: I do hope you stick around for a while (at least until my wedding

) bc i think you give great advice and your posts are always so well written!

I practice at work on legal pads sometimes when I''m bored.

I feel so juvenile... but... I don''t want to mess up once I am officially changed! Those cashiers will be watching and judging as I sign my credit slips...

Maiden name started with F, married starts with R. My Rs had flags for the longest time from where I would start the F and switch quickly to an R. I still do it sometimes, LOL.

And I so practiced my signature at work like a Jr. High kid.

 

[Kismet]

haha, writing my name wasn''t so bad, it was saying it that was weird. At work I answer my phone with my name so for several weeks after I got back from the honeymoon I had to stop and think about what my name was before I picked up the phone.

 

[Gypsy]

It''s funny. I was never an LIW so I floated between RT and Hangout. Then got Bridal-obsessed and now am re-learning floating. I quite like it. Prefer it in fact. There are places I can''t stay too long, and the change is nice. No TTC, no new pets (anyone want to give my Lucy a home?), and the attention span of a fly on speed. Ditto Deco, just float and chime in where you can.

Hangout''s always nice.

 

[Dreamgirl]

One time I suggested a new "area" something for newly married ladies or something like that but it wasn't done. I'm still a LIW but I see your point. After being a LIW and a future BWW, I'd like to still stick around but I see there being a lack of interest after that...

BTW, I'm not just talking a thread. But a whole section for it really.

 

[Octavia]

I don''t see why we can''t create our own threads in FH&H -- just because certain types of threads are usually posted there doesn''t mean it''s strictly for those kind of threads! And yes, I did say "we"...I''m already thinking of myself as a pre-newlywed rather than a bride-in-waiting...have I mentioned that I''m mentally and emotionally done with wedding planning yet?

 

[gwendolyn]

Date: 7/17/2009 11:49:33 PM
Author: Octavia
I don''t see why we can''t create our own threads in FH&H -- just because certain types of threads are usually posted there doesn''t mean it''s strictly for those kind of threads! And yes, I did say ''we''...I''m already thinking of myself as a pre-newlywed rather than a bride-in-waiting...have I mentioned that I''m mentally and emotionally done with wedding planning yet?

Exactly! How are newlywed threads going to become an expected part of FHH if no one posts them there?

 

[elrohwen]

Date: 7/16/2009 8:24:23 PM
Author: Octavia
I like to float around, more so than being a BWW! I usually feel like i''m so over wedding planning, so I actually avoid this section sometimes. I usually spend more time in Hangout and FHH. There''s almost always something to comment on, I think.

Total ditto. Much of the time I''m avoiding thinking about wedding planning because I have too much other stuff to think about

I just like looking at everyone''s pics in BWW, but other than that I don''t think I''m here as much as in Hangout.

 

[PilsnPinkysMom]

I''ve already started to drift from BWW and my wedding is still 5 months out! (Eep- exactly 5 months)

I have a lot of threads I lurk on: TTC/Preggo in FHH, Hangout, and SMTR.... But I don''t feel that I have much to contribute, so I do far more reading than typing.

Even though I''m roughly half-a-year away from being a Newlywed, I can say it''s a thread I''d love to lurk on And eventually read/contribute to.... And I think placing it in FHH makes perfect sense. I love babes and kiddies and parenting topics and all, but having a Newlywed thread will convert FHH from mom-central to... well... something else.